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John Montgomery Obituary

John L. Montgomery, Jr.

AGE: 88 •

John L. Montgomery, Jr., died Sunday, September 4th at the Atrium at Navesink Harbor in Red Bank at the age of 88. Mr. Montgomery was born October 1, 1922 at Ann May Hospital in Spring Lake, New Jersey. He was the only son of John L. Montgomery, Sr. and Gladys Hardy. His father was the Director of the Monmouth County Organization of Social Services (which was the predecessor to the Visiting Nurse Association of Central Jersey). His mother, Gladys Hardy, earned a PH. D. from Stanford and worked with Alfred Binet on the first IQ test. John Montgomery, known as "Jack", graduated from the Choate School in 1942 and then attended Princeton University. During his college years, war broke out and John went to Notre Dame Midshipmen School where he began as an Ensign, assigned to the U.S.S. Dennis, a destroyer escort, and was stationed in the Pacific, involved in the battles of Iwojima and Okinawa. He was decorated with the Presidential Citation and was a Lieutenant J.G. when dismissed. He then returned to Princeton to finish his degree and graduated in 1947 Phi Beta Kappa. Starting in the Sales Training Program in 1950 at Smith Barney in New York City, John was named Director in 1966 and later became a charter member of the Presidents Club for being one of the Company's highest producers. He retired in 2007 as a Senior Vice President and worked for the Company close to sixty years. In 1947, Jack married his hometown sweetheart Marion Backe (deceased October, 2000). Jack and Marion lived most of their lives in Rumson and Fair Haven and were supporters of many philanthropic interests, particularly the Monmouth County Historical Association and Visiting Nurse Association of Central New Jersey. They were members of many local clubs including: The Rumson Country Club, Seabright Lawn & Tennis Club and Seabright Beach Club, in addition to the Mid Ocean Club in Bermuda. John was also a member of the New York Yacht Club in New York City. He is survived by three daughters, Leslie Montgomery, Santa Fe, New Mexico; Jill Montgomery, Ellicott City, Maryland; and Margo Montgomery and her husband Jonathan P. Ward, Lake Forest, Illinois; and four grandchildren: Devon, Ryan, Matthew and Mackenzie. His son-in-law Gene C. Kelly, husband to Jill, passed away in June, 2011.

A "Celebration of Life" service will be held at The Atrium at Navesink Harbor in Red Bank at 3 PM on Saturday, September 10th. In lieu of flowers, please make contributions to the Visiting Nurse Association of Central Jersey or to the charity of your choice.

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Published by Asbury Park Press on Sep. 9, 2011.

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Frank Lawrence

September 14, 2011

Jack was one of the most interesting men I have ever met; any conversation with him would cover a wide range of topics, and he had great insights into all of them.
Liz and I will miss him, and our thoughts are with Margo, Jill, Leslie & their families.

Louis Maresca

September 14, 2011

I cannot put into words how much I miss my daily breakfasts with Jack. He was one of the most interesting and informative persons that I have ever encountered. Above all, he was a true gentleman of class and distinction who enjoyed sharing the many stories of his extraordinary life.

theresa Maresca

September 14, 2011

What a privilege to have known and loved jack.
Theresa

Joan Butman

September 12, 2011

When I interviewed jack, I knew his time was limited but I thought I would see him again before he died. In fact, I had plans to visit after my kids went back to school on September 7th. Sadly, he passed away over Labor Day weekend so my next visit was to his memorial instead. It is surprising how attached I became to Jack considering the short time I knew him.

When I walked into his memorial, which was held in a room that looked out on his beloved river, his children had a large portrait of him with this quote beneath it, “The most important thing is story-telling. It’s as singular and old fashioned as that.” In fact, the entire memorial focused on Jack’s stories and his ability to coax a story out of anyone. He always said, “No matter whom you are or what your circumstances are, we all have a story; and they’re all interesting.”

A woman got up to say a few words after the formal service and her comments made me realize once again why the Choose Wisely book I interviewed Jack for is so important. She spoke about what she learned from Jack – “that all our stories matter and most people are just waiting for someone to ask. Jack started something important here that I think we should continue.” She was referring to personally connecting with others by sharing your own stories and seeking out others. Jack would have proud. On the cover of the pamphlet they gave out was the following quote, which captured the essence of Jack, “Storytelling is what lights my fire.” Amen to that. It is so clear to me now why I was lead to Jack for my first story. He understood the power of our stories and recognized them as the currency of life.

He told me once, "If you don't have a story, you haven't had a life." I couldn't agree more.

Jack's friend

September 10, 2011

thanks for the music history lessons, the clever conversation and the dapper smile.......what a swell guy!!!!

lyman spalding

September 10, 2011

one of the really good guys. he will be missed.

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