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for Moira Wickes
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November 21, 2011
We approach Moi's birthday once again...
gone perhap but never forgotten.
Barb Galyen
June 6, 2007
Though I never knew Moira personally, I heard her fabulous stories! I share a special friendship with Marc and her angelic sister Virginia. Just knowing the rest of her family, tells me what an incredible spirit Moira was and continues to be!
Hearing more about the professional and public tributes to her work and memory speaks for itself. Wow - what an honor.
There are no closer connections than family and dear friends. I hope her sons know that family and friends will always be there despite the passage of time. Feeling that depth of loving and connection can never be replaced. "And the greatest of these is love."
Thanks to the universe for bringing her to earth and bestowing upon this life her wonderful gifts!
John Wickes
March 9, 2007
Each anniversary if Moira's death brings great sadness for myself and my sons. I will never understand why such a good person like Moira was taken from us. But, I am buoyed by her successes with her patients, the courage of our wonderful sons, and the people who take the time to remember her. Thank you.
November 29, 2006
Young Tim got his wish as his mom’s birthday passes yet again, as it was as if she had a place at the table for our thanks-giving gathering of westcoasters. What she would say. How she would roll her eyes, toss back her hair and dig right in on whatever the topic, somehow going wide and deep simultaneously. So quick to laugh, love and cry -- sometimes all at once – and live out loud the whole gamut of emotions in between. Equally fierce in determination and loyalty.
It seems our recollection of her influence becomes stronger with each passing year. And each of these rembrances makes increasingly clear that it’s not so much what she did – as substantial and significant as that is, but rather how she did it that has such a lasting impact on us all. Not that she was perfect by any means… after all, when you read through the lives of St. Paul or St. Francis or whomever, you can see why it took centuries for them to come up with a sanitized version. The miracle of course, as she’d be the first to indicate with index finger extended, is of course the she was so human and still found a way to give her god-given gifts to those who most needed them.
It’s how we treat them that we are measured, the bible tells us. Although they have all sorts of things named after them, note how some of the most “successful” people who ever lived draw little in the way of fond remembrance, while the memory of those who made a big deal of the little things and the little ones among us is everlasting.
Rather than wondering why she’s gone I’m starting to wonder how we were so lucky to be here when she was. That thought alone will keep Moira fresh in our minds for a long time to come.
Her Sibling(s)
November 6, 2006
Dear Aunt Moira,
Please hold my sweet baby Michael close in your arms. You are both missed so much.
Kimberly Jenkins
October 7, 2006
I think about Moira on a daily basis. I was having the hardest time even coming back to this website but when I think of her beautiful smile and her strength alone it encourages me in many ways. I am still in my mind Moira's personal assistant and I am diligently and loyally keeping The Moira Tobin Wickes Orthotics Program in order. and consistent on how she have wanted it to be.(smile) I realize that all the people who love her or ever graced her presence will make it a point to fulfull her destiny and all of her visions. I will to do my best to play a significant part in carrying on her legacy. Moira changed my life in many ways by just believing in me. Everyday when i see my daughter Ki'Moira runnning around, never tired, continuosly smiling, i know that it is truly power in a name and her spirit lives on. I love you (my Moira) and I always will. I have plenty of things to tell and teach my daughter about you!!!!!
Michael Tobin
March 9, 2006
MOIRA'S DAY
March 10
On this morning of mournings I want to let you know I am thinking of my brothers and sisters. We are less by subtraction. No God nor anybody else, can sell me any different. However, and together we have the will to move on, to go forward. Together, we will go to a place that is free of guilt and free of sorrow. And it will be a place full of promise of that which is yet to come.
I have to admit that Moira was my girl. She had many other fans from all points around the globe. She had a great husband and family of great five boys. This was Moira's great accomplishment. One look at any of the boys and you will see Moira's stamp. I was always regarded her as my friend even though we saw each other not enough.
She was a beauty. Always on cue. Always focused, even when she was hospitalized in intensive care with a dew rag on from chemo therapy, she greeted me every day like she was running for mayor.
I had a lot of laughs with Moira in my life and in hers. I can remember almost every one. But right now I remember the days we spent in her hospital room. The nurses would say "no admittance, not today", but I was always hard of hearing, and Moira was a rebel, and loved that I made it through it somehow. We would talk for an hour, mostly about the continuing Tobin soap opera. At the end of every session Moira would say to me, "Okay Mike, no more gossip about the family" and I would say, "Well Moira what ever would we talk about". And she would laugh. And I would say good night, and pass thirty five people on the way to the elevator who had no idea.
I LOVE YOU MOIRA AND I LOVE ALL MY BROTHER'S AND SISTER'S AND MY MOM AND DAD.
Love,
Your brother Michael Tobin
Brigid Driscoll
March 7, 2006
March 7, 2006
Not a day passes where you are not in my thoughts. With March 10th approaching the thoughts are even more, and your name is heard throughout the day. We are all working so hard to keep your dreams alive, and the kids are doing great. You have taught me so much, and I still find myself turning to you to find the answers. My friend Erin, who has been my friend for 32 years, finally convinced me that you would be so sad to know that I am still so sad. So in true Moira fashion I was told to put a smile back on my face and celebrate March 10th every year. This tradition started last year with Erin in Atlanta and this year will be in San Francisco. There will surely be a toast to Moira this friday. You are still the first person I say good morning to when I walk into the office, and the last person I say good night to when leaving. Thank you for being such an inspiration. I miss you so much, but I know you are still always there when I need you.
I love you Moira!
Brig
Clara Prouty
November 29, 2005
We feel so lucky that we were able to have a small piece of Moira while she was on this earth. We met her because my son went through the casting program and I can honestly say she was able to bring so much positivity to an otherwise stressful situation. We are forever appreciative of the care and sensitivity that she showed our family. My heart goes out to her family and those who knew her best. Thank you Moira.
Your Sibling(s)
April 9, 2005
This year's March 12th passed with less fanfare but more appreciation of the lasting legacy of your work and family -- the two outlets for your love.
It passed with stronger-but-quieter remembrance of how your life continues to affect how we each choose to live.
It also brought increasing appreciation for the messages spread through your vocational pursuit: that healing happens; that hope makes a difference; and that courage is not the absence of fear but rather the willingness to face it.
Maybe it also brings better understanding for why you lived at such an incredibly fast pace: in her bobbin' along perhaps our own Red, Red Robbin knew that although our possibilities are indeed infinite, the opportunities to "live, love, laugh and be happy...." are shockingly finite.
As each of your boys join their father in manhood, your imprint is obvious and inspiration remains strong.
Thanks to dedicated co-workers, the model you helped shape widens in application.
And your siblings and inlaws, nephews and nieces, cousins, colleagues and friends all try a little harder to follow your recommendation to put a little more OOMPH!!! into it, knowing well that your vigilant eye is now everpresent.
That your impact spread from 16 siblings to 1,600 attendees at your Life Celebration to whereever is might go from here is yet another reminder of the power of one person to make a difference.
For all that and oh! so much more, we remain eternally grateful.
Love,
Moira's sister
October 28, 2004
I and many of my family members continue to have dreams about Moira, and we're amazed at how consistent she is in her new "life" as she was here on Earth. In our dreams she is smiling and re-assuring us. And, in typical Moi fashion, she's always showing up when we most need her.
She's told some of us that she's "fine" or that she's "happy." Or when we ask her if she's really here, she says "YES! I'm here!" And most often and most like her, she tells us "everything is going to be OK!"
