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Matthew Bender IV

1931 - 2020

Matthew Bender IV obituary, 1931-2020, Albany, NY

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Matthew Bender Obituary

Bender, Matthew IV ALBANY Matthew Bender IV, 88, of Albany, passed away peacefully on February 23, 2020, at Albany Medical Center Hospital. He was born in Albany on November 10, 1931, to the late Matthew Bender III and Virginia (Hammond) Bender, and chose to live in the Capital Region for most of his life. Growing up in Albany, he attended The Albany Academy and graduated Cum Laude in 1953 from Princeton University in New Jersey. Following his graduation, he embarked on a successful business career in publishing and marketing of law books and legal treatises to attorneys and accountants. He first worked for the family business, Matthew Bender & Co., Inc., then founded and operated Sage Hill Publishing, and subsequently, Clark Boardman Co. in New York City. Matt spent most of his adult life contributing his time and talent to many civic and charitable endeavors, including serving in leadership positions at Albany Medical Center Hospital, The Albany Academies, Albany Medical College, The Center for Economic Growth, The Greenway Conservancy for the Hudson River Valley, Historic Albany Foundation, The New York State Commission on the Restoration of the Capitol, and Saratoga Performing Arts Center. He also provided community leadership for many other organizations including The Albany Institute of History and Art, Albany Symphony Orchestra, The Community Foundation for the Greater Capital Region, Glimmerglass Opera, Mohonk Preserve, and The Preservation League of New York. As a local philanthropist and conservationist, Matt was devoted to numerous social and cultural causes in Albany, as New York's capital city. He was particularly proud of the support provided to the region by the Bender Family Foundation, which he founded in 1997, and oversaw as the President of the Board of Trustees for more than 20 years. One recent accomplishment of which he was especially proud was publication of the third edition of "A Capitol Story", a detailed history of the state capitol, New York's Seat of Government and Albany's most celebrated building. Matt was a huge supporter of the arts and had memberships with the Glimmerglass Opera, Albany Symphony, Saratoga Performing Arts Center, and the New York Metropolitan Opera in New York City. Matt received numerous awards in recognition of his contributions to the many organizations he served, as he strove continuously to strengthen them from both a financial and operational standpoint. For over 80 years, Matthew was involved with The Aloha Foundation, a Vermont-based nonprofit that operates summer camps, family camps, and education programs that emphasize simplicity, the outdoors, and living as community. Matt first attended there as a young camper and later served as a trustee of the Foundation. Throughout his life he delighted to return to northeastern Vermont to visit the camps where all of his children and grandchildren attended. Matthew also was an avid traveler throughout the United States and globally. His extensive travels in the U.S. took him to all 50 state capitals for which he took great pride. Matt, who always would be seen wearing a bow tie, has been described as one of the kindest, most charming, and genuine persons one could know. While he was deservedly renowned for his financial support of a wide array of local and regional philanthropic concerns, what set him apart was his generosity of spirit. His affable personality, combined with an empathetic curiosity and interest in people and places made him an endearing and respected person wherever he went and to all who knew him. Beloved husband of 61 years to Phoebe (Powell) Bender; Matt also is survived by three children, Matthew Christian Bender (Betsy) of Loudonville, Jeffrey (Louise) Bender of Albany, and Jean Bender of Walla Walla, Wash.; and eight grandchildren, Jackson, Charlie, Claire, and Matthew Bender; Emma and James Bender; and Otto and Mabel Sabina. The family will receive relatives and friends Thursday, February 27, from 4-7 p.m. at the Fort Orange Club, 110 Washington Ave., Albany, where Matt was a lifetime member. An early spring memorial service will be announced at a later date. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to Historic Albany Foundation, 89 Lexington Ave, Albany, NY 12206 and/or the Mohawk Hudson Land Conservancy, 425 Kenwood Ave., Delmar, NY 12054 . Arrangements have been entrusted to The Tebbutt & Frederick Memorial Home, Albany. To express condolences and for more information, please visit sbfuneralhome.com.

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Published by Albany Times Union from Feb. 25 to Feb. 27, 2020.

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James Mutaka

February 21, 2024

I still hear a small voice of hope, love and comfort. I miss your presence and action plan. Peace

carol ash

February 19, 2024

Oh, how we could use his vision, wisdom and humor now!

March 10, 2020

A giant whose good works, warm spirit and great friendships will last long after his years with us. Blessings to the Bender family, whose family relationship with ours dates back a century
William Vannneman Jr.

