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Katharine Heika
November 26, 2022
I have your picture on my desk at work. I talk to you almost daily. On bad days you really help me get through the day!
Don Cameron
March 1, 2015
Father Patrick regularly served 12:10PM weekday Mass for us at The Shrine of The Immaculate Conception downtown. We were blessed with his presence, always. He was excellent, but concise. He was considerate as he knew we were on lunch hours and would say, "I know I've got to get you guys back to the salt mines." He was dearly loved.
Katharine Heika
February 27, 2015
I really miss you!
Claire Summers
January 16, 2015
I did my RCI A at St. Thomas More. But, Father Pat is the reason I stayed. He is still a huge influence on my Catholic life, and I think of him at least a couple of times a week. I have never known another priest like him, and I doubt I ever will. He was the most understanding, empathetic, kind of man I think I've ever met.
Dixie Smith Ryall
February 2, 2013
Father Pat was instrumental in my personal spiritual growth as a Christian. He was pastor of my church in Rome, Georgia. During my college years he started a service on Sunday nights for college students. What a blessing he was during those years. I think of him often!
claire summers
November 4, 2012
Fr pat is the reason i converted . I loved him dearly.
November 4, 2012
Fr. Pat was the reason i converted. I loved him dearly.
Kevin Berry
March 24, 2012
Father Pat married me and my wife Jane,ive been to Sligo Ireland,pretty town. Father Pat was a kind and gracious man. He had a gentle way about him and im greatful to have been married by him,Kevin Berry ,Decatur Georgia
Joyce Roosekrans-Crawford
March 12, 2012
I STILL miss him; he was my friend.
Don Cameron
September 17, 2011
Father Patrick often said daily Mass for us at 12:10PM at Immaculate Conception. We always enjoyed Mass with him. I am so very glad to have known him. What an outstanding priest he was, and truly a servant of God. Rest in peace, good and faithful servant.
Marie Caffrey
January 9, 2007
So sad to hear that Fr Pat has gone from us. As a fairly regular visitor to his cousins, the Caffreys in Carnduff, Kilglass, Co Sligo Ireland, we have only great memories of his visits and his great sense of humour. In particular I remember with fondness his visits to my mother in her long illness. He always recalled his holidays in Carnduff in his younger years and going to the bog to cut turf!!!!!!.
With many more fond memories, Fr Pat, Slan abhaile.
Zoe Bulboff
December 13, 2006
Father Pat heard my first confession. He was always a funny man with a strange sense of humor that I could appreciate.
When I begged to be an alter girl he was in full agreement and tried to get the Church to allow it saying "I don't see what all the fuss is about. If you want to help serve then it shouldn't matter that you're a girl, but they won't let me do it."
He will be missed.
Cheers,
Zoe Bulboff
Katie Richmond
December 11, 2006
Father Pat was also known as Pa Pa Pat in the eyes of our children. He was a wonderful and kind man. He always took the time to listen. I will miss the drop ins Pat. Taking time out to make snowmen, planting sticks in Granny's backyard, and chanting music so that a Ballarina could show you her newest move she just learned from Ballet class. Thanks for our walk down STM & turning around and marring us. Thanks for the Gigs at mom's and not taking up a collection. We will miss your humor and your love of life. You are truley missed and always will be rememembered. Thanks for the memories Father Pat AKA Pa Pa Pat.
St. Thomas More Parish Staff c. 1995
December 5, 2006
Daphne Delaney
December 4, 2006
Father Pat was very dear to me. He was the beginning of my spiritual awakening in 1987. He helped me probably more than he ever knew, although I did try to tell him...but he took my comments in stride in his humble way. I will never forget you, Father Pat.
Love, Daphne Delaney
Tim Flanagan
December 4, 2006
I remember Father Pat most kindly. I hadn't seen or spoken with him since shortly after he left St. Pius. The memories of him are of a kind, jovial man; a comforter, very friendly. I remember assissting his celebration of Mass as an altar boy, the times he was at my parents' home for dinner or just a visit. And his uncanny resemblance to my grandfather. May God bless him and welcome him home to His loving embrace.
