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SEONGHEE SON
June 19, 2025
My name is Seonghee Son, and I´m currently translating the Korean edition of Internal Family Systems Therapy: New Dimensions.
Some time ago, I reached out to Jack Engler via email to request a profile photo for inclusion in his chapter of Korean edition. However, the message was repeatedly returned, and after further searching, I was deeply saddened to learn that he passed away in 2023.
It would have meant so much to introduce his wisdom and presence to Korean readers during his lifetime. I truly regret that we didn´t have that opportunity sooner.
If it´s possible, I would love to include a photo of him alongside his chapter, as a way to honor and introduce him to Korean readers even now. If you are someone who could help with this, or if you could kindly direct me to someone who can assist, I would be very grateful.
Thank you in advance, and I look forward to hearing from you.
Warmest regards,
Seonghee Son
Relation Power Plant | Korean Publisher
[email protected]
Brett M. Rhyne
July 25, 2024
My love and gratitude for Jack is vast, and having his kindness, wisdom and humor in my life during a pivotal period reaffirms my belief that everything happens exactly the way it's supposed to. Some of his pithier remarks:
"Even an amoeba pulls away when you poke it with a stick. So think of it this way: By reaching out to someone who has hurt you, you're fighting 100 million years of evolution."
"Affection is the antidote to anger."
"God is good, but He's not THAT good."
And one that perhaps encapsulates his holistic approach: "The goal of any practice, therapeutic or spiritual, is to look toward the pain."
See you next time, Jack.
Paul Beauchamp
March 24, 2024
Jack was a wonderful person and therapist; patient, circumspect and well-considered. A true, caring person who did his best to pratice "right livelihood".
marijke aveling
February 18, 2024
My condolences for his family. I remember him so well, he helped me in 1981, in a difficult period, to get back to the Netherlands, so sorry to read he has gone.
Amma Thanasanti
December 19, 2023
Jack was my first introduction to Buddhism in 1979at UCSC. The way he responded to the human underneath the question we asked, moved me. I was lit up with the Dharma and had questions like how does this help me deal with my stepmom. He spent hours answering my questions and at the end, he said, please come again and ask more. His warmth, humanness made me realize, I wanted to be like that! It catapulted me into my lifelong spiritual journey, being transformed meeting Dipa Ma, ordaining as a Buddhist Nun and a debt of gratitude I can never forget. I tried multiple times to reach him or friends who knew him these past two years. I´d be grateful to connect with family and share more stories if that is welcomed. Amma Thanasanti
Robert A. Jonas
April 16, 2023
Jack was a lovely, listening, kind, and wise man. We'd often share stories about our experience as therapists, and about our common interest in the Buddhist-Christian dialogue. I will miss him, but, in a way, his healing presence will never die. Blessings to Renée and family.
Arthur Kilmurray
April 5, 2023
It was a great privilege to work with Jack for several years and I always looked forward to our time together. We shared a love of spiritual inquiry, family and baseball and he was very helpful in my own inner journey with his IFS insights. As he as retiring and I was moving to California, we completed our time together with a wonderful afternoon sailing out in Boston Harbor. I am so sorry I never got to see him again. I miss him deeply. Much love to his family.
Chris McElroy
March 25, 2023
I was blessed to know Jack in the 80s when we were fellows at Yale Psychiatric Institute and when he was director of the Schiff Day Treatment Center and I was a psychologist at Fresh Pond MHC both in Cambridge. He was a beloved therapist, valued teacher and a leader in community mental health. He leaves an amazing legacy
Patient of Jack
March 23, 2023
I was Jack's patient for 14 years, from age 21 until age 35, when he retired. I came to him having just been diagnosed with a significant mental health issue. Jack was a truly exceptional therapist, and it was a deeply healing relationship. Working with him for so long is one of the biggest blessings of my life. Jack always had such a calm, grounding and gentle presence, and he was a gifted listener and witness. His profound insight and wisdom was paired with a deeply compassionate nature, and he always brought out the best in me. Jack was trained in Internal Family Systems therapy, and he skillfully taught me how to work with my feelings (or "parts" of myself) on my own. Knowing how to get in touch with and work with my "parts" has been a priceless inner resource that Jack helped me to develop during my years of therapy. Even though our therapeutic relationship ended with his retirement, I still feel his wisdom and guidance within me, and he planted seeds that I'll carry with me for the rest of my life.
jill hallisey
March 20, 2023
Renee. I am so sorry for your loss. I remember Jack fondly from pelagic sailing club. Peace and love
Jill hallisey
Marushka
March 19, 2023
Jack, I will always love you and cherish our time together over the decades. I first met Jack and Renee in 1980 and spent time with both of them over the decades before our kids were born. My most cherished memory of jack was when we both independently went to see Stephen Levine the death and dying guru and found each other among the 200 plus people that were there. We practiced watching each other breathe and mirroring the others breath waiting for a second before inhaling after the other and exhaling. I realize now that there were so many times when I felt Jacks presence with me when we were together and this was another way more somatically that I felt held by Jack. He was such a beautiful, gentle, and non judgemental being and I will miss him. The world was a better place with him in it. RIP dear friend.
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