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SCOTT MICHAEL
GRAHAM
AGE: 35 KEYPORT
Scott Michael Graham, 35, of Keyport, passed away Wednesday, June 16, 2010, in Wall. He was born in South Amboy and was a lifelong resident of Keyport. He was a member of the N.J. State Police for nine years. He worked as an instructor at the State Police Academy. He was a member of the Army Reserves. He was a member of Lincroft Bible Church, where he served as a trustee. Scott was a loving and devoted husband, father, son, brother, grandson, uncle, family member and friend. He will be deeply missed by all who knew him.
Scott is predeceased by his maternal grandparents, John and Stephanie Rainko; his paternal grandfather, John Graham; and a nephew, Jordan Graham. He is survived by his beloved wife, Erika N. Heilsesen Graham; three cherished children, Scott, Shelby and Ben, all of Keyport; his devoted parents, Robert and Roseanne Rainko Graham of Toms River; a dear brother and sister, Bryan Graham and his wife, Denise of Bayville, Colleen Demchak and her husband, Ed of Bath, Pa.; his paternal grandmother, Margaret Graham; his in-laws, Tom and Joanne Heilesen of Keyport; his brothers-in-law, Paul Heilesen and his wife, Erin of Union Beach, and Scott Heilesen of Keyport; his grandparents-in-law, Don and Sue Lindsay; and Dorothy Mikatis; his nieces and nephews, Aidan, Kayla, Gabby, Devyn and Joseph; and many aunts, uncles, cousins and loved ones.
Family and friends are invited from 2 to 4 p.m. and 7 to 9 p.m.Friday, June 18 for visitation at the Lincroft Bible Church, 790 Newman Springs Road, Lincroft, NJ 07738, 732/747-1231; and Saturday, June 19 for a 10:30 a.m. service at the church. Committal service will take place at Green Grove Cemetery, Keyport. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be given to the Lincroft Bible Church Scott Graham Trust which would be appreciated. Day Funeral Home, Keyport, has been entrusted with the funeral arrangements. To submit online condolences to the family, visit www.dayfuneralhome.com.
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Memories and Condolences
for Scott Graham
Jo Ann Spinelli
August 9, 2010
Dear Roaseanne and Bob,
I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your son, Scott. My heart and prayers are with you and your family. I know how proud you are of all of your children. Dealing with the loss of a child is the hardest thing a parent will ever have to do. Please know if you need anything, do not hesitate to call.
Sincerely,
Jo Ann Spinelli
Jo Ann Spinelli
August 8, 2010
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
Margaret Graham
July 10, 2010
Life is indeed a Journey from Joy to Sorrow. Trooper Scott Graham, I will address him as he proudly earned this title, was one of my five loved grandsons.I loved him dearly and I knew that Scott loved me! His thoughtful, caring way during his many visits was not always the spoken words - "I Love You", but his unspoken words proved this to me by his actions and caring.
My thoughts and prayers are with Bob & Rose (Scott's parent's),Erika (Scott's wife) and Shelby, Ben and Scott (Scott's children), Bryan (Scott's twin brother) and Denise (Bryan's wife) and their children (Aidan and Kayla)as well as Colleen (Scott's sister) and Ed (Colleen's husband) and their children (Gabby and Devyn) and all of Erika's family.
One of Life's greatest Blessings is the Special Love of Family!I am truly blessed at the age of 91 to have this. Scott was a wonderful, caring person to all! May God Rest his Soul! He will be added to my daily Rosary list while I am on earth, until I meet with him again in Heaven. May God Bless You and Your lovely Family - Always!
