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Ralph Guary III

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DiPonzio Funeral Home, Inc.

219 Spencerport Road

Rochester, New York

Ralph Guary Obituary

Guary, Ralph III

Rochester: October 12, 2011. Survived by sons, Justin Guary, Ralph Guary IV; daughter, Rachael Guary (Billy Dolan); miracle grandson, Carter Aidan Dolan; best friend and mother of his children, Darlene Cassidy; brother, Frank Guary (Sondra); sister, Tammy Wells; many nieces, nephews and cousins.

Calling Hours Monday 4-7 PM at DiPonzio Funeral Home, Inc., 219 Spencerport Rd., Gates. Funeral Mass Tuesday 11:15 AM at St. Theodore's Church, Gates. Interment Private. In lieu of flowers, please consider donations to the Golisano Children's Hospital in Attention Strong NICU in Ralph's memory.

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Published by Rochester Democrat And Chronicle from Oct. 16 to Oct. 17, 2011.

Memories and Condolences
for Ralph Guary

90 Entries

Darlene Cassidy

October 14, 2021

Hi Ralph heaven just gained another angel. Please watch over Billy John he crossed over unexpectedly and my heart is breaking. Mom is so lost and we all miss and love him so much.
Missing you and all the fun we had...you would be over the moon with all the Grandson's you you too :)
Lots of love and hugs,
Dar

Rachael Dolan

November 12, 2014

Hi Dad,
I wrote on this last week and for some reason it didn't post! This is the last time I will be writing on this site but it doesn't mean at all that I won't continue to reach out to you and pray for you! I miss you so much and would give anything for you to play with my boys! Can you believe I have three boys? You would be having a ball with them. They are such good kids and would of had a blast with you!!
Carter prays for you every night. He asked me the other night who use to read stories to me when I was young and I said Nana Cassidy and Papa G. I told him again how you were the one who bought him his basketball at his one year old birthday party. He asked where you were and said that we had to thank you for it! I know you and him connect and I love that!!!!! He is so sweet and super smart! He's are miracle and you would be so proud of who he has become!!
Bryce looks at your picture in our living room and points and says Papa! He will definitely be my athletic boy and you would of been able to play every sport with him! He smiles so much and loves playing with Carter.
Little Billy is such a happy baby too!! He will know who you are also!!
I know you watch over all of us and do as much as you can! I know you are in a better place and wish though you could come back. Sometimes I still don't believe it's true that you are gone and think you are just in Florida. It's so hard to stay strong sometimes especially with everything else that is going on.
We all need you! Justin needs to keep fighting and needs guidance to make the right choices to be able to move on and live an amazing life. He is so young still. Every time your name comes up his face lights up! I wish you could help him and Release him of any past guilt and let him move forward. We feel so helpless and wish we all could take his pain away.
Ralphie needs to know you are there as well. He hasn't felt your presence around him and I am sure you have reached out to him. He is so busy with work and on the go that I know he is just over seeing it! He needs to know you are there so he can have closure and move on also. We have gone through so many different things and changes since you passed that I think it is very difficult for especially him to accept. It's hard for all of us but hopefully it gets easier
Mom needs you too! You both were each others true loves and were forever best friends. I wish you were here physically with her to be there for Justin! So many things would be different or "normal" if you were still here. But obviously we can't change what happened.
I wish you could teach me all the tricks and ways to take amazing pictures! As you can see I am obsessed with taking pictures especially of the boys! I laugh because I remember how you were with us too and it looks like I am the one took after you with pictures!! Billy laughs at me or gets annoyed when we do photo shoots but then always loves when we get a great picture!! You would be happy to know that I am so happy with my marriage and my children! I could not have dreamed of a better and happier life! I truly met my soul mate and feel so lucky and blessed how everything worked out with us and of course with Carter! And then to have two more little healthy miracles Bryce and Billy.
I just want to let you know how much I miss you and love you. This is not a good bye but more of a I will see you one day in heaven and be able to hug you again. I will continue to talk to you, ask for guidance, pray, and cherish all the great memories we shared together. I will always be your little girl and try to keep the family together!!!! Keep being all of our angels and keep reaching out to us! Love you forever and always
"Your baby girl"
Rachael Marie xo

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Ralph thank you for coming to me on Saturday!! I gave JJ a note and put on it a message from Dad. He loved seeing it and is so happy that you are in heaven and it is beautiful!! I am going to review the recording I did and also write down a note for Rachael and Ralphie. Please know you are truely missed and so loved. Watch over our family and please remember I am really trying to help them and do the right things. So with that said I will talk to you in my prayers and God bless you Ralph!!

