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Mark Gotbaum Obituary

1943 - 2012
Mark Gotbaum, beloved husband, father, friend and neighbor, died unexpectedly in his home on Thursday, March 29, 2012. An artist, Gotbaum was well known to be as perplexing, humorous, engaging and infuriatingly incisive as his paintings. Even to those who knew him best, he could be simultaneously difficult and passionately caring. Given to acts of prankishness, he once hitch-hiked to Stockbridge, Massachusetts to sneak into the Tanglewood music festival and was promptly arrested by the town's chief of police, Wm. Obanhein ("Officer Obie"), who, flattered at being so exuberantly recognized by the young Gotbaum, released him with a warning.

Born in the Bronx on March 24, 1943, he grew up in the Tiebout Avenue neighborhood, attended The High School of Music and Art and went on to graduate from the City College of New York, where he played varsity basketball. Athletic in many respects, his elusively difficult Tasmanian Crawl was never successfully mastered by other swimmers. With an all-consuming passion for art, he painted virtually all day, every day, with little apparent interest in financial gain, and spent 23 years teaching art to seniors (his "alter cockers") at the 92nd Street Y. His deepest devotion, though, was to his daughter Maddy.

While he was happy to pour months of unpaid work into paintings, drawings and sketches for others – and usually did – Gotbaum sometimes accepted compensation: for the covers of Alfred Hitchcock's Mystery Magazine; award-winning political cartoons for Public Employee Press; the Book Review, Op Ed page, and other sections of The New York Times; and for more recent private commissions. His work often utilized academic techniques in expressions of social, political and personal commentary, both contemporary and historical. Aesthetically, it ranged from the classically beautiful to the macabre. Plagued by a deep sense of social consciousness, he once instigated a heated, public argument with then mayor Ed Koch between showings of the film Mississippi Burning. In apology, he sent Koch an illustration he had once done of the mayor, who responded with a letter of appreciation, calling it "the best likeness [he had] ever seen."

As an artist, Mr. Gotbaum also set a landmark legal precedent, (NYT, "Judge Paints Portrait of an Artist as a Tenant, " 09/09/99), successfully representing himself in a dispute with his landlord, who was attempting to impose a commercial lease on the residential, rent-regulated studio apartment he had occupied for decades. To the relief of artists – and the dismay of landlords – the judge's decision stated that "many artists," including Chagall, Picasso, Giacometti, Duchamp, Warhol and O'Keeffe, "have used their homes as art studios," and that "van Gogh even made his bedroom the subject of one of his paintings."

Friends and family will miss his humor, sense of social justice, political acumen, charisma, and his torn, paint-stained jeans. He is survived by his wife, Julie Marcus, his daughter, Madeline Gotbaum, and their dog, Chewy, who will especially miss his comfort, care, and love.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by New York Times from Apr. 15 to Apr. 17, 2012.

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Noah Gotbaum

April 9, 2025

Missing Mark enormously.

Tom Zaslavsky

April 10, 2023

Thanks for this memory of Mark.

Jodie and Bob

April 9, 2023

Thinking of Mark and Julie on this sad day.

Tom Zaslavsky

April 9, 2022

My sympathy to cousins Julie and Maddie on this sad anniversary.

Jodie Gould

April 9, 2022

My thoughts are with Julie on this sad day. When I think of Mark, I smile. I think he would like that.

Jodie Gould

April 9, 2021

Mark’s spirit still roams the parks and hallways of the building that we shared. His courtroom win over eviction by the landlord was a victory to NYC artists and creatives everywhere.

Jefferson Fish

March 9, 2013

A friend brought Mark's obituary to my attention a few months ago, but I only came across this site today. Mark and I were roommates my senior year (1962-1963), living in our first (basement) apartment away from our parents. We had lots of adventures together, including sleeping on a Provincetown beach. Once we had a party that filled every square inch, so we left for a walk to get some air. When we came back, people were hesitant to let us in, demanding to know who we were.
When I retired a few years ago, I made a few unsuccessful attempts to contact him. I wish I had been more persistent. He had a great sense of humor, was a fine and dedicated artist, and has left me with cherished memories. I hope there will be an exhibition of his work some time.
I miss him, and wish the best for his family.

Deirdre Haber Malfatto

October 17, 2012

Julie and Maddie, I just heard about Mark's death and am so very sorry. He was a wonderful neighbor to us, both when I was a child, and when I was grown up with children of my own, and since I have moved I have thought of him and you often.

Mary Carfagno Ferguson

May 26, 2012

Dear Julie and Maddy, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. Mark and I were friends along time ago and he profoundly affected my life and my thinking. "Gotz" was a spectacular person, a man of extremes, and a great artist. This is such sad news.

