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John Conover Obituary

John Conover

John Conover passed away on Sunday, October 4, 2020, at the age of 74. Where he has gone no one knows. John lived a life of much satisfaction and little regret. He loved his family and close friends. His many acquaintances were a significant and continuous pleasure in his life.

John is survived by his wife, Virginia Daugherty. John and Virginia met over a tab of blotter acid on Halloween Eve in 1969 and have remained partners and lovers over the ensuing fifty years. John also leaves his two daughters, Ginnie Daugherty (Rob Pates) and Joey Conover (Jeff Erkelens); two lovely granddaughters, Nora and Sophy Erkelens; three independent grandsons, Seth (Cara), Jack, and Graham Pates; and a sweet yellow cat.

John was raised as an only child in Maplewood, New Jersey by William and Josephine Conover. He came to Charlottesville in the fall of 1963 as a gawky and naïve 17 year old. His introduction to the wider world came through a year spent at the London School of Economics. After graduation John furthered his studies in economics at the University of Chicago. In lieu of being drafted and sent to Vietnam he accepted a teaching position at Norfolk State University. There he met Virginia. Affection and youthful infatuation led them to explore America and its culture through living in a converted bread truck for a year on the road.

Looking for purpose and continuity, John, Virginia and Ginnie settled on Barracks Farm west of Charlottesville and worked organizing for the National Welfare Rights Organization in Nelson County. After four years they started to run a printing business, Black Flag Press; they then moved into town, John went to law school, and Joey was born. The press relocated behind the Vinegar Hill Theatre and was renamed Papercraft Printing & Design. It was sold in 2000 after twenty-seven years of operation.

Not yet seeking retirement, John worked for fifteen years as a staff attorney at the Legal Aid Justice Center. It was a refreshing move from the customer always being right to representing people with an opponent almost always in the wrong.

John got much satisfaction working for various community organizations. He enjoyed the different challenges and issues and the opportunity to meet and make friends. He had the honor of serving as Vice-Mayor of the City Council and later as the Chairman of the Charlottesville Democratic Party.

In the mid-1990's, John fell in with an enjoyable group to plan, plot and build the Rivanna Trail Foundation with the goal of making a woodland trail encircling the City. Live Arts also brought him great pleasure with the opportunity to play many roles. Their mission is to "forge theater and community," producing excellent work and friendships among the volunteers.

John's last civic engagement has been working to revive the Albemarle Charlottesville Historical Society, under the belief that we need to rebalance our understanding of our local history. We need to tell a greater variety of relevant stories about our past to help us chart our future as a community.

John embodied G. B. Shaw's words: "Life. . .is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on."

Remembrances can be sent to any of the non-profits mentioned above or to Mt. Zion First African Baptist Church.

A memory celebration will be held at a later date, and details will be announced.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Daily Progress from Oct. 9 to Oct. 11, 2020.

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Kay Slaughter

October 3, 2024

Remembering John again this year... He died on the anniversary of my father's birth.
Paw Paw season is just over but I always remember John during the harvest of these fruits because he was enthusiastic about finding them, bringing his young granddaughters to search for the few we found that year. The fall he died we had a banner crop, and so I made some paw paw pudding which he seemed to enjoy. Rest in peace, dear John. You made a difference in the world.

Kay Slaughter

October 3, 2023

We miss you still, dear John. You were so unique, a deep thinker, a friend to all you met, a force for good in the world. May your legacy live on.

Nora Erkelens

January 27, 2022

pop pop was the best :)

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Kirsten Perry

February 4, 2021

What a funny, thoughtful person John was.
I met him in the 70s when Ginnie and I met
He was always lovely and easy to be around.Full of knowledge and history, kindness and silliness, irony and concentration.
Love to Virginia and Ginnie and Joey

David and Betsy Poist

November 1, 2020

Virginia, Betsy and I are out of the loop for not getting the Progress and so we were very sorry to learn of John's death. John was such a pillar of what is best about Charlottesville and although he leaves a wonderful legacy of civic stewardship he will be greatly missed. Take best care of yourself and stay safe and well. Blessings on you and John. David

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Alyson Sappington

October 14, 2020

I met John & Virginia way back in the Papercraft days of the '80s, as I'd bring our organization's newletter items for layout assistance and printing. He later served on our Board of Directors. John's patience, wit, commitment & character always struck me. He cared deeply for people and for his community, and his legacy will live on.