Ralphie and Darlene

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Billy and Rachael

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Carter

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Rachael and Darlene

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Billy

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Bryce and Billy

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Carter

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Rachael and Bryce

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Bryce

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November 10, 2014

Little Billy

Darlene Cassidy

November 10, 2014

Darlene Cassidy

November 7, 2014

Hi Ralph,
This is the last time I will be able to write to you on this page so I want you to know that you have a beautiful family and we need you to help us through this troubled time. I cannot believe it has been over three years since we last saw eachother. But the last time we did see eachother we celebrated with a couple of beers 1 me going to Hawaii and 2 you having your surgery and feeling better. I cannot tell you how much I wish I was there to help you when you were struggling by yourself the day you passed. We all feel that way and for whatever reason the Dear Lord decided it was your time and you had to be alone trust in me when I say this none of us wanted to lose you. We all can beat ourselves up on this but the reality is all of us will go through passing over and when that time comes we will all be together again. Justin misses you so much that whenever I speak your name he lights up and smiles. He is alot like you and when I look at him it warms my heart because I truely see you. Actually you are in each one of our children and also our Grandsons. I am seeing a medium on Saturday and I really hope she can connect us somehow and we will be able to communicate. I am hoping that I can go back to our children with positive feedback from you through her. I made this appointment over 2 years ago and now finally I will be able to try and hear from you. It's amazing that Carter has such a strong connection with you. There is a picture remember the only oil painting we had bought years ago? Everytime he comes over he says the picture is a Mask. Tony took the mirrors off that wall and found your message to all of us and that is the same spot where we hung that painting. I could go on and on writing wonderful things to you on this page, but like Rachael said we always talk to you through prayers so we are good doing that. I will never forget you or you being my hubby, rough times at times but there were many many wonderful times too. I am so happy we were the best of friends and we worked though all the bad stuff and the last time we were together we hugged and kissed eachothers cheek!
Never goodbye Ralph, till we meet again and please please watch over Rachael, Ralphie, JJ, Billy, Carter, Bryce and Billy. Also if you could please watch over mom and dad too. The good lord has blessed us with them still and I know someday they will be with you waiting for us.
Love you more then anyone ever knew!!
Dar

Rachael Dolan

November 5, 2014

Hi Dad! I know it's been awhile since I wrote but as you know it doesn't mean I haven't reached out to you in other ways or think of you daily. I miss you so much and wish you were physically here for so many reasons. I wish you were able to hold my boys and play with them. Can you believe I have 3 boys??!!! You would be having the best time with them.
Last night when I was reading Carter bedtime stories he asked me who use to read them to me when I was little. I said that you and mom did. He then started talking and we said how you were at his first birthday party and how you gave him his basketball. He said oh I have to thank Papa G. It's so hard to tell him that you are in heaven and I would give anything for even one day for you to be here with us.
Bryce points to your picture on the wall and says Papa!!! It's so cute but I wish you could have met him and now little Billy!! All of the boys personalities are different but amazing!!! I can't imagine life with out them!!
We all miss you so much. Ralphie and JJ need you more then ever. Justin smiles every time we talk about you and misses you tremendously. He holds a lot of guilt and I wish you could help erase it out of his mind and he starts doing the things he needs to do to move on. Ralphie puts so much on himself and misses having his dad. He needs you!!!
Mom needs you more then ever too! You were her best friend and true love and she needs you to help her!!! Ever since you passed away everything spiraled out of control. She is overwhelmed and stressed and I want her to stay healthy. She works more then ever send needs to take care of her health also. I'm worried about her. I wish both of you together were fighting these battles so we can finally get some peace. I hope you reach out to her at her appointment this Saturday! She would give anything to be able to see and hear from you. So give her a sign that your there and help her get her life on track as well as your sons. We all know life is too short so I wish we can all live to the fullest and then when our day comes we will be able to hug and kiss you again!!! Rest in peace Dad!!!! I love you with all of my heart!!!
Daddy's little girl
Rachael xoxoxo

