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Natalie Thonis
May 6, 2013
Dear Besanceney Family -
My parents were very close friends with Bud and Bobbie for many years. Bud was one of Dad's regular golf buddies. Mom and Dad spoke often of Bud and Bobbie's unyielding dedication to Babs. (When my son was born 35 years ago, Babs made a needlepoint wall hanging of his birthdate which I still have today. It is beautiful.)
I remember Bud taking vacation days on as many Fridays as he could during the warmer months so he could have long weekends on Keuka with his family.
When I told Mom I was sending her a copy of the beautiful eulogy the granddaughters wrote Mom said, "They were crazy about those girls." We thought how nice it was Laura and Chrissie put so much time and thought into their tribute.
Although there have been many friends and family members who have passed away, especially in the last few years, I can say that the passing of Bud is a particularly tough one for Mom and Dad. They had not seen Bud since he moved, but they have decades of memories while Dad and Bud both worked for Corning, raised families and shared a love for golf, the Yanks and Keuka.
(My parents are Gene and Marletta Freitas - still in Painted Post.)
Rob Besanceney
May 3, 2013
Eulogy by Bud's Granddaughters Laura and Chrissie
Bud Besanceney lived an admirable life, one that we can all take lessons from. The most important message, however, was his complete love of family and strength of character.
When we were young, we used to think of our grandparents as the most fun folks there were – mostly because they did an incredible job spoiling us. Whether it was with junk food that our mother didn't allow, piles of presents under the Christmas tree, watching “grown up” television shows or staying up late, we always garnered their full attention. They never disappointed us—when upon being told that Grandma and Grandpa might not make it for a visit because of the weather, Chrissie burst into tears. Grandpa, hearing this, drove through blizzard-like conditions to see his grandchildren. We spent many weekends with them in Elmira and at Bud's beloved Keuka Lake–just spending quiet moments talking and sailing, and louder moments splashing in the lake and driving the motor boat with Grandpa. Bud in his later years always had a smile for his great grandson Jerry and enjoyed seeing him—just like he enjoyed seeing us.
As we got older, we learned and understood more about our grandfather's past and respected him even more. He came from a poor coal mining family and was a World War II veteran. He went to business school and had a long career as a successful businessman at Corning Glass. Grandpa Bud was also able to help in allowing for his granddaughters to have the same career opportunities by helping to send both of them to college. In addition to providing for his family, Bud cared for his daughter through illness.
Someone told me just this week that he was a “true gentleman” and that truly resonated. He set the example of how to act as a husband, father, grandfather and even a great grandfather, and always emphasized the values of family. We are happy that we were able to get to know our grandfather so well and spend so much time with him; as not everyone is so lucky. We will cherish all of the time we spent together.
Bud loved his wife so much but had to spend many of his last years as a widower—and we know he struggled with this. We all miss Bobbie, as well as Aunt Babs, and wish they both could have spent more time with us. There never is a good time to lose a loving family member, much less the ones which we share so many memories, but we are all at peace with Grandpa's passing. We trust that he is now finally reunited with his beloved wife and daughter.
Bruce and Diane Elston (DuPont)
May 2, 2013
Dear Bob and family,
Sorry about your dad. I am glad he has been near you and your family these last few years. I remember hearing lots of stories when your kids were little.
Take care,
JON KREBS
May 1, 2013
Bud, I missed playing golf with you after you moved away. Thanks for the memories of working with you at Corning.
Vin Trainor
April 30, 2013
Rest in peace, Bud
Joyce Harvey
April 30, 2013
Bud was a caring wonderful person. He will be missed. I missed him when he moved away, but knew he was so happy to be with his family.
April 30, 2013
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
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