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Barry S. Willdorf

Barry passed away peacefully at his home on February 1, 2014, surrounded by his family. The cause was leukemia. He had been treated for 8.5 years at Stanford, where he had received two stem cell transplants. He is survived by his wife, Bonnie of 45-years, three daughters, Megan Willdorf, Nina (Michael) Endelman, and Julia (Nick) Campins, and four grandchildren.


A life-long activist, Barry was born in New York on March 6, 1945. He grew up in Malden and in Gloucester, Massachusetts. Barry attended Colby College in Maine and the University of Manchester, in Manchester, England, where he studied history and economics. He attended Columbia Law School in New York, where he was an active member of Students for a Democratic Society (SDS), an anti-war organization. He and Bonnie Offner were married June 1968. After graduation from Columbia in 1969, he practiced law with the Legal Aid Society in New York City. He and Bonnie moved to Southern California in 1970, where he founded, near the height of the Vietnam War, the Southern California Military Law Project, an organization that defended servicemen charged with violations of military law. His semi-autobiographical novel, Bring the War Home!, is based on this period in their lives.  Barry also co-authored a self-help book for military personnel.  In 1971, he and Bonnie moved to San Francisco.  Barry opened his law practice in San Francisco, practicing criminal, and eventually civil law. For many years, he practiced with his longtime legal partner, Laura Stevens. Over the course of several decades, he litigated hundreds of cases, representing employees, actors, artists, victims of investment and real estate fraud, and tenants.  In 2005, the San Francisco AIDS Legal Referral Panel named him Lawyer of the Year for groundbreaking work on behalf of AIDS patients, including the case of Daniels v. CVS. Barry often made headlines for the controversial cases he handled, including the wrongful death of a woman on welfare and the swindle of investors in a South African gold mine. In his last case, he and Laura won a multimillion dollar jury verdict against a Bay Area landlord who regularly cheated his tenants out of their security deposits. As his legal career wound down and as he became a grandfather, he turned increasingly to writing and published five novels. Those who knew him remember him as a loyal friend, loving husband, father, and grandfather, a warm host, and a fierce advocate, ready to take a case, defend the defenseless and comfort the afflicted. 


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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Feb. 1 to Feb. 3, 2014.

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Tony Franchina

February 4, 2014

As I sit here trying to say what I feel, I cannot express how empty I feel. I am going to miss him and wish I could have seen him more these last few years. Sail on Barry or should I say Kayak on. Ciao

Maggie Livings

February 2, 2014

It is a sad day, indeed, when we realize we can no longer hear the strum of his guitar and the sound of his voice--storying, singing, or telling a stupid joke. Memories are made of this--and so much more. To Barry--Whose heart was always in the right place. My love to all his family and friends. Maggie

Elise Miller

February 2, 2014

Barry was an exceptional person in every way. Not just because of his social justice work, but because he was a warm, outgoing, person who met and dealt with life courageously and with wit and intelligence. I will always appreciate his supportive conversations and emails when my book about '68 was released and thereafter. Our last exchange was last Aug., when he was still struggling to write. Expecting to write, and to live. I will miss him, his outlook and company, very much.

Elly Gould

February 1, 2014

We are so glad we visited with you recently. It brought back all the history and fun times we have shared. We are sad and will miss Barry's witty and cynical humor and intelligent conversation. Our love to you and the family. Elly and John

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