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Thomas Jeffrey Relyea Jr.

1983 - 2021

Thomas Jeffrey Relyea Jr. obituary, 1983-2021, Scotia, NY

BORN

1983

DIED

2021

FUNERAL HOME

Bekkering Ellis Funeral Home - Scotia

1 Mohawk Ave

Scotia, New York

Thomas Relyea Obituary

Thomas J. Relyea Jr., lifelong resident of Glenville, NY, passed away suddenly on October 31, 2021 at the age of 38. He loved his family beyond description and will be deeply missed in return. Tommy is survived by his loving parents, Thomas and Joyce Relyea (Stupplebeen); his cherished brother, Craig (Lisa) Relyea; his beloved nephews, Samuel and Arthur; his cat, Scrambles; and many loving aunts, uncles, and cousins. He is predeceased by his grandparents, Gerald and Dolores Relyea, and Leverett and Christine Stupplebeen. He was born on May 11, 1983. He graduated from Scotia-Glenville High School in 2001. An avid racing enthusiast and Mets fan, he loved attending and watching sporting events with his friends and family. Tommy enjoyed online racing with his cousin, Scott, and commentating on the races and games in real time. He enjoyed listening to his brother's music and is remembered by him for the many concerts, parties, and races over the years. Tommy's first car was a red 1972 Volkswagen Beetle, and he would pile in his friends on the way to school and galivanting around Scotia. His 1997 red Ford Mustang was a passion of his and never lost a race – sorry cops. Before medical complications that surfaced in recent years, he was a proud Teamster at UPS in Latham. His dry wit and sense of humor will be greatly missed. Calling hours will be held from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. on Thursday, November 4th at Bekkering-Ellis Funeral Home in Scotia. The funeral service will be held at Bekkering-Ellis at 11 am on Friday and then proceed to Schenectady Memorial. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Animal Protective Foundation in Scotia.

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Published by The Daily Gazette Co. on Nov. 2, 2021.

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Diane DeSieno Wheeler

November 17, 2021

Dear Relyea Family,
I am sincerely sorry for your loss and will keep you in my prayers. May God Bless You.
Diane DeSieno Wheeler

Darlene Decker

November 5, 2021

I am reflecting my childhood memories with you Joyce by my side . My heart breaks for you and your family . I am sending that big huge hug to you that's long overdue

Kassie Kleinbauer

November 3, 2021

So very sorry for your loss.

Eric Kerwath

November 3, 2021

Dear Joyce and Tom, you and Tommy and the rest of your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless.

Ann Dunn

November 2, 2021

Words can not express how I am feeling, but it was a pleasure knowing you and speaking to you Tom in our chat room on twitter. We had so many good laughs and you shared some funny memories of what you used to get up to. There will always be a special place in my heart for you my friend. To Toms family, my sincere condolences and love to you all. RIP Tom Tom.

Shawna Morgan

November 2, 2021

I am so sorry. I cannot even imagine what you are going through. I remember Tom hoping the kids "camping" in the woods behind the house. Your kids were always great around me. Love you you all.

Aunt Donna

November 2, 2021

My heart is broken. Love you always and forever

Sheila M McCafferty

November 2, 2021

You taught me so much and I will miss your wisdom. I am a better person for having met you. Fly high and free my friend.

Jamie Sarkett

November 2, 2021

I'm so very sorry for you loss, Tom and I were online friends for many years. We would stay up until all hours of the night talking for hours. He was not only a cherished friend but also like a surrogate son to me . My heart is broken , we shared photos of wildlife from our areas & I must have at least 100 + pictures of Miss Scrambles : ) god how he loved his baby girl oh & (Hosana the leopard ) . My sincerest & deepest sympathy . Tom will be forever in my heart .

Mansukh Tejpal Patel

November 2, 2021

You're staying in my heart buddy I can't write much word's are meaningless for year's we talked and did riots and laughter you was and remain an absolute gem keep racing in happy grounds my dear TomTom

Craig Relyea

November 1, 2021

The funeral service will begin at the home in Scotia at 11. The service will proceed to Schenectady Memorial.

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