darlene cassidy

July 24, 2014

Hi Ralph,
Well Rach did it, she had another beautiful Baby boy named William Austin Dolan III. He is perfect and I think he looks a lot like Rachael!! He was born on July 11th weighing 6.08 pounds and 19 inches long. You must be soooo proud. Please watch over our family and I know you can only do so much from where you are, but I am trying Ralph. JJ gets to come home now in 5 hour blocks, I want hime to feel safe so we are taking baby steps. Extra prayers for Ralphie, he has so much stress going on and watch over our baby girl and her beautiful family.

Ralph, Dar and Mom Sept 2011 Happy Birthday Ralph

Darlene Cassidy

June 16, 2014

Darlene Cassidy

May 2, 2014

Hi Ralph,
I added some pictures of our grandson's and there will be more to post. I just quickly wanted to give you some so you can smile from up above and bless them with your love.
Please if you could any possible way, put in a good word for JJ, he is struggling so hard. Miss you and wish you were still here with us!
Dar

May 1, 2014

Darlene Cassidy

November 6, 2013

Ralph,
Please what Rachael is saying is true. We need you to help and give a sign of your love to all three of them. Keep them all safe and healthy.
Miss you,
Dar

Rachael Dolan

November 5, 2013

Dad,
Everyone is trying to reach out you especially more now then ever!!!! Please listen to us and guide us!! Love you

Dar

June 18, 2013

This is how I celebrated Father's day and your Birthday this year...JJ and I went to 11:00am mass which honered the father's including the one's that are with you, and also we said a special prayer for your birthday. At 2 we all went to Dad's house and had a BBQ. All of the kids were there. Ralphie wanted to go to Cobbs hill with JJ and shoot hoops with you, but the day started off with too much rain. Well anyways after we all left, JJ and I started down memory lane and talked about your fondest memories of you. He said his best were when the two of you were in FL. Miami. You were buddies and had great conversations, he said you were a great listener and he misses talking to you and hearing your advice. Then we lit the candle that I gave him and told him what I did last year and asked if he would like to do the same. He was thrilled, so we lit it, got a family picture of you and the 3 kids and went outside on the deck and just laughed, talked and cried some tears of missing you. Minus the Grand Marnai. lol then we watch the Miami Heat game in the finals against San Antonio. Made it to the 3rd quarter and then fell asleep, sorry. But my point is we were thinking and celebrating you, as we always will. Rachael's and Billy's wedding was amazing and they honered you throughout the whole celebration. You would be so proud of them and Carter and Bryce. It was so beautiful and Rachael was glowing. I don't have to tell you this cause I know you were there with us. Dad was dancing with her and above where all could see there was a CD of you and Rachael during the whole dance. Not a dry eye in the warehouse. Yes I said warehouse. Billy's warehouse!! It was so cool, you must of loved it! Talk to you later, I am suppose to be working.
Dar

Rachael Dolan

June 17, 2013

Dad,
I'm sorry this is late but you know I talked to you last night and thought of you all day! Happy Fathers Day and Happy 54th Birthday! It's so hard without you here and I miss you coming over and just catching up with me. I know soon I have to finally get the courage and open up boxes and sort through your things. I just kept them all in place I guess in denial that you are not coming back home. I definitely want to also put you to rest and have a proper memorial for you. I will talk with Ralphie and JJ and figure it all out! I promise! I love you so much and will always! Carter knows who his Angel is and Bryce will too!
Love you forever
Rachael