We hear you, Moi, and we're still listening and we still need you... STAY IN TOUCH. We love you!
Moira's sister
October 28, 2004
To the UCP Women's Board: Thank you, thank you, thank you for honoring Moira by recognizing her work, and for providing yet another proud "Moira moment" for her entire family. We are truly grateful.
John Tobin
October 21, 2004
I miss Moira very much.
I am one of Moira's ten brothers and she is one of my seven sisters. She is the 7th child and I am the 11th. Moira was born after a string of 4 boys and followed by a string of another 4 boys. I believe this birth order contributed to Moira's people skills.
More important were her parents, Frank and Noreen Tobin and her husband John Wickes. From my perspective, the good works Moira was able to do were made possible by and a direct reflection of the constant love, support and guidance of her parents and her husband John.
Tomorrow, 10/22/04, Moira will be a posthumous recipient of the Community Leadership Award presented by the United Cerebral Palsy of Greater Chicago. Reading all the wonderful entries in the Tribune guest book and watching the PBS videos give me a clear understanding of why she will receive this award.
Moira's extended family will be gathering in Chicago this week-end to celebrate her life.
Moira was a second mother to me. My earliest memories are of her and her Queen of Angels elementary school girl friends giving me kisses in the front hall of our Artesian Avenue, North-side Chicago home. From there on it is not any specific memory but rather Moira always "checking in" with no formalities. "How's it going?" "Tell me what's up." Always cutting to the chase and in a few seconds getting to the heart of where I was at the time.
Moira was always the fun-loving leader of the pack, always a people person wise beyond her years. She never took herself or any else too seriously.
Her concern for others was ever present. Her relationship with me was always one on one, unique, and it continues the same to this day.
I LOVE YOU MOI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
From Your Sibling(s)
March 7, 2004
MOIRA’S RE-BIRTH DAY
It’s either a day or a decade
Can’t be just a year!
How many remembrances?
How many a tear?
You left oh! so quickly
Yet still seem quite near.
When we wonder: “Can I do it?”
Your “yes!!” still rings clear.
When those cliffs that we’re facing
Seem most dauntingly sheer,
We get reminded, and hold
Our fond memories more dear.
Like how if we forgot
How to get into gear,
You'd be there with a smile
And swift kick in the rear.
Or at the end, when we all tried
To bring you good cheer,
It was YOU who told US
There was nothing to fear.
So whenever life’s looming
Challenges now appear,
I feel my chances are good
'Cause you’re so close to God’s ear.
Your spirit still guides us
As on our path we steer,
Always wishing – nay knowing
That you’re always here.
March, 2004
Megan Wickes
December 11, 2003
As I have looked through this site I have realized how much my aunt has touched the lives of so many people. I think it is truly remarkable the effect she had on people once you got to know her. She has five locing and caring sons that show that.
Aleatha` Hoff
December 3, 2003
I could not come to the memorial service and truly wanted to be there. I was traveling on business. I think of Moira often and feel very fortunate to have known her. My daughter is a patient at Childrens and of the orthotics department. Taylor will go in for casts a third time in March -- which is going to be very hard for us. I just wanted you to know that I too think of Moira and even though we had a patient/professional relationship she was very special and made Taylor feel like a winner. Knowing Moira and her passing has had such a profound impact on me -- one that I can not explain or did not expect. Simply put, a testament of just how special Moira is. Your family is in my family's thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Aleatha Hoff
Her Brother(s)
November 26, 2003
Another milestone goes by for us with the celebration of Moira's birthday.
She continues to grow/give and teach/nurture. Her bright eyes and sweet smile continues to lighten our load and enlighten our path.
And we all continue to blaze that path rather than follow the trail, emboldened by her experience and example.
It is one of the great gifts of life that those candles that don't burn long burn brightest.
With her birthday always coming around Giving-Thanks time, we now have one more reason to feel blessed.
As we reflect back on her childhood, her wedding, her work and her terrific family, we can better recognize our opportunities to appreciate what we have while we still do.
Thanks for that too, Moi.
Hip-Hip-Horray!!!
Ryan Johnson
May 24, 2003
She was wonderful with my sons serial casting for club foot. A great lady.
Lena Ann (Lupica) Dicken
May 16, 2003
Would like to extend our condolences to Moira's mother and father, Frank and Noreen Tobin. Frank was in my class throughout grade and high school. We attended the Memorial Service yesterday for Moira here in Phoenix. It was a beautiful service. We didn't know Moira, but from all we've heard, you can be truly proud of her, as you can of all your children. You have a beautiful family! God give you the strength and courage to know His will! Hope you and Noreen are doing well! Hope we have a 60th class reunion, as we missed seeing you at the Memorial Service. Cliff and Ann Dicken
Rosina French
May 14, 2003
I will always remember your laughter...it is the laughter of our youth.
a friend
April 30, 2003
"To laugh often and much,
to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children,
to earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrtayal of false friends,
to appreciate beauty...to find the best in others,
to leave the world a better place...whether bby a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition, to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived...this is to have succeeded".
from Ralph Waldo Emerson
Tim Sterling
April 19, 2003
Moira, I shall always think of you playing your flute. Your wonderful family will miss your smiling face, but your incredible body of lifes work will continue to help many people well into the future.
April 14, 2003
"We are travelers on a cosmic journey--stardust, swirling and dancing in the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. But the expressions of life are ephemeral, momentary, transient.
As Gautama Buddha once said:
'This existence of ours is as transient as autumn clouds. To watch the birth and death of beings is like looking at the movements of a dance. A lifetime is like a flash of lightening in ths sky, rushing by like a torrent down a steep mountain.'
We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment, but it is transient. It is a little parenthesis in eternity. If we share with caring, lightheartedness and love, we will create abundance and joy for each other. And then this moment will have been worthwhile."
quote from Deepak Chopra
Tobin Sister
April 9, 2003
From the start and until the very end, you showed us the way...to love, laugh and cry with abandon.
We thank God for the time that we had you here with us. Far too short, but just long enough to bring the wonderful John and your five beautiful boys into our lives. Our blessings...
Don't know how we will bear up without you down here. Our only consolation is knowing you are with us, always and everywhere.
A few weeks ago, one of our youngest family members said, "I can't talk to her, but if I whisper she can hear me." Well, Moi, get ready. The whisper campaign has begun. In our darkest and finest hours, and all those in between, we will be whispering.
Thanks for being such a great big sister.
Moira's Family
April 5, 2003
www.Moiratobinwickes.com is on-line
Idaliza Morales
April 4, 2003
It is a terrible loss. Our thoughts are with you. We will always keep her in our prayers. My son's name is Jose, he was the one that Moira removed the casts on a Christmas morning, after his sister gave him a bath in them, We'll always remember her. THANK YOU
Hatch Toffey
April 4, 2003
It is an inspiration to us all to know of someone who has accomplished so much with her family, vocation and spiritual side. Many of complain we have no time. Others use the time they have to the maximum. At a time when we see such misery around us and are feeling less than optimistic about the human condition, Moira is a beacon to what the human spirit can accomplish.
