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Thomas J. "T.J." Gowen III

Thomas Gowen Obituary

GOWEN, THOMAS J., III "T.J." (Age 20)

On Friday, September 13, 2002 of Fairfax, VA. Beloved son of Bruce and Laurie Uhthoff and grandson of Catherine Fleckinger and Edwin and Charlotte Uhthoff. Also surviving are his sisters, Courtney Leigh Gowen and Lindsey Marie Uhthoff and his brother, Damon Michael Gowen. Services will be held Friday, September 20, 10 a.m. at Truro Episcopal Church, 10520 Main St., Rt. 236, Fairfax, VA with interment to follow at Fairfax City Cemetery. In lieu of flowers contributions may be made in memory of T.J. Gowen to Growing Hope, P.O. Box 151, Fairfax Station, VA 22031.

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Published by The Washington Post on Sep. 17, 2002.

Memories and Condolences
for Thomas Gowen

Sponsored by Courtney- I love you T.

124 Entries

Lori

September 13, 2022

Hard to believe it´s been 20 years. I still remember your smile. Forever etched in the hearts of those you touched.

September 14, 2020

Missing you. Hard to believe how long it has been. Forever in my heart.

May 16, 2020

Still missing you T. Think about you often.

November 29, 2016

I thought about you today as a i was watching dancing with the stars!! I remember you being soo excited that you were taking swing dancing lessons!!

September 13, 2016

There is a quote that reads "People will walk in and walk out of your life, but the one whose footstep made a long lasting impression is the one you should never allow to walk out.". TJ, you left footprints on more lives than you ever realized. 14 years ago worlds were changed forever. You are forever missed and forever remembered.

July 18, 2016

Happy Birthday T.J. You are forever missed.

January 14, 2015

Thought about you today - as i do most days. We miss you so much!! I know you watch over us and that gives me great peace.

July 18, 2013

Happy 31st birthday T.J. Sending you hugs up to Heaven.

September 13, 2012

It is hard to believe it has been 10 years since you passed away. I still remember your smile... I think that will be forever etched in my heart and the hearts of so many.

July 18, 2012

Happy Birthday T.J.!! Think of you often. Always remember that smile!

July 18, 2011

Missing you. Happy Birthday!

Lori Olson

July 18, 2011

Happy Birthday T.J.!! Missin you.

January 5, 2011

Thought of you today...like I do most days. We miss you here.

September 13, 2010

You are missed.

Belinda

November 19, 2009

MISS YOU MISS YOU MISS YOU!!!!

Your big sister

September 14, 2009

Yesterday, today, tomorrow...everyday...always in my heart. I miss you so much. I love you T!

September 13, 2009

7 years ago you grew your angel wings... thanks for looking over all of us.

July 18, 2009

Happy Birthday stud!

Lori Olson

July 18, 2009

Happy Birthday T.J.

Thinking about you!!

Courtney

September 15, 2008

I miss you...everyday. I love you!

September 13, 2008

Thank you for being such a special person in so many people's lives and thank you for looking out for everyone from up in Heaven!! Miss you!

Lori Olson

July 18, 2008

Happy Birthday TJ!!!!!!!!

Courtney

July 18, 2008

Today, like everyday, I celebrate you...happy birthday!! I miss you so much. I'm loving you always!

September 13, 2007

It is hard to believe it has been 5 years since you were taken from us. Think about you all the time and miss you tons. Thanks for looking out for all of us.

Courtney

July 19, 2007

Hi T,
Yesterday I celebrated your 25th birthday (wow - you old fart!)...the 5th one without you. No cake, no candles, just a prayer as I sat outside on a bench at work hoping you were listening to me sing happy birthday. As the sun shone down on me I knew you could hear me, and were right there sitting next to me.
Know you are thought of more than just on your birthday and holidays - you are a constant in my life. I can't reach out and hug you, but I know you are here. I close my eyes so I can see your face, your smile, and sometimes I can even hear your voice. I think about you everyday.
Thank you for being a good listner as I do most of the talking (haha), and thank you for being such a wonderful brother and friend. I am thankful to have been able to spend all your 20 years with you - thank you for allowing me to!

Loving you forever
your big sister

Mom

July 18, 2007

It's not supposed to be like this. You're supposed to be celebrating your 25th birthday with your family and friends. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about you or wish you were still here with us.

I'm so proud and privileged to have been able to share the 20 short years with you and to know that you are my son. I love and miss you so much. Happy 25th Birthday!

July 18, 2007

Happy Birthday T.J.!! Miss you tons!