My Love Always,
Nann (Margaret
Graham)
tk shanahan
July 9, 2010
scott was my older cousin but he was also my close friend i enjoyed talking to him while we fished together when i started college at brookdale he told me two things do ur best and there's lots of cute girls We will all miss him
Love From All, Aunt Debbie,Uncle Tim & "T.K." Shanahan
July 9, 2010
Dear Scott; - Our heartfelt prayers and thoughts are with you, Erika and the children,your families, co-workers and acquaintances. We light this candle with prayers that it will shine upon you just as you shined upon all who knew you, your family and those you served in your profession.You were always a very special nephew, cousin and true friend. Your Love for Erika and the children always shined through with great Pride and Adoration! We know you will continue to watch over them and keep them safe! Erika is a extremely strong person who spoke so lovingly of you and the children at your service. I know she will try her best to continue with the plans and dreams that she and you had for the family. She is truly an amazing individual!! We pray that God continues to Bless and Protect you,Erika and the children and provides Erika the strength to carry on. Scott -We Love you and your precious and beautiful family!
M Fox
June 23, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with Trooper Graham's family.
Mary Jean Tonkovich
June 21, 2010
Praying for Scott's family at a very difficult time, R.I.P Scott!
Greggie,Lisa, and Taylor McGowan
June 21, 2010
Our deepest and heartfelt compassion go out to the entire family and friends of Scott. While we share in your loss, our sympathy and prayers are for you and the children to have the strength to endure this untimely passing, and spirit to move forward when the time is right. For now, just remember you are not alone in your grief and sadness; we are all here for you.
Matt Harris
June 20, 2010
Graham Family,
I'm truly sorry for the loss of such a great man. Scotty and I worked together when we first broke into Law Enforcement at INS in NYC. He was truly a good guy and I'll always remember his big smile and what a positive person he was. God Bless you during this most difficult time.
Lauri Stonerock-Calabrese
June 19, 2010
My deepest sympathies to you Erika your beautiful children and your entire family. I am so very sorry for your loss and will be praying for you all. May God Bless you all.
June 19, 2010
Dear erika, Our Deepest condolences are with you and your entire family.Standing there today listening to the words you spoke of your husband,your courage and wisdom you shared to each and everyone of us, was the most amazing thing you could have done.You spoke of memories you and Scott shared.You are the most amazing woman I ever came across. Scott will be above you every moment, guiding you and giving you strength to carry his memory on. Through you and your family his memory lives on. God bless. He truly touch the Parsons family.
P B
June 19, 2010
May God shine upon the Graham family and bring solace to their torn hearts. Trooper Graham is with the Lord and pray each day for strength and guidance from Him.
Julie Anne Cook
June 19, 2010
I am truly heartbroken for all of you during this terrible time. I remember Scott so fondly & I will never ever forget him. He was a wonderful guy & we are all lucky to have known him.
Scott often patrolled my neighborhood bc we do not have our own dept. He always gave a wave when I knew it was him doing the patrol:) Not that long ago I also saw him in Belmar..we were walking into a bar & there he was in his copcar bustin our chops as we walked in the door. Thats the Scott I remember!
Over the years life changes people but I can honestly say he was the SAME great, amazing, kind & thoughtful guy that I knew in my highschool days. My heart is with all of you. Keep each other safe & strong. God Bless you all. You are not alone. We are all thinking of you & praying for you.
R A O'Connor, (LEO-Ret)
June 19, 2010
As a former brother LEO I offer my sincere sympathies to Trooper Scott's family, friends and brotherhood. If it's any consolation please know this; I lost my dad when I was 12 and my mom when I was eighteen. I'mm 55 now, and to this day I still have a special relationship with my parents...that love will never cease. Death only ends a life but it never ends the relationship. I pray this knowledge assuages your grief now and in the days to come. Scott is in Saint Mike's hands now, and he's being loved and taken care of. God bless us all
Dan Bisbee
June 19, 2010
Erika, We are so sorry to hear of your loss. We pray that you might know the Lord's comfort and peace at this time. May He give you wisdom and strength as you minister to your children. Thank you for your faithful ministry to our daughter Lydia several years ago. We will remember you in our prayers. Dan & Sue Bisbee and the children
Terri Francy
June 19, 2010
To the entire Graham family my sincere sympathy for your loss. As though I didn't know Scott on a personal level. He was a customer of ours along with the other NJ State Troopers at Keyport IHOP. He was always a gentleman & so polite to the staff. I recall one time when we needed some assistance with some wild kids. Scott was there with a few of the other guys & came to our assistance. My prayers are with you all during this difficult time. I know it's hard to believe but even though you may not see Scott standing in front of you know he is always with you & watching over you. During his time here on earth he was a protecter & he will continue to protect you & always love you. May the lord hold Scott in his arms & watch over his family until they are all together again. God Bless you all
Maryellen Farry
June 18, 2010
To Erika and the children and the Graham family... My thoughts and prayers are with you all. During this difficult time, may the comfort of God's loving arms carry you all through the quiet moments, and bring you peace. Rest in peace Scott Michael Graham.
