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Hope Cookis-McCarthy Obituary

Hope A. Cookis-McCarthy

1966 - 2015 BENNINGTON, VT. Hope Ann Cookis-McCarthy, 49 a resident of Bank Street passed away in Bennington on May 13, 2015 following a courageous battle with cancer. Hope was born in North Adams, MA on May 1, 1966; she was one of three daughters born to the late Macy Cookis (2005) and Eleanor (Brown) Cookis who survives. Hope grew up in North Adams where she graduated as Valedictorian of Drury High School, Class of 1984. She continued her education attending Williams College graduating Cum Laude in Biology with a special interest in Psychology in 1988, Hope then obtained her Master's Degree in Social Work from Smith College in 1993. Hope lived in New Jersey for six years where she worked as a Social Work Consultant at the Troy Hills Nursing Center in Parsippany, NJ and as a Geriatric Case Manager for Michael Bolton, Esq. in Morristown, NJ. Hope returned to this area and spent years caring for children, including working with the S.V.S.U. as a substitute Para Educator/ Teacher and intensive needs specialist, many years as a Pre-K teacher at Farmhouse Nursery School and previously working as the Success by Six Playgroup Facilitator in Pownal. Hope's work at the various early education programs kept her very close to her children and allowed her to touch the lives of many Bennington residents. With her special interest in educating and nurturing children, Hope recently achieved her goal of becoming a Licensed Certified Educator in the State of Vermont, enabling Hope to teach High School and Middle School Science. She had a lifelong passion for learning that began as a child. Her life was devoted to children, her own which she enthusiastically loved to follow through their many varied sports, activities and life adventures and those that she was privileged to touch with her caring guidance in her various positions as an educator. Hope was dedicated not only to the learning of her students, but well beyond that to their emotional needs. Her combined social work and teaching background made her a beloved teacher and a true asset to her students' development. Hope loved animals and nature. She cared for many animals throughout her life, including her steadfast companion, Maximus. Nature brought her peace and joy, she enjoyed some quiet time tending to her gardens at home. Hope leaves her mother, Eleanor Cookis of Bennington; her husband, Thomas McCarthy III of Bennington, whom she married October 16, 1993 in Williamstown; their children, Thomas McCarthy IV and Erika McCarthy, both at home in Bennington; her in-laws, Thomas and Marcia McCarthy, her sister, Holly Michaelson of Delmar, NY; aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, and cousins. In addition to her father, she was predeceased by a sister, Lynn Cookis who passed away in 1991. FUNERAL NOTICE: Funeral services will be held at the Hanson Walbridge & Shea Funeral Home on Friday evening at 7 p.m. with the Reverend Robert Wiseman, pastor of the Sacred Heart St. Francis de Sales Church officiating. Friends are invited to call at the funeral home on Friday, May 15 from 5 to 7 p.m. when the family will be present. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests gifts be made to the Hope A. Cookis-McCarthy Scholarship Fund, a scholarship which will be granted to a student at Mt. Anthony Union High School pursuing a career in education. Gifts may be sent to the Hanson Walbridge & Shea Funeral Home, 213 West Main St., Bennington, VT 05201. To send condolences, visit: www.sheafuneralhomes.com

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Published by Bennington Banner from May 14 to May 15, 2015.

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valerie cardinal

May 8, 2020

Ellie I am still thinking of you. Its been 5 years but I know the pain is still with you & Holly. Its hard to loose a child as now I know how you feel as I lost my son 9 months ago. You just never get over it . Sending my love to you and Holly. Luv Valerie

valerie cardinal

May 8, 2019

I can't believe it's been 4 years. I Know the pain is still with Ellie & Holly. Thankyou for the flower seeds. I am going to plant them on Mother's Day & when they start blooming I will remember Hope with each flower that blooms. Luv Valerie

Sharron Mirke

May 22, 2015

Ellie, my most sincere sympathy to you and your entire family on the loss of your daughter. I still have the favor that I got at her wedding and have used it every year as a decoration on our Christmas tree. She truly was a beautiful person and will be missed by many.

thomas cramer

May 22, 2015

sorry for your recent loss my brother bob just called from tampa fl and told me my heart out to you and your family uncle tom

Melanie (Delisle) Charron

May 20, 2015

Hope left a legacy of kindness, empathy and friendship to all who've touched her life. She was my first and best friend, and there are no words to describe what a wonderful, happy, successful, intelligent wife, mother, daughter and friend she was. Her life will live on forever in the hearts of those who loved her and I feel her birthday (and every Friday for that matter!) Should be an official holiday #FridayRandomActsofKindnessforHOPE
With love,
Mel
I am a phone call away if I can help in any way.

Robert Cramer

May 19, 2015

Dear Thomas and the whole McCarthy and Cookis families, I feel so sorry about your tremendous loss. My daughter, Vanessa and I feel so bad about this since we were priviledged to go to your wedding and I always knew the Cookis family so well. Mace and Julius were always good friends of mine. May god bless both of your families Thomas. Uncle Bob and Vanessa.