Patricia Raffeld ((Formally Reynolds)
December 4, 2006
Fr. Pat was a gem of a person and the best Priest I knew. I had the privilage of knowing him in 2 parishes. One at St. Pius in Conyers and the other at ST. Thomas Moore in Decature.
I remembered being in the singles group at St. Thomas Moore and he would join us in the events sometimes. He was a kid at heart. His sermons made you feel every word he was saying. What a joy to know him! Now he can enjoy doing the irish Jig in heaven! Peace and prayers to his family.
George Allen
December 3, 2006
Father Pat will be deeply missed by the Allen family in Conyers. This gentle and kind man married my wife and I, buried both my parents, was a strong shoulder during my father's illness, and was always available to chat when he was at St. Pius. There are few priests who have his sincerity, wit, and Christian love. He will remain in our hearts as he rests in peace!
Unknown
December 3, 2006
Father Pat baptized me when I was younger and so many in my family. It's very hard to see him go but at least he will have no more suffering.
Mary Flanagan
December 3, 2006
We fell in love with Fr. Pat the first time we saw him procession in for Mass. My father-in-law had recently died, and he was very much on my children's minds. When we saw Fr. Pat, our jaws dropped. My daughter whispered, "He looks just like granddaddy!" That was the begginging of a wonderful friendship. When my daughter had major surgery, he visited her in the hospital every day. We cried when he was transfered from St Pius X, Conyers. Fr. Pat had a way of making you feel like your were the most important person in the world. That was his Irish charm! He was the most humble priest that I have ever know. I just know that God has a special place for him in heaven. He will be missed!
Leo and Gerda Reichert
December 3, 2006
Father Mulhern was a good Priest, - humble, unpretentious, respectful of those he served, - a fine human being, and he will be missed.
Lorraine Murray
December 2, 2006
Father Pat welcomed me back to Catholicism years ago, and helped my husband find his way into the fold. Father Pat was a loving, sweet, brilliant and dedicated priest, and didn't stand on ceremony, which may be why he often was seen vacuuming the sanctuary on Sunday mornings. I can just picture him in heaven, looking for his reading glasses and enjoying himself thoroughly. I
Jane McNabb
December 2, 2006
I have no notion of with what motivations and ideals the young Patrick Francis Cullen Mulhern entered the priesthood in 196_. But, as I now reflect, it is clear to me that when he assumed the pastorate of St. Thomas More Church in 1987, he must have understood very well that he was part of a broken priesthood, a broken Church, a broken humanity, and a broken world. A man of keen intellect and deep feeling, he had undoubtedly read enough, seen enough, and experienced enough to know that the pain of brokenness was real and that no one had all the answers.
Perhaps it was this understanding that had made him such a humble man, but it had not disillusioned him and left him disheartened. Far from it, his very being exuded hope and energy. He had a way of connecting with everyone, saints and sinners alike. Any troubles experienced in his own life were put to good use in providing him the empathy and understanding which enabled him to relate to addicts, the rejected, and the downtrodden. He had a powerful personal charisma, which began with piercing blue eyes set above a hawk-like nose in a craggy face with a powerfully-chiseled jaw. It was rounded out with an acerbic wit, a self-deprecating sense of humor, and a tendency to laugh loudly and often. Tall and sinewy, he was athletic in his younger days, playing tennis and running. He could sing, too; and he loved music, especially the opera. He had a strong voice, his accent more English than Irish, with distinct enunciation and a characteristic rolling of certain r’s. One of his most endearing characteristics was is disregard for his personal appearance: Many will smile in fond remembrance of the broken and taped spectacles perched at the end of his long nose, his often disheveled hair, and his stubbly face.
He often referred to himself as a curmudgeon, and indeed, included in the facets of his personality were elements of both the pre- and post-redemption Ebenezer Scrooge. He took his stewardship of the parish coffers very seriously and generally held the purse strings tightly. He worried, like Scrooge with his coal, over turning on the heat in the church sanctuary; and had he been the lone priest in the rectory, one could have well imagined him sitting in the dark late at night, sipping a basin of gruel for his supper.