Michelle Rose
April 2, 2003
My son Justin and I met Moira about three years ago. My son Justin is 13 years old and has cerebral palsy. We drove all the way from Dayton, OH to have her make Justin's braces for his legs. From the minute I met her there was an instant bond as I'm sure she had with all people she met. She was the kindest and most caring person I have ever met. She went out of her way for us everytime we came to see her and made sure that we didn't have to wait long because of the long drive home for my son. We were at the hospital today for an appointment and I realized when I walked in that it wasn't the same. I wanted her to come around the corner and say "hi guys" It broke my heart when I first heard of Moira's illness and prayed everyday for her recovery. We missed her yesterday and today and will miss her forever. She was a person that makes an impact in your life for whatever reason, through her work, her smile, her personality or her tremendous amount of energy. My son is non verbal but I could tell he loved her and smiled at the sight of her. Everytime we saw Moira she always spoke so highly of her children and family, I never had the opportunity to meet them but I saw their pictures and know that they are special because they came from her.
In conclusion, we will never, never forget her and she will remain in our hearts forever. Our hearts go out to her family and through reading this web page I can see why she was the wonderful person that she was. God bless all of you!!
Michelle S. Rose and Justin Rose
A Friend
April 1, 2003
"Empty your mind of all thoughts.
Let your heart be at peace.
Watch the turmoil of beings
and contemplate their return.
Each separate being in the universe
returns to the common source.
Returning to the common source
is called serenity.
If you do not realize the common source
you stumble in confusion and sorrow.
When you realize where you come from
you naturally become tolerant,
disinterested, amused
kindhearted as a grandmother,
dignified as a king.
When you become immersed in The Way
you can deal with whatever life brings you,
and when death comes you are ready."
Lao Tzu
600 B.C.
MOIRA: You were, as always, ready and now are once
again charting the path for the rest of us to follow.
Your latest adventure certainly is making the rest of us to pay better attention, remain always appreciative, stay calmer, and be more forgiving of ourselves and others.
Thanks for that too.
Sue Bernero-Mertens
March 30, 2003
Mr. and Mrs. Tobin, I lived across the street from your wonderful family on Artesian. Noreen and I were best friends for many years and Frank and I were in the same grade at Queen's. I remember so many sweet, funny, precious moments of Moira'a childhood. How you bobbed her beautiful red hair with just your hands and a brush, how she'd run down the street to meet papa coming home from the el, how she wanted to do everything Noreen and I did. And then I met her again at your home when I visited with you and Frank last year at Christmas. Her smile hadn't changed in 40 years. My prayers are with all of you.
Sandra Sansone Brennan
March 28, 2003
As I was glancing through the newspaper on March 12th I noticed the name of someone that I thought I probably had in class back in 1965.....I don't know of any other person by the name of Moira Tobin, and I believe she is the person I knew. I taught 4th grade at Queen of Angels School during the 1965-1966 school year. I very much remember darling Moira in class. She had the most beautiful red hair....and had a most precious loving personality that one could not forget.
I am sorry to hear of her death.....I remember her gentleness and soft spoken ways. May her family always keep her in their hearts. My dearest sympathies to her family.
Sandra Sansone Brennan
Louisa Cabot Myers
March 27, 2003
What a beautiful, meaningful life.
"To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die"
Audra Tobin
March 26, 2003
Winter Break, 1998
I was headed out to Edge Water Beach to spend the night with the Wickes boys. I was filled with excitment, and anticipation knowing that I was going to have a wonderful time with my cousins. My Dad dropped me off at Aunt Moira and Uncle John's old apartment on the ninth floor. The minute I walked in, my first move was to run to Steve and John's bedroom (but first saying hello to Aunt Moira and Uncle John of course). To my disappointment the boys were already downstairs at the pool, and what are the odds that I forgot to bring my bathing suit with me. Without hesitation Aunt Moi offered her bathing suit for me to use, and I quickly excepted the offer. Somehow, Unbelieveably... Aunt Moira's bathing suit fit me, and I was only in the 6th grade (hard to believe that her little body was the same size as me at age twelve)!! As soon as I was changed Aunt Moira brushed and put my hair up in a pony tail so it wouldn't get tangled in the water. As soon as she was done brushing my hair, I immediately turned around and started playing with her hair as well. We got so carried away with eachother that soon enough the boys had already come back from the pool, and it was dinner time.
The next day (after a night of playing and laughing with my cousins), Aunt Moi took me out to get a manicure for the first time with Aunt Virginia. Never did I actually feel that certain, undescribable feeling till that day. After a long day of getting pampered with our manicures, Aunt Moira and I rested on the family room couch talking and visiting. She told me how much she loved me, and how nice it was to play with our hair, and nails (something she usually didn't do with all her neices). I went to the city to spend one night there, I found myself spending the rest of my winter break with the Wickes family. I really didn't realize how important that day was until now. Aunt Moira loved all her boys everlasting, but she told me how much she loved having a girl around the house sometimes. And I loved being that girl.
I am a proud neice of my Aunt Moira, A proud God Daughter of my Aunt Moira, but most of all I am proud of Moira, and all her accomplishments. Never could I think that just one person can literally change the lives of so many. Never could I think that someone could do so much in the time she was with us. It is an honor to say that Moira was my Aunt and Godmother, and never will I forget that.
Grandma told me that God has a plan for everything, and that God must want Aunt Moira to be with him. Can you only imagaine the amount of desire God has for her?
Patricia Trese Rogel
March 25, 2003
WHAT A WOMAN ! Six years ago I started working side-by-side with Moira. She ran circles around me! She truly was THE most energetic, productive person I've ever met. I would go home exhausted and fall asleep immediately...wondering how in the world she still had the energy for her five boys, husband, swim meets, family reunions, etc. I wonder how we'll ever do it without her here.
Now I come to work and look at the absolutely beautiful department that she built. I'm sad that she was not able to enjoy it, as I do. She grew it from a basement closet to this gorgeous, sprawling lakeview clinic. I really keep expecting to hear the rapid 'clip-clip-clip' walk as she comes in the door with a big smile.
Aside from work, she was so very supportive of my new family. She was the first person (other than my mom and husband) who I told when I was expecting my first child. I think it was that way with everyone ... she was a true goddess of family and children. She always gave good advice and support.
This doesn't even scrape the surface. I miss her terribly, but rejoice in the wonderful time we shared.
Peace and Love to John, John Jr., Steve, Tim, Eddie, and Robert.
Love, Pat
Jocelyn Tobin
March 24, 2003
The story I will tell my children about Aunt Moira will begin with the day we had to say goodbye.
Holy Name Cathedral was reserved for a private mass to begin at 1:00 on that chilly March 12th afternoon, but the crowds began to gather outside at 12:00. Five hundred copies of a program were made, and handed out at the door. Those five hundred copies were gone by 12:30. As we waited outside among friends, family and strangers- I began to realize- Moira meant something to each one of these people. She had touched the lives of each person standing there, and suddenly those strangers did not seem so unfamiliar. We watched as Children's Memorial Hospital dropped off busloads of people coming to pay their respects- nurses, doctor's and patients alike. It was touching to see so many people.
As we filed into the church I watched my grandfather, FX Tobin. In typical Tobin fashion, he stood as a pillar of strength greeting each person at the door. We took our seats and the ceremony began. I sat close to my Uncle Frank hoping to comfort him- as he in turn, comforted me. I tried to listen closely to each word spoken, careful not to miss a thought. Yet I couldn't help but get lost in her photo's on the altar. Was she smiling at everyone or just me?
Just when I felt myself slipping deeper into my tears, father Watts spoke out to the crowd. "People standing in the back- Come on in!" he cheered. I turned around to see that the crowd in church had spilled from seats, to standing room, and even out the door. In that moment, my tears of sorrow turned to wonder. She had sold out the cathedral!
