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PACKER--Rekha. Rekha Packer, age 65, combined intellect and a dry wit with deep reserves of strength. As a young lawyer, she surprised her bosses by excelling not only in the cerebral domain of tax law but also in the rough-and-tumble world of labor negotiations, making partner at a Boston firm by 31. Following a brain injury in 1990, she fought back to resume her career and raise two children. Despite the adversity she faced, Rekha could always be relied upon to produce an apt Jane Austen quote or share her enthusiasm for an opera or a symphony. Retirement returned Rekha full circle to her love of the arts and her commitment to improving young people's access to education. Rekha founded the Harvard Club of Westchester's Early College Awareness Program, which brings together Yonkers eighth-graders and their parents for an annual event to raise awareness of the path to a college education and the resources available to pay for it. She also took courses in Shakespeare and music theory and served on the board of Scars- dale's Hoff-Barthelson Music School. While Rekha maintained a circle of close friends from every stage of her life, no one was closer to her heart than her beloved husband Michael, who died at the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001. Meeting as undergraduates at Harvard University, the couple shared a love of learning and of music. As graduate students -- Rekha at Harvard Law School, Michael at MIT -- their weekly treat was a pizza and a night out at a jazz club. Later they became seasoned travelers, exploring the world from Egypt to Vietnam. Rekha passed away on June 28 at the home in Hartsdale, NY she had shared with Michael. Rekha is survived by her brother Rahul and children Sarita (Emily) and Jonathan. Her memorial service will be held in Scarsdale, NY pending the resumption of large gatherings. Information on donations in Rekha's name will be provided at that time.

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Published by New York Times on Jul. 7, 2020.

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Mollie McBride-Rogers

September 7, 2025

As a nanny to her children, Rekha introduced me to the works of Jane Austin, a passion I have now had my whole life. Thank you Rekha!!

Barbara Lenk

September 10, 2021

My belated condolences to Rekha´s family, especially her children, Emily and Jonathan, of whom she spoke w deepest love and pride. I just learned of her death; I was about to send a message of commiseration about the 20th anniversary of the life altering 9 -11 attacks. I am grieved by her loss. She was such a person. I take some comfort in hoping that she and
Michael can once again walk about with their hands in each others´ back pants pockets-it is how remember them from law school.

Helene Jeanney

July 1, 2021

Rekha continues to be with all of us at the Hoff Barthelson School of Music in Scarsdale. Her smile and her joy were contagious, and we all miss her so very much.
Rest in peace and.... in Music, dear Rekha.
With Love

Rozh Roux

December 29, 2020

Rekha was a ray of light that lit the room when she entered. We shared a love of music and youth and I became friends with her while watching my children’s recitals at Hoff Barthelson. Deepest condolences to her family in this very sad time. May you always be inspired by her smile and warmth and the legacy she built.

Clare Laemmle Bridge

October 28, 2020

My heart is filled with sadness, and my condolences to Rahul, Sarita and Jonathan. It has been since June of 1972, that I LAST SAW Rekha. She had a beautiful soul, and Rehka’s willingness to guide me through physics, was above and beyond. I always remembered during our 15 minute break, Rekha sitting on the window sill overlooking the back entrance to our school building. It was her zen time, and I always respected her ability to take time for herself, in the midst of students’ pacing and chatter.

Be safe, Rekha... enjoy all the jazz and Jane Austin.
A warm hug - Clare Laemmle Bridge

Joan Marlow Golan

September 13, 2020

Dear Rahul, Emily and Jonathan,

I was your sister/mom's senior tutor at Harvard, and she was a brilliant student, who spoke and wrote compellingly about the Romantic Poets, a mutual enthusiasm. I'm glad we had a chance to catch up in Hartsdale when I moved to Westchester. I was so sorry to learn that her husband had died so tragically and of her own struggles--yet she didn't let disability to stop her, and has left a wonderful legacy in the Yonkers Early College Awareness Program. And perhaps an even better one in Emily and Jonathan--she spoke so proudly and lovingly of you both. The world is poorer for her loss, and my heart and prayers go out to you all at this time of mourning. I've planted trees in her memory and will think of her as I watch the Met operas during the pandemic--another enthusiasm we shared.

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Pamela de Toledo

July 19, 2020

This is Pamela again. Sorry - gave wrong email address to Rahul, Emily and Jonathan in my last comment. My correct address is [email protected].

Pamela de Toledo

July 19, 2020

Rekha and I have been best friends since high school. She was an extraordinary person, facing one adversity in life after another, always with remarkable poise and aplomb. I felt privileged to have such a long lasting friendship. She will be sorely missed. My condolences to Rahul, Emily and Jonathan. Would love to stay in touch with any of you, if you care to. My email addy is [email protected]. Rekha, I am sad for me, but happy that you are with your man once again.

Jerry Fortinsky

July 11, 2020

I worked with Rekha on the Harvard Club book prize committee. She was always very thoughtful and well organized. I liked Rekha and am sorry to hear this news. My condolences to her family.

Simone Taylor

July 9, 2020

My sincerest condolences to your family for the loss of your loved one, Please except my deepest sympathies.

Helene Jeanney

July 9, 2020

Rekha was a ray of sunshine and an exceptional human being.
As a piano teacher at the Hoff Barthelson School of Music in Scarsdale, I had the privilege to see her there often, attending a music appreciation class and every Faculty concert through the years..... She always came in early, and greeted me and everyone else with the most beautiful smile and kind words. We all knew and loved her.
I send my condolences to her family, and I know that wherever she is now, she will bring her beautiful smile and soul with her.
May she RIP. She will be truly missed.
Thank You Rekha.
Helene Jeanney

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