James Hoehn MD

March 8, 2020

What can one say about a true Renaissance Man? Matthew was interested in everything and everyday was a journey to new knowledge. And, all of us were the beneficiaries of his insatiable appetite for knowledge.
We are all the poorer for his passing.

Martha and Joe Pofit

March 8, 2020

Sincerest condolences to Mr. Bender's family. May this kind and generous gentleman rest in the peace of knowing he bettered his community through a lifetime of effective effort.

Alissa Quinn

February 29, 2020

I will always remember Mathews kindness when we did a joint presentation representing The Albany Institute of History & Art, very early in my professional career. Mathew had always been a revered business leader & incredible philanthropist in our community. Sincerest condolences to the entire Bender family.

February 28, 2020

Dear Jeff and Family,

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dad. I'm sorry I never got to meet him as he sounded like such an amazing man! I hope you and yours get through this with knowing that he lived such an amazing life and was a great influence on his community and many many others! Rest in peace Mr. Bender.

Sincerely
Joe Lostritto

Ralph & Elizabeth Rossi

February 27, 2020

Chris and Family,
The world is a better place because of your father. He will be missed by all. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Condolences,

Francine Frank

February 27, 2020

So sorry to hear about Matt's passing. I will remember him as a wonderful colleague on the Board of Directors of CapRep, as someone who always had a friendly word to say whenever we met and as a world traveler who kept popping up unexpectedly when I travelled abroad. He wa a true public servant who will be sorely missed and remembered fobdky

Gary Weitzman

February 25, 2020

Matt,
I knew our friendship couldn't last forever and I will always cherish the relationship we had. It was truly my pleasure to know you and to call you my friend. I will miss you dearly.

Ann Loughman

February 25, 2020

Thank you, Matt, for the example and support that you have shown to the students of Albany Medical College. My prayers and thoughts are with the Bender Family.

Maria Santostefano

February 25, 2020

Thank you for all you did for Albany Med and everyone else that you touched with your generosity.

Jerry Lynn

February 25, 2020

Phoebe and family: I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers. As a neighbor and fellow Princetonian, I was blessed by Matt's humility, warmth, and generosity. He will be missed.

Gary Mittleman

February 25, 2020

A wonderful guy who was always able to expand the conversation to the next level. He will be missed.

Mike McNulty

February 25, 2020

Phoebe and Family: I am grateful for Matt's friendship through the years, and I'm very sorry for your loss.

Stephen Campito

February 25, 2020

Please accept my sincere condolences for the loss of Mr. Bender. A great man and friend of our family. RIP sir.

Ray Hull

February 25, 2020

After more than fifty years, it is hard to imagine Albany without Matt; but I am trying and wishing Phoebe and family the best with my deepest condolences.

Frances Ingraham

February 25, 2020

There will never be another Matthew Bender. Matthew was unique in every amazing, wonderful and genuine way possible for a human to soar. There wasnt a day that Matthew wasnt spending his time helping someone or supporting a valuable cause or organization. We are all the better for knowing this leader, husband, father, friend. Rest In Peace dear Matthew. Thank you for sharing your productive and compassionate journey throughout your life.

Tracey Martin

February 25, 2020

Matt (and Phoebe's) gifts to the Regional Food Bank and the Patroon Land Farm were transformational to our work. Matt will live on through the many projects he and his family supported. We are grateful for his presence on this Earth!

KAREN Opalka

February 25, 2020

always our hero, so sad for the Bender family, we've lost a GREAT man. Karen and Chet

Carol Ash

February 25, 2020

In so many smart, witty and generous ways, Matt was in a class by himself-

February 25, 2020

I am sorry for the loss to his family. Matthew was first and foremost a great guy. I remember a wonderful moment from many years ago, where I was at a fundraiser for an arts organization at Matt and Pheobe's house in Loudenville. The house was full of excellent, important art works. Matt and Phoebe were serious collectors. But what intrigued me were some funky, fanciful clay creatures on a table near the middle of the house. I asked Matt about them, and found out that they had been made by his daughter. He was as proud of them as he was the more major works hanging on the walls. I thought it was a wonderful comment on the man, that with a string of huge business successes behind him he still found delight in strikingly fanciful clay creatures made by one of his children. He will be missed.

February 25, 2020

The world is diminished by Matt leaving us. He will be sorely missed.

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