What I did not know until that day, is what I know now. Our Aunt Moira helped to change the world. I realized then, that we hardly knew what a hero Moira was, until she was gone. She was more then a hero, she was a healer. I can say for sure now, that she was smiling at us from that altar. This time was a celebration of her young life. It was a fantastic celebration indeed.
Moira, I will miss your laugh, but I will keep your photos. Thank you for smiling. I will miss your kiss, but I hold dear each kiss you ever gave. I will miss your touch, but I am grateful to know you touched so many. I am so proud of the time I had with you, thank you for loving me so much. Your legacy will live on through your boys, who have proved to be strong men. I love them as I love you- endlessly
Diane (Jennings) Tobin
March 23, 2003
Another "outlaw" perspective:
I sit here, staring at the computer screen for what must be the tenth time this week. Somehow, each time I start to write this message I read my words and erase the message. I know that I am not alone in the challenge of trying to put my emotions and memories into words.
I am confident I will today because I am speaking not only on my own behalf but also on behalf of the Jennings family.
The Jennings family: Ross and Mary Lou Jennings, Elisabeth and Darcy Gowing and family, and Susan Jennings and Dan Nicol and son wish to extend their deepest sympathies and love to the Wickes and Tobin families.
My parents Ross and Mary Lou, and my sister Susan remember Moira as a driving force in including them in family activities during the week of our wedding. Although she was busy with two small children, Moi kept a keen eye on the Jennings group to make sure they were taken care of -- and kept after me to make sure that I had eaten.
Mary Lou would write this herself, but as she told her grandson Kevin, she has yet to master the remote control, let alone learn how to use a computer.
In a phone conversation this morning, my sister Elisabeth marveled at the number of people that Moira had touched in her life. She said that to have a legacy like Moira has is so rare and precious. To know that Moira has helped so many children learn to walk has earned Moira a spot in their hearts forever.
This "outlaw" has so many great memories of Moira. Moi fussed over me on a regular basis. Most recently, she was worried about my wrists and had already begun planning to design special wrist braces for me. Imagine that, with all that she had been through and just days before beginning the bone marrow transplant, Moi was reviewing the do's and don't of carpal tunnel with me. What an amazing woman. When my children were sick Moira would lend support. I can hear hear her saying, "ice chips, Di", anytime my children had fevers. I could always count on her for a boost to my spirits.
As I finish this, Erin is sitting on my lap. She loves her Aunt Moira. Erin joins the Moiras as a child who sucked her middle fingers as a baby and continues to wear her socks inside out so that the seams don't bother her toes.
To John, John, Jr., Steve, Timmy, Eddie and Robert, I love you. Please let me know if there is anything that I can do for you.
To Noreen and Frank, all my brothers and sisters (in-laws) and all my fellow "outlaws", I love you.
Diane
Pat Brown
March 23, 2003
I wish to convey my deepest sympathies to Moira's family. You were her life, and I know that her spirit remains every bit as devoted to you now as it always has been.
I first met Moira at Children's in 1979, when she wasn't much more than a kid herself. "Bum hoof, huh?" she said. "Okay, let's get this thing fixed up." And into the whirlpool it went. We were instant friends - me, Moira, and that bum hoof. While I'm sure that we all have different tales of our initial meeting with Moira, each of us undoubtably came away from that first meeting with a smile.
Years later, as a weekend volunteer, I was fortunate to once again cross paths with Moira. She could do about nine things at once, and we would talk, laugh, and crack jokes as she busied herself with the other eight tasks. I don't really recall the words we exchanged - those seem to fade beside the recollection of that brilliant aura of hers.
Today, I continue to draw upon the energy of those warm, happy memories as I gently weave the tapestry that is my life. And one day, when it comes time for me to pass along that tapestry, be sure to examine it closely. You may notice a fine bit of detail that is woven from but a few precious strands that positively glow with joy and wit, compassion and strength - and they may even seem a bit familar to you, as well they should. Because they're a gift from Moira.
God Bless, Moira. And thank you.
Gene O'Neill III
March 21, 2003
In moments like these, I always hoped to encapsulate my sentiments in a raw and eloquent manner. But I’m still not sure what they are, and when I need it most, language proves far too inefficient as I try to conceptualize who my Aunt Moira was and the love I had for her. I have memories of her, but like a painting you gazed upon, or a song you heard when you were driving home alone one night, you’re itching to tell others about it, but something will always get lost in the translation. I have memories of her, and all of the people I love, and no matter where they are now, though I may see them everyday or never again, I can smile, content that I have those memories that are just for me. They make up the footprints of love, and with this great big family, I’m secure in the knowledge that when I look, they’ll always be back there. My heart goes out to the Wickes family, they were always the first thing I thought about when I pictured Chicago. And the second thing was that pizza place down the street from them because, man, that was some good pizza.
Kathleen Keenan
March 20, 2003
Moira, We Heartily Knew Ye
A Tribute from Children’s Memorial Staff
When God made Moira
He threw away the mold,
thought better of it
then recast it in
…her five sons…
…the husband, family and friends
she walked the earth with…
…the minions of children
she gave wings to
by strengthening
both limbs and hopes…
the amazing P.T. / R.S./Orthotics Teams
who work miracles, magic and
create memories daily at each others’ sides.
She taught all of us to
stand a little straighter,
live a little louder,
laugh a little longer,
love a little stronger,
to use our talents widely and wildly,
to live each day like it’s our first and last,
to remember adults have tickle spots
just like kids,
and to touch them often and joyously
in ourselves and others…
she taught young people not just how to walk
but how to reach for the stars…
a child’s first steps were often
tumbling into Moira’s arms.
Moira was an I.V. to the soul…
she was spirit and sunlight
sutured to bone,
she was there to support you,
and to tell you when it was time
to stand on your own.
Grief is an imprecise science,
we will all miss our cherished colleague
in deep and diverse ways,
for she taught us to live with
velocity and voracity,
vivacity and veracity…
But for now, I’d like to
think of her
pioneering this passage
that we’ll all travel,
with a high-kick into the sky,
shimmering us with stars,
passing the torch to us
flame first,
then tumbling into God’s arms.
My favorite picture of Moira
is one that’s blurred,
it shows her in motion,
motoring down the halls
a kid crazy-glued to her hip,
talking to / touching
everyone along the way.
When God called Moira back home
He threw away the mold,
thought better of it
and recast it,
it’s here in everyone who carries on her magic,
her passion for children,
her love of family,
her faith that all things
are possible,
her enduring love for Children’s Memorial
and all that it holds.
She will never be far,
Look just down the hall,
where blur becomes vibration,
becomes energy,
becomes Moira,
forever boundless
in our hearts and souls.
Trudi Manning Burns
March 20, 2003
I am a member of "one of the other large northside families". I attended The Immaculata with Moira. I spent the night at the Tobin home while visiting my cousins in Arizona after graduating from highschool. We spent the day in the mountains --- memories are great. When I happened upon the PBS documentary, I was proud to know her. I, too, can relate to your loss, having lost three siblings at young ages, the most recent of which was my sister, Maggi, who was a nurse anesthetist and gave it her all to beat ovarian cancer. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Noreen O'Neill
March 20, 2003
The second week without Moira is even harder than the first. She was my hero, my little sister. ONE of the amazing things about her was her complete humility. She never made a big deal about her talent or accomplishments. Our Moira would have been completely astounded at the packed cathedral last Wednesday. "Honor comes to those who seek it not." She lives for me in the faces of her handsome sons, John, Steve, Tim, Eddie and Robert, and in the eyes of her wonderful husband, John. My heart is with you all every minute of the day.
