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DAVID M. DEFFELY

1958 - 2016

BORN

1958

DIED

2016

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Slattery Funeral Home - Marlborough

40 Pleasant Street

Marlborough, Massachusetts

DAVID DEFFELY Obituary

DEFFELY, David M. 57, of Westborough, MA, died Monday, September 12, 2016 at UMass Medical Center, Lake Ave., Worcester, MA. Born in Waltham, MA, he was the son of the late James A. and Eleanor M. (Hyde) Deffely. David attended MA College of Pharmacy, prior to enlisting in the USAF. During his military service he was assigned to duty as a meteorologist at Cape Canaveral, FL, as well as Anchorage, Alaska. Following his discharge in 1988 he worked as a General Contractor and builder, later becoming the building inspector in Newton and most recently in Worcester. He had a dry sense of humor and a love for the outdoors. He was happiest when walking with his "best friend" and constant companion, his rescue dog Joe.He is survived by his brothers, James T. Deffely and his wife Sharon M. of Auburn, MA and John B. Deffely and his wife Frances of Newton, MA, his sisters, Susan Frederick of Sandwich, MA and Donna Veinot and her husband Paul of Marlborough, MA, as well as several nieces and nephews. Visiting hours will be held on Friday, September 16 from 4-7 pm at the Slattery Funeral Home, Inc., 40 Pleasant St., MARLBOROUGH. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated on Saturday, September 17 at 11:00 am at the Immaculate Conception Church, 11 Prospect St., Marlborough. Burial will be held at the National Cemetery, Bourne, MA, on Monday, September 19. Donations may be made to the Animal Rescue League, 10 Chandler St., Boston, MA 02116 or Fisher House Boston, PO Box 230, S. Walpole, MA 02071 Slattery Funeral Home, Inc. 40 Pleasant St. Marlborough, MA 01752 www.slatteryfuneralhome.com

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Published by Boston Globe from Sep. 13 to Sep. 14, 2016.

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Janice Fletcher

September 20, 2024

David and Joe were my good friends sometimes I would have leftover steak and I would give it to Dave and he would say " this looks to good I think I'll eat it myself" we had a lot of laughs

Donato Mazzola

October 24, 2021

To Dave´s family,

I just heard of Dave´s passing today. I am so saddened to hear the news. We met on the first day of pharmacy school in 1976. He was my best friend and I could not have succeeded without his help.

Rest In Peace my friend.

DONATO

Janice Fletcher

September 9, 2020

My good friend I still miss you

Joanne Hyde

September 15, 2016

I remember the day David was Baptized. He was such an adorable baby and little boy. One of the cutest memories I have is him telling his teacher I was his Fairy Godmother. Your parents gave me a gift being your Godmother. It is so nice to read about your life and the nice things people said about you.
May you rest in peace with your parents and all who have gone before us.

Robert Battaglino

September 14, 2016

I always saw you as an intelligent, kind hearted person with a good sense of humor. I honor your memory and may you experience great joy in the afterlife.

Moira McEvoy

September 14, 2016

Oh, I will miss Dave.

We worked together for the City of Worcester for 5 years. His sense of humor lifted me up and kept me going through many days. I learned so much from him.

Dave, I'll miss you. May your journey across the rainbow bridge be swift and peaceful, and may peace and love greet you on the other side.

Donna Veinot

September 14, 2016

I already miss you Dave. I will miss your sense of humor and everything that made you who you are. You left us way to soon but your at peace all your pain and suffering is over.
Love you always
Donna

September 14, 2016

Deffely family please accept our deepest condolences at this difficult time. Remember that God cares for you.
1 Peter 5:6&7

September 14, 2016

David,
I will miss you very much.
Love your sister.
Sue

Paul E. Freeman, Jr.

September 14, 2016

To the family, my deepest sympathy, for your lost.
David, you were always a good person, and it was an honor, knowing you!
Wishing you "Fair Winds & Following Seas" as you set sail towards the horizon!

September 14, 2016

my good friend u left to soon I will miss our talks Janice

A Grateful American

September 13, 2016

Though our grateful nation mourns with you in your loss, we can only feel a small part of the loss you are experiencing.

Your loved one will always be a part of our country's story. As such, their sacrifice on behalf of our nation will always be honored.

While the process of grieving requires a lot of time and, somehow, is never complete, we will be praying for you and grieving with you.

In deepest sympathy.

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