Bill Sylvan
June 18, 2010
My deepest sympathies to Erika, children and the rest of the family. I cannot even imagine what everyone is going through.
I like many others were fortunate enough to get to know and work with Scott in New York. Through thick and thin, we all knew that we could count on Scott for anything, anytime.
I also had the pleasure of having a BBQ or two with him along with a few others (Joe, Frankie, Ronnie) and our families. They are fond memories that I will always cherish.
We all remember when Scott moved on to become a NJ State Trooper. We all knew they would be luck to know and work with him, just as much as we were all sad, but proud to see him go. Many of us from the late 90's-early 2000's in Varick have moved on since then, but we all remember.
I and many others were the better for having known him.
May God bring a comfort to the Graham family and all those who miss him.
kathleen pilot
June 18, 2010
Working with over 23 police depts when I worked for a company know one can truely understand the love for the job in public service.I am very sad that this happened .He will be safe where he is and at peace.
Kathleen
Lisa Adam
June 18, 2010
To Erika, the children, Tom & Joanne, Don & Sue-our most sincere sympathy-your loss is unimaginable. Our prayers are for your strength, courage and character-qualities that have always been present-Rob & I pray for healing and comfort for your family-rest in peace Scott.
June 18, 2010
God Bless your family during this difficult time. May the grace of God protect your children, and watch over Officer Graham. RIP
June 18, 2010
Scott you will be missed by everyone in our neighborhood.Erika we will always be one door down,and there for you no matter the hour. Deepest sympathy to all of the family and friends that will hold Scott in their memories and hearts. Lori Jane and Kevin Burns, Keyport NJ
Brenda Maxwell
June 18, 2010
May the LORD give your family the peace, strength and courage to continue living life.
PEACE and GOD BLESS
(I worked with Scott during his INS days at Varick St.)
Jean Taylor
June 18, 2010
My very deepest sympathy, prayers and thoughts to the Graham family. Scott was a wonderful landlord, neighbor and friend of my son and daughter-in-law. He had a smile for everyone! May God and His Angels heal your broken hearts.
Michael Eberhardt
June 18, 2010
Rest in Peace Scott. The entire Graham family, you have my deepest sympathies. I understand that no words written can lessen the loss you feel, but I would like to pass along to Erika, the children, and Scott's family a simple entry for this guest book.
I served with Scott in the military, he was in my squad for a number of years. As I think back to those days when we worked side by side, the memories that come to mind are not that of a soldier. They are of a man of character. A man of humor. A man of heart. Thank you for instilling that in him. Personally, I grew as a father, and as a friend for having known him.
Michael C. (Ret LEO)
June 18, 2010
May you find the peace and comfort that you need, in the loving Hands of our Almighty Father. God Bless. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Mr. & Mrs. Rodger Werner
June 18, 2010
Please accept our deepest and heartfelt sympathies. We know that there is nothing we can say to console you or ease your pain. We pray that each new day brings you strength and comfort.
Please know that Scotty will forever live in our hearts and minds. He touched our lives in the best and happiest of ways, and was the finest Officer and friend anyone could ever hope for. Rodger could never have gotten that sofa up those narrow stairs without him. We are grateful, honored and privileged to have known him. May he rest in peace and love until we all see him again in Heaven.
All our love,
Rodger & Colleen
Formerly of INS NYC and Bayonne, NJ
Karen Scuorzo
June 18, 2010
Scott you will be deeply missed by all. My deepest condolences to all the families, colleagues and friends that have been affected by this horrible situation. May you rest in peace Scott.