But he was also generous and compassionate, and he made it his business to reach out to as many parishioners as possible, young and old alike. His parish office often resembled Grand Central Station, with people coming and going, committees meeting, teachers dropping in for a chat—a veritable hub of activity. And although he always said that he didn’t relate well to children—didn’t “know what to do with them”—it was clear that he actually enjoyed having them around and drew refreshment of spirit from their simplicity and innocence. Accordingly, much of his energy was directed to the benefit of the parish children: additions and improvements to the school, provision of a first-class nursery, and the nurturing of a fledgling “Young Mom’s Group” which flourished under his encouraging wing (as the years passed, he began to affectionately call us the “Old Bags”). He didn’t shrink from spending what was necessary to maintain and improve parish facilities, when parish finances supported the plan. During his tenure, the parish completed extensive renovations and new construction as well as conducted a capital campaign which laid the groundwork for the completion of a master facilities plan, positioning the parish and school for optimum operations at the turn of the century.
When Fr. Pat came to the parish, fire and brimstone still echoed in the sanctuary, which was populated with an aging and nearly childless congregation. But he had a different message and tone: Everyone was welcome; all must join in the life of the parish; we must evangelize ourselves, reach out to each other, bond with each other, and care for each other. And people began to come and to take part in this new parish life.
To the parish he drew idealistic and energetic young people, philosophers and intellectuals, fallen-away disillusioned Catholics, as well as the simply faithful and the old faithful in the Church. He fed them a consistent message: “Engage!” Step outside of your comfort zone to make contact with the world, however broken it (or you) may be. Join in the dance of life! Whoever you are, give yourself in your way. Make a start! Be a part! “You’re O.K.!”
Fr. Pat didn’t seem to have much time for cultivating a place for himself in the Church hierarchy. Instead, he worked tirelessly to “cultivate his garden”—the parish that had been entrusted to his care. He knew that, as pastor, he had great power to direct this small microcosm of the Church along a path that focused on the essence of Christianity. And so it was that by his actions as pastor, he led us to believe:
That God values women as much as men and that woman have a place in the important ministries of the Church,
That God values people of other religious traditions and no religious tradition at all as much as Catholics,
That the elderly, those with special needs, the sick, and the dying are just as vital to our community as the young and the strong,
That WE are the Church,
That our parish belongs to US,
That we must include everyone,
That we are connected to each other,
That we must take care of each other, and
That God is love and heals all things.
Ultimately, I believe that Fr. Pat led us to believe that the Catholic Church was better than it truly is today. I look back on his pastorate at St. Thomas More as a Golden Age of openness and vitality, which I now realize do not exist in the Church as a whole. But I think I am beginning to see that, just as Fr. Pat made us believe that we, as individuals, could be something more than we are—each of us someone better than we are today—our Church can be transformed as well, with hope and love.
There will never be another Fr. Pat, and the Catholic Church has suffered a great loss in his passing. One can only hope that the seeds he planted in “his garden” will continue to grow and transform our Church and our world for the better.
I'll always love you, dear Fr. Pat.
Sandy McKay
December 2, 2006
Father Pat made my mother's dying days so much more peaceful. He didn't know her at all, and yet, when we called asking for the Sacraments, he dropped everything, came within 45 minutes, and never stopped visiting her. He renewed her faith in God and the Church, and I am forever grateful. She felt she had found a new friend who really cared about her (and I believe so too)...and that is the best! Thank you Father Pat for your wonderful pastoral ways. You will be in our prayers. Sandy Huggins McKay, daughter of Monica Huggins Perry
Kathy Merritt
December 2, 2006
An Appreciation--Fr. Pat took a wounded and decimated parish and school and built it into the amazing community it continues to build itself to be. I loved him for this, and we honor his memory for this legacy.
But more importantly to me personally, Fr. Pat was so completely human. He did not hold himself apart as better than anyone else. We who knew him well watched him struggle with his very human qualities--then pick himself up and go on to do what he believed in.
I have a lot of funny stories about Fr. Pat. He was an amusing guy, sometimes on purpose, like the time at the faculty Christmas party when he borrowed lipstick to write a message that read like something from a middle schooler on the principal's restroom mirror, and sometimes by accident, like when he was looking for the glasses he had pushed up on his forehead.
You knew what you were getting with Fr. Pat. As he'd have said, "Ain't that the truth?"
We are sad to see you go, Pat. I am so glad that you will never have to suffer again. Thanks for everything. I loved you.
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