Zane-Kotker-Obituary

Zane Hickcox Kotker

Northampton, Massachusetts

1934 - 2021

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DIED
February 8, 2021
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Northampton, Massachusetts

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Born Mary Zane Hickcox on January 2, 1934 to the Reverend Edward S. and Jean C. Hickcox of Southbury, CT, Zane graduated from the Chaffee School in 1952, earned a B.A. from Middlebury College in 1956, and an M.A. from Columbia University in 1960. In 1965 she married Norman Kotker, also a writer,...

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Zane was an absolutely inspirational human being and writer. When I was in my early 20s, she took a chance on me and hired me to proofread a manuscript-in-progress. It was a joy and an honor to work for her. Zane's novel, White Rising, was far ahead of its time as a beautifully, poetically written, on historical fiction of the Daybreak people, Native American tribal coalition. The powerful, incantatory language has stayed with me these many years. To Zane's family, I offer my belated deepest...

I met Zane when I volunteered to help her through Northampton Neighbors. She was such an interesting, kind woman and I always enjoyed our visits.

Although I thought that Zane as Maggie Strong did enormously brave and useful work, I knew her as a fellow writer and I want to be sure that her literary legacy is remembered. She was a very fine writer, versatile and hard-working -- she was able to write about the lives of contemporary Manhattanites and also about King Philip's war, a feat of enviable flexibility and curiosity. And later she turned her attention, understandably, to the lives of widows and other women confronting age and...

I have known Maggie since our first retreat at Pendle Hill back in 1988. I will be forever grateful for the lessons she shared, and for our 33 years of friendship. She was my mentor and my inspiration. I will hold her memory dear to my heart. God bless.

I will be forever grateful to her for founding the Well Spouse(r) Association. Thank you, Zane, for a remarkable life.

Why can't there be good news? Why must the crevasse in our hearts continue to widen. Perhaps it is better to revisit the visits to #10 with your Mom and Dad, especially during the warmth of summer on the porch; to recall the hours spent reading their books, and how your Dad honored the Kotker side of the Furash family on pg. 243 of Herzl, the King. Ariel, you brought us great pleasure with your art exhibit in Worcester (?). Is it appropriate to express gratitude for your family's lives? I...

hi again.
if anyone has sent photos to the email address i'd previously provided on her site, will you please send them again to this address instead:

[email protected]

i'd misread something and had gotten the gmail info wrong. but this address is good. thanks so much. and thank you for your comments.
ariel

I only knew Zane as Maggie Strong. Her book Mainstay helped me in innumerable ways while coping with a chronically ill husband for many years. My copy of Mainstay has been read many times. It is written in, highlighted and dog-earred. Zane's ability to openly describe her feelings and emotions was a gift to many.

My sincere sympathy and thoughts go out to her family at this time of loss.

I never knew Zane, but like so many, I have benefitted enormously from Well Spouse, the organization that was brought into being through her vision. My utmost gratitude. along with my condolences, goes to her children. A life well-ived indeed.