Corey Pratt

June 16, 2013

Happy Birthday Ralph.... Its really hitting me hard, not having you in my life anymore. I can't get used to not having the rock I always had in my corner, with you as my friend. I miss the advice, and the encouragement you used to give me. I know you up there watching over us all, and I know we will pick up right where we left off when I get there..... Just know that you are missed, and loved.
Corey

Rachael Dolan

June 13, 2013

Hi Dad!
Well Billy and I finally got married! It was one of the best days of my life but without you there there was a huge part of me that was sad. I know you were there in spirit! I tried to make you physically there as much as I could. I hope you are happy and were smiling. I know you were happy that Grandpa filled your shoes that day. I love him so much and am so thankful he was there for me. But I wish out of all days I could bring you home from heaven it would be my wedding day. I know you always dreamed of the day to walk me and give me away one day since the day I was born. I hate that you got cut short of that as my father. I wanted to dance with you so bad and have you smile as you would be so proud giving me away to your son n law.
Dad as you Know Billy is amazing and anything and everything I could of dreamed of. Look how much he wanted to marry me after he went through all of craziness minutes before we got married! And I know it was you that had the limo guy drive all stupid and then the train come to keep me as your little girl a few minutes longer. I just want to let you know that I will always be daddy's little girl and I hope that you really are proud of me as a wife, mother, and daughter. I miss you and love you so much.
I wish you could be he playing with my boys and teaching them basketball. Ahhhh....this is so hard!!! I feel like I just pretend you are in Florida! If you had anything to do with Justin being amazing at the wedding thank you so much!!! He told me he loved me and danced with me. It was the best feeling! I dont think he has ever said that to me! I really believed he enjoyed himself!
I am getting some amazing pictures! I will update this website so you see them. I know you would of loved my photographer. I got the best because of you! I even planned my whole wedding date around her!
Please watch over us all and continue to show me signs. Tell John I said hi and I love and miss him also! I love you
Rachael

Corey Pratt

June 13, 2013

Ralph....
I can't believe your gone. I couldn't have asked for a better friend. You made the last 20 years of my life amazing. I'm sorry we lost touch in end, you'll be missed more then you will know. I've spent the last 2 hours crying, smiling, and reminiscing about our trip to California, and the one to Florida ... The times we had. We always managed to put a smile on each others faces, no matter our mood's. Please don't forget to reserve that barstool beside you for me, and I will put a smile on your face when I get there.... I love you brother.... And always will...

Darlene Cassidy

April 8, 2013

yesterday was the day we would have been married for 33 years. Just want you to know as in every year, I was thinking of you and remembering you and I on that day. We were married at 2:00pm and then began our journey together having beautiful children and wonderful memories that will last a life time. Even though we didn't make it as husband and wife all those years, what we had together was always cherished and will remain in my heart always. I wish I knew what I know now about what you were going through during your life here on earth. I would of reached out for the help I have been educated on to help you more. I am sorry and for whatever reason God needed you by his side to open up our eyes and help us by having you in spirit taking care of us. I miss my dear friend, the father of my children and the Papa to our Grandchildren.

Rachael Guary

April 6, 2013

Hi Dad! I just wanted to say thank you for coming through the other day. I was in a sad place with it being the 2nd anniversary of Johns death and also missing you! When you came into Carter's room and had conversation and were playing with him, I felt you there. Carter said your name over and over. When I was up against his door and heard him playing with you, then he said bye to you and said see you soon and blew you a kiss I could not stop the tears! They were happy ones though! I can't tell you how much I needed to hear that and how great it is knowing you can still "play" with him. He will always know who his Papa G is and Bryce will know also. I love you and miss you so much! Planning this wedding without you has been so hard! After the other night I at least know you still will be walking me down the aisle even if it's only in spirit!!! Love you and please stay close to our family! Xoxo

Darlene Cassidy

April 2, 2013

Thinking of you always and wishing you were here with us to laugh and talk with. Everytime I go to church with JJ tears come down my face feeling you close to us and yet so far away!!

