B.J. Yudelson
1939 - 2015
Brighton Memorial Chapel, Inc.
3325 Winton Road South
Rochester, NY
Yudelson, B.J.

Rochester: August 8, 2015, at age 76. Predeceased by her parents, Bert and Joe Heyman and daughter, Ruth Leah Yudelson. Survived by her husband, Julian; son, Larry; daughter, Miriam Katz; grandchildren, Yael, Ariella, Sam, Joey, Ruthie, Leah, Kinneret, Aviva, Calanit; sister, Margaret Cohen.

She loved family and friends, Judaism and the outdoors, writing and learning. B.J. was an active volunteer in many areas of the Rochester community. She shared her life's story in her book, "With an outstretched arm: A memoir of love and loss, family and faith"

B.J.'s service will be held TODAY 2 pm at Congregation Beth Sholom, 1161 Monroe Ave. Interment Britton Rd. Cemetery. Please consider donations to Congregation Beth Sholom or the Jewish Community Federation or a charity of your choice. How you do for others is your choice, that you do for others is B.J.'s wish. The family will receive beginning Monday evening through Friday. To leave an online condolence please visit:

Published by Rochester Democrat And Chronicle on Aug. 10, 2015.
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B.J. was an incredibly wonderful woman with an ever-present smile that reflected the warmth of her heart...
Alvin Sugarman
August 4, 2021
B.J. was an incredibly kind and generous person. She gave so much to others, to strangers and those in need. She welcomed my family when we came to US and she was there to help when a tragedy happened. May her memory be a blessing.
Ilya Kaminsky
December 17, 2020
B. J. was a lovely, brilliant, and loving child of G!d. May her memory ever endure as a blessing
Alvin Sugarman
August 4, 2020
BJ died quietly at home. She absolutely forbade me to use the words fight, struggle or cancer in her obituary. She stated that she was living with cancer until the cancer could no longer let her live. Her legacy is her memoir, "With an outstretched arm". Avialable at Amazon. Her writings can be found at her blog bjyudelson.com The attached picture is BJ in a canoe with a friend 10 days before her death. Julian
August 24, 2015
My heart goes out to Julian and children. This loving woman leaves indelible marks of greatness on so many of us. In her memory we will donate reading materials for children in the inner city. May her love see you through these coming days.
Elizabeth Osta
August 24, 2015
Barbara Jo was a classsmate at North Fulton High, class of 1957. She was always friendly and kind. My deepest sympathy to her family.
August 15, 2015
I went through elementary school (R.L.Hope)and high school (North Fulton) with Barbara Jo. I remember her as very smart and very kind. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Charlie Breithaupt
Clayton, GA
North Fulton Class of '57
August 14, 2015
I am so sorry Ann Morris Fulton
Ann Fulton
August 14, 2015
I am so sorry for your loss. We were in high
school at the same time. She was always such a
cute, smart little lady and i liked her a lot.

Joyce (McClellan) Gurley
Class of 1957
August 13, 2015
I went to high school with BJ. Did not know her well but always liked and respected her. My deepest sympathy to the family. Pati Yantis Jones
Pati Yantis-Jones
August 13, 2015
Julian as a husband of 47 years I find it almost impossible to understand your loss but I do know how I might feel because the loss of my wife would bring me extreme pain and that I can not comprehend how I would handle it. May you find peace as you move forward may G-d aid you in your journey. Shalom my friend!
Paul Donovan
August 11, 2015

Very sorry to hear of your loss. While I never met your wife, her story was extremely compelling, and she was an outstanding writer. My thoughts are with you.
David Gottfried
August 11, 2015
I did not know her but was the first recipient of the award for excellence in Hebrew in Ruths honor at Midrashah after Ruth was killed. I understand BJ did a lot of incredible things and has been an inspiration to volunteer with MADD. Solice to the family G-d bless
August 10, 2015
May the blessings and goodness of B.J.'s life ever endure...
Sending love, blessings and prayers, Alvin and Barbara
Alvin Sugarman
August 10, 2015
Deepest Sympathy to Julian and the entire family. B.J. and I worked closely together many years ago for Rochester Against Intoxicated Driving, and it was a great privilege to know her deep caring, creativity and energy.
Although our paths took us in different directions, I have often paused to think about how much she contributed to the community and how much I value having had the opportunity to work with B.J. and get to know her.
With deepest sympathy, Diane Harris
Diane Harris
August 10, 2015
Sending deepest sympathy to the family.
May God (Psalm 83:18) provide you with the strength and comfort you need as you cope with your loss. Psalm 9:9
August 10, 2015
I had the privilege of working with B.J. in our leadership roles with R.A.I.D. I admired B.J.'s intelligence, character, energy and strength as we developed strategies, carried out activities and worked with legislators to prevent the tragedy of drunk driving in the Rochester community.
Norma Press
August 10, 2015
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
~ Rev. 21:4 ~ V. A.
August 10, 2015
I feel so fortunate to have gotten to know BJ well in the last 2 years. I loved sharing her journey with her, and feel it a privilege to have helped with her book and other writing. I will miss her. She was such an integral part of our writing group and I am richer for having known her. I am holding all of your family in the light.
Cali Lovett
August 10, 2015
B. J. was an inspiration. A fine writer, and a dear friend. How I will miss her.

Dia Lawrence
August 10, 2015
With deep sympathy, Julian and family. SO sorry for your loss. BJ was a remarkable leader in the RID circle and I am sure this is a huge loss for you & for many. May she rest in peace.

Sue Maloy
Ithaca, NY
(Former Rochester AMA member)
August 10, 2015
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