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Mary "Mollie" Bender

1930 - 2021

Mary "Mollie" Bender obituary, 1930-2021, Stanardsville, VA

BORN

1930

DIED

2021

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Ruckersville, Virginia

Mary Bender Obituary

On Monday, February 1, 2021, Mary "Mollie" Diehl Bender, 90, of Charlottesville, Virginia, passed away joining her husband, Charles S. Bender who preceded her in death in 2019. Mollie was born on August 25, 1930 in Northumberland, PA, the daughter of the late Herbert C. Diehl and Mabel Seely Diehl. Before moving to the Charlottesville area, Mollie had been a long time resident of Bowie, Md. There she participated in various choirs, choral societies, and in that capacity traveled to Europe for singing engagements. She was involved in the churches Trinity Lutheran and the First Lutheran Church of Bowie. In addition to raising her beloved children and grand-children, she raised her beloved cats. Mollie had been an employee of the SSA and FDA, retiring early for health reasons. Mollie, or Nana, is survived by her children, Beth Friedmann (Greg), Linda Boyle (Chuck) and Charles Bender; grandchildren, Alex (Pauline), Glenn and Hannah Bender, Kelly and Michael Friedmann and Eileen Boyle; great-grandchildren, Cordelia and William Bender; and many other family members and friends. She will be remembered for her caring, wit, and an impish twinkle in her eye. No memorial service is scheduled at this time.

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Published by The Capital Gazette on Feb. 18, 2021.

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Crystal Collins Piercy

February 7, 2021

I am so sorry to hear of Mollie's passing. I had the honor of getting to know Mollie and Charlie while visiting with my dad Joe, who they shared a table with at meal times. Mollie and my dad were constantly teasing each other like siblings, and looking out for each other. While my dad couldn't remember Mollie's name, he would tap on her side of the table and ask where she was if she wasn't feeling up to joining others in the dining room. Mollie looked out for me as well and would say "sweetie you look tired, you should get some rest". I have missed seeing her over the last 10 months. May memories of the past bring you comfort as you learn to navigate the world without her.

Selene Matthews

February 6, 2021

I am so sorry to hear of Mollie’s passing. She became very special to me as we visited every evening when I was with my husband. She and Charlie used to keep us laughing and I truly grew to love her. I always asked about her when talking with other family members after we left and I had hoped to be able to visit once Covid restrictions were lifted. Please know you are all in my prayers and that Mollie was a true blessing to David and me. She often looked out for him, as did Charlie.

Greg F.

February 5, 2021

God bless and keep the soul of this dear, sweet, sassy lady. I can already hear her giving Charlie heck up there.

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