July 18, 2007

happy birthday...love you

April 17, 2007

Hi TJ. We miss you STILL! It doesn't get easier. You're in our thoughts constantly. Not a day goes by I don't think of you and your smiling face and I can't help but smile myself.

Courtney

September 14, 2006

It seems like just yesterday you were here with us...but that yesterday only seems to get farther away. It is hard to believe four years have come and gone. I think about you everyday, and wish that you were here. I can't express how much I miss you...it is the worst sadness I have ever known, and I would give anything to see or talk to you again. Until that time I will see you in my dreams and keep you in my heart. I love you!

September 13, 2006

Still think about you all the time. Miss you tremendously.

September 13, 2006

Wow, its been 4 years already and it seems like yesterday still. Still missing you and thinking about you everyday.

September 9, 2005

Four more days and it's been 3 years... I've never wanted anything more then for you to just come back.

July 18, 2005

Happy Birthday TJ! We miss you so very much! Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and smile.

Courtney Gowen

October 8, 2004

Hey T...I went to visit you the other day. It is hard to believe it has been two years. "They" say time makes it better, but all time seems to do is make me realize how much time I have missed you. I hear a "TJ song" and find myself singing out loud in hopes that you can hear me, or that you will sing along too (silly I know, but that's me). You are with me everyday, and not a day goes by that I don't think of you, or wish you were here...or wish things were different. I miss you, and love you so much!

September 19, 2004

We Miss you Tj! It never gets any easier without you here. Though we know you are with us always. We love you so very much.

Leslie McDonald

September 13, 2003

Here we are, one year later, and it still doesn't make much sense as to why you were taken away from us. But what does make sense, is that we've all become better people over the past year because of you. "It's not what you take when you leave this world behind, it's what you leave behind you when you go." You truly have left behind an incredible amount of love and inspiration. Your legacy has lived on and you will be in all our hearts forever. I love and miss you T.

July 23, 2003

"Not a day goes by, that I don't think of you..." I miss you more and more every day cutie! I love you!

July 18, 2003

Happy 21st Birthday TJ! We miss your smile and are always thinking about you!

July 18, 2003

"The best and the most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched, but are felt in the heart."

"What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us."

~~Helen Keller~~

May 16, 2003

I miss you so much T- I can't take it. I love you!!

Eddie Jones

February 6, 2003

One of the hardest things in the world to deal with is death. The death of great people only amplifies the pain and prolongs the suffering. TJ was the most complete person I have ever known. It pains me to think of his loss. Due to an event shortly before his diagnosis and my own unexplainable pride I never apoligized and was not there for him when he would have been there for me, and for that not a day goes by I don't think of him. However one thing has allowed me to deal with his premature passing, his unmatched forgiveness. I will always keep you close in thought and closer in heart. I will see you again. You are missed.

Patrick Egan

February 5, 2003

You where always a great kid in a great mood. A little bit of how you where should be in everybody, and we'd be much better off because of it. R.I.P until we meet again.

Lindsey Schreher

January 28, 2003

T.J.~ after you left our sides I couldn't make since of it. I asked God so many times why he would take such a wonderful person away. After weeks of being sad and cofused, I finally realized that T.J. wasn't just any person, he was an Angel sent from above. I know he was sent here to inspire and love us all. So from that day on instead of being upset, I am thankful that I along with many of my friends were blessed to have an angel in our lives. I know T.J. is up there now watching over all of us, and I thank God every day for blessing all of us with such a wonderful gaurdian angel.~T.J. thank you for everything you have done for all of us, we love and miss you.

Jessica Stephenson

December 9, 2002

I never knew TJ on a personal Level but I feel as if I had through Meaghan. Anyone who knows her knows that Meaghan really isn't the type of girl who wants or needs a boyfriend. She's independant and capable of doing anything she puts her mind to with out the help of anyone else. But when she met TJ that all changed. He just had this way of making her smile and always keeping her happy. Meeting him completely changed her. Those bright blue eyes and that smile just stole her heart. I honestly believe it's because of TJ that Meaghan is who she is today. TJ may not be here physically any more but I know his spirit will never die and never leave Meaghans side. He's her gaurdian angel and will continue to brighten her life just as much as he did when he was here with us.

Alli Mallardi

December 6, 2002

I met TJ through Young Life in high school. He's just one of those people you'll never forget. All you have to do is read through this list to see just how much he is loved and missed. TJ was so genuine, sincere and just a really great guy. I will always hold a special place in my heart for him. TJ i love you and miss you.

