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Phyllis Antonetz Obituary

Phyllis B. Antonetz
Phyllis Beatrice Antonetz, née Pirro, age 103, of Fairfield, CT beloved wife of the late Alexander Antonetz and who lived her life with graceful joy of family and friends and a lifelong quest for learning, died on Friday, April 17, 2020 due to complications of the coronavirus.
Phyllis was born on March 8, 1917 in New York City. Her parents, the late Paul and Catherine (Cundari) Pirro were Italian immigrants, who, though lacking in formal education themselves, were determined to see their three children study hard and achieve. Her parents' quest for learning remained instilled in Phyllis throughout her life, especially in later years as a volunteer working with elementary school children, to whom she shared her love for learning.
A 1933 graduate of Julia Richman High School in Manhattan, Phyllis enrolled in New York University where she earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in 1937. Following graduation, she became a full-time employee at R.H. Macy's where she had worked part-time during her undergraduate studies. While working at Macy's during the World War II years, she volunteered as a nurse's aide at New York Post-Graduate Medical School and Hospital. At Macy's, she was employed in a variety of positions, including senior executive positions in over 40 departments. She retired as Special Events Coordinator in 1953 to marry Alexander Antonetz, Macy's assistant manager of operations at the time.
The couple established a home in Garden City, Long Island, where in 1972 Phyllis earned her Master's degree in Education at Adelphi University. She combined her responsibilities as a homemaker and mother with volunteerism in the community. A 25-year member of the American Association of University Women, she assumed a variety of responsibilities with the organization, including vice president for program development.
For many years, Phyllis was a classroom teacher at a number of Long Island elementary schools. These were Notre Dame in New Hyde Park, St. Catherine of Sienna in Franklin Square and St. Joseph's School in Garden City. Years later, she continued her interest in working with children as a classroom volunteer at St. Thomas Aquinas Catholic School in Fairfield, Connecticut where she moved in 1999, following the death of her husband after 33 years of marriage. In 2008, she relocated to Simsbury for four years, and in 2012 moved back to Fairfield.
Throughout her life Phyllis enjoyed sharing the love of learning with others, especially the young children to whom she enjoyed instilling the love of books. A lifelong New York Yankees fan, she approached every day with an optimistic spirit. She believed in a positive attitude, even on a rainy day, she would emanate a feeling of sunshine that radiated a spirit of hope, love and faith. She believed in reaching out to family and friends and demonstrated that the best exercise of the human heart is reaching down and picking someone up.
In addition to her husband and parents, Phyllis was predeceased by her brother Salvatore Pirro, and sister Mary Pirro.
Phyllis is the beloved mother of Anna Maria (Ria) Battaglia and her husband Robert of Simsbury, Catherine Antonetz of Manhattan, and Alexa Mullady and her husband James of Fairfield; loving grandmother of James Mullady (Jaclyn) of Trumbull, CT, Kaitlin Strobel (William) of Harrison, NY, Matthew Battaglia (Keirsten) of Tampa, FL, Kristen Mullady of Fairfield, and William Battaglia of Boston, MA, and great-grandmother to Madison, Penelope, Jameson and Stanley. She was a loving and faithful aunt, cousin and friend to many.
The family is very grateful to the kind and caring staff of the Carolton Hospital. Due to health concerns, no services will be held at this time. A private burial will be held at Calverton National Cemetery. A Memorial Mass and celebration of Phyllis' life will be held when safe to do so. For information or to offer an online condolence, please visit www.SpearFuneralHome.com.

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Published by Connecticut Post on Apr. 22, 2020.

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Ida Hunter

August 28, 2020

I met Phyllis late in her life but her spirit touched mine , I loved her so much. I retired before she passed on my way out on my last day I stopped and threw my arms around her, and gave her a sound kiss, she looked up and smile and said"See you later dear' I miss he so much but am glad I had the chance to know her. Sympathies to you and your sisters Cathee,remember love is eyernal, she is somewhere loving you.

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Holly

May 1, 2020

Dear Cathee, I am very sorry to hear of the loss your beloved mother. Please know we are praying for you every day. We send our sincere and heartfelt condolences from California. You are one of the most spiritual and caring people we know; ee know those gifts came from your amazing Mom, the Great Phyllis Antonetz! Lots of love to you, Cathee and to all in your family.

Shivaun & Joe H.

May 1, 2020

Dear Cathee & Family,
Your Mother was a captivating and joyous woman! She loved you beyond measure. Thank you for giving her such special care and attention throughout her senior years--what an amazing life she lived! Truly. When one reads all she accomplished and lived through, you can see why she was always smiling, always happy, always elegant and "dressed to the nines." And you, Cathee, set the gold standard for what it means to be a "good daughter." You were always there for her; cheering her on, delivering flowers, treats, poems, pictures, books, blouses, letters, cards and encouragement. Delivering love. To have one's mother for 103 years is a great gift. I know that the last month, however, has been the most difficult of your life. Please know we are here for you, Cathee. We are here to listen and companion with you through the long valley of grief. We love you, dear friend. xox

Patty Lucas

April 23, 2020

I spent a while with her at a fund raiser for Carl Dickman at your house and I never enjoyed a conservation more I am so sorry Alexa

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