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McHENRY Mary Williamson McHenry Died peacefully in Washington, DC. on March 1, 2021. She was 88 years old. Mary was born on January 23, 1933, in Washington, DC, to Alphonso Williamson and Elizabeth Bennett Williamson. She graduated from the Oakwood Friends School in Poughkeepsie, New York in 1950. Mary attended Mount Holyoke College in South Hadley, Massachusetts, where she received a B.A. in 1954. She received a M.A. in English from Columbia University in 1960 and went on to teach English at Howard University, George Washington University, and Federal City College (now the University of the District of Columbia). In 1974, she returned to Mount Holyoke College as a professor of African American literature, where she remained until her retirement in 1999. Mary was an instrumental member of the Mount Holyoke faculty, transforming the college by establishing departments of both African American Studies and American Studies and providing vital leadership to the five college community. She was a gifted teacher, who is credited with enriching the lives of her students, not only by introducing them to writers like James Baldwin, Maya Angelou and Toni Morrison, but also by showing them the power and the beauty of their own written expression. She cared deeply for what could be communicated through words and was committed to sharing with students all that she knew about reading and writing. Mary was a demanding but tireless and dedicated teacher for whom the role of an educator did not end at the close of a class period. She welcomed students into her home, where they were nourished by food, conversation, and laughter. She was the "favorite teacher" whose warmth and generosity as a mentor inspired generations of students. Her impact as an educator was recognized in 2019, when she was awarded the Elizabeth Topham Kennan Award, given to a Mount Holyoke College alumna for outstanding achievement in and contributions to the field of education. Mary was an independent and adventurous woman. She drove with what she described as a "heavy foot" (some police officers agreed with that assessment). She never hesitated to jump in the car to go wherever she was wanted or needed. She made countless solo journeys to visit her children wherever they were living, and to see her parents in Washington, DC or "down to the beach," Highland and Venice Beach, the home of her childhood summers and extended family. Mary created warm homes and large networks of friends wherever she went. In South Hadley, she loved to host dinner parties and entertain colleagues, friends and neighbors. She was the "substitute mother" to anyone-friends, students, acquaintances-that needed it, and grew accustomed to cooking an enormous turkey on Thanksgiving Day so she was sure to have enough for anyone who happened to be on their own on that day. In addition to her love of family, literature, and teaching, Mary loved to travel. She returned from one trip to the West Coast of Ireland having bought a small cottage just outside the village of Castletownshend, where she retreated during breaks from teaching and the summer months. There, she enjoyed writing, taking long walks, and visiting with dear friends-neighbors from across the way or visitors from afar. She also loved the beach and found joy in being able to see the ocean every day. In addition to countless former students and friends, Mary McHenry is survived, loved, and mourned by her former husband Donald F. McHenry, their son, Michael McHenry and their daughters, Christina McHenry and Elizabeth McHenry; their daughter-in-law, Janice McHenry and son-in-law Gene Assaf, and their five grandchildren, Claire, Daniel, and Caroline Lempres and Electa and Quinn McHenry-Assaf. Services will be held in Washington, DC and South Hadley, MA when it is safe to do so, and the family plans to establish a scholarship fund in Mary's name at her beloved Mount Holyoke. The details for each will be shared at a later date. Services will be held in Washington, DC and South Hadley, MA when it is safe to do so, and the family plans to establish a scholarship fund in Mary's name at her beloved Mount Holyoke. The details for each will be shared at a later date.

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Published by The Washington Post on Mar. 14, 2021.

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Leah Glasser

February 17, 2022

Mary meant so much to me throughout her time at Mount Holyoke College. I served as an academic dean and member of the English department. Mary was a steady source of advice, inspiration, and love from the moment I came to Mount Holyoke some 42 years ago.

We shared many students, and at one point, when I was granted a rare sabbatical from my work as Dean of First-Year Studies, Mary offered to stand in for me for the semester. This was done purely out of kindness to me, and sympathy for my wish to finish writing my book. I felt complete trust in Mary because I had seen her work with students, and I knew that the transition for students would be quite smooth with Mary in my chair.

Indeed Mary did a brilliant job in my absence, and we continued to consult on students, literature, and life until her retirement. I have always missed Mary ever since she left South Hadley, and I know that feeling is shared by many! It was clear how much Mary loved her family, and she always spoke of them with a big smile and a warm tone in her voice. It's rare to find a scholar and teacher who could be so humble, so understanding, and so caring. She was a gift for all of us who were lucky enough to get to know her.
Leah Glasser
Professor Emerita in English
Mount Holyoke College

Kay Johnson

January 23, 2022

Being in touch. Christina, I received your note and was sure I had emailed in reply -- but apparently not. Could you contact me? [email protected]

Tracy Matthews Roberson

May 27, 2021

Cousins,
I just realized Cousin Mary had passed. I kept getting her voice mail and finally called the main number at Sibley. Please reach out to me. Sending my deepest condolences.

Kathleen Hirsch

May 19, 2021

Dear Michael, Christina and Elizabeth,
Forgive this balky form, but I've not been successful in finding more personal contact information for any of you. I just learned of Mary's passing on the last page of the current issue of Choragos. My heart skipped a beat, seeing her image again, and seeing, too, over the passage of time, how beautiful she continued to be into old age.
Your mother was a friend to me at a time when I had few others able to support my transition from student to independent professional woman. You may remember that she hired me to "tend" to you -- Christina and Elizabeth; though you hardly needed it. It was your mother's gracious way of trying to help, as she could, an aspiring writer with few scaffolds. She also initiated a writing group for graduates and hangers-on around town, and included me. For this, I was immensely grateful.
Even as a callow 21 year old, I was aware of your mother's extraordinary efforts to realize a full life for herself, and the courage with which she sustained this effort. I had enormous admiration for her sensitivity, intelligence, and dignity. But it was not until I became a working writer and mother and academic myself, that I was able to appreciate her journey properly. I'm sure the same can be said for many of those she guided and mentored over the years. She was a remarkable woman.
It sounds as if Mary died the kind of death she deserved after a life of gallant generosity and ardent engagement. Let us pray that it was as she herself would have written it.
It was an honor to have been befriended and blessed by her.
I wish you all well, and send fond greetings across the many years.

Sherril Gerard Gonzalez

March 21, 2021

Thank you.

ivy tillman

March 18, 2021

i am so sad to hear of Mary's death. i will, for many reasons, think of her as my very best friend, even though we had not seen each other for a few years. i feel honored to have been in the front passenger seat on several "heavy foot" drives, and to have enjoyed her company along with gourmet delights until she retired to D.C. my deepest sympathies to her beloved family, all of whom i was fortunate to meet and admire. Rest in peace--and power--dear friend.

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ivy tillman

March 18, 2021

i am so sad to hear of Mary's death. i will, for many reasons, think of her as my very best friend, even though we had not seen each other for a few years. i feel honored to have been in the front passenger seat on several "heavy foot" drives, and to have enjoyed her company along with gourmet delights until she retired to D.C. my deepest sympathies to her beloved family, all of whom i was fortunate to meet and admire. Rest in peace--and power--dear friend.

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