Aunt Heidi, Uncle Al, Jimmy and Robby

November 28, 2002

"Who can say for certain

Maybe you're still here

I feel you all around me

Your memory's so clear

Deep in the stillness

I can hear you speak

You're still an inspiration

Can it be

That you are my

Forever love

And you are watching over me from up above

Fly me up to where you are

Beyond the distant star

I wish upon tonight

To see you smile

If only for awhile to know you're there

A breath away's not far

To where you are

Are you gently sleeping

Here inside my dream

And isn't faith believing

All power can't be seen

As my heart holds you

Just one beat away

I cherish all you gave me everyday

'Cause you are my

Forever love

Watching me from up above

And I believe

That angels breathe

And that love will live on and never leave

Fly me up

To where you are

Beyond the distant star

I wish upon tonight

To see you smile

If only for awhile

To know you're there

A breath away's not far

To where you are

I know you're there

A breath away's not far

To where you are"

On this Thanksgiving day, we are thankful and blessed to have T.J. as our nephew and cousin. Forever and ever in our hearts and memories, T.

We love you!

Till we see you again.....

Greg Allen

November 25, 2002

I only knew you briefly through friends at JMU, and still memories of you inspire me to be a better person. You lay heavy in both my heart and prayers.

~Rest in Peace TJ, I'll see you when I get there.~

Lindsay Harris

November 23, 2002

T.J. i met you freshman year at JMU and i will never forget you, i miss you more than you know and i will cherish your memory forever

Love.. Linz :)

PJ Mallardi

November 18, 2002

I had only been around TJ here and there in high school, but he always made an impression. His actions spoke endless words as he truly made people around him better. One of the most humble and spiritually sound kids I ever met. I only hope that I can share the values he had.

sandy garris

November 18, 2002

Teej~

Not a single day passes that my heart doesn't hurt, or that I don't think about you, or that I am not reminded of you in some way. I miss you with all my heart and I love you so much. You will never be forgotten in lives of all those you touched. I miss you.

Love you~ Sandy

Emily Neill

November 14, 2002

TJ, it's been 2 months and everyone's still writing more and more about you. It's only one piece of proof that you really did make that much of an impact on everyone's lives but it speaks so loudly. You are always going to be missed. With so much love...

Betsy

November 13, 2002

Its been 2 months since T was taken from us...each day that goes by I miss him more and more. I hope that TJ never leaves the heart of anyone that he touched and that he remains in everyones thoughts.

"There are holes in the floor of Heaven and his tears are pouring down that is how you know he is watching, wishing he could be here now. And sometimes when your lonely just remember b/c he can see, there are holes in the floor of Heaven and he is watching over you and me."

T - I miss you so much and love you more and more everyday...thanks for being such a good friend... I still take you everywhere I go!

Douglas Meyer

November 6, 2002

Eternal rest grant unto T.J.,

O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May he, and all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

Remember too, Lord, those loved ones left behind. Strengthen them, love them, give them comfort and grant them peace. Help them hold T.J. in their hearts and minds until they see him again. Amen.

Kelly Silverthorne

November 5, 2002

TJ we will all miss you greatly. Look over us.

Bret Jutras

November 5, 2002

It's hard to describe a guy like T.J. He was more than a friend to everyone that he met. He was an influence. The fact that one person can have such a wonderful impact on everyone that they meet is amazing. T.J. was more than a friend, he was a brother to me. He was one of those people that you could always count on to be there for you. It's sad to think about the number of people T.J. could have influenced were he to live a long life, but its even more amazing to think about how many people he already touched. I hope that in all of my life I can someday live up to being the kind of person T.J. was. I love you and miss you T, and you are still a big part of my life in that I look at you as an example of the type of person I want to be.

Nicole Olsick

November 4, 2002

A Women's Best Friend

Having someone really close to you die so suddenly can be compared to as being stabbed in the heart. It's a feeling no one can describe or even explain. The only way to feel this pain is to actually have it happen to you. No one wants that. No one wants to feel half of their soul gone or half of their heart missing. The sad thing is, it happens to people everyday, but you never expect it to happen to you.

My best friend's boy friend recently passed away from cancer. Not only was he just twenty years old but he only had so long to live. He was diagnosed with a rare case of cancer in April of this year, and he passed away just one month ago on September 13th. His time was becoming shorter in the early month of September, and one night before he died, his doctor gave him one week left. Sadly, he died the next early morning. It was a tragedy in my home city, and everyone grieved. He was one of those guys that always had a smile on his face, and never had anything negative to say. He brought happiness to everyone's lives and always made you feel as if you mattered. He was our angel.

