Timothy O'Brien Obituary - Death Notice and Service Information

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Brookville, New York

Love at First Sight

Timothy M. O'Brien was a comfortingly confident man who smiled with his eyes, and this is why, when Lisa D'Arpino first saw him, she thought, "This is it."

Mr. O'Brien interviewed Ms. D'Arpino for her first job, at a Wall Street securities firm. "I didn't hear a word he said — I was just thinking, `O.K., this is my husband,' " said the woman who in 1994 became Mrs. O'Brien.

The oldest of seven children, Mr. O'Brien gave his siblings career advice and taught his children — John, who turns 7 today, Maddie, 5, and Jacie, 4 — to dribble a basketball and to swim.

His wife called him Captain Catholic because he regularly attended church and refused to curse. "He would spell it if he had to, and he would only spell the first two letters," Mrs. O'Brien said. "If he was really mad, it would be, `Man alive!' We laughed about it."

A partner at Cantor Fitzgerald, Mr. O'Brien, 40, would say "Stay here" when work intruded on a telephone conversation with a relative. "It just gave you a feeling of, `I'm here and I'm going to come back to you,"' Mr. O'Brien's brother Sean said. "It was just a nice feeling."

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I visited ground zero for the first time this summer, along with my wife and friends, whilst on holiday. The first name I witnessed on approaching the memorial was Timothy Michael O Brien. My immediate thought was to record his name by photograph and learn more about the person whose life came to an end in such tragic circumstances.

I can now put a face to the name and from the numerous testimonies I have read it is apparent Timothy was a very much loved husband, father, friend and...

Philip Mitchell

October 04, 2023 | Stirling

A couple of years ago, I was reading a used book that I had purchased online, and found in its pages a prayer card for Timothy M. O'Brien. I've kept it close ever since and pray for your family. Just want you to know I'm thinking of you all and the terrible loss you suffered twenty years ago. This Saturday, I will be participating in a local Memorial Hill Climb in honor of the fallen on 9/11, and I'll carry Tim's prayer card with me. May God keep you and your family close always.

Karen Dickson

September 05, 2021 | Middleburg, PA

Lisa, Marie and I think of you and the kids (I'm sure the are adults at this point) often and hope all is OK. We are back in Hoboken now.
Dave and Marie Patton

Dave Patton

September 11, 2019 | Hoboken, NJ

Lisa,
I think of you often and the kids often... But today especially I pray you are all well. I will never forget...
Laura
Formerly of BCDS

Laura GROSSMAN

September 11, 2018 | The Villages, FL

Thinking of you today Tim. What a wonderful impact you had on our family. I will thank you always.
Suzanne Garhart

September 11, 2018

Tim, your impact on our family as a "big brother" to my son Jonathan lives on and we will remember you forever.
Suzanne Garhart

September 13, 2017

God bless Tim Obrien's family on this day and always. He was the Hartwick basketball team. It was a pleasure to watch him play. As a soccer player i would run into him on in the athletic building. He was alway nice and friendly. He would remember what I would studying at the time(while icing an ankle) and ask about the test the next week. Total class act. His spirit and Hope for the future lives on in all of us that knew him.
Blessings

September 11, 2016

God Bless you and your brother in law in heaven.

Virginia Casey-Tizio

September 09, 2016 | Bayville, NY

Dear Mr. & Mrs. O'Brien
There is not a day that passes that passes that I don't think of your families loss. I pray for you all.Bernie was our gym teacher back in the day and he and his family were the most precious loving family God ever created.My prayers continue to be you all.
God bless you all and I know you find strength in each other.
My love and prayers
Virginia Casey-Tizio

September 09, 2016

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