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Tom Walter Grimmer

1961 - 2017

Tom Walter Grimmer obituary, 1961-2017, Appleton, WI

BORN

1961

DIED

2017

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537 North Superior Street

Appleton, Wisconsin

Tom Grimmer Obituary

Grimmer, Tom Walter

Tom W. Grimmer, 56, passed away unexpectedly on Saturday, November 18, 2017, at the ThedaCare Medical Center. He was born to Walter and Ruby (Parker) Grimmer on June 20, 1961 in Appleton. He married Beth Kunitz on May 1, 1993 in Appleton, WI and the two enjoyed 24 years together.

Family members and friends remember Tom's quick wit and sense of humor. In fact, every story told about Tom is punctuated by bouts of laughter. (Those who know him will understand that many of these stories cannot be published here.) Tom loved to share his humor and warmth by giving people nicknames and joking around with others.

Tom had a competitive spirit and played many sports and games, including golf, tennis, longboarding, disc golf, and shooting hoops on the driveway. Tom was known for his comedically short temper when learning a new game, but equally recognized for his endless patience in teaching skills like skiing and snowboarding to others. He bowled several 700 series' during League games, and he was proud of his table tennis accomplishments. He connected with others through games and even invented some of his own, such as pulling a kayak behind his jeep around the neighborhood in the winter.

Tom coached his children's football and basketball teams. Family was always a priority for Tom, and he surrounded himself with loved ones for holidays, birthdays and other family traditions. He cooked family meals in later years using his mother Ruby's cookbooks and handwritten recipes. He also liked spending time at the family's cottage on the lake. Other activities that Tom enjoyed included playing the piano, listening to his Beatles collection, and watching James Dean movies.

Tom graduated from Appleton West in 1979. He completed his associate's degree in architecture at the Northwest Technical Institute. Tom became an architect and enjoyed working many years with his coworkers at Hoffman Planning, Design & Construction, Inc. and previously at Birschbach & Associates. Throughout his career, he made many friends. He was also a member of the American Institute of Architecture (AIA).

Tom is survived by his wife, Beth; children: Lindsey, Nathan and Tyler; his brother and sister-in-law, Dan and Judy; his father- and mother-in-law, Chuck and Bette Kunitz; his sister-in-law Anne, and her husband Chris O'Renick; and nieces and nephews: Andrew Grimmer, Maddy and Ezra Bartsch, and Jack Walsh. He is also survived by his aunt, Marian Parker, and many other aunts, uncles and cousins.

Tom was preceded in death by his parents.

A memorial service will be held at 6:00 pm on Wednesday, November 22, 2017, at the WICHMANN FUNERAL HOME, 537 N. SUPERIOR ST., APPLETON, with Rev. John Kieffer officiating. Visitation will be at the funeral home from 2:00 pm until the time of the service. Inurnment will occur at a later date in Highland Memorial Park, Appleton. In lieu of flowers, a memorial fund has been created.

The family would like to extend their thanks to the first responders, Appleton Fire Department, and the AMC Emergency and ICU staff for their care and compassion for the entire family.

Dear Dad,

We wanted to thank you for not only being the best, funniest, handsomest, loving dad a child could ask for, but for also being our best friend. You made us so proud to call you our dad every single day. We love you with all of our hearts. Love, Meyer, Nate and Tiny

Tom was the best little brother that a big brother could ever have. I will miss him always, but he will live in my heart, my memories and my soul forever. With all my love, Dan.

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Published by Appleton Post-Crescent on Nov. 21, 2017.

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Paul Meier

November 15, 2020

Gosh...It is so hard to believe that Tom has been gone for 3 years already. The last time we saw Tom was on Loon Lake for a pontoon ride with Chuck and Bette. As usual, Tom was his "naughty" self. We had to make a mid journey stop so that Tom could make a "potty" stop. However, we think that was an excuse cuz his glass was unfortunately empty. Tom left those kinds of fun memories including being bombarded by peanuts at a Red Smith game. He was such a fun guy to be around. We know all about loss; so we fully understand the hole that now exists in the hearts of Beth, Lindsay, Nate and Tyler. We continue to send our best.

