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Sita Laetsch Obituary

Sita P. (Capildeo) Laetsch

November 14, 1936 - January 10, 2019

She was one of those rare personalities who would bring a room to attention as soon as she entered. Forceful, dignified, and stubborn, Sita Priyadarshini (Capildeo) Laetsch passed away on January 10, 2019. She was born in San Fernando, Trinidad and Tobago to Simbhoonath and Indradai (Ramoutar) Capildeo. Her father, Simbhoonath, (Elder God in "A House for Mr. Biswas" by his nephew, V.S. Naipaul) was a member of Parliament and known as 'the Lion of the Legislature' for his powerful orations. He was also a Hindu scholar, successful solicitor and businessman who was intimately involved in Trinidad's independence from the British Empire. Simbhoonath sent his only daughter and favorite child to high school at Saint Joseph's Convent, Trinidad, and then to Miranda House at Delhi University, India to meet a Brahmin such as herself — someone of means and title. Instead, in 1956, she fell in love with a Scottish/Swiss German Yankee named Watson McMillan ('Mac') Laetsch with little means and title of Fulbright Scholar researching plant embryology at Delhi University. Kissing for the first time during a moonlit night under a minaret of the Taj Mahal led to a romance and their eloping to Canada in 1958.

Sita and Mac moved to Stanford University where their first son, John, was born. In 1961 Mac took a faculty position at SUNY Stony Brook University, and they lived in Glen Cove, New York, where their son, Krishen, was born. They moved to Berkeley in 1963, as Mac became a professor and then senior administrator at Cal and where Sita lived until her death.

In addition to being the pillar of her extended family and a fabulous cook, Sita was a frequent volunteer at schools and hospitals and constantly entertained with extravagant teas and dinners to benefit U.C. Berkeley and other institutions and organizations. For many years, she was known for baking apple pies for Cal football announcers as well as hosting Bear Treks (Cal Discoveries Travel). Fun, regal and eclectic, she traveled the world several times over and lived as full a life as anyone could hope for. Sita had a carefree, bohemian, sunny and playful personality, and yet she could, and often would, pierce armor with her eyes and words and hold lifetime grudges for the most insignificant slight.

Sita is survived by her husband of sixty-one years, Mac, sons John and Krishen (daughter-in-law Jenny and grandson Charlie). In lieu of flowers, please make donations in memory of Sita, to: Chaparral House, 1309 Allston Way, Berkeley, CA 94702, or Re-entry Student Program, at https://give.berkeley.edu/re-entry or mail a check to UC Berkeley Donor Services, 1995 University Ave., Ste 400, Berkeley, CA, 94704 — payable to UC Berkeley Foundation. Kindly include "in memory of Sita Laetsch" on the memo line.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jan. 22 to Feb. 10, 2019.

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Becky Chambers Hennessy

February 2, 2019

Sending condolences to my bereaved childhood friend John and his family. John, a mother as wonderful as yours never truly leaves. Sita lives on through your love for her and will guide and protect you always.

Robert and Sally Goldman

January 26, 2019

Sally and I are deeply saddened to learn of the loss of the
wonderful Sita of whom we will always retain the fondest memories. Our thoughts and profound condolences go out at this sad time to Mac, John, Kishen, and the whole family.

Bob Goldman

January 26, 2019

Sally and I are deeply saddened to learn of the loss of the wonderful Sita of whom we will always retain the fondest of memories. Our heartfelt condolences go out to Mac, John, Krishen and the whole family.
Bob Goldman

Molly Cohen

January 25, 2019

My condolences to Mac and family. I recall with some amusement sharing one of Sita's dinners at which an unsuspecting guest got more than he expected from one of the spicier dishes. Sita gave him a banana.

January 23, 2019

My heartfelt sympathy goes out to your family. May knowing that our Heavenly Father understands your grief, provide a measure of comfort during this difficult time.

Isaiah 40:28

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