Meaghan, my best friend, had never loved before. She met TJ her sophomore year of high school. I have never seen two people be so unalike. The saying, "opposites attract" definitely is true. Meaghan is a very outspoken person, always relieving stress on someone else, and always having something to say. Her relationship with TJ brought her to be a very different person. She knew from the moment they met, that they were destined to be together. He made her feel a way no guy ever could, or maybe never will again. He completed her in ways no one might ever understand. When TJ became sick, Meaghan spent every moment she could with him. She was at the hospital everyday with his family, and almost every night too. She didn't want to ever leave him, and she wanted him to know she would always be there for him. I always asked her how she can go through this, and never have time to her self, she always replied with, "TJ has to go through this; it would be unfair if I didn't." He is and always will be a part of her.

After TJ died, Meaghan realized how lonely she was. All of her friends are away at school and now her boy friend that she spent every minute with was gone. She needed someone to be with, someone to talk to, or just simply someone to keep her busy. Her life could not be filled with only sleep and school. When she thought about how she could fulfill her emptiness, she thought of a brilliant idea. She needed a dog. She has always loved animals, but has never had one she could call her own. She needed some responsibility in her life, and a dog was definitely the answer. She talked about getting one for a while, and made sure she could handle it, and then quickly proceeded on finding one. She researched the internet, and found local puppies that had just been born. The next day she called the women who was the breeder of these puppies, and arranged to buy one the following week. Now she was in complete anticipation over her puppy. Only one week to go.

The day her mom and her went to pick up her new puppy was probably the day she couldn't stop smiling. Her face was so not used to this that if felt well. It felt good for her to smile. She hadn't had a reason to smile in a long time, and was finally on her way back up to her normal self. Her puppy probably has no idea how much she means to her. She named her comfort because that's what this dog has brought to her. Comfort has brought so much happiness to Meaghan's life. I never believed in the quote, "A dog is a man's best friend" until recently. Well a dog is now a women's best friend too. Having this dog for her is now like having an angel on earth. I think she needed this dog more than she needed anything else. Her life could finally just start to get back on track again. Comfort has saved my Meggy.

Even though she thinks about TJ everyday, and even visits him everyday, I know she can now try to move on with her life. It's going to take her sometime to let another man back into her life, but at least for right now she has her dog. Having my conversation with Meaghan about animals, and how they can simply bring so much joy to your life has helped me better understand why so many people adopt them. I wish more people could speak to Meaghan and realize how much a dog or simply any animal can bring life back to you. When we lost a friend, heaven gained an angel. Now TJ is our angel, and has brought this dog to Meaghan's life. Thank you TJ. You will always be remembered.

~ I wrote this as part of my English project, so I thought I would submit it here as well.

Marlo Daniels

November 1, 2002

Memories. What is more valuable then those times we share with the ones we love? As I think back and celebrate TJ's life and how he impacted my life and the lives of others, I cannot help but to smile as TJ would smile. TJ was an inspiration, a friend and a brother to us all. His presense will be missed, but the memories of TJ will live on through everyone who had the opportunity to know TJ.

TJ, watch over us all as we walk on our journey closer to you in heaven. Keep us strong and remind us often that you are always there beside us.

Susan Hung

October 29, 2002

I only knew him a short while, but his personality was so outgoing and upbeat that it touched many peoples hearts. He was a special person. He will be missed by all who knew him. May he rest in peace. God bless the Gowen family.

Chris Gandia

October 29, 2002

Life is quantified by time...

A true spirit never dies...

TJ, you will always be among us.

Brian Nguyen

October 28, 2002

"Sunny days, Everybody loves them, Tell me, Can you stand the rain... Storms will come, This we know for sure, So can you stand the rain..." -Boyz II Men

TJ, you live on still through all your friends and loved ones. Take Care...

Carissa Mirasol

October 27, 2002

One of my most favorite memories of TJ is the night that Cathy, Carlos, TJ and I just for fun,went swing dancing. As terrible of a swing dancer I was, TJ was so patient with me. I had so much fun hanging out with TJ that night. We all know that TJ was always smiling and always happy, but never before that night have I seen his beautiful smile flash so many times. (Most likely because he was laughing at me since I wasn't that great of a swing dancer, but that is okay) What is so great about TJ is that he flashes his smile to just about anyone. I am happy to know that out of the million smiles that he gave to everyone, those smiles from our swing dancing escapade were ones that I could claim as just for me.

I have always admired TJ's strength, character, and faith. He's an inspiration to us all, and of course is always a good friend. We all love you TJ. God Bless.

Carlos Marroquin

October 27, 2002

I don't think I could even put into words how much I miss T.J so I'm not going to. He was my best friend, the one that I would turn to when times got rough. Part of me is empty for now, but I can't wait to see him again. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him. I love him so much.

Helen Horvath

October 26, 2002

"A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart."