darlene Cassidy

January 14, 2013

Hi Ralph, just sending you a note to tell you how much you are truely missed and needed. I don't understand how all this happened but I do know that I always look up for you to answer or at least show us a sign that things will be better for all of us. I can only picture what you would say or tell me and I hope I am not letting anyone down. This has been the hardest times in my life and without you I feel so empty. Please watch over our childeren and grandchildren and guide us all in the right direction. I hope that is not such a selfish thing of me to ask but we all need your presents in our lives. JJ misses you so and I can only hope I can help him heal. He is soooo lost without you and oh my goodness he is looking more and more like you everyday! Ralphie is in so much pain and he doesn't talk to me about things. I know he needs you to help him see that things happen for a reason and that he will come out of this as a better person. Rach has her family that keeps her going, but she too is missing you so. I wish you only knew how much you really mean to all of us and never in a million years can I let you know how much I miss and need you. I hope you have found peace and you are painfree, no more tears but a heart full of joy and peace. You were are good man and a great Father and the best friend I could of ever asked for. God Bless you Ralph and I am still looking up at the moon knowing you are doing the same. Dar

Rachael Guary

December 26, 2012

Hi Dad Merry Christmas!!! I miss you and love you so much! We spent the day with the entire family which was very nice and lit candles for you while we ate. I gave everyone photos of you in a photo book and made all of them smile. When I write to you like this I get choked up because then I am facing the truth that you are in heaven instead of here with us. We gave the whole family tickets to come visit us in Florida and I wish I could have given you one go come visit. Everyone is telling me that they see you in Bryce and Carter calls you his Angel. I know you are watching over all of us and would love for you to reach out to me in some way. I know you are in a better place but it's hard to believe its better since its not here with us!!! Merry Christmas and you will always be my angel!!! Love love love. Rachael

Darlene Cassidy

November 7, 2012

I am not sure if this will be the last time I will beable to sign on to this so I just wanted you to know that I miss talking to you and having you stop by just to say hey, and have a few cold ones with me. Please watch over our three children they need to know that you are still present in their lives. I know you are watching over Carter and Bryce you would be sooo proud. Things are tuff right now but as you have told me many many times stay strong and take care of our family. Holidays are coming up, they always made you somewhat sad, now I can relate to how that feels. Your favorite one is Thanksgiving cause you said that is all about family and celebrating by having a huge meal together and watching football. That is what we will be doing in your memory. Please watch over our boys they need you and I can't seem to fill that void. I remember when we use to talk about what it would be like after we pass....I hope you are pain free and happy Ralph, you deserve it and I am so glad that you are the father to my children. Miss you more than anyone could know or understand except for you and I. Love you always Dar

Bryce Raphael Dolan

Darlene

October 8, 2012

Ralph had an amazing weekend Carter stayed over night Saturday night at my house and he went with Tony and I to Chuckie Cheeses, the Planetarium, the pumkin patch and shopping. He helped me make Rachaels Birthday cake your's and her's favorite icecream cake with extra crunch!! He wore me out though, he is so cute and has so much energy. Anyway's then we went to his house on Sunday and celebrated our baby girl's birthday!! 33 years ago she was born and remember what a long 48 hours of labor we were in!! I say we cause you were right there feeling it with me!! I gave her and Ralphie a special picture of you with eachone of them and also a special prayer candle they can light and pray or just take to you whenever they want to. I am getting JJ one as well so he can also do the same. Rachael gave us another wonderful gift, our Grandson Bryce Raphael and I keep thinking he looks like someone in the family but can't quite figure out who yet. Rachael had Bryce on my Birthday isn't that wonderful? He is such a beautiful baby. I miss talking to you but you know I always do still talk to you, but now I look up in the sky instead of your beautiful brown eyes. As Carter would say to you Love Love Love Papa G!! xoxoxoxoxo

