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Raymond Marinelli Obituary

Marinelli, Raymond E. ALBANY Raymond E. Marinelli, the former Albany County Surrogate Court judge passed away on October 17, 2012. Ray was a loving husband, father and grand-father, and in all his relationships, personal, private or profess-ional, he was a kind and generous man. His consistent mantra during all the phases of his life was "to do the right thing." He rose from humble beginnings in Albany's South End to become one of the first countywide judges of Italian descent. Ray was born in Rhode Island in 1931 shortly after his parents immigrated to the United States. When he was three, his mother became a single parent, and she moved with him to Albany's South End, where there was a large Italian immigrant population. Because his mother needed to work numerous jobs, he spent most of his childhood at Trinity Institute's Masterson Day Nursery. After nursery school he attended St. Anthony's Elementary School, and then Schuyler High School. With the encouragement of the late Ben Baker, he played both football and basketball. Despite his slight frame, he was fast on his feet and was recognized as key team player. He hoped to continue with sports in college, but a short time after his graduation from Schuyler, during the Korean War, he enlisted in the United States Coast Guard and served for four years. At the conclusion of his service, with the help of the GI bill, he was able to enroll at the University of Miami. He became interested in writing and the communications field, and after several semesters at Miami he transferred to Boston University, because it had a broader communications curriculum. In Boston, he had the opportunity to do some directing for public service television programs. He graduated from Boston University in 1953 with a degree in communications. He then moved to New York City where he secured a position with an advertising agency producing and directing television spots that were shown on the then-existing national networks. In those days everything was shot live so there was no room for production errors. As a result of this experience he developed a respect for attention to details and accuracy a skill that served him well in his future legal and judicial career. His work with network television led to an interest in issues surrounding broadcasting. In the late l950s, he enrolled in New York Law School, then frequently referred to as "the poor man's law school." He attended classes during the evenings and worked during the days. In 1960, he met and married his wife, Patricia. Nearing the completion of law school he moved back to Albany to be close to his mother and aging grandparents. He completed law school by commuting back and forth between New York City and Albany. Ray was admitted to the New York State Bar in 1962, the same month and year that he became the father of twin girls. He started practicing law with an established attorney for which he was paid the sum of $25 a week. Eventually he obtained a part-time job with a title company doing title searches a circumstance that had a significant effect as his legal career progressed. His knowledge of real estate matters led to a position with Albany's corporation counsel's office, where he specialized in early economic development initiatives. When the decision was made to use eminent domain to re-develop major parts of Albany's south end (now known as the Empire State Plaza) he was given the responsibility of researching historical records of property ownership in order to implement the necessary condemnation proceedings. Some of the title searches that Ray did dated back to the 1600s. Ray regarded this experience to be one of the most fascinating and interesting involvements of his legal career. Years later, when driving around the greater Albany area, Ray would frequently give whoever was with him a brief history of the particular site they were passing. After construction of the South Mall was under way, he continued his involvement with real property matters for the city of Albany. He negotiated the purchase of the Palace Theater by the city, which at that time some critics thought to be an irrelevant acquisition a perspective that proved to be shortsighted. He also negotiated the agreement between the Omni Corporation and the city of Albany dealing with the building of the Hilton Hotel, now known as the Hotel Albany. This was regarded by the late Mayor Corning as an essential cornerstone of an economic revitalization of the downtown area. Acting on behalf of the city, Ray had marathon negotiation sessions with the corporation's legal staff, a staff that functioned on a 24/7 basis. The deal was finalized on New Year's Eve, just before the necessary environmental impact statement would expire. As the hotel took its final construction form, Ray and Mayor Corning signed the last cross-beam to be put in place. In 1980, Ray was appointed to fill a vacancy at the Albany County Surrogate Court. Shortly thereafter, he was elected to a full 10-year term. In context with the then existing judicial transfer system, he was frequently transferred to other courts in the state. During these transfer weeks, he presided in the court to which he had been transferred. He then commuted to Albany on weekends to be with his family and to deal with Albany County matters. In 1990, Ray was re-elected to the Surrogate Court and served as the Surrogate Court judge until his retirement in 2000. Ray loved his job as Surrogate Court judge and enjoyed dealing with attorneys and working with them analyzing complex legal matters. He was recognized for his effective negotiation skills and was frequently assigned cases that appeared to be non-negotiable. As surrogate, it was his responsibility to deal with estate matters following the death of an individual. It was a responsibility that he looked upon with great seriousness and his hallmark attention to detail. The aspect of Surrogate Court that Ray most enjoyed was its authority to handle adoptions. He loved seeing and interacting with children who would come to his chambers. Ray dealt with adoptions of children from countries outside of the United States, and developed an expertise in international regulations regarding these kinds of adoptions. Even after his retirement, he would often receive notes and photographs from the parents of the adoptees. During his tenure, he saw to it that the historic Surrogate Court chambers were appropriately maintained. It was not unusual for visiting judges to specifically request the use of his chambers. Ray retired in 2000, having reached the mandatory retirement age. During his retirement years, he continued to serve as a senior judge and a judicial hearing officer for the New York State Retirement System. Ray is survived by Patricia, his beloved wife of 53 years, and his wonderful, loving children, Kathleen Marinelli (Karen Asher), Karen Marinelli Gomez (Bill), Robert Marinelli and Lisa Marinelli and his beautiful grandchildren, Allison Rae and Patricia Kathleen. Ray was proud of his Italian heritage, and appreciative of the caring and loving environment he experienced as a child growing up in Albany's South End. Funeral services will be private at the convenience of the family. There will be no calling hours. Those wishing to offer a remembrance of Ray may make a contribution to Trinity Alliance of the Capital Region, 15 Trinity Place, Albany, NY 12202 or trinityalliancealbany.org

