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JACK ENGLER

1939 - 2023

JACK ENGLER obituary, 1939-2023, Sudbury, MA

BORN

1939

DIED

2023

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JACK ENGLER Obituary

ENGLER, Jack Jack Engler, 83, Psychotherapist and Meditation Teacher A renowned clinical psychologist who helped unite Western psychology with Theravada Buddhism, passed away peacefully on March 12, with his wife, Renée DeYoe; daughter, Gaelen (Whitefish, MT); son, Ian (Portland, ME); and son-in-law, Gerben Scherpbier at his side. He was 83. Jack was born in Boston, MA, and raised in Tenafly, NJ, by his parents, Doris and Les Engler alongside his younger siblings, Bob and Ellen. After graduating as valedictorian at the University of Notre Dame, he began his lifelong spiritual quest, one that was both intensely personal and academic. Jack began his path of contemplative practice under the guidance of the Trappist monk, Thomas Merton, at Gethsemane, KY. After a brief stay, Jack left the monastic life to pursue graduate work at the universities of Munich, Oxford, and Chicago. It was in Chicago that Jack was introduced to Buddhism, a path to which he would dedicate his personal, professional, and spiritual life. He was intensely curious about psychology as an approach to spirituality, and in 1975 was awarded a Fulbright Research Fellowship to India. He spent two years in Bodh Gaya studying Buddhist psychology and practice with Acharaya Anagarika Minindra-ji and Dipa Ma. Upon returning from India, Jack dedicated himself to clinical work. While Jack committed himself to rigorous and comprehensive clinical training, he continued to discover ways to incorporate his passions for teaching and Buddhist meditation practice throughout. Jack was nationally recognized for his work integrating Eastern meditation traditions with Western psychotherapy. In his exploration of depth psychology, he drew on both Buddhist and psychoanalytic concepts, bringing these systems of thought into meaningful dialogue. Noted for writing "you have to be somebody before you can be nobody," he helped guide countless students in their quest to better their lives through Buddhist practice. He authored scholarly journals and books on psychotherapy and meditation, including Transformations of Consciousness and The Consumer's Guide to Psychotherapy, and was invited by the Dalai Lama to sit on a panel with him in 1989. His writings are cited frequently and remain among the most seminal and insightful contributions in the field to date. He spent the final 25 years of his career in private practice in Cambridge, MA, where he was a calm and compassionate listener with a generous spirit. His pursuit for meaning was realized when he met and married Renée 37 years ago. She remained a steadfast supporter and a loving partner throughout his life. Their children, Gaelen and Ian, delivered an unrealized source of happiness. He loved being a father to his children while serving on the boards of the Insight Meditation Society and the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies in Barre, MA, for many years. Jack was an accomplished sailor from early in life and he loved being on the water. On land, he loved golf, remembering seemingly every course layout and every shot. His Buddhist nature was often tested by his competitive side, despite his denials. Jack was a country music fan "before country was cool, " back in the early '50s, he and his brother would have their Emerson radio tuned in late at night to pick up WWVA from Wheeling, WV. Upon retiring, Jack pursued his love of animals through studying Equine Massage and volunteering for Caring Canines with his beloved, Bonita. Jack will be greatly missed not only by his family but also by countless friends, clients, and colleagues he maintained over the course of his life. In lieu of flowers, the family invites you to make a donation in Jack's honor to the Insight Meditation Scholarship Fund, 1230 Pleasant Street, Barre, MA 01005. A Memorial Service will be held on Tuesday, May 2, at the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies in Barre, MA, at 11:00 AM. An online guestbook is accessible at the Duckett Funeral Home's website.

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Published by Boston Globe from Mar. 17 to Mar. 26, 2023.

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SEONGHEE SON

June 19, 2025

My name is Seonghee Son, and I´m currently translating the Korean edition of Internal Family Systems Therapy: New Dimensions.
Some time ago, I reached out to Jack Engler via email to request a profile photo for inclusion in his chapter of Korean edition. However, the message was repeatedly returned, and after further searching, I was deeply saddened to learn that he passed away in 2023.

It would have meant so much to introduce his wisdom and presence to Korean readers during his lifetime. I truly regret that we didn´t have that opportunity sooner.

If it´s possible, I would love to include a photo of him alongside his chapter, as a way to honor and introduce him to Korean readers even now. If you are someone who could help with this, or if you could kindly direct me to someone who can assist, I would be very grateful.

Thank you in advance, and I look forward to hearing from you.