Lara Cummings
March 19, 2003
To Moira and her family,
I first met Moira when I was Timmy's preschool teacher at Chicago's Child. I knew Moira was amazing then, but throughout her short life she became even more amazing. She touched so many lives. I feel so happy and proud to have known her. My thoughts are with you all.
Alana Merlau
March 19, 2003
To the Tobin Wickes Family..
I worked with Moira as a patient. I have many memories of her. She was determined to help me walk before my First Holy Communion when I was in grade school. On behalf of the Merlau family our prayers are with you.
p.s Thank you Moira for your time and committment.
Gail P
March 19, 2003
Your family is in all of our thoughts and prayers. Remember she is always in your hearts and will always look down on you and smile. From all of us at Graystar Coroporation
The Heneghan Family
March 18, 2003
Dear Wickes and Tobin Families,
We would like to extend our deepest sympathies to your family. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. Hopefully the following prayer will give you some comfort.
God Bless,
TOGETHERNESS - An Irish Prayer
Death is nothing at all ...
I have only slipped into the next room
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way in which you always used to.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, talk to me.
Let my name be the household word it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was, there is absolutely unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of your mind, because I am out of your sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around
the corner.
All is well, nothing is passed, nothing is lost.
One brief moment, and all will be as it was before ... only better ...
infinitely happier ... and forever we will be one, together in eternity.
Colin Murphy
March 18, 2003
Dear Stephen,
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, and I hope you are staying strong. Keep Fighting!
Anthony Brenner
March 18, 2003
Heaven's gain is earth's loss.
Jen and Jim Sampson
March 17, 2003
Your family is in our thoughts and prayers.
Love, Jen and Jim Sampson
Moira O'Neill
March 17, 2003
Aunt Moira and I have much more in common than our names. We shared everything from our habit of sucking the two middle fingers on our right hand as an infant, to how we turned our socks inside out so the seam wouldn't bother us. I to look up to her, not only because she was taller than me, but as a role model. I love her very much, and I will continue to pray for her and to her.
Gene O'Neill
March 17, 2003
From an "Outlaw" perspective....
I'll always think of Moi as "other-oriented"...Whenever we happily assembled at one of our recent gatherings, I can see her sitting poolside with one eye watching out for all the kids. She and John came to New York and stayed with GeneIII when Sean was born. In recent years, Moira offered the expert expensive services of a noted plastic surgeon--gratis, for Gene's arm scar.(Don't know if he/she knew of this donation, but Moira would have arranged it, I'm sure if desired). When Noreen came to Chicago for the bone marrow check, she told Moira that I'd been in a car accident and suffered a compressed disc. Anti-inflammatories were proscribed and some physical therapy. Moira gave strict instructions for Noreen to relay to me. Don't overdo the exercises, no lifting weights, cold rather than warm compresses etc. Even when she was gravely ill, still thinking of others.(Or long distance nagging--both appreciated)
To John, John, Steven, Tim, Eddie and Robert, I offer the following; borrowing from the Bard and transposing some lines of Juliet's about Romeo...
Come, gentle night; come, loving, black-browed night.
Give us our Moira, and when she shall die
Take her and cut her out in little stars
And she will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
and pay no worship to the garish sun
Kim Hellstern LaDeur
March 17, 2003
I was saddened to read of Moira's passing. My memories of Moira and the Tobin family go back to Welles Park, Queen of Angels School and the years just before the family moved to Arizona. Moira was a kind and gentle person then and from what I've read she used those wonderful attributes to make a real difference to many people. You are all in my prayers.
Frank Tobin
March 17, 2003
Dear Tobin & Wickes Family & Friends:
Moira, My little "steel magnolia," now blossoms in a better place.
I know I speak on behalf of the Wickes and Tobin family when I acknowledge the following:
To our beloved brother-in-law, John, Moira's husband and life partner, thank you for your dignity, grace and courage in all that you have endured since November and thank you for your unconditional love for Moira and for making all of Moira's dreams come true;
To John and Moira's sons, THE FIVE
FABULOUS WICKES BOYS -- John, Jr., Steve, Tim, Master Ed and Robert, thank you for your courage in getting through these difficult days, and the love you have always shown your mom, our dear sister Moira;
To Moira and John's parents, Frank and Noreen, and Steve and Catherine, thank you for all the love you have shown all of us, for your example, for living your lives in the true spirit of the Judeo Christian tradition, and for teaching us, and everyone, what family really means;
To my surviving 15 Tobin siblings and their spouses, although the magic circle has been broken, we will always remember Moira and miss her forever; to my sister Kathy, the bone marrow donor for Moira, who was our shining light through every awful minute of this tragedy;
To the next generation of the Tobin family, the nearly four dozen Tobin cousins, led by Bob (Marliene), Katie (Don), Brian, Karl, Theona, Jocelyn, and on down the line, who, by their leadership, presence, their humour, and their love, helped all of us, and most of all their Wickes cousins, to deal with this unbearable pain; You all will carry the memory and legacy of Moira to the next 40 generations of Tobins;
To Father Wayne, Msgr. Cardiff and Father Keneally, who gave us the strength to get through Wednesday's beautiful service;
To all of our cousins, the Tobins, Mayers and Carruths from Ohio, the Bangerts from California, the Gillespies, Reidy, Flaherty and O'Neill families from Chicago, thank you for your presence and your love;
To all of the Tobin family friends, the Maier and Kussman families from Queen of Angels, Moira's friends from Phoenix(Mary and Mike and others), the swim team families, the neighbors from EBA and all of the other member's of Moira and John's community of friends, who by their presence, testified to the achievements of this great woman;
To the administration, teaching staff and alumnae of Mundelein College, you guided, nurtured and loved Moira;
To the staff of the Oncology Department of Northwestern Hospital, thank you for your care and love for my sister;
To the staff of Children's Memorial Hospital of Los Angeles, thank you for inspiring and supporting Moira's great work so that she could reach the heights she did;
To God, you have shouted and now we have listened, as Father Wayne says. Thank you for giving our family the strength to get through this week and to bear this unbearable loss for the rest of our lives.
Frank Tobin, Jr.
Denis/Margaret O'Keefe
March 17, 2003
What an inspiring, wonderful woman she was. We will remember her and the Tobin family in our prayers.
Margaret(1st grade teacher,SFX)
and Denis O'Keefe
Deborah McWhinney
March 17, 2003
To all of the Tobin's...Kathleen's friends in Tiburon send our LOVE!
Clara Tobin
March 16, 2003
I have many happy memories about Aunt Moira. I will always miss her warm, welcoming smile when we visited her,and her tears when we left Chicago. We will always remember her in our prayers. I love you Aunt Moira, and I always will!
joan black
March 16, 2003
John
We were so sad to hear about Moira. I don't have to tell you what she meant to Nick all those years ago. While you taught him to ride his bike only Moira and her miracles could make him walk. She was truly our angel on earth and, for a while, a part of our family.I can't imagine what Nick would have been like without Moira. My thoughts are with you and your wonderfu boys that she loved so much. Perhaps she was so special that God couldn't do without her. Our thoughts are with you and with Moira.......We will never forget her.
Joan Black
Kathleen Tobin
March 16, 2003
I 2nd our brother Mike's family thank you for everyone's kind words and thoughts for Moira.
Moira's nieces and nephews are in the process of creating a website: moiratobinwickes.com. It should be live in a few days. It will feature the Chicago Tribune article, highlights of the memorial service, special photos, etc.