Rachael Guary

June 18, 2012

Hey Dad!
I'm engaged! I know you already know that and saw the whole thing! Ralphie even wrote me a text after and said he knows you were smiling and happy! I felt like I felt your presence with Billy buying the hydrangea bush and honoring you. He is so amazing and I am so happy you somewhat gave your blessing to mom when we were in Hawaii. I know Billy asked Ralphie for my hand in marriage too! I wish Justin was there but he will be for the wedding! I am on such a cloud 9 right now. For a long time and for good reasons I felt like good things don't happen to me too often or maybe I just don't deserve them. But Carter, this new baby, and Billy have made that not true Billy told me we were going to be like grandma and grandpa Cassidy and hold hands even when we are 90 and be like that forever!!! He really helped turn a hard day into a beautiful one and that's why I am so in love with him. I know you know that and I know you were laughing when you heard or saw that stunt he pulled to have him purposely get mad at him! One thing that i wish i could have is you walking me down the aisle Even the thought of you not there is killing me! I love you!!! And miss you!!!!

Darlene Cassidy

June 18, 2012

Ralph,
So much has happened since I wrote in this to you last. Your Birthday was Saturday, I bought a bottle of Grand Maniar your favoriate shot that I really do not like. I was cutting up vegetables for the pasta salad for Father's day picnic at Billys and I had a candle lit with a picture of you and a shot sitting beside you talking, crying and smiling with you. I talked about how you would be sitting there next to me saying I didn't cut them small enough or that you would be saying are you crazy, you know you can't do shots! Anyways I wished you a happy birthday and took you outside and cried and talked some more. Billy proposed so beautifully to Rachael with a bush he bought her like you bought her last year to honor your memory, and then on the ground next to the bush he had a ring and asked her to marry him. Everyone was crying tears of joy and he had this all planned to do it on that special day of honoring you and with you being there giving your blessings. She is so happy and she told me she thought she was dreaming until she woke up and saw that beautiful ring still there on her finger!! Please watch out for our three children who miss you sooo much and make them stay safe. Cater is amazing and growing to fast. He reminds me of you as all of our kids do. The baby is doing fine safe in mommy's tummy and I can't help but think that is you watching over all of them. I miss you, I miss talking to you and confinding in you like we use to. You know I went through some major life changes and I know you understand why I did what I did because you told me you wanted me to be happy and that is exactly why I did what I did, to be happy.
I miss you and think about you all the time. You always said to me thank you for making you a father to 3 such beautiful children, now I am thanking you for doing the same and leaving me here for now with the memory of just how each one of our kids are a miricle and when I want to see you, I just look at them and I see you.
Dar

Rahael Gary

June 16, 2012

Happy 53rd birthday Dad! We all celebrated your birthday in on own way I guess. I even watched Ralphie play basketball like how I use to watch you play. I kept getting flash backs of you being on the court while I was there. Carter knew it was your birthday also. I pointed to your picture on our wall and asked him who this was and he smiled and said "Papa" just to challenge him even more I showed him your obituary card and asked who is this and again he said clearly "Papa". That made me smile and cry at the same time because he will always know who you are and I know how much that would mean to you. Today was just extremely hard and my eyes are so swollen from all of the emotion. Tomorrow will not be any easier since you are not physically here for Father's Day. I am just going to try to hide my sadness and smile and hope all the other dads have a great time especially Billy. Brenda gave me a beautiful stone in honor of you to put in our garden in the backyard. Also Nancy gave me 2 beautiful long stemmed rose bushes in honor of you one for me and one for Carter. She is getting another one when the baby is born. They are so beautiful and she knew how much roses meant to me because you always gave them to me. I'm blessed to have such wonderful caring people in my life. I just miss you so much! Please watch over our entire family. It was and still is difficult to just have lost you but the aftermath is overwhelming. I know you and John are the ones keeping me strong because I amaze myself sometimes. I know it's for the health of the new baby and me. I love you so much and wish I could tell you that in person. Happy birthday Daddy! With all my love, your baby girl! Xoxo and also Happy Fathers Day!!