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Published by Albany Times Union from Oct. 19 to Oct. 20, 2012.

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November 30, 2012

We are sorry for your loss.

Robert, Elaine, David & Hope Freedman
Albany, NY

Ray & John Cantele

Remo Baldisseri

November 11, 2012

Dear Patricia and Family,Please accept our deepest sympathy for the loss of Ray. We go back to the early 40's when Ray and his mother would visit our family at 147 Green Street across from Saint John's Church. We stayed in touch until the Korean War. We were both named Ray (Remo) I could write so much more but I'll close and include a photo of Ray and my cousin John in front of our Green St building back in 1945.
Our sincere thoughts and prayers to you and the family.
God Bless You, Ray (Remo) Baldisseri

Lisa Marinelli

November 6, 2012

To all of my father's friends from high school and the neighborhood of his youth that have posted here:

On behalf of my mother and siblings, thank you for your kind words and expressions of sympathy. Dad would often share stories with us about the friends of his youth and remembered the time spent with you all fondly. Since we are unable to reach you individually, in the event you revisited this guest book, we wanted you to know how touched we have been having heard from you all.

The Marinelli Family

Reva Plesser Tavelman

November 4, 2012

To Ray's Family from a high school friend who now lives in Los Angeles. I heard of Ray's passing and wanted to express my condolances. I remember him visiting me while he was in Los Angeles with a friend. He was not only a beautiful man on the outside but certainly a beautiful human being on the inside. Again,my condolances. Reva "Plesser" Tavelman

Allan Bevilacqua

October 29, 2012

Sincere condolences to the family of Judge Ray Marinelli my friend, team mate and classmate at Philip Dchuyler High School.
Major Allan C. Bevilacqua, USMC, Ret
Grayson, KY

October 27, 2012

Dear Lisa and Family,
I am sorry for your loss. Your father sounds like a remarkable man. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Jennifer Smith Fletcher

Kerry Orlyk

October 23, 2012

Dear Karen and family:
What a wonderful walk through Mr. Marinelli's shoes. Your pride shines through in the obituary and I know it was mutual. I wish I had the honor of knowing him. What I do know is that he has some wonderful people here to continue to make an impact in people's lives and carry on the Marinelli traditions that he shared with each of you. May the wonderful memories of his accomplishments as a person, a professional and loving husband, father, grandfather and friend live forever in your hearts. My deepest sympathies.