Below is a copy of Moira's eulogy. The words are reflected in the various lovely notes that the fans of Moira have posted.
Eulogy:
My name is Kathleen Tobin. I am Moira's sister. I have the great privilege of delivering Moira’s eulogy on be half of our family.
Before I get started I wanted to share a family nickname for Moira. About 10 years ago, our brother Frank started calling her our steel magnolia. Strong as steel, pretty as a flower.
The Title of this eulogy is:
The Spirit of Moira.
In the words of Moira’s oldest son, John Tobin Wickes we are all here today to honor and rejoice the life of Moira Tobin Wickes. We are not here to mourn. If she were here she would tell us to put a smile on our faces.
Today I can’t help but reflect on the happiest day of Moira’s life. And that was the day Moira married John------or as she called him at various times, Senor (Senior), Daddio or quite eloquently, Johno.
John is the love of Moira's life. Her face that day was simply radiant and she had a glow that remained with her until her very last moment. Moira’s final words on Sunday were, tell John I love him.
Back to that wedding day. Moira was in her element. In their own style she and John made a wedding party of 25 seem perfectly normal. Anyone with the name Tobin or Wickes marched down that isle. It was their trademark way of making everyone feel included.
The most amazing part of that memory is that the friends and family that were there on August 27th 1983 are here today or are in heaven with Moira celebrating her arrival. Every year with the endless lives they both touched, the circle continued to grow and now fills this Cathedral. Together they could move mountains---- and they did.
The 2nd highlight of Moira’s life was actually a string of 5 days: The births of her five wonderful sons, John Jr., Steve, Tim, Master Ed and Robert. John Jr. was of course named after….Senor. Steve after John’s father. Tim, Ed and Robert after Moira’s brothers. Moira always believed that the greatest gift you could a child was the gift of a name of someone you admire.
Boys, you are her pride joy. When she was in the hospital she often said she loved looking down at the Northwestern Women’s Hospital because it reminded her of her greatest achievement, being your mother.
Her love is endless; it will travel with you, she will continue to be your greatest cheerleader. You will hit heights she never did but dreamed you would. She will be your protector and your guiding light. Make her proud by believing there is nothing you can’t do. And as always, continue to encourage and inspire one another. You are a band of five brothers. You are unstoppable.
It’s just amazing that in Moira’s short life how many lives she touched in so many ways. From her glorious smile, cheerful hello, continual encouragement of “yes you can” to giving a child the chance to walk. Giving parents not only the hope that their child will walk but creating--- with her team at Children’s ---- a way that they can.
If Moira were here today, there is not a doubt in my mind that she would come up here scoot me out of the way say to all of you, thank you.
John and the boys, thank you for an incredible life of love and happiness.
To parents Noreen and Frank Tobin and Stephen and Catherine Wickes, Thank you for your incredible example of unconditional love and support that knew no boundaries.
Her brothers, sisters, in-laws and niece and nephews, thank you for the journey. I had the great pleasure of sharing my life with you. And I loved every minute of it.
Cousins on all sides, when I didn’t think it could get better than having 16 brothers and sisters, you showed me how.
The staff at Children’s, thank you for giving me and our team the opportunity to push the medical boundaries by pursuing non-surgical ways to get children walking.
My wonderful professors at Mundelein and my dear friends from Chicago and Phoenix Arizona, thank you for incredible friendships, you added so many wonderful dimensions to my life and I am eternally grateful.
And Moira, now we, thank you. We thank you for your love and support and treating each of us like we were the only one in the room. You continued to put us before you. Your “Oh sure, no problem” attitude always lightened our load.
We are thankful that you gave the fight of your life to stay to here with us.
You deserve now to be in God’s Kingdom where there is so no suffering and pain. We love you and know that your sprit will always be with us and we are all individually better people because we knew you.
May God hold you in his hands and his light continue to shine through you to us.
On a final note, on behalf of all of us here today, I would like to thank the Oncology staff at Northwestern. You really out did your selves. We are grateful for every extra day you gave us with Moira. God Bless you and your work.
May the spirit of Moira live within all of us forever.
Moi, you made it to the finish line with such dignity and grace. Everyone, please join me in our family cheer: Hip, Hip Hooray! Hip, Hip Hooray! Hip, Hip Hooray!
Thank you.
Debra & Steven Parsow
March 16, 2003
To Frank & Noreen,
Our deepest sympathies to you and your family. While your time with Moira was short, the love and kindness you have was three times the amount anyone else would have been able to give to her in 46 years. Our thoughts are with you,
Steven & Debra Parsow
Kandziorski
March 15, 2003
We will miss you very much. We will miss your smile.
Michael Tobin
March 14, 2003
I just wanted to take this time to thank you for your kind thoughts, words, and deeds for our family on behalf of our dear sister, Moira. She was our own angel on earth, born in the middle of our family, she grew up to become our heart. Moira was the best of us which leaves us all a challenge to be more "Like Moi" in our every day lives. Holy Name Cathedral was filled to State Street with folks who were all "best friends" with Moira. Someone later said that they didn't see this many people when the Cardinal passed.
Well I thought Moira was much prettier, had perhaps better "people skills" and lastly but not leastly, worked more miracles here on earth. (But Joe, you gave it a pretty good shot! Who wouldn't pale in comparison to this girl?)
Not one of us ever dreamed that we would ever lose her, not even in the depth of her illness. We never doubted her famous strength, never believed that God would dare. As the old saying goes, "God moves in mysterious ways." I never knew what that really meant until this week and someday if we meet He will have to tell me.
On the other hand, Moira is with God as we speak doing great things for people left here on earth. Because a human spirit such as hers never dies. It's been firmly planted in her husband, sons, family and friends, and will grow and grow.
I have one question Moi, can you sneak me in?
Michael E. Tobin
Oak Park, Illinois
George Tobin
March 14, 2003
I would just like to share my two happiest memories of Aunt Moira. First, the image of showing up at her place rigtht after we arrived in Chicago, getting up from the couch, giving me a huge hug, and opening her home, and her heart, to me. That feeling of loving and belonging will remain with me forever. My second memory is of all the "Tobin Teens" ( A name which we never consented to)in John and Steve's room, watching some movie when she walks in and asks us to switch it off, because it wasnt "appropriate" for timmy or louie. We would first dismiss the request, but she would not take the "yeah, whatever aunt moira!" for an answer. By the end, she had us practically on our knees, begging to keep watching the movie. Then, with a cross of her arms, a smile, and a twinkle in her eye, she would say "well, okay..."
Thinking of her brings so many words to my mind. All i can say is, Aunt Moira, wherever you are, i will always love you!!!!
George
Education Trust Fund
March 14, 2003
Many have requested that an educational trust fund be established for the benefit of the Wickes boys. In response, Moira's dear family and friends have created the Moira Wickes Memorial Family Trust Fund.
Contact: Jeffrey Mussatt
Northern Trust Company
50 South LaSalle
Chicago, IL 60675
312-444-7545
Moira's Family
March 14, 2003
We have received inquiries and requests for information about an educational trust fund for the Wickes Boys. An account is being established and we will post that information as it becomes available. Thank you.
Kathy Mallon Hassen
March 14, 2003
SUCCESS
To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Moira, you more than succeeded, you excelled in all that you did. I will miss you dearly.
To John and all of your Spirited Sons, You are and you will continue to be because of Moira, your wife and Mom. A beautiful, gifted woman who has inspired me ever since I worked with her at Childrens back in 1991. You will be in my thoughts and prayers to have peace and serenity in cherishing all the memories you have created as a family.
