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Cary Barclay Epes

1948 - 2021

Cary Barclay Epes obituary, 1948-2021, Newport News, VA

BORN

1948

DIED

2021

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Cary Epes Obituary

Cary Barclay Epes (nee William Edward Sunday) died on October 26, 2021 after a lengthy battle with MDS, a form of Leukemia. He was born on May 6, 1948 to Laura Nelson Sunday in Richmond Va. She put him up for adoption and he was blessed to be taken into the loving home of Lucile and Charles Epes in Newport News. His childhood was spent playing along the beach of the James River. He was very fortunate to have an opportunity to serve as a US Senate Page from 1962 to 1965 in Washington DC where he witnessed the enactment of the Civil Rights Act, Voting Rights Act, Social Security Act, the Gulf of Tonkin Resolution, the National Wilderness Act. along with numerous other laws. He met and saw on a regular basis all of the Senators on a daily basis and has a list of autographs that could never be equaled.

After reaching the age limit for a Page he returned to Newport News and spent his Senior year at Warwick High School. He then attended Christopher Newport College but had to leave due to the draft. He joined the Army Security Agency and spent a year in Viet Nam. He was awarded the Amy Commendation Medal in recognition of his efforts that saved countless American lives. Although he could find no reason for the war to exist or any reason for so many American boys to give up their lives, he was proud to serve with his generation and greatly appreciated the camaraderie of friendship that developed between them.

After the Army, Cary began a 37-year career in the banking industry on the Peninsula working both in the Retail and Commercial areas. He finished as Chief Lending Officer at Old Point Bank. Early in his career he was able to finish his college education at Christopher Newport University night class program and graduated in January 1978. He was also able to give back to the community through service on the boards of Faith Presbyterian Church, Hilton Presbyterian, the Peninsula MS Board, the Hampton Roads Jaycees, the Warwick Rotary Club, the International Seamans Friend House, Habitat for Humanity, The Hampton Roads Better Business Bureau, Newport News Redevelopment and Housing Authority, Newport News Industrial Development Board, the Peninsula Chamber of Commerce, the Alumni Society at CNU and the Board of Advisors of the Luter School of Business at CNU. His proudest accomplishment was his donation of 23 gallons of blood to the Red Cross. Although he had been active in multiple churches, Cary learned that God does not live in a book or fancy building. God can be found throughout nature and in the hearts of man. As such all men are created equally in God's eyes and he treated each person with respect and dignity. He abhorred discrimination in any form.

Cary met his future wife Brenda L. Buchanan at CNC. They were married on his leave before going to Viet Nam on February 22, 1969. They have two children, Cary Jr. and Karla E. Fife. Cary and his wife Tara's first child, Braeden, was stillborn. They subsequently gave birth to Ella. Karla and her husband Steve have two children, Tavia and Aden. He is survived by his immediate family as well as the brother and sister of his adopted family, Susan Epes Foltz and Charles C Epes, III and their families. He is also survived by his 106-year-old mother, Lucile Moseley Epes. His natural family refused all attempts to meet him so there is no knowing if he still has family there. No one had greater love for his wife, children, family or fellow man than Cary. Cary took up golf later in his life and greatly enjoyed all the many friendships he found in the game. Particularly with the Moberg Monday morning group at the Woodlands.

The family wishes to thank the nurses at Riverside Cancer Infusion Center for their devoted care to him over his years of treatment for his cancer. Tikishia Everett in particular provided care that probably added substantial time and quality to his life.

There will be no funeral or memorial service. A visitation will be held on Friday, October 29 from 12-1PM at Peninsula Funeral Home. According to his wishes he will be cremated and his ashes spread over the James River. Any expressions of sympathy should be made by contributions to Christopher Newport University with instructions to be credited to the Lucile Epes/Hilda Buchanan scholarship that he and Brenda endowed.

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Published by Daily Press on Oct. 28, 2021.

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Gary Botkins

April 10, 2025

I knew Cary from US Army ASA Morse Code School MOS 05H Monitor. We learned Code Interception for Vietnam. Cary was fantastic at learning Code. He could do 18 words per minute or 90 characters. He went to Nam and I had orders to go but went to Germany instead to listen to Russians. I knew Cary would have an excellent life in Army and out in civilian life. I hate to read of the cancer. Nam veterans had to fight agent Orange. Cary was a fighter. I did not know of the Congressional page work. He never mentioned that. I am truly sorry for his early passing and the cancer. I know he was loved and cherish by his family and friends. God Bless him.

Adell White

October 29, 2021

I am very saddened by Cary's passing. I will greatly miss him & his visits to us. He would always make me smile, wondering which shorts he would wearing that day.
My thoughts and prayers are with Brenda and his family. He will truly be missed!

Janet Wiggs

October 29, 2021

Brenda and family, I Am so sorry to hear of Cary´s illness and passing. It´s been a privilege to know all of your family. Cary will be truly missed by all who knew this great man.

Tikishia Everett

October 29, 2021

Words can't express the sorrow I feel. Heaven has truly gained an angel. I am so glad God allowed me to care for Cary. He was a lovely man and loved his family. To Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers along with your family. Family is not always blood but the village you create. I love you much and may God continue to bring you comfort.

STEPHEN FOX

October 29, 2021

I am saddened to learn of Cary's passing. Cary helped our company and myself personally when he was with Crestar and OPNB. He was always a gentleman. I would see Cary at concerts at CNU and Ferguson Center and would always greet me with his big broad smile.

Kitty Heffington

October 28, 2021

Brenda and all family,
I was so sorry to see Cary´s passing. He was such a fine man and gentleman. I knew him through Kee Business College and CNU. I suddenly lost Terry two years ago, it is a rough journey. All of you will be in my thoughts and prayers during this time. God Bless all of you.

Christi Beil

October 28, 2021

Brenda...I will be with you in spirit tomorrow. Staffing will not allow for me to be present in person. You know that I have great affection for Cary. I will be here for you should you have need of my assistance. Prayers!

Jan Minter Montgomery

October 28, 2021

I was saddened to learn that Cary had passed away. He has touched the lives of many and will be remembered as a good person. I consider my self a friend of the Epes family and have kept in touch with Chuck through the years. May you all find peace and comfort in your memories. I'll be thinking about all of you. Fondly, Jan

Bonnie Bridger Mittelmaier

October 28, 2021

Many prayers and condolences to the family and to the many friends of Cary during this time of sorrow and loss of this fine gentleman. May your memories sustain you all and give you peace.

Karen Knick

October 28, 2021

I am very saddened to learn of Cary's passing. I worked for Cary at OPNB; he was responsible for my progress through departments. He was a wonderful boss, as well as a great man. My prayers are with the family and all that cared for and loved Cary.

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