October 21, 2012

Dear Karen and family,
Our deepest sympathies on the passing of your father. He was a very lucky man to have such a dedicated, caring, and loving family.

Wishing you and everyone who knew Raymond strength and peace,
Laura Bulatao and Matt, Jared, and Samahria Alpern

October 21, 2012

Mrs. Marinelli and family, our deepest sympathy for your loss. May God give you strength during this very sad time.
The Tardio Family
Albany, NY

Lisa Miller

October 21, 2012

Mrs Marinelli, Karen, Kathleen, Bob, and Lisa, We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Our good memories, thoughts and prayers are with you all. Love, Lisa and Steve Miller

October 20, 2012

Where to begin the story of the other father across the street...I don't remember a day in my life that the Marinelli family was not interchangeable with my own...we shared everything and every day. So sad for the passing of Mr. M..wishiing you all peace and strength in the coming days. XO Kim Dolan

Jacqui Swedick

October 20, 2012

What a beautiful summary of the life achievements and dedication of your husband/father/and grandfather. He will certainly be missed, and the reflections of all the special times you have shared should fill your hearts. Having the pleasure of knowing most of you, and being blessed with the friendship one of my dearest friends Karen. I am certain he is resting peacefully knowing what caring, loving, and strong people you have become, and to Mrs. Marinelli the dedication, love, and commitment of 53 years of marriage. I am certain he is forever grateful for. Sending loving thoughts and prayers for the entire Marinelli Family. All our Love, Jacqui, Harry, and Mark

Maureen Dolan Goldman

October 20, 2012

Dear Marinelli's-
The obituary is just lovely and a wonderful tribute to Ray. I'm so sorry for your loss and am praying for all of you.

Love and Respect,
Maureen Dolan Goldman

Sue & Angelina Brown

October 20, 2012

Karen, and family
Sorry to learn of the loss of your Father, may God Bless you and yours in this time of turmoil. We did not know your Father, but we know that he raised a wonderful person like you.

Marc Barach

October 19, 2012

Dear Mrs. Marinelli, Karen, Kathleen, Bob and Lisa,
So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this sad time.
Marc Barach

Lee Castleman

October 19, 2012

Karen ,Kathy and family,

I'm deeply sorry to hear of your dad and husbands passing. Our prayers go out to all of you during this very difficult time.

Melissa Latino

October 19, 2012

Dear Kathy and family - I am deeply sorry to hear that your father has passed. Your father was a wonderful man with many accomplishments and contributions to his community. And, from just knowing you, I know he was a wonderful father beloved by his children. My deepest thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Roz Bellin Winston

October 19, 2012

Dear Marinelli Family: What a beautiful Obit for Ray. We went to Schuyler High together and I counted Ray as a dear friend. My sincere sympathy to you on this terrible loss.

Selma Maslan-Broadhurst

October 19, 2012

Ray and I attended schools together, and graduated from PSHS; we were typical, South end against the world" folks. He was always gentlemanly and a great sportsman. My profound sympathy to the family

John Scharf

October 19, 2012

Karen, Bill and Family -- I was saddened to learn that your dad has passed. You and your entire family have my prayers, thoughts and deepest condolences during this difficult time. The obituary wonderfully summaried what a great man you had for a father. I know you have many fond memories of his love and wisdom to guide you in the days ahead. May God Bless You all during your time of mourning. Please don't hesitate to call if you need anything. -- John

Patricia Peters (Robelotto)

October 19, 2012

Dear Pat and family
I am very sorry for your loss. I have many fond memories of living next door to you and then baby sitting your children after you moved. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you

Efy Asher

October 19, 2012

Karen - my thoughts and prayers to you and your family during this time. We're all thinking of you.

Mike McNulty

October 19, 2012

Ray lived an exemplary life, and was a good friend. I extend my sympathies to all the members of his great family.

October 19, 2012

Dear Kathy and Karen,
So sorry for Your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Barbara and Ali Lanfear

Mary Vitela

October 19, 2012

Lisa, Just know my heart and prayers are with you during this time. If I can do anything, please let me know.

Katy Pinckney

October 19, 2012

Dear Karen and family, my deepest condolences for the loss of your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. May he rest in peace.

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