Linda Hagans

June 4, 2012

Hey Ralph,
I just spend the last half an hour reading through all the entries from Rachael and Darlene. It is bringing tears to my eyes. I am so sorry that I was not able to make it to your services. I thought about you and your family and sent lots of prayers. I hope you got them all. I will never forgive myself for not doing more to be there for Rachael when she needed the most. Luckily for me, Rachael is one of the most forgiving people I have ever met. Thanks for visiting my dream the other night! LOL Your recommendation for the restaurant turned out to be really good (in my dream at least). I talked with Rachael for a little while yesterday and I am so proud of her. I keep reading Rachael's words asking for strength but she is stronger than she realizes. She is such a good Mama and Billy is her soul mate. They were meant to be together. He takes such good care of her and she takes such good care of him. She learned that from you and Darlene ya know. I hope you know how much your family has always meant to me. Keep watching out for your family. They need you more than ever. XO

Rachael Guary

May 9, 2012

Hi Dad,
2 days ago was Carter's second birthday. I can't believe he is 2! I missed you being there. On Sunday we had a family party and then a 2 year old party at the little gym. Last year I remember you taking a million pictures for his first birthday! On his birthday we also went to the NICU to see any of his nurses. We saw Chris there so that was good. When we were trying to find a parking spot in the garage I had a flashback of you telling me to wait because you wanted me to have something for Carter and it was Great Grandmas silver cross. I am so grateful that you gave that to us! Billy and I went to my ultrasound appointment that I was really nervous about because it would tell where my placenta is. I was starting to have bad dreams over it and was getting myself worked up. Thanks to you and John and everyone's prayers everything is great! I am so happy! I just wish you were here to see Carter and be here for the new baby. We are to going to find out the sex of the baby but Mom and Billy were trying to cheat and look. Mom thinks it is a girl and Billy thinks its a boy. If its a boy we are giving the baby your name as the middle name. Maybe the baby wouldn't ever be able to physically meet you but will know about you and have a part of you by name. I love you and think about you everyday. I hope you are smiling! Love you daddy!

Dar Cassidy

May 7, 2012

Ralph,
Today is our miracle Grandson's 2nd Birthday. Can you believe it? He is so full of life and he is talking like crazy, a lot of babbling and yet a lot of words!! You would of loved to see how excited he was yesterday at both of his parties. But then again I know you were there with Carter smiling down upon him. Yesterday I went to pick up my car from JJ at the English Rd. basketball courts, that is where Justin, Ralphie and Ricky were playing pick up games just like you use to do with them. As I watched them, tears came down my eyes thinking of how much you loved to play ball with them and they are truely keeping that legecy going. Watch over all of our children and grandchildren and please protect them. I miss talking to you.
Love you always,
Dar

Rachael Guary

April 19, 2012

Dad
I wish your life didn't get cut short and you were here with me in the living room cheering on all the amazing new things Carter is doing! I miss you just popping by with red wine, cherries, or savastanos! I wish we could have our talks about Florida, or your new grandson or granddaughter. I just miss you so much and I still can't believe this all happened. I heard Nick Aunt Tammy's boyfriend is making a miraculous recovery and I know it's because of you! I tried to text her but she never got back to me. Well I love you and miss you. Carter points at your picture in the living room and smiles every time I say that's Papa G! He is missing out not having you here with him but I know you will always watch over him! Xo

Dar Cassidy

April 17, 2012

I can't believe that you have been gone now for 6 months!! I think of you all of the time and on April 7th 2012 I miss you more than ever. That would of been our Anniversary day. I miss the phone calls we gave eachother every year even when we were apart and this year I held you close to my heart and was praying to you and hoping you can hear me. You are the love of my life and you always have and will be Ralph. Thank you for being the best friend anyone could ask for and remember you will never be forgotten.
Missing you so and wishing you were still here.
xoxoxo

Rachael Guary

April 4, 2012

Hi Dad. I'm sorry I haven't been on here writing lately but I talk and think of you everyday. I have been going to Florida and all I thi kis about you. How much you would like to come visit us or tell me places to go. I still can't believe your not here. I miss you so much!i know you see us and know whats going on. Things seem to be getting a little better but are still very shakey. Carter is getting so big! He misses you so much. I think of how your reaction would be when he does