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Alexander Iler Obituary
- - Alexander Borden Iler died peacefully, surrounded by his loving family on April 2, 2019.
He grew up on his parent's dairy farm in Middletown. He attended The Rumson Country Day School, St. Paul's School, Concorde, N.H., Red Bank Catholic H.S., and The Lawrenceville School (P.G.)
He received his Bachelor of Science degree from Monmouth College; his MBA from Rutgers Graduate School of Business; and his Juris Doctorate from Rutgers School of Law.
He practiced and loved the law for over forty years and always felt that, when you love what you do, you never work a day in your life.
He served as Municipal Court Judge in Eatontown in the '80s and was president of his Rotary Club and a member of Zeta Psi Fraternity. He served in the Air Force in the 81st Air Rescue Squadron during the Korean War.
He is predeceased by his parents, Gladys Borden Iler and Alexander Iler and his brother, William Iler.
He is survived by his loving and beloved wife of 57 years, Joan Mills Iler; his loving children, Lynn Iler, M.D., (Bruce Ackman), Betsy Iler O'Connor (Jim O'Connor), Alexander Mills Iler, and William Charles Iler, Esq., and his adored grandchildren, Jack, Griffin, and Charlie Silver; Emma, Lindsey, and Brooke Marinelli; and Alexander "Wolfie" Iler and Graham Iler; and niece, Edith Iler and nephews Sam, Matt, and Alex Iler.
He spent joyous hours as a member of the Seabright Lawn Tennis and Cricket Club. He was also a member of the Rumson Country Club and the Seabright Beach Club enjoying the company of his family, friends, and his fellow bridge players.
His family is honoring his wishes to celebrate his life privately.
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Memories and Condolences
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Donald Vreeland Jr
April 21, 2021
Alex was my families attorney and mine. He was a wonderful kind man. I worked on his Farmall tractor for him while he represented me. I'm sorry I lost touch with him thru the years. My deepest respects and prayers.
Samantha Wheeler-Santora
October 5, 2019
So sorry to learn if this. Mom, Leslie Wheeler, and I send our thoughts and prayers to the family
Tracy Cali
April 28, 2019
I am so sorry for your loss, I went to school with Bill at RBC, but through my work I was in contact with Mr. Iler many many times. What a wonderful man he was. He was a pleasure to do business with.
Tracy Gribben Cali (RBC class of '81)
April 18, 2019
My memories of Alex and his family are of wonderful caring people. Alex was always very special in my world of insurance, college and law. Having been at his wedding and then a summer intern in his office I got to know someone that I will always respect. Your loss is everyone's loss too.
Judge Thomas F. Shebell Jr
April 13, 2019
A gentleman respected by all. He will be missed.
April 10, 2019
I am very sorry for your loss. Please allow the fondest memories shared with your loved one to be a soothing blanket over your heart. May God words of promise found in John 6:40 brings you consolation and a small measure of peace. Please accept my sincere regards and heartfelt condolences. ~MM~
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