TJ had the greatest smile, personality, and way of life that will never be forgotten. He was an incredible person and I only hope that I can touch the hearts of people the way he has. You are an inspiration to everyone and will always and forever be in my thoughts, prayers, and memories.

Kristen Gates

October 26, 2002

Although I didn't know TJ for that long, I can still remember the day we met my Freshman year of high school. A great smile, warm heart, and friendly personality...that was TJ. When I first found out TJ was sick, I felt like I was dreaming...why TJ, what did he do to deserve this? TJ was strong though and when I saw him this past summer he still had that warm, friendly, smile that remains in the hearts and minds of all who knew him.

TJ, you have touched so many lives in the short 20 years you spent on earth. You will truly be missed, but you will never be forgotten.

Lee Dryden

October 25, 2002

TJ ~ Your memory lives on in the snow covered mountains of Colorado. You will never be forgotten!

Michelle Hershman

October 24, 2002

TJ--Your smile is now the brighest star in the heavens. You'll always be in my heart.

Matt Coffey

October 24, 2002

What is there left to say about TJ that no one has already said. What can I say about someone who I can´t ever remember being sad, angry, or upset. TJ was and always will be the epitome of joy and what it means to be human. I remember his face so clearly, I remember the strength of smile, a smile that could quite possibly change the darkest moments to the brightest. That´s what I think of now, his smile. It is forever engrained in my memory, right on the top, always behind every thought I have. When I´m happy, when I´m sad, when I´m angry, when I´m crying, every time I´m feeling or thinking anything I´ll always see TJ´s face smiling.

As far as I´m concerned, TJ isn´t gone, he´s apart of each and every one of us. He´s all around and he´s in us, and although it might sound strange, I feel him helping me take every step throughout the day.

I love you TJ, you´re still Sexy and I´m still Baby, ain´t nothing gonna change that. I´ll see you soon bro, stick with me and make me strong so I can try and be half the man you were, no... are.

Cicely Wolters

October 23, 2002

TJ-Always and forever in our thoughts, prayers, and hearts. You are truly missed by everyone whose life you have blessed by touching.

Karen Rybicki

October 23, 2002

TJ-I see you every day on my way to and from work. I think about you often. I hope your parents know that we are keeping you and them in our hearts and thoughts always.

Love, Mom R

Cindy Zook

October 22, 2002

I knew TJ as a friend of my kids, Ryan and Sarah ... he visited our house often when we had Young Life and Campaigners ... he was the really cute kid with the wonderful smile!

I saw TJ in July just a few weeks before he left us. As we hugged, I told him how great he looked. He said, "I know ... it's like I'm a miracle!" How true those words were! I told TJ that a huge community had him surrounded in prayer and love. Today, he is surrounded by an even greater community of love in the presence of the Lord. TJ's service was a remarkable testimony to the lives he touched.

TJ, I know that you are watching over all of us! May each one of us remember always the place you have in our hearts. And may you know always how much we love and care for you!

Philip Seguin

October 22, 2002

There are people you meet in life who leave a permanent image of happiness inside of you. When I think of TJ, I think of happiness. His smile and joyful attitude will never be forgotten.

Although life sometimes does not always allow us to live it to its full, the fact that one individual could impact so many lives in a positive way in his short time is implausible.

TJ is a one of a kind, a man who represents what it means to be happy.

We love you forever.

Sandy Garris

October 22, 2002

The most beautiful person that has ever come into my life I met when we were just seven. For the two days when he was my boyfriend in second grade I felt like the luckiest girl alive to have stolen the attention of the Thomas James Gowen, the playground heart throb. Later that week when we broke up, but agreed to remain friends, I never could have hoped that thirteen years later he would still be not only my very best friend but someone I considered to be a brother.

Our Jermantown crew has been through it all always staying close during even the most awkward of times growing up. He stuck by me through everything. We were there together through getting jobs, getting driver’s licenses, homecomings and proms, graduation, losing loves and somehow finding love again, going away to college, and making dinner when we were both home, sitting around the kitchen table for hours talking about life. But the part that I treasure most is all the years of rolling until our sides hurt in laughter. He had a magic power to be able to make anyone happy. He was there for so many firsts in my life there to hold my hand to give me the strength to be strong.He always pushed me to be the best person that I could be and I am so thankful to have been able to have him in my life all the years that I did. I would not be the person that I am today with out him. He impacted the lives of so many individuals and his spirit still lives in all those he touched. I only hope that he knew how much he was admired for his strength.

If I could be half of the selfless and honorable person that he was I will consider my life fulfilled and I will do all that I can to make him proud while he watches over us, an angel on our shoulders.

