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John McCarthy Obituary

McCARTHY, John J., Jr. Of Boston and Indian Wells, CA, died suddenly July 16, 2009. He was the chairman and owner of Trans-Lease Group, a major transportation company, headquartered in New England. The company was founded over 100 years ago by his grandfather, an Irish immigrant, who delivered ice and coal by horse and wagon to homes in the Brockton and Easton areas. John was born in Brockton, grew up in Milton, and was a long-time resident of Wellesley. He was the son of the late John and Isabel McCarthy. He attended Tabor Academy, and was a 1954 graduate of Holy Cross College. He also served as a lieutenant in the U.S. Navy, working in naval intelligence. John was an avid golfer throughout his life, and was a member of several country clubs, including Brae Burn, Nantucket Golf Club and Desert Horizons in Indian Wells, CA. A proud Red Sox season ticket holder for more than 50 years, one of John's greatest pleasures was watching his beloved Sox, not only at Fenway and at home, but also on reruns. Another part of his daily ritual was attacking the morning paper's crossword puzzle, even before his first cup of coffee. A kind and compassionate man, John was a generous supporter of numerous charities in Massachusetts and California. His anonymous contributions enabled many deserving students to further their education. John is survived by his loving wife and best friend Carol Gray McCarthy. He is also survived by daughter Mary Lynne McCarthy of New York City; son John J. McCarthy, III, and his wife Maureen of Cohasset; daughter Christina McCarthy Kepple and her husband Douglas of New York City; son James McCarthy of Boston; and stepson Charles Gray of Bermuda Dunes, CA. John was the proud grandfather of Isabel and Kate McCarthy. He is also survived by his former wife, Mary Morley McCarthy; his sister Ann Dederding and her husband Helmut of New York City; and nieces Lisa Weiss and Mary Adele Burke, both of Dedham, and their families. His family, friends and employees will miss John's genuine kindness, loving generosity, the twinkle in his eye, and his quick-witted sense of humor, which was always followed by a hearty laugh. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated in Saint Elizabeth Church, 350 Reedsdale Road, Milton, Monday July 20 at 10 AM. Relatives and friends invited. Visiting hours at Dolan Funeral Home, 460 Granite Avenue, MILTON, Sunday 1-3 and 6-8 PM. Interment Milton Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made, in loving memory of John J. McCarthy, Jr., to Massachusetts General Hospital, Attn: Development Office, 100 Cambridge Street, Boston, MA 02114. For information and directions: www.dolanfuneral.com.

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Published by Boston Globe from Jul. 18 to Jul. 20, 2009.

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August 2, 2009

Carol:

Just heard the news from Al. My mom and I want to express our sincerest condolences during this very emotional time. Our heart goes out to you and the family. John will be dearly missed and I will always cherish that special day when we all played as a group in the Mr. 59 Invitational. We'll be in touch...please don't hesitate to call on Helen or I if there is any immediate comfort that we can provide.

Van and Helen Costa
Boca Raton, FL

July 24, 2009

Dear Carol, I felt so sad for you when
I was told of John's passing. I was concerned the last time I saw him. My thoughts are with you.
Sincerely, Joyce Hoekstra - Optical Shop of Aspen

Ellen Monarch

July 23, 2009

Dear Carol,
We were saddened to hear of John's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Ellen and Ed Monarch Desert Horizons

Shirley Weiss

July 20, 2009

Dear Carol,I'm so sorry to hear that John is gone. He was a special kind,and caring person,with a jovial sense of humor and really enjoyed having a good time. I know he had avery good life and now he will be fondly remembered by so many friends that he had metalong the way. Kenneth and I extend our condolences to you and his family. Shirley & Ken Weiss

July 20, 2009

Carol
The last time we saw you and John you were both feeling under the weather but i think John knew that it was probably our last goodbye. Adena and I have prayed for both of you every night and now that he has passed to his great reward our prayers are for you and his family to ease the pain of his loss.

Tony and Adena DiTonno

Angel Bjerke

July 19, 2009

Dear Carol,
I'm so sorry to hear of John's passing. I will miss him very much. I will never forget the kindness you and John showed to me and my family. My boy's were very sad to hear this. They wanted you to know that they are thinking of you. I only wish I could have known him longer.
Love, Angel and Jon Bjerke, Travis, Payton and Chris Hammer

S. P.

July 19, 2009

I worked for "The Ol' Man" for many years until he retired. End of a local legend and of an era. It was an honor to have been part of it. S.P. (Sebring, FL)

July 18, 2009

Dear Ann & Helmut,
So very sorry to learn of John's death,
My sincerest condolances to the entire
McCarthy family.
Fondly,
Lenny Kaster

Elaine Eagle

July 18, 2009

John had a warmth and sincerity that few people could ever possess. He was so kind, funny and loving. I will miss the twinkle in his eyes.
Carol & John were so lucky to have a such a great love for each other.
We were all lucky to have been part of his life.

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