Warmest regards,
Seonghee Son
Relation Power Plant | Korean Publisher
[email protected]

Brett M. Rhyne

July 25, 2024

My love and gratitude for Jack is vast, and having his kindness, wisdom and humor in my life during a pivotal period reaffirms my belief that everything happens exactly the way it's supposed to. Some of his pithier remarks:

"Even an amoeba pulls away when you poke it with a stick. So think of it this way: By reaching out to someone who has hurt you, you're fighting 100 million years of evolution."

"Affection is the antidote to anger."

"God is good, but He's not THAT good."

And one that perhaps encapsulates his holistic approach: "The goal of any practice, therapeutic or spiritual, is to look toward the pain."

See you next time, Jack.

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Brett M. Rhyne

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Paul Beauchamp

March 24, 2024

Jack was a wonderful person and therapist; patient, circumspect and well-considered. A true, caring person who did his best to pratice "right livelihood".

marijke aveling

February 18, 2024

My condolences for his family. I remember him so well, he helped me in 1981, in a difficult period, to get back to the Netherlands, so sorry to read he has gone.

Amma Thanasanti

December 19, 2023

Jack was my first introduction to Buddhism in 1979at UCSC. The way he responded to the human underneath the question we asked, moved me. I was lit up with the Dharma and had questions like how does this help me deal with my stepmom. He spent hours answering my questions and at the end, he said, please come again and ask more. His warmth, humanness made me realize, I wanted to be like that! It catapulted me into my lifelong spiritual journey, being transformed meeting Dipa Ma, ordaining as a Buddhist Nun and a debt of gratitude I can never forget. I tried multiple times to reach him or friends who knew him these past two years. I´d be grateful to connect with family and share more stories if that is welcomed. Amma Thanasanti

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Much love, marushka and tracy

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Much love to you renee, marush

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Robert A. Jonas

April 16, 2023

Jack was a lovely, listening, kind, and wise man. We'd often share stories about our experience as therapists, and about our common interest in the Buddhist-Christian dialogue. I will miss him, but, in a way, his healing presence will never die. Blessings to Renée and family.

Arthur Kilmurray

April 5, 2023

It was a great privilege to work with Jack for several years and I always looked forward to our time together. We shared a love of spiritual inquiry, family and baseball and he was very helpful in my own inner journey with his IFS insights. As he as retiring and I was moving to California, we completed our time together with a wonderful afternoon sailing out in Boston Harbor. I am so sorry I never got to see him again. I miss him deeply. Much love to his family.

Chris McElroy

March 25, 2023

I was blessed to know Jack in the 80s when we were fellows at Yale Psychiatric Institute and when he was director of the Schiff Day Treatment Center and I was a psychologist at Fresh Pond MHC both in Cambridge. He was a beloved therapist, valued teacher and a leader in community mental health. He leaves an amazing legacy

Patient of Jack

March 23, 2023

I was Jack's patient for 14 years, from age 21 until age 35, when he retired. I came to him having just been diagnosed with a significant mental health issue. Jack was a truly exceptional therapist, and it was a deeply healing relationship. Working with him for so long is one of the biggest blessings of my life. Jack always had such a calm, grounding and gentle presence, and he was a gifted listener and witness. His profound insight and wisdom was paired with a deeply compassionate nature, and he always brought out the best in me. Jack was trained in Internal Family Systems therapy, and he skillfully taught me how to work with my feelings (or "parts" of myself) on my own. Knowing how to get in touch with and work with my "parts" has been a priceless inner resource that Jack helped me to develop during my years of therapy. Even though our therapeutic relationship ended with his retirement, I still feel his wisdom and guidance within me, and he planted seeds that I'll carry with me for the rest of my life.

jill hallisey

March 20, 2023

Renee. I am so sorry for your loss. I remember Jack fondly from pelagic sailing club. Peace and love
Jill hallisey

Marushka

March 19, 2023

Jack, I will always love you and cherish our time together over the decades. I first met Jack and Renee in 1980 and spent time with both of them over the decades before our kids were born. My most cherished memory of jack was when we both independently went to see Stephen Levine the death and dying guru and found each other among the 200 plus people that were there. We practiced watching each other breathe and mirroring the others breath waiting for a second before inhaling after the other and exhaling. I realize now that there were so many times when I felt Jacks presence with me when we were together and this was another way more somatically that I felt held by Jack. He was such a beautiful, gentle, and non judgemental being and I will miss him. The world was a better place with him in it. RIP dear friend.

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