Pat & Paul Meier

Paul Meier

November 15, 2019

Wow, it is still hard to believe that we won't see Tom throwing peanuts at a Timber Rattler game. These things just should not happen as we well know. We know that Beth and the kids have moved on with strength, but the loss of a husband and Dad still leaves that gnawing question of "What might have been". We truly understand!

A. Ingram

November 23, 2017

My heart goes out to all who mourn the loss of Tom Grimmer. He will be missed by all.

Tori Whitlinger-Pitsch

November 22, 2017

Dear Grimmer Family and Friends,
I'm so sorry for your loss! My thoughts and prayers go out to you all during this very sad time! I was Tyler's tennis coach at Fox Cities Racquet Club in Appleton when he was younger. Tom would bring Tyler to his tennis lessons and that's how we got to meet. Tom was a wonderful man! He always had a big smile on his face, he was always so kind and he was always happy! Tyler was such a pleasure to teach tennis to being so much like his Dad! My heart just aches for Tyler and the Entire Grimmer Family and Friends! Please Take Care

Sharon Parker Hooyman

November 21, 2017

Sharon Parker Hooyman

November 21, 2017

Sharon Parker Hooyman

November 21, 2017

I am at a loss for words...funniest guy I knew, don't ever think I saw him crabby or mad...always a smile and a witty comeback from Tommy. Fondest of memories at Aunt Ruby and Uncle Wallys with Dan and Tom at Christmas time...rip cousin. My heart goes out to the whole family. I am so sorry

November 21, 2017

Beth, Lindsey, Nathan, and Tyler,
We are so sorry for your loss. You have our deepest sympathy and are in our thoughts and prayers. We will miss Tom riding his longboard around the neighborhood. He was one-of-a-kind.
With Sympathy,
The Hickey Family,
Michael, Sara, Luke and Caleb

Scott Braun

November 21, 2017

Beth and kids,
We are so sorry for your loss. Please accept our condolences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Sincerely,
Scott and Rene' Braun

Linda & Mike Probst

November 21, 2017

We remember Tom from spending so much time at his parent's home with his family. He was a loving and caring man and every Sunday Ruby and Wally hosted Sunday dinner for their son's and their families. After his dad passed he checked on his mom daily and made sure to call her every night at 9:00 pm to make sure she was ok.Thoughts and prayers to Beth, children and Dan and family. Tom was an active dad always involved with his children. Former neighbors Linda

Lisa Knuppel

November 21, 2017

Beth,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you prayers.
Lisa ( Fischer) Knuppel

November 21, 2017

Beth and Family, We pray that you and your family will have the strength and perseverance during this time of great heartache and sadness. Tom's love will shine on giving you a never-ending light to help guide you toward inner peace. Cheryl Teske and Mark Geyer

November 21, 2017

Beth we are so sorry to hear about your loss. He was a wonderful husband and father. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. May God comfort and give you strength in the days to come. Tom was a great guy.

John & Mary
Milwaukee, Wi

Paul & Pat Meier

November 21, 2017

Beth, Lindsey, Nate & Tyler...while we will not be able to be at your sides at this time, please know that our hearts are aching in support of you guys. Like so many, we came to love Tom and welcomed his frequent good natured jabs. He was one of a kind. We are so happy that we had one last chance to see the joy in his face as he showed off the cottage and we circled the lake with some appropriate adult beverages. That vision of him will last with us forever. It is such a happy memory.

God Bless you all...Pat & Paul

Lisa Kramer(Hendrickson)

November 20, 2017

Dear Beth, Dan and Family,

1 am so sad to hear of the loss of you loving husband / brother / dad. My heart is aching for all of you. Know that I am sending you strength and prayers at this most difficult time. God bless you all.

Mark Parker

November 20, 2017

Tom and I were cousins and close friends thru out our childhood. We had so much fun. He was like a brother to me and will forever be missed. So sad. What a great guy.

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