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Thomas Patrick White, Jr. 1918- 2012 Thomas Patrick White Jr, of Fairfield CT and Palm Beach, formerly of New Canaan Ct passed away at the age of 94. He lived his life to the fullest, playing golf, dining out, being an avid reader and movie goer until he finally succumbed to complications from a 3 month courageous battle with cancer. He grew up in Queens and Point Lookout NY. He attended Bucknell, PA and graduated St John's College, NY. He served in WWII as a Captain of the US Army, stationed in Europe for 5 years, first in Reconnaissance then as a Provost Marshall investigating war crimes in Frankfurt Germany. He was honored with other WWII Veterans for his service on the US Intrepid Museum, 2008 and at Yankee Stadium 2012. As a young man he was an advertising model and had a reputation for dapper attire thoughout his life. He later worked as a creative ad representative in Manhattan, then switched careers to become a restaurateur. He opened several restaurants, including the Girafe on 58th St, then in 1966 he established the Beach Cafe, a popular upper East side restaurant with his brother Bill White, followed by his son, Thomas III and worked there until he "retired" at the age of 85. Thomas lived with his wife and family in New Canaan, CT for 30 years then retired to Fairfield CT and Palm Beach, FL. Thomas is one of the original members of the Country Club of Darien. An avid golfer, his passion for the sport has taken him all over the world and has a record for having sunk 6 holes-in-one. He has cherished his friendships with many golfing partners. He was a true lover of people and lived an active social life, sharing his opinions on politics, books, sports, movies, architecture, food and fashion. He is survived by his devoted wife of 60 years; Tecla B. White; son Tommy White and his wife Marilena of Palm Beach, son Conrad White and his wife Alison of Wilmington, NC, daughter Nicole White Kennedy and her husband Parker Kennedy of Raleigh NC; brother, Bill White and his wife Pat, of NY and nephew Bill White JR, and his life partner Bryan of NYC. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Friday, October 19, 2012 at 1:00 p.m. meeting directly at St. Thomas Aquinas Church, 1719 Post Road, Fairfield. Entombment with military honors will follow in Oak Lawn Cemetery Mausoleum. Friends may call Thursday from 4-8 p.m. in the Spear-Miller Funeral Home, 39 South Benson Road, Fairfield. In lieu of flowers please consider supporting the Intrepid Fallen Heroes Fund or the Wounded Warrior Project, causes important to Tom helping our returning war
heroes and their families



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Published by Darien News on Oct. 19, 2012.

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Cynthia Bond

October 11, 2024

Remembering Tomasso Grande, as he was warmly nicknamed by a few of his Beach friends, always makes me smile.

Bobby Keating

October 11, 2019

Greatest of childhood memories.. R.I.P. Mr.White ~~~ Respectfully, The Keatings

November 7, 2012

I too am a Beach Cafe Alumni. And send my sincere condolences to friends and family. It was a pleasure knowing and working for Mr. White and I have shared pleasant memories with Tom Sr., Bill and Tommy Jr. and hold them fondly. Blessing from Michael Bruno and Family

Cynthia Bond

October 18, 2012

It's been so many years, but Tomaso Grande remains as vivid as if it were yesterday. So full of life! Taking in all in, and giving it all out! Just incredible, and just the best! But, as I said to Brian Clark, I hope he mailed in his ballot! Missing NYC, for me, is missing Tomaso Grande! He was a special friend, as is his family. Love, hugs, tears to all, Cynthia

Marianne Pontillo

October 17, 2012

Sending love to Tecla and the entire White family. Tom was a dynamic and charming man who will always be remembered. May you find comfort in knowing how special you all are to so many people.

Mark Boyhan

October 17, 2012

So sorry for your loss. Mr. White was a true gentleman.

Eric Stunzi

October 17, 2012

As another who enjoyed the warmth at the Beach in the company of Frank Bergin and Tommy....my condolences and warm wishes to the whole family...

Richard Horan

October 17, 2012

The end of an era. TW was a Renaissance man--a chef, restauranteur, artist, golfer, conversationalist, WWII veteran, dancer, style-meister. He did it all and lived the life of ten men. Godspeed, TW.

Bobby Keating

October 17, 2012

My thoughts and prayers reach out to the White family..Tecla,Tommy Jr,Conrad and Nichole, In loving memory of Tom White Sr...,,a very kind man who had the zest of life.. A man who always treated me like one of his own with the utmost of kindness and respect as a wandering kid in the neighborhood..He knew more about my family than I did and shared many stories with me .. I loved every minute of it...He would always stop doing what ever he was doing to chat with me...and give me a good pep talk.. He always wanted to know that I was ok,,..He was a man that truly cared about me in all aspects of my life.. He knew me well and always wanted the best for me..Its fair to say that I looked up to him as a father figure,,and he knew it,,and I think he even liked it.. He showed me love,,,lots of it..One must love him for that.. May he rest in peace and may God Bless him !!

Respectfully,
Bobby Keating

Kendall Berkey

October 17, 2012

All my prayers and thoughts are with the White family. I do not recall personally meeting your father but I have heard through family and friends that he was a true gentleman and a one-of-a-kind person of great character who will be sorely missed. He certainly left this legacy with his wonderful children. I hope that your beautiful memories of your father carry you through this difficult time and bring a smile to your face. God bless.

Randy Reid

October 17, 2012

I worked for Mr. White at The Beach Cafe in NYC back in the 80's and will always cherish those days. My thoughts are with Uncle Bill, Tommy and the whole Family. Happy Trails Mr White...
Warm Regards, Randy

Laura Moynahan

October 17, 2012

Such a gracious gentleman. So sorry for your loss.

Kevin DeMatteo

October 17, 2012

Always after sitting and chatting it up with Tom Sr. did I walk away with something - He was one of those guys that cut to the chase on so many topics. Always had the utmost respect - and was all ears when he would come out with that phrase " Let me tell ya something" .. You'll be missed Mr. W.

Joe La Fontaine

October 17, 2012

JOB WELL DONE!!! It was a privilege to have known you and the times spent with you especially when you included me at your family Christmas celibrations in your home. God Bless You!!

Alex & Diane Noujaim

October 17, 2012

Tom will never leave our hearts.

The Staff of Spear-Miller Funeral Home

October 17, 2012

Offering our deepest condolences during this time.

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