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Kathleen Bender Obituary
Kathleen Susan Bender, age 74, of Bridgeport, beloved wife of 52 years of Joseph F. Bender, passed away peacefully Sunday, January 12, 2020. Born in Bridgeport, the daughter of the late Joseph and Catherine Blaner, she had been a lifelong city resident. A graduate of Warren Harding High School, Kathleen worked in the medical field while raising her family. She later graduated from Bridgeport Hospital School of Nursing and began a rewarding career as a pediatric nurse at Willows Pediatric Group in Westport. She was an avid teddy bear collector. Kathleen was a loving and devoted wife, mother, grandmother and aunt who delighted in time spent with her cherished grandchildren. Survivors in addition to her loving husband Joe include two beloved children, Melissa K. Sebestyen and her husband Stephen of Brookfield and Joseph C. Bender and his wife Beth of Monroe; six loving grandchildren, Clare, Peter, John Paul and Sam Sebestyen and Lily and Joe Bender; a sister, Dorothy Baker of Bridgeport, and many nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her sister Barbara Blatchley. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Wednesday, January 15, 2020 at 10:00 a.m. at Holy Family Church, 700 Old Stratfield Road, Fairfield. Interment will follow in Lawncroft Cemetery. Friends may call Tuesday (Today) from 4-8 p.m. in the Spear-Miller Funeral Home, 39 South Benson Road, Fairfield. In lieu of flowers, contributions in memory of Kathleen may be made to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105. For information or to offer an online condolence, please visit www.SpearFuneralHome.com
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Roger & Margaret Moscater
January 7, 2022
Sending caring & loving thoughts to the Bender Family at this anniversary of Kathleen´s passing. What a wonderful sweet caring lady she was. A nurse that cared ever so much and loved her family so much. Prayers for all.
Sincerely,
Rog & Marg
Roger & Margaret Moscater
January 17, 2020
Prayers for KathleenRoger and I send our loving thoughts and prayers to you Joe during this time of sadness.
Bruce and Therese Buchla
January 16, 2020
Joe, so sorry for your lost. Our prayers are with you and your family. GOD Bless.
Bruce and Therese Buchla
Estero, Fl.
Chris Kokoszka
January 14, 2020
Memories of laughter and fun times with Kathy and Joe in our younger years. Kathy will be truly be missed. God bless and keep you all in His care in this time of sorrow.
Jim and Janet Reilly
January 14, 2020
Dear Joe and Family, So sorry to hear about Kathy. We have such fond memories of our early years together with you both. Kathy was such a sweet person and we will keep her and you in our prayers.
ROLF MARX
January 14, 2020
Dear Joe,
we are so sorry and please accept our deepest condolences.
At this time of great sorrow , we - Jean and I are thinking of you.God Bless you and your family.
Rolf
ROLF MARX
January 14, 2020
Dear Joe,
please accept our heartfelt condolences. We share your sorrow and we are thinking of you and your family in these trying times.
We will meet as soon as my current health problems permit, in spirit we - Jean and I are at your side.
God Bless You
Rolf
January 13, 2020
Dear Joe & family,
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences. My prayers will be with you.
Vinny's daughter,
Cathy DeGregorio
The Staff of Spear-Miller Funeral Home
January 13, 2020
Offering our deepest condolences during this time.
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