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Sean Caras
February 6, 2024
Deborah, Daniel, and all your families, I am so sorry to have waited this long to post a tribute to your mother. I lost my own mother (who was a little over a year older than your mom) six days after your mom passed. Etta was my therapist (through her private practice) for many years before she left town to be with Bill, and resumed when she returned to Bakersfield, and continued until she had to stop due to her health issue. I was her last client.
You have been blessed with having her as your mother, and I hope that you have learned over the years what a difference she has made in the lives and mental health of others.
I have been exceptionally blessed with having her as a part of my life as a therapist for so long. She did maintain the client/therapist relationship and boundaries, but she was never shy about letting her humanity shine through. I could write many paragraphs giving examples of all the ways she has helped me through crises and personal issues, how she built up my self esteem and helped me see my self worth, and how she guided me through my life's challenges. She was the trusted confidant and the sympathetic ear I needed. And ultimately, over the past four years or so, she had prepared me to handle the impending death of my mom. When my mom died, I was emotionally well-equipped to be the strong one in my family to help them cope with the loss as we went through the grieving process.
Being able to talk with someone who was going through the same challenges of aging that my mom was going through really helped me to understand mom's challenges and to best support her as they materialized. Your mom often provided perspective on that, as well as work-related challenges where she shared her own experiences. I treasure the wisdom that she shared with me over the years, and she has definitely made a profound impact on my life.
People say that a person should not get emotionally attached to their therapist, but I cannot help feeling love and appreciation for her. The dear, sweet Etta that I got to know was so admirable in making it through some pretty challenging times, in "finding her own voice," in always learning and growing as a person, and many other qualities that made up the very special person that she was. I can clearly see why her friends loved her so much and why she was so dear to them.
She helped me to be much more assertive in looking out for myself and in having more courage to stand up and get involved when I'm in a situation where I'm not getting what I deserve or asked for.
I feel that your mom was one of the strongest people I've known, but I especially love the sensitive, caring, nurturing, encouraging, and parental qualities she had. I realize that I was paying for her time in her role as a mental health provider, but I always felt that her care and concern was genuine - not just a part of her job.
I am a much better person having been a client of hers, and her impact on my life has been very significant. Yet, knowing her and learning from her and experiencing her endearing personality has been among one of the major highlights of my adult life.
I wish all of Etta's family and friends healing, peace, and comfort as you go through this journey of adapting to this life change. Thank you for supporting her education and training as she prepared for her career in mental health. She has made an immeasurable impact in the lives of thousands of people, including myself.
I will always remember Etta, and I will miss her dearly.
Corey G
October 27, 2023
My sincerest condolences to Debbie and the family. I had the pleasure of meeting Etta through Debbie. Lovely to read about her travels, passions and accomplishments. Kern County is a better place because of Etta.
Rabbi Cheryl Rosenstein
October 22, 2023
Heartfelt condolences to all of Etta´s loved ones. She was a very special human, and will be greatly missed.
Brigette
October 16, 2023
Etta~ I´ll never forget the day (Sunday 1996ish) when she & LeaAnn walked by the salon & stopped in. I was almost never there on a Sunday, but this day, I was meant to meet Etta. A ray of sunshine, full of encouragement & just so positive. Even through her self proclaimed "challenges" she was hopeful & practical. I´ll never forget this lovely lady, who enriched my life in many ways. I will miss Etta & loved her dearly.
Martha Naranjo
October 1, 2023
Dear Etta,
Although you mostly worked and had a friendship with my husband Luis, your kindness always reached me. Sending me school related articles and countless papers to use with my students. Your passion for teaching touched my soul. You will be missed. Love
Cherie Barrow
September 28, 2023
Dear sweet Etta, I´m so blessed to have known you . You have to be the kindest and wisest person I have ever known .your beautiful soul shined so bright and was a beacon of hope and joy for so many . You are an irreplaceable treasure in this world . I´m a better person for having you as an example of what´s ok and "not ok "and how you handled your life´s "challenges" . You will always be an inspiration and an example on how to be a better person . Thank you for the gift of you .
Donna Semar
September 28, 2023
Though I didn't know Ms. Robin, I felt compelled to comment on her obituary. What a unique pleasure to read someone's accounting of their own life.
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