A poem.....Its called his Journey has just begun by Ellen Brenneman:

Don’t think of him as gone away....his journeys just begun

Life holds so many facets this earth is only one.

Just think of him as resting from the sorrows and the tears in a place of warmth and comfort where there are no more days and years.

Think of how he must be wishing that we could know today

How nothing but our sadness can really pass away

And think of him as living in the hearts of those he touched. For nothing loved is ever lost..... And he was loved so much.

I miss the colors that you brought into my life, your golden smile with those blue eyes......I miss my friend.... ~Darryl Worley

Mike Isibel

October 21, 2002

Its crazy to think someone we knew so well and do so much with, and now we will never see them again. I first met TJ when I was about 7 years old. We played soccer together and basketball, he was one of the only people I knew when I started at Fairfax High and was a great friend no matter what. The last time I hung out with TJ was at Carlos' party winter break after our first semester of college. Just remember that huge smile he gave me when I walked in. Amazing person, nothing much more to say. TJ, I'll miss you always bud.

He may be gone, but he will definitely always be with us.

Lauren Dyke

October 20, 2002

I look back on the past couple of weeks since TJ's passing, and I can honeslty say that I have never been sadder in my entire life. I miss TJ so much and I think about him all the time. But, I can't help but think, what would it have been like if I had not know him? I would have never seen that smile, heard that laugh, or felt that special friendship. I can now honestly say that I would rather have loved and then lost TJ, than to have never known him at all.

TJ: I know you hear me when I pray at night...thank you for touching my life and so many others. I will never forget you and what you have taught me-not just in your last weeks, but from the moment i met you. To enjoy life, be kind and to never give up.

Leslie McDonald

October 18, 2002

"It's not the years in your life that count, but rather the life in your years." ~Abraham Lincoln

To say that TJ was full of life is an understatement. His smile was so contagious that there was no way to not be happy when he was around.

One of the greatest experiences I ever had was working with TJ for a summer at A Child's Place. The impact that TJ had on those children was incredible. I just imagine how everyday at 9:30, just around snack time, TJ would open the door of the classroom, and give me a huge smile. Then I knew it was going to be a good day. One of TJ’s favorite things to do was water play. Whenever we had water play, TJ would run around with the hose and squirt the children as they ran through sprinklers and played in water tubs. The children would run away from him, but they loved it when he actually got them. His energy and enthusiasm was evident in the laughter on their faces. It’s been over a year since he worked there, yet it is no surprise children still ask where he is.

I remember in 10th grade of high school TJ sent me a card that he had made on his computer. On the front it said, "if you ever see my looking at you, staring at you, or giving you the eye, I'm looking for wings." And on the inside he wrote, "My mother told me all angels have them!" How ironic that TJ was actually the angel, and is now watching over us as our guardian angel.

These are only a few of things that I can say about T. He was one of the best friends I’ve ever had. I feel so blessed to have known his through high school and to be with him at JMU. I don’t know if I would’ve made it through my freshmen year without him here. He always knew exactly what to say. And he always knew how to make me smile. He was always an inspiration. TJ was so full of life. And it wouldn’t have mattered whether he was with us for 20 years, or 100 years…he still would’ve had an awesome impact on every single person he came in contact with.

I am always thinking of you T. And I thank God for allowing me to have the opportunity to know you. I am a better person because you have been a part of my life - - so many people are. I love you T…

Beau Richards

October 17, 2002

T.J. was one of the first people I met up at school and I will never forget him. His presence on my hall made my freshman year even more comforting. My heart goes out to his family and close friends.

Erika Andersen

October 17, 2002

O Lord, you have searched me

and you know me.

You know when I sit and when I

rise; you perceive my thoughts

from afar.

You discern my going out and my

lying down; you are familiar with

all my ways.

Before a word is on my tongue

you know it completely, O Lord.

You hem me in--behind and

before; you have laid your hand

upon me.

Such knowledge is too wonderful

for me, too lofty for me to

attain.

Where can I go from your Spirit?

Where can I go from your

presence?

If I go up to the heavens, you

are there;

If I make my bed in the depths,

you are there.

If I rise on the wings of the

dawn, if I settle on the far side

of the sea, even there your hand

will guide me, your right hand

will hold me fast.

Psalm 139:1-10

I still don't think I can put into words the full affect that TJ had on my life... One of the first impressions that I had when Carlos first introduced us was that he was a completely genuine person. There was nothing superficial in the way he shook my hand or held my gaze while we talked. It felt like we had been friends for years.

