Tom Hatcher
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HATCHER--Tom. Died of lung cancer on October 26th at the age of 77. He created a unique private park in Quogue, Long Island that most people in the village aren't aware exists. He also had an unusually close and open relationship with the playwright Arthur Laurents that began over 50 years ago when such relationships were kept hidden. Mr. Hatcher was born in Ada, Oklahoma and was brought up in Tulsa. He attended both Tulsa University, where he studied Religion, and Political Science at the University of Oklahoma from which he graduated. He believed, as he said, that he had to get out of Oklahoma to live the full life he wanted. He first went to Los Angeles, where he had summered as a teenager, and worked for a contractor renovating houses, then studied acting and played a few minor television roles but ended managing the leading men's store in Beverly Hills. Then he met Mr. Laurents and moved to New York where they lived together. Some better television roles, Broadway appearances in "A Clearing in the Woods" with Kim Stanley and "Invitation to a March" with Jane Fonda, Eileen Heckart and James MacArthur and a summer theatre appearance with Ms. Fonda in "No Concern of Mine" ended Mr. Hatcher's desire for an acting career. By then, he had taken over the renovation of a brownstone he and Mr. Laurents had bought in the West Village. That led to a modestly successful career which he transferred to Quogue where he became a very successful real estate developer, buying and renovating old houses and building new ones, the last three forming a compound around his 12 acre park. Each year he changed the look of the park by adding new specimens of trees and shrubs and flowers to what he called rooms. In 2005, he and Mr. Laurents celebrated their 50th anniversary in the park on his birthday, which was also the day on which they met. He was a longtime active member in the recovery community. Mr. Hatcher is survived by his brother David and Mr. Laurents.

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Published in New York Times from Oct. 29 to Oct. 30, 2006.
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November 4, 2006
We spent with Tom and Arthur a New Year's Eve and also the New Millennium at their lovely house in New York and we also spent several evenings in Buenos Aires together with them and Fernando and Federico. We always treasured with Delia Garcés these moments because Tom and Arthur are two of the best persons one could met in one's lifetime... We are now facing Tom’s death, but as I’m sure that we all meet together again, I’m counting the days where we could reunite with Tom and Delia in Heavens... All my love to Arthur and all God’s blessing to our dear Tom. Bebecita Quirno Costa de Lalor.
Bebecita Quirno Costa de Lalor
November 3, 2006
This spring while I was in New York with Fernando and Federico we met Tom... It was a brief encounter, but I discover a splendid soul and a very generous human being. I pray to the Mater Schoenstadt for his soul. Sylvia Masllorens de Ruiz Guiñazu
Sylvia Masllorens de Ruiz Guiñazu
November 2, 2006
It is so difficult to bear the absence of the one's we love and Tom has been a must in our lives, intelligent, witty and a loyal friend. He was the perfect match to Arthur, and it is going to be extremely difficult to be in New York without sharing our lives with him. In the memory of our dear common friend Delia Garcés, who also loved Tom and Arthur dearly we pray to God and the Mater for them to protect and give all their blessing to Tom and Arthur. Federico, Fernando and Bebecita
Federico González del PIno
October 30, 2006
I met Tom in Buenos Aires, when he visited Argentina with Arthur Laurents. We share friends in common and we both privileged friendship and intelligence among the things to treasure in human relations. We spent with Arthur and Tom a beautiful trip to Tigre and it was a truly wonderful moment that I will remember among the beautiful ones of my life. God bless Tom and all my loving care for Arthur..
Ines de LaFuente
October 29, 2006
Tom was a luminous human being, a faithful friend and a truly brilliant mind that we had the honor and the privilege to know next to his longtime companion, dear Arthur. We'll miss not seeing him in New York and knowing that we will not be able to phone him every Sunday. Fernando and Federico.
Fernando Masllorens
October 29, 2006
Tom was a beautiful and generous man who played an important role in my life as a friend and advisor. He helped me through difficult and important phases of my life, and I loved him dearly. He will be missed by many souls who found refuge in his positive, comforting spirit. God be with him.
Jeffrey Goodman
October 29, 2006
Tom was a background sort of fellow who didn't get the credit he deserved, but without him the world around him did not rotate.
Alan Best
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