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ann mentis
September 9, 2023
such a lovely woman. inside and out. RIP Betty.
Tom Feigel
September 30, 2008
Eugolgy:
Good morning and thank you all for coming today. I know my mother would be very pleased to know your all here. This is a sad time; we’ve lost a very special person, who in different ways touched our lives. But as we all know, we need to remember the many good times we have all shared together. The memories we hold close, will help us cope.
Let me tell you about my mother. She was born in Dansville in 1923. She would endure hardship in her early years, loss of her mother and two siblings by the age of six. With this also being the time of the depression, and her father not having the means to care for her and her sister Marge, foster care was the only option for them. These were tough times for my mother who now had to watch over her younger sister. Knowing my mother as I do, I’m certain these early years, would forge her character and strengthen her resolve.
Following her father’s second marriage and with foster care behind them, brought on a much happier time. After graduating, a move to Rochester and a brief wartime courtship, she would marry my father. This marriage would produce three children, Betty Jo, Kathy and myself. Our childhood days were a great time. She always had something planned. Places to go, people to see, she would make our childhood special in so many ways, and many times giving up, so that we might have.
She was a person of character, formed from her early childhood, and from the depression era. She would, through her deeds, make us all aware of her strength, her witt and tireless efforts in meeting life’s challenges head on. She would never hold a white flag. As a selfless mother, we are all aware of sacrifices she made during her golden years. She and my father cared for my sister Kath at home for 10 years, and visited her at the nursing home everyday for another 10 years.*
My parents were from that great era when giving was a virtue, more important than self.
She truly exemplified the meaning “a mother’s love is like no other”. As a friend, she was supportive and thoughtful. Always there with a helping hand, a shoulder, or an ear. A person, compassionate, and caring in a quiet way. Always willing to write a check for a worthy cause. Our door was always open, never locked. There was an extra place setting for a friend or someone without family during the holidays.
Friends would always gather at our house, drawn in by the sense of comfort and friendship. Laughter surrounded us. Which became a useful crutch, during the tough times. As an advocate she was strong and unwavering. I’d see her stand toe to toe with many a nurse or doctor, when it came to my sisters’ care. She would keep them in line with her straight talk and medical knowledge.
As a grandmother and great grandmother, “GG” as she was called, was very loving. The little ones she’d say “they brighten my day” as she would look at Anna, Emma and Ian’s pictures on the wall.
As a citizen, she would show her commitment to community and church by holding active roles in the Democratic Party, and in support of local causes, church activities and her support to this church for forty years. This is the church where Eric and Emily were baptized and my sisters were married.
I was always proud to have had her as my mother. With all the trouble I might have found myself in I always knew she had my back. I was always amazed by her strength. Mom no one could appreciate you and love you more than I do. As you can tell from this writing and as we all know, the person who’s life we celebrate today is very special to all of us, and we were all very fortunate to have had her in our lives.
Mom, for the joy you’ve given, the love you’ve shown, all the happy times we’ve known, for days you’ve brightened in large and small ways this comes with love today and always. Well done mom. May God bless you and take you in to his arms. We will all miss you, but I will miss you most, for you are not only my mother, but my best friend.
Emily Burr
September 19, 2008
Ode to Betty Feigel
Elizabeth Lee Mahany Feigel
Green eyes, long legs, pink lips
standing from afar
a picture of Irish bliss
A small town gal from Dansville & Hornell
A graduate from the class of 42’
Sweet, elegant an sophisticated
Her hair always in a lovely do
Keeping busy on the go
No time to sit and knit
Until one day unexpectedly
She met Joe Feigel a pilot
They shimmied on down to Clewiston Florida
amongst the heat and rain
married in St. Margaret Catholic Church
the wedding bells chimed her new name
Leaving from the little church
Betty in her white chiffon gown
turning to Joe quite frankly saying
“lets leave this sugar cane town”
Back to NY it was for them
to begin their married life
out popped Betty Jo, Tom and Kathleen
all three great gifts to her life
A working parent for many years
She was a valued employee
but always making time for others saying
“come on in for a cup of coffee”
A source of inspiration
when times could get tough
even through stress and heartache
She remained fresh-faced with her powder-puff
She worked many years
of taking care of others
Betty may go down in history
as being the #1 dedicated mother
She has been the best parent
That she could ever be
a marvelous grandparent and great grandparent
that we could all see
A colleague, a neighbor
a good friend to
there are not many Betty’s
that can hold a candle to you
She has lived a full and wonderful life
and will be just fine
she made it through the good times and bad
and Webster in the winter time
You’re finally free to reap the
rewards that you are due
for being so special
for just being you
I love you Grandma!
Ann Mentis
September 19, 2008
My Dear Tom,
I am so sorry for your loss. May your mom's soul rest in peace and rise in glory with the Lord. She was a grand lady. May her memory be eternal.
Ann
Curt Hayton
September 17, 2008
Tommy, I'm sorry I can't attend your mother's funeral. I'm thinking about you at this difficult time.
Carolina DeHond
September 16, 2008
Dear Tom,
My deepest sympathies are with you. It has been a pleasure knowing your mom. She was a wonderful woman! I will treasure my memories of her forever! My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Richard Morales
September 16, 2008
Tom,
My deepest sympathies. I truly enjoyed knowing your Mom. She was a really sweet person.
Dick Morales
Robert Barton
September 16, 2008
Tom,
I'm very sorry for your loss. Your mom will remain in my thoughts & prayers.
Sincerely,
Bob Barton
Chuck Gorman
September 16, 2008
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Kathy Boone
September 16, 2008
Tom,
I worked with your Mom back in the seventies, she was a nice lady.
Harriet Smith
September 15, 2008
Dear Tom,
Please accept my sincere sympathy. She was a dear relative.
love,
Harriet
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