Phyllis Bienkowski
June 18, 2010
Deepest Sympathy Phyllis Bienkowski and son Brian
June 18, 2010
Our deepest condolences are with you and your family. May he Rest in Peace in God's company, and watch over his little ones.
Ellen Clayton
June 18, 2010
We are so sad hearing of Scott's passing.. Our many thoughts and prayers to Erika and the children and Scott's family.
He will be missed by so many and the community of Keyport..
The Clayton/Goble family
Ford Family
June 18, 2010
God Speed officer Graham
Thank you for your service
God bless you & your family
June 18, 2010
Our hearts go out to all the Graham family, although I did not know Scott personally, I heard plenty of loving things of him from mom and dad. May you rest in peace.
Oscar & Rosie Ortiz &
Javier Rojas
June 18, 2010
God Bless all of you through this difficult time. RIP State Trooper Graham!
Bo and Mike Williamson
June 18, 2010
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. Our deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
June 18, 2010
I am truly sorry for your loss. May God watch over your family during these trying times. D.Faucette (VA)
Nikisha Scott
June 18, 2010
My Deepest Sympathy to the Graham Family, Scott will be truly missed. It is so hard to find the words to express my sympathy. I pray the family’s faith will bring them through the times ahead and knowing that so many of us a praying for all of you.
Roland & Judith Boyce Jr
June 18, 2010
May you forever rest in Peace. The streets of Heaven are now well Protected.
MC
June 18, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of the departed. May God Bless and keep you strong at this time of sorrow and sadness.
Lisa Quinones
June 18, 2010
Wishing the Graham Family strength and peace at this difficult time. God bless you.
June 18, 2010
To the Famiy of Scott Graham,
He will always be in my thoughts and prayers, what a kind person. I enjoyed working with Scotty, may God bless all of you!!..Leslie Murphy at the NJSP Training Academy.
Jo Ann Quintana-Chilakos
June 18, 2010
Dear Roseanne, Bob & Family,
I was so saddened to read of Scott's passing, and extend my deepest condolences. I hope & pray that all the wonderful memories you have will help sustain you during this very difficult time. I'm now retired, & living in Charleston, SC. May God be with all of you & keep you strong. Love to the family.
R F
June 18, 2010
I am so sorry to you and your family for your loss. My prayers are with you all. Rest in peace Trooper Graham.
Silvia Dearaujo
June 18, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Kristinsson Family
June 18, 2010
Our prayers are with you especially this weekend...Sorry we can't be there.
Jennifer Hayes
June 18, 2010
He was a wonderful person. God rest his soul. My prayers are with his family during this difficult time.
Stultz Fuel Company
June 18, 2010
Rest in Peace
Jamie & Carmen Buntenbach
June 18, 2010
We are so truly sorry for your loss. Scott will always be remembered by his wonderful smile and his friendliness. Jamie will always remember his voice in school and the great times he had with him. May God be with you all during these trying times and may you find comfort and peace. Rest In Peace Scott.
Joyce Blasucci
June 18, 2010
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
I Allen
June 18, 2010
To the Graham family- We are so sorry for your loss. Scott did a difficult job keeping the people safe from harm. May God fill your hearts with peace. We are thinking of you and praying for you. The Allen family
Sinker
June 18, 2010
Rest in peace.
June 18, 2010
May Officer Graham Rest in Peace. And may God bless his family through this time of loss.
June 18, 2010
The wonderful memories that Scott has given you will never leave your heart. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The Nunn Family
June 18, 2010
Please accept our heartfelt sympathies for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire Graham family during this difficult time. -- Brian, Mari & Victoria McCloskey
Michael&Michelle Arnold
June 18, 2010
Our thought's and prayers are with Erika and the children at this very sad time.As well as the entire Graham family.Scott will be truly missed.
Joe Parella
June 18, 2010
My son Tommy spoke very highly of you. God Bless.God will except you with open arms.
Lisa Furrule
June 18, 2010
Many thoughts and prayers are with your family
Karen Dougherty
June 18, 2010
You will stay forever in our hearts.
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