Colleen Sprague Bretthauer

May 17, 2015

Dear Tom, I just received the news. My heart breaks for you and your children, and I am thinking of you, sending thoughts and prayers. I am certain that Hope's spirit lives on through all of the lives she has touched. What a beautiful, gracious soul. With love, Colleen.

Christopher Senay

May 16, 2015

Tom and family, I learned today of Hope's passing and I offer my condolences. Like Michelle and Mr. George, I too remember Hope as the kind, friendly, sweet, genuine classmate in middle and high school. I share your sadness at this very difficult time and I am thinking of you often. Again my most heartfelt condolences.

Julie (Racette) Lepore

May 16, 2015

I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of Hope. In every memory I have of her at Drury she is smiling. She was a kind and peaceful soul back then and it sounds like she continued to live the rest of her life that way. RIP

Joe and Chris Lazarczyk

May 16, 2015

Our heart goes out to the families who lost a wonderful women. Prayers and thoughts!!!

Andy Carrier

May 15, 2015

If the measure of a life can be found in how our years were lived, more so than the number of years we lived, Hope will have outlived most of us in the end. I graduated a year ahead of her at Drury and did not know her all that well. Jane Addams is considered the founder of modern social work. She always wanted to attend Smith College back in the late 1800's, but never did. Hope, ironically, got her Masters in Social Work from Smith and went on to touch many lives in her short time here. That's where the beauty lies...she impacted so many, in so many different ways. Because of the difference she made, she lives on, not only in the hearts of those that loved her, but in the strengthened souls of those she touched through her work. Rest easy, Hope...

May 15, 2015

We are so sorry to hear of Hope's passing. Our prayers and thoughts are with all of you♥ Hope was a Special person♥ God Bless♥ Love, Glenn & Sandy Girard

Vincent DiGennaro

May 15, 2015

I'm very sorry to hear about Hope's passing. My prayers goes out to the family.

Michelle Miller

May 15, 2015

Hope was a very special person. She had a gentle soul and kindness that was so genuine and sincere. I will never forget our high school years together. My prayers are with you all during this difficult time. I am so glad to have had Hope in my life. I will never forget her.

Amanda

May 15, 2015

I am very, very sorry to read of your family's loss. I hope the beautiful promise of a future with our loved ones with no more death and sickness brings some comfort to you and your family. (Isa 33:24, Rev 22:4) My deepest sympathies.

Brian Richmond

May 15, 2015

To All The Family & All The Friends Of Hope:

On behalf of my mother Carol(Senecal)Richmond,I want to extend my/her deepest sympathies to you all at this time.My mom grew up with Hope's mother Eleanor in North Adams(being her 1st cousin & across the street),and has been involved with her,and her family,at family-events,cookouts,birthdays,graduations,etc.,Hope's entire life--And on behalf of my mom(and dad Burt),I want to say how sorry I am,and my mother will be at Hope's services to talk individually with you all further....

Julius (Joe) &Dale Cookis

May 15, 2015

Tom,Erika,Thomas,Ellie,and Holly There are no words to describe this terrible loss
of our Hopey. We must all now try to be as strong or at least half as strong as she was .May God rest her BEAUTIFUL SOUL .

Peter Velyvis

May 15, 2015

My sympathies to all. Hope was such a kind and gentle soul and a wonderful mentor to all she touched.

May 15, 2015

Dear family of Hope--We are so sorry for her loss. She was loved by all who knew her. Such a gifted lady who touched many lives will be ever remembered.Our family sends sincerest sympathies.
Claire Velyvis-John, Kristen, Peter

Eddie Lewis

May 15, 2015

Ellie, Holly, and Family,
My Jesus help you get through these hard times. Hope was a very beautiful woman who left her smile wherever she went. Our Prayers are with you and your families. God Bless
Eddie and Pat Lewis

Alan George

May 15, 2015

It is with great sadness and a heavy heart that I read of Hopes passing. She was my eighth grade students. What a genuinely sweet and delightful girl. I loved her as did all of her 8th grade White House teachers. I recall the beautiful family tree that she made in my class. She was extraordinarily creative. God Bless You sweet angel.

John & Cheryl Crofts

May 14, 2015

We are deeply saddened to hear of Hope's passing. Please accept our heart felt condolences

May 14, 2015

We are deeply saddened to hear of Hope's passing. Please accept our heart felt condolences.

John & Cheryl Crofts, Warrenton, VA

Colby Tifft

May 14, 2015

Very sorry for your loss !

Lorraine M

May 14, 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss. Holly, Ellie, and the kids will be in my prayers.

Rosemarie Jackowski

May 14, 2015

This is a very sad day for everyone who knew Hope.

Barbara and Bob Condon

May 14, 2015

Your family is in our thoughts and prayers

valerie cardinal

May 14, 2015

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Hope. She always had a smile & was loved by everyone. She was a special person. My thoughts & prayers are with the family.

Joe Cain

May 14, 2015

Holly and family,
I am so sorry.

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