After the initial shock of his diagnosis in April, TJ and I started trying to get to church on Sunday nights together. It didn't really work out too well though because we only went a handful of times, but the fellowship we shared during the drive there and back and at his house afterwards was so precious. We would talk, pray, and sometimes even cry together about the situation but we both always parted ways feeling refreshed and encouraged. The passage from Psalms that I put in the begining of this entry became a favorite of T's during the last few months of his life. We both drew comfort from knowing that there is nowhere we can go that's beyond God's reach--TJ knew that he was going to be in heaven with the Lord and although the last thing he wanted to do was leave his family and friends, he wasn't afraid of dying.

He never wanted anyone to be worried about him or for his condition to burden anyone either (even though he knew he could never be a burden--even if he tried!). His unselfish attitude through the whole ordeal spoke volumes about his maturity and really urged me to consider how I can better serve others.

I miss him so much. I miss how we used to talk online while he was at JMU and how almost every night he would IM "Goodnight cutie. Talk to you tomorrow!" before we went to sleep. I used to look forward to that routine. I miss him in more ways than I thought were possible...but I know that he's in heaven, having a good old time right now, just waiting for everyone to come up and join the party! That's the only thing that gives me any peace and comfort now--

T-I love you and I miss you...I only wish I had gotten the chance to tell you just how much you impacted my life...The legacy you left will never be forgotten.

Melissa Peretich (Slow Mo)

October 17, 2002

There are people who enter into your life and automatically have a huge impact on you because they are such incredible people. TJ was one of those people, not just for me but for so many. His friendship lightened my life and brought a huge smile to my face to match his. TJ was more wise, more mature, more grounded, and more happy than not only all the people my age I know, but also almost all the adults. I learned so much from him - he taught me to live each day to the fullest. His kindness and compassion touched everyone he met but what amazed me about Teej was how true to himself he was. He stood up for what he believed in and showed such strength for it. And although I miss him so much, I am incredibly thankful to have met him. I know that he is with me every day as my own guardian angel. I pray for God to bless his family and send all my love out to them. May Teej's smile be always the sunshine in our life and the warmth in our hearts. We don't only have him now, we have each other. And in my heart I know someday we'll be with him again.

Steve Bae

October 17, 2002

This feeling of loss is ineffable yet undeniable. Your absense will always be there and I hope its poignancy will continually remind us to pay homage to a life uncommon.

Chris Davey

October 16, 2002

TJ was one of the nicest people I've ever known and he will not be forgotten. Much Love to his family

Robyn Lankford

October 16, 2002

Jesus answered him, "I tell you the truth, today you will be with me in paradise."

smile down from heaven on us TJ. we love you.

Brandon Payne

October 16, 2002

I've known TJ pretty much all my life, we grew up together. We've shared cuts and bruises when it came to trying out new things like skateboarding, and rollerblading. TJ was like a brother to me, he was my best friend, and continues to hold that spot. I miss you man. I will never forget you

Matt Rowley

October 16, 2002

"Some people stay in our lives for just a little while, leave footprints in our hearts, and we are never, ever the same."

Getting to know TJ changed my life in so many ways. He taught me the meaning of courage and perseverance. I am a better person for having known him for just a short time. He is a man that I strive to be like everyday and he will forever live in my heart. I love you TJ.

Amber Jackson

October 16, 2002

I only knew T.J. for a very brief time through classes and mutual friends at JMU. However, from seeing the way he touched their lives, I am truly sad that I didn't get a chance to know him better. There is nothing worse than a great friend taken from us too early, but there is no better angel to have in heaven! My prayers are with all those who love and miss T.J.

Tiffany Oliver

October 16, 2002

Tj was a beautiful person, he touched people's lives in a way that he could never imagine. His smile was an inspiration to all, it made you feel as if there was always something better to come. Tj will forever be loved and missed but continues to live within us each day.

Lauren Culin

October 16, 2002

Knowing TJ throughout high school and college was truly a blessing. His smile brightened your day and he was always making eveyone feel welcome and comfortable. TJ will forever be in my heart and thoughts.

Ryan Huthwaite

October 16, 2002

T.J., You will always be loved and misssed.

Shannon McKeon

October 16, 2002

I feel so honored to have gotten to know TJ and yet feel so sad that I was unable to get to know him better. Although I appreciated him in life, I do so much more now, knowing all of the people he has touched in so many ways. TJ has been an inspiration for me for the past year and continues to be in my thoughts and influence me in so many of my actions. He lives on in the hearts of all those who love him. You're truly loved and missed, TJ.