Sue Davis

October 12, 2020

I first met John in the 80s through my friend, Ginnie. At the time I was struck by his height, immense curiosity, and wit. On visits to C-ville over the years I enjoyed mutual bouts of light-hearted banter along with some very serious chats. A dinner conversation just a couple of years ago also reminds me of John's swathe of generosity; not only could he navigate any topic, but he also insisted on bringing others into the fray! A lovely man, funny as hell.

Deborah

October 11, 2020

John's presence at Live Arts was warm and wonderful. He brought his gentle and generous nature to all things, but was also able to ask the hard questions when serving as a Producer. His smile was brighter than any follow spot. My hours at Live Arts were always richer when I crossed paths with John. Blessings and peace to his family.

Sharon Beckman-Brindley

October 11, 2020

John was a cherished member of our Charlottesville Insight Meditation Community. He is deeply missed by all of us.

Apple Plotnick Jannotta

October 10, 2020

My sympathies to the family. John was always a friendly delight and holds happy memories for me. He will be missed, but that light of his will never go out.

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Kay Slaughter

October 9, 2020

What a perfect obituary for a very unique and lovable person. VA, ginny and joey. He loved you and yours so much. My sympathy to all

Peppy Linden

October 9, 2020

Whenever I think of John a smile appears. He displayed a combination of joy; originality; dedication; intelligence; and fortitude. His contributions to our community provide an important legacy. My life was enriched by knowing him.

Rosemary Baalister

October 9, 2020

I just loved walking on the Rivanna Trail. heeelping build it was one of the most rewarding things I ever did. But did we build the bridge by the Old Senior Center for nothing. John always smiled at me and shook hands. being quaraaantined here is a little depressing but I am dreaming of the Trail

Lynelle

October 9, 2020

The world is a little less bright today. Our profound love to Virginia and Joey and the family, and to his Charlottesville community family. He lives in our hearts, and we all will do our best to carry the torch onward.

Terri

October 9, 2020

That was a beautiful summary of a life well-lived. I only wish he could have voted before embarking on his journey.

Ellen Ryan

October 9, 2020

Although we didn't see each other nearly enough, we still think of John as one of our closest friends. Our "group" from high school is dwindling and it is a rude reminder that we need to not let time pass without reunions. On that note so glad we saw John and Virginia in happier times. Our thoughts are with Virginia during this sad time.
Allan and Ellen Ryan

Jonathan Coleman

October 9, 2020

I came to know John through our mutual friend, Dave Simpson, and through basketball. John competed, hard, and he challenged you in conversation, which I particularly admired. The status quo was, blissfully, of no interest to him. What I admired him most was the degree to which he cared about Charlottesville, about ruffling its feathers in all the right ways. May his memory be a blessing.

David Collins

October 9, 2020

I am a current Nelson Director of the TJSWCD. I served during the years John also served. There is never enough time, but I wish there had been more opportunity to get to know John better. I appreciate the time I had working with him. Perhaps there will be more time in another day.

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Daniel Friedman

October 8, 2020

My heartfelt condolences to Virginia, Joey, and family. May John's memory always be a blessing.
I met John within a few months of moving to Charlottesville in 1976 when we got together to discuss the launching Albemarle Magazine, which was typeset and laid out in the Papercraft offices late at night, after closing, sometimes until 2 or 3 in the morning. For the first year or so, I rented office space upstairs at Papercraft in the small room adjacent to John and Virginia's office, unheated save for all the cigarettes we were chain smoking in those days. Papercraft was a busy, successful place, but John and Virginia were always telling stories and laughing, and they were always generous with their expertise to enthusiastic, neophyte publishers. Later, in 1984, I started La Belle France, which John and Virginia printed for sixteen years.
I must add that Joey and my daughter Peachie were born within 24 hours of each other at Martha Jefferson and that the moms occupied rooms just down the hall from each other. Events bound us together during those years, starting our young lives in Charlottesville. It was a good run.

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