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Thomas Joseph Hefferon III

1952 - 2025

Thomas Joseph Hefferon III obituary, 1952-2025, Charlotte, NC

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1952

DIED

2025

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Thomas Hefferon Obituary

Thomas Joseph Hefferon, III

January 10, 1952 - July 7, 2025

Charlotte, North Carolina - Tom Hefferon passed away peacefully at home on July 7, 2025. He was 73 years old.

Tom was born in Lincolnton, NC on January 10, 1952, to David W. Hefferon and Marjorie J. Hefferon, both deceased. He grew up in Charlotte and attended its public schools, graduating from South Mecklenburg High School in 1969. Tom went on to earn a BA in English and Philosophy at UNC-Charlotte in 1978 and then a JD from UNC-Chapel Hill School of Law in 1981. After passing the Bar, he practiced law in Charlotte until his retirement in 2021.

Early in his 40-year legal career Tom worked with several law firms, eventually founding the law firm Hefferon & Hefferon with his younger brother Paul. They practiced together for 30 years and represented hundreds of clients. In 2001, Tom was certified as a Superior Court mediator and built a robust mediation practice, mediating and arbitrating more than 500 legal disputes for other attorneys and litigants. Along the way, he developed many deep friendships with fellow attorneys, many of them former courtroom adversaries. Though a fierce advocate for his clients, Tom was a hard guy to dislike, even during the heat of battle.

In his personal life, Tom was a man of many talents and passions. Tom was a brilliant mind who spent years studying history and philosophy. He remained close friends with his professors and fellow students from the philosophy department at UNC Charlotte, hosting a Sunday morning philosophy roundtable until shortly before his death. A published author, Tom was an avowed bibliophile, taking great pride and joy in his book collection, which grew to over 5,000 books. He loved music, played the guitar and piano, and loved art, traveling, and spending time with his family. When his grandchildren came into this world, Tom took on his favorite hobby of them all – being their Pops. Always quick with a smile, a hug, or sound advice, Tom never passed up an opportunity to have fun with his grandkids. They were, and still are, his pride and joy.

In 2011, Tom was diagnosed with Stage 4 throat cancer. After a brutal round of chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery, Tom beat the odds and survived, but the long-term effects of the treatment regimen slowly accumulated and led to his retirement as a practicing attorney, and a few years later as a practicing mediator. Although cancer did significant damage to his body, it never touched his mind or his spirit, even at the very end.

Tom is survived by his wife Sylvia Hefferon, his daughter Samantha Peindl (Lee), his sons Ben Hefferon, also an attorney in Charlotte, and Tim Edwards (Danielle). He is also survived by his brothers Mike and Paul Hefferon, six loving grandchildren, Chloe, Carter, George, Lily, Spencer, and Clara, and numerous nieces and nephews. In addition to his parents, Tom is predeceased by his younger brother Johnny Hefferon, who died in 1983.

The Hefferon family will host a Celebration of Life on July 23, 2025, at 2:00 p.m. at Christ Lutheran Church, 4519 Providence Road, Charlotte, NC 28226. The family requests any donations be made to the St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. Stanly Funeral and Cremation Care of Locust is serving the Heffron family.

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Published by Charlotte Observer from Jul. 10 to Jul. 13, 2025.

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Kent Brown

July 26, 2025

I have just seen this sad news. Tom was a great guy and a terrific lawyer. He was was always thoughtful and reasoned I his approach to the law. As a fellow lawyer now retired, l will miss his friendship and warm smile.
Kent Brown

Martin Paxton

July 15, 2025

Tom,
Your journey to Ithaca is over.
Rest in peace. You will live on in the hearts of the friends and family who knew and loved you.

Macky & Connie Bundy

July 15, 2025

Sylvia,Mike,Paul,and all of family, so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. He was a good man . Tom's wit and talents were very evident when you were in his presence. His leadership in the family was strong, and well appreciated. I always enjoyed being around Tom,whether he was playing music or speaking some tidbit of wisdom. Family, stay strong and know his suffering has passed. Connie and my prayers are with you.

Steve Whitacre

July 13, 2025

I knew Tom through his brothers Mike, Paul and Johnnie. He was their big brother. I never had a big brother but if I did, I would want him to be like Tom. He set a good example and I know they all looked up to him. He was a kind and decent man. A good man. My condolences to Sylvia and all of Tom's extended family. RIP Tom

Linda Ray Massi

July 13, 2025

Mike & Paul, I was so sorry to read of your loss of Tom. Please accept my condolences in the passing of your big brother.Wishing you and your families peace and comfort in the upcoming days.

Fritz Mercer

July 12, 2025

Very sorry to hear about Tom´s passing. Great guy, accomplished attorney-a true credit to the profession, and a man with integrity and a grasp of the things that matter in life.
Fritz Mercer
Former Chief District Court Judge, and friend.

Joe Barbee

July 10, 2025

Don't know what to say that hasn't been said. He played a huge part in my life and touched in ways he never knew. Oh, the memories, priceless. "We were young once." Namaste

Kelly Steele

July 10, 2025

He was a wonderful man. I feel privileged to have known him. RIP Tom, enjoy the endless library of books in eternity. Love, Kelly

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Celebration of Life

2:00 p.m.

Christ Lutheran Church

4519 Providence Rd., Charlotte, NC 28226

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501 N. Central Ave., Locust, NC 28097

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