Alexis L. Young

May 16, 2012

I wish I had known you. I would have enjoyed being one of your friends and hope you would have felt the same. I am also an artist; and it breaks my heart when one of us leaves our Family of Artists. The Flame dims each time one of us passes on. I give my love and best reguards to your family who will miss the sound of your brushes painting.

Richard Wolf

May 16, 2012

Mark, a friend and loving brother,really, who enriched my life immeasurably for more than fifty years. You were one of the most thoughtful, decent and sensitive souls I've ever known--and among the most
gifted. I will miss your generous and compassionate heart, your irresistible sense of humor, your honesty and your personal and artistic integrity. You were to the end, your own man, proud and engaged in what matters most in life. My love to those who nurtured
you along the way--Julie, Maddy and Mike, especially. Your memory sustains us in our grief.

Susan Resnick

May 11, 2012

Dear Julie and Maddy,
My one and only encounter with Mark,over fifteen years ago, left an indelible imprint, above all that of mensch and artist, a most unique combination. During the
transit between the Village and the UWS that Mark offered me, he didn't think twice about loading my disability scooter into his car along with other cumbersome items I would have otherwise had to get onto a bus. In transit, we spoke of life as we saw it. His inner intensity and kind presence were without walls or cliches. May his life live on in you both as a treasure and a rare blessing.

Detail of the unfinished portrait of the artist

Mark Gotbaum

May 8, 2012

Donna, Marc and Hannah Sperber

April 30, 2012

Julie and Maddy, although we haven't spoken in years, hearing about Mark truly devastated us all. We are so sorry for the loss of a truly kind and humorous man. We offer our condolences for your simply tragic and untimely loss.

Joe Mondello

April 25, 2012

Dear Julie, I wish is gotten to know Mark better years ago. My last conversation with him in January was refreshingly honest and open and while he always had a ready smile for everyone, I feel that I missed an opportunity to really get to know the man behind the smile Joe 7D

Carolyn Grimstead

April 24, 2012

My neighbor my friend through thick and thin I will miss you

Jodie Gould

April 24, 2012

Mark was one of the funniest and most honest people I've had the pleasure of knowing. His victory over the landlord was a triumph, not just for his neighbors, but for artists struggling to live in the Emerald Isle that is Manhattan.

Seyna Bruskin

April 17, 2012

Mark was a wisecrack wrapped in an enigma. Imagine Jon Stewart trying to channel Elliot Gould and you'll have an idea of what he was like. Mark was warm, genuine, difficult and totally honest. Our whole family will miss his wit, intensity, charisma and presence, and toast his memory whenever we gather together.

April 17, 2012

Julie and maddy....Wendy's and my thoughts are with you now ..for the loss of Mark. Although we did not know Mark well. I think that David's remarks captured beautifully his unique spirit and and devotion to his family.
We'll talk soon.

Andy and Wendy Metter

April 17, 2012

Julie, I appreciate the depthful and insightful obituary about your beloved Mark. It seems we shared some things in common--I grew up in the Bronx, lived on Tiebout Avenue, went to City College and am a similar age. Although the loss you've suffered is overwhelming, in time those qualities Mark possessed will help you heal, which is what he certainly would want for you. Love, Ira

Thomas Zaslavsky

April 17, 2012

You have my sympathy for the uncalled-for loss of Mark. Your cousin-in-law is with you in spirit, Julie and Maddy. I can so easily visualize Mark's outsized personality now, even though I didn't know him well.

Noah Gotbaum

April 16, 2012

Mark - Our amazingly cool and wonderful cousin. You always told it the way you saw it which was rich in color, context, depth. You mocked political correctness and set a standard of standards for us all. You saw so much, and brought much of it to the canvass and to all of our lives. I loved and miss your parents and now you, cherishing our too few conversations. Rest in peace my cousin. You were very, very special. And will be missed.

April 16, 2012

Sorry for your loss.May God be with you during your time of need.For he is close to those who are crushed in spirit......Isaiah 57:15.

April 16, 2012

We are very saddened to learn of Mark's passing. May his extraordinary life bring comfort to all of his family and friends. Our thoughts are with Julie and Maddy.
Joel and Barbara Metter

Tzivia Tyler

April 15, 2012

Mark will forever be my KID BROTHER in my heart&mind.We were together at M&A and CCNY. I'm so glad he was in my life.This is a great loss.My deepest sympathy to Julie and Maddie.Tzivia(AKA Carole Lewin in the "old days")

susan benisch

April 15, 2012

Am so very saddened --we were old friends in the 60's--I always found him to be profoundly funny and felt him to be a true kindred spirit--and I am sorry that I never met Julie

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