Ashley

October 16, 2002

I didn't know TJ like many other people, however, I do know Meaghan, and he was everything to her. There was never anyone else in the world who made Meaghan feel the way she did- special, loved, completely IN love. TJ meant a lot to many people and will never be forgotten-I mean after a smile like his, one that everyone talks about, how could you forget that? TJ you are missed and loved every single second of every day. God Bless

Meaghan Gallahan

October 16, 2002

I have no clue where to start. I might begin by saying that I don't know how I've gotten along these past weeks without that smile, that one of a kind smile that will never be matched. I can't try to describe what T meant to me, only he will ever know the power of our bond. Through all our ups and downs, we were always together in the end b/c he said that no matter what, we each had to live our lives. At different times, we were just friends, but still, we had that connection that would never break. That was his motto, and now it's mine. There ae so many things that I would like to tell everyone about, so many stories, so many lessons learned, but there will never be enough time. T didn't climb mountains, or jump from any planes(not that he wouldn't have with some more time), but none the less, he has accomplished something so much more than any of that. He stayed strong till the end, he kept his head up and went on.

I remember one night, it was late, and we were both lying in the hospital bed. I just looked at him and asked that he never stop fighting. He promised me he wouldn't, and he never did. I can only imagine what strength it took to keep that promise to me, but he did. I think about him every day, he's with me in everything I do. I can only ask that everyone aspire to be like him, be the awesome person he was, be the great friend he was to all.

Stud~ I know that whereever you are, whatever you are doing, you are laughing, showing those pearly-whites to everyone. I just ask a few things: 1. You never stop looking out for me, never stop guiding me. 2. You watch over everyone, not to keep all alive, but to make each ones trip an enjoyable one. 3. I know you are a ladies man, but I'm only giving permission for Marilyn Monroe, as long as I get a chance with James Dean ;). For now and forever I love you. I don't know how I'm going to live without you, but I've been trying really hard, just to let you know that I won't give up either. There will be a day we will be together again, but till that day, I have to live my life.

I know this is really long, but my advice to all, after you read this, after you read all of these, turn to all those people you care about, and let them know. Tell them you love them, tell them how much they mean to you. There are so many things in this world we cannot explain and cannot control, so take the time you have, and use it wisely. Through all this I have gained a whole new family, one to add to the one I am already part of. I have gained 2 more sisters, another brother, another mom and dad, more uncles and aunts, more grandparents, more cousins, and more friends. To all of you that are now part of my life b/c of T, I am so grateful to have you. I wouldn't be able to get through this without the support of all of you.

Forever in my heart and soul, I love you Stud!!!

Kristin Marshall

October 16, 2002

TJ was such an amazing person and in his own way a role model for all. I honestly couln't think of a more kind, generous, and over-all wonderful person that touched so many people's lives. He will continue to inspire us, and will forever live in our hearts!

Catherine Ladino

October 16, 2002

"A million dollar smile"--these were the exact words that TJ's grandmother used to describe him and I couldn't agree with her more. With his smile TJ could lighten up anyone's day. He will never be forgotten and will remain in our hearts forever.

Rachel Grinney

October 16, 2002

TJ touched so many people's lives. From the moment i met TJ i knew that i liked him- he was so genuinely friendly and easy to talk to, he was so enjoyable to be around and he stood out as someone who i was always happy to see. i admire his wonderful, sincere personality, his strength, his courage, and his faith. he will always be remembered. my thoughts and prayers are constantly with his family and loved ones.

Michael Cullen

October 16, 2002

"As, I’m sittin here writing, in my book with a pen

Thinking about tomorrow, and that it just might be the end

I pray to God, every day, and I know that he’s there

Looking after my man Thomas J, with kindness and care"

I dedicated these lyrics to TJ because, not only was he a beautiful person, but inspiring! Thomas Gowen had that smile that not only told you that he always had a positive outlook on life, but it also represented his beautiful personality...

TJ, I will keep you in my heart forever!

Sarah Rybicki

October 16, 2002

Ever since elementary school TJs smile always took my breath away. I can honestly say it was always a blessing to have had him in my life. He impacted me in ways he might not have known but they, like TJ, will always be with me. I miss you so much T and you will forever have a special place in my heart! I love you.

Sarah Zook

October 16, 2002

"There's something unpredictable and in the end it's right, i hope you had the time of your life..."

When I heard these words read to us, knowing that he felt this way about his life, I knew that TJ was one of the strongest people I had ever known. Even in his darkest moments he still knew how to light up a room with his beautiful smile. I feel very priveledged to have known such an amazing person, and TJ will always be remembered by everyone whose lives he has touched. Thanks for the memories, Teej, I'll never forget you!

Kate Ozalas

October 16, 2002

TJ was one of the nicest people I had ever met and he always had a beautiful smile on his face. I will never forget that smile and I am blessed that I had the honor of knowing him. TJ you are truly missed and are an angel in everyone's eyes.

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