Colleen Reidy Larsen
March 14, 2003
To John, the Boys, and all of Moira's Loving Family,
I have many pleasant thoughts of growing up as one of the "cousin's" in an extended family that boggles many minds. I will continue to cherish these memories as we celebrate the life that Moira lead so fully! What a wonderful role model she has been and will continue to be to us all. I can only hope to live my life with as big a smile and an easy laugh. You are all in our everyday thoughts and prayers.
Love and Laughter, Colleen, Brian, Sean, Siobhan, Alannah, and Quinn Larsen
Margaret Reidy Walsh
March 14, 2003
Moira,
To a person so full of life. When I think of you I will always remember your endless smile. You will be missed and forever in our prayers.
Margaret, Marty, Maggie, Danny & Sheila Walsh
Louie Tobin
March 13, 2003
Me and my family are really,really sad about Aunt Moira. We all loved her tremendously and she is in our prayers. Right now she is probably up in heaven,watching over us.
Agnes Brooks
March 13, 2003
Our family would like to express our condolences to all of you. We met Moira almost two years ago, when our youngest child, Louis, was born with club feet. Moira was a good person, caring for others, and gave us support and answers when we needed. Moira and others at Children's Memorial Hospital played a major role in the life of our son, Louis, and we will always remember their generosity.
We are deeply touched by her loss, and cannot express how sorry we are. She was proud of her husband and children, whom she mentioned often
during her daily work.
Agnes, Stan, and Edward Brooks
Moira's Brother(s)
March 13, 2003
Pleasant dreams, our dear sister,
Your rest is well-earned.
So painful your struggle,
How suddenly you turned
From one form to another
From darkness to light
So deep now your slumber
So far from our sight.
You'd laugh at the irony
And fickle nature of fate
To be conquering one problem
When overcome by its mate.
Yet your quest was completed
Your destiny fulfilled.
Your own children growing
And others' maladies stilled.
You again lead the way
Breaking most hallowed ground
Making the Unknown less frightful
Life's lessons more profound.
It is your eyes' twinkle
And the gleam in your smile
That illuminates the pathway
Until reaching our own last mile.
So thanks for your gifts
All so beautifully wrapped
Which remind us to leave our own lives
With no potential untapped.
Thomas David Arute
March 13, 2003
Patty,I and our family pray for the husband and children of Moria. Our hearts go out to every one.
Frank and Noreen, you may grieve for the body but her spirit is in a place with the Lord. I believe with all my heart that Grandpa Tobin and Jesus have their arms around her as we speek.
Michaeleen & Jerry Boulay
March 13, 2003
We send our heartfelt condolences to the Tobin family. You are in our prayers.
Zachary Stefanski
March 13, 2003
Moira,
I want to thank you for your dedication in your work, which has helped me so much. For the short time I’ve known you, you were always kind, generous and greeted me with delight. You have helped so many, now it is time to rest. May God bless you and your family because I know He blessed me with knowing you.
With Love and Sympathy,
Zachary and his Family
Fred Schick
March 13, 2003
Dear John, boys, and family,
I was saddened to hear of Moira's passing. I knew her and many of her brothers and sisters from the Welles Park Swim Team in the sixties. Everyone of them were wonderful, and from what I've heard and read, all the love of this unique family must have found a great outlet in Moira's work and her own family. What a fantastic life. The world will miss her. My condolences to you all.
Kathleen Zahner
March 12, 2003
I thank God for allowing me to have known Moira. She was always seen as a beautiful, strong, and loving person with energy and hope to give to anyone in need. I celebrate this most remarkable life. I will pray for her family.
Timmy , Charlie and Marsi Jacobi
March 12, 2003
We were shocked and surprised to hear of her untimely death. Moira took care of our son Timmy for many years. We are all very sad and we send our condolences out to her husband, five children and entire family.
Heidi Hornsby
March 12, 2003
I was very saddened to hear of Moira's death. She was an incredible woman. My daughter Hilary, who is now 18 years old, was born with Spina Bifida. For many years we saw Moira at Children's Memorial. I will always remember her up-beat personality and great smile... and the way she made all of us, both parent and child, feel special. May her spirit be forever present in the lives of those she loved.
With deepest sympathy,
Heidi Hornsby
Katherine Jacob
March 12, 2003
I wish I could say something that I felt would not sound superficial, but somehow I lack the words. I'm more sorry than I can say in words, but am thankful that Moira graced the earth for the little time we could have her. Your family is and will remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Katherine
Sonja Nelson
March 12, 2003
Dear family of Moira,
As I look at Moira's business card on my bulletin board, I am so incredibly saddened at the loss I feel these days. Moira was not only my son, Ryne Anderson's orthotist, she was also a friend to us. She was a great support to me during my divorce, and as a mom of three sons, I could relate to her joy as a mom of five wonderful sons.
Ryne and I have shed a lot of tears, and my youngest who is 6 said "we should help take care of Moira's boys." I have prayed for your family over the past couple of years and will continue to do so.
Moira made the leg braces that Ryne is wearing- a reminder of a very, very special woman. She was a treasure! And she will be so missed by so many.
Jeffrey Jordan
March 12, 2003
Wickes Family
Our families have not crossed paths since JO's at Stevenson High School. I always looked forward to seeking out Moira to say hello and see how the baby was doing. She was always filled with compassion and concern about my progress since my back injury. I felt stronger and filled with hope every time we talked. We will miss her dearly. John, you can rest assured we will keep you and the boys in our prayers. Amy, Lauren, and Nicky attended the service with me and it was beautiful way to honor and remember her life. Anita sends her condolences as well.
Jeff, Anita, Amy, Lauren, Nicky and Kristin Jordan
Maureen Finch
March 12, 2003
Dear Mr. Wickes and boys,
I only met your Mother once, but from what I have read here and the outpouring of love respect at her service, it is evident she was a treasure to all who knew her. I know she must have been a gifted Mother to have raised such wonderful sons. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Terri Shimkus
March 12, 2003
I wish to express my condolences to the Wickes and Tobin families. I went to Mundelein College with Moira's sister Kathy. Although I never met Moira she sounds like she was a great person with incredible accomplishments. I'm truly sorry for your loss.
Stephen Melonides
March 12, 2003
Dear Wickes Family,
I met your wife/mother only once (over a year ago), when my twin son had some casts made for his legs. It was a busy morning, but we had a pleasant conversation about living/raising kids in the city and schools. She talked alot about her five sons (since I also have only boys), and she was very proud of them. Some people, just make an impression on you, and when I saw her picture in the paper this morning I remembered who she was and I was saddened. The world has lost one of its special rays of sunshine long before it should have gone out.
As the Greeks say "Zoi se sas" (Life to you) and "Eonia i mnimi"(May her memory be eternal).
My prayers go out to your family.
Cheryl Noll
March 12, 2003
Moira helped our daughter, Patti, achieve the ability to walk with a normal gait. Many early mornings we would meet at Childrens for Moira to apply the new casts on her legs. Moira, you will be sorely missed by many. Our deepest sympathy to her family.
Jill Haagenson-Kennedy
March 12, 2003
Moira's energy, her thoughtfulness and the manner in which she was able to raise five terrific boys with love and care and still have such a successful career, was an inspiration to myself and many others. I will miss seeing her smile, her supportive "boys will be boys" comments, and the joy that she carried with her.
shelly uttley
March 12, 2003
I got to know Moira when I was a nurse in orthopaedics. She always seemed to have more energy than I thought possible for one human being. She was amazingly dedicated to her work and to our patients and families.
After I left ortho, I would run into her in the hallways or cafeteria and she always offered a smile and a friendly greeting.
As every one has pointed out, Moira was very proud of and dedicated to her family. I shared with a friend upon her passing how cute I thought it was to see diminutive Moira driving up the ramp in her great big car and how Moira joked about having to expand her transportation to correspond to the size of her family. She was a wonderful, one-of a-kind-person who will truly be missed.
Lenore Renier
March 12, 2003
Dear John and boys,
Thank you for sharing your wife/mother with our family. Moira started bringing so much hope and love to us back in '83 and continued to show us her faith and strength even in her own illness. She was a remarkable woman and role model for all of us. Thanks to her dedication Robert is now about to graduate with a PTA associate degree. Moira was the first to encourage him. Thank you, Moira. Give Tommy and Art a hug for us. We love all of you! Love and prayers, Lenore, Lenette, Lenae, Linda,
Art, Laura and Robert
Ellen & Bob Davis
March 12, 2003
Dear John & Family,
Bob & I are long time friends of Pat & Dave. We have heard about your beautiful family as you grew. We are saddened by your loss and hope that the memories of Moira and her life will sustain you and be close to your hearts forever.
Ellen & Bob Davis
Broomall, Pa
Robert V. Tobin
March 12, 2003
PRAYER OF THE FAITHFUL
for Moira Tobin Wickes
March 12, 2003
To each of the following petitions, please respond: “Lord hear our prayer”.
For FAITH …
--- in the capacity for one person to make a difference, and in a God who gives us the precious gifts we celebrate here today, gifts that are embodied in Moira’s purposeful, powerful, passionate commitment to her family, her work and all of our children … LET US PRAY TO THE LORD.
For STRENGTH …
… to carry on Moira’s dedication to the principles and values that carried her and carry us through the pains and pitfalls that inevitably arise in any life worth living … LET US PRAY TO THE LORD.
For COURAGE …
… to follow Moira’s example in helping not just those whom we can help best but those who need our help the most… LET US PRAY TO THE LORD.
For TRUST …
… in the healing power of a smile, which Moira used to brighten our days, lighten our loads and spread her belief in miracles … LET US PRAY TO THE LORD.
For PEACE …
… in our hearts and in our homes, in these times and in our world, and for the peace found in our knowledge that Moira is now -- as always – happy, healthy, and forever hopeful that our greatest success and deepest fulfillment will surely be realized if we just keep trying … LET US PRAY TO THE LORD.
For ACCEPTANCE …
… of the inspiration provided by Moira’s continuing presence in our lives as a wife and mother, as a daughter and sister, as an aunt, niece and cousin, as a colleague and collaborator, as a therapist and healer, and as a relentless optimist and reliable friend … LET US PRAY TO THE LORD.
John, Pat, Sean, and Patrick Mac Askill
March 12, 2003
Dearest John, John, Steve, Tim, Eddie, Robert, Mr. and Mrs. Tobin, and Moira's wonderful Sisters, Brothers, and your families,
We have all been crying these past few days and laughing, too, as we shared memories of Moira. What a delight she was and is as she lives in spirit. Tim, what a wonderful note you wrote in the guest book. Your Mom's great loves in her life were God, all of you, and people (especially children). If you get down to the nitty-gritty, that is life. Moira knew that. You are so right to say we need to celebrate her life as she celebrated it, all these "great gifts from God", as she would say. She would want it no other way. What a testimony to your wonderful family that nurtured and nurtures one another and those around you in such beautiful ways. We will still cry and miss her so very, very much - her sense of humor, her genuine concern for others, her faith that continually guided her in life, the stories she shared about all of you. May all of us embrace love of family, love of life, and sense of community as Moira did. Our lives are better because of her. She's a gem! Our love to all of you, always.
MARGUERITE MARTINI
March 12, 2003
The entire Martini family would like to send their condolences and love to the Tobin and Wickes families. I graduated from Mundelein College with Moira's sister Kathleen . During those college years , all the Mundelein woman became a close family and still remain close friends today. We all share a deep respect and love for the entire Tobin family.
Hagar Riley and Lewis Farberman
March 12, 2003
We met Moira just once at her sister Rose's wedding. But that was enough to feel the love that radiates from her and the entire Tobin family. Our thoughts and prayers go out to her husband, sons and the entire family.
Julie Ellis
March 12, 2003
I am so sorry for your loss. Moira was an incredible person who gave of herself to so many. She has been and will always be an inspiration to me. Just one look at her eyes and I knew she understood my thoughts. She then would encourage me to pursue my dreams and offer support along the way. I loved Moira as a friend and I will miss her dearly. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help her family through this time.
Stephanie Willis
March 12, 2003
We first met Moira in 1986 when our daughter Elisabeth was born with Spina Bifida. Moira was such a sweet calm loving influence. Our hearts ache as we read the news of her passing this morning. We are blest to have known Moira.We pray that her family will be comforted
Love,
The Willis'
Dave, Stephanie and Elisabeth
Irene McGuinness
March 12, 2003
Wickes Family,
I want to extend my deepest sympathy to your family. Moira was a special person. On several occasions she took care of my son, but what made me remember her was her smile and sense of peace she offered when we crossed paths in the halls of Children's. She took the time to listen and offer comfort to us during our frequent hospital stays. Every time I saw her, I left feeling better. I wish you the same comfort and peace during your time of sorrow.
The McGuinness Family
Bob Marliene & Bridget Tobin
March 12, 2003
"Death ends a life not a relationship"...Jack Lemmon
Moira's passing has left us feeling all the poorer. Hopefully it will be of some comfort to you, as it has been to us, knowing she has found a deep and profound peace. Know that we love you all tremendously and are ready with anything you need. - We love you -Bob Mar & Bridg
Peggy Richard
March 12, 2003
For many years I watched Moira care for her patients in such a wonderful way. She was so joyful and funny. Her family meant the most to her and she will be missed by us all. I can only express my deepest sympathy for all of us who knew her and loved her.
Susan O'Connor-Chadwick
March 12, 2003
Dear John, boys, and family,
Moira was such a treasure to us in the 9 years we had the privilege of knowing her. I can't imagine all the joy she brought to your lives everyday, for I quickly realized her unique style the first time we met. She has provided serial casting and orthotics for my son, Connor over the years. When she worked with Connor, you would have thought she only had one thing on her mind, my son. But in reality, she was mastering many different roles—wife, mother, boss, orthotist, to name a few. She talked about the boys often---I feel like I know them! She was so proud of her boys!
When I think of Moira, I instinctively think of a phenomenal woman, full of strength, courage, happiness, knowledge, and love. We realized these wonderful traits in her everytime we spoke on the phone and had appointments with her. We didn’t mind the wait time, the long drive when we lived far away, the early morning appointments to see her, because she was worth it all! She demonstrated dedication, perseverance, and commitment can bring---a successful treatment. Moira was always a breath of sunshine when we saw her. Without Moira and her dear friend, Mary Weck, my son would not walking with such an awesome gait pattern---It is because Moira & Mary BELIEVED in Connor. They worked with him with such dedication and optimism. It was not a surprise to me the she gave her cancer treatment the same---that is Moiré’s nature.
I will miss her smile, her friendship, and her working with my son.
I fell so blessed to have had Moira in my life. My son is a better person and so am I. She is out of pain and at peace.
Our family sends thier deepest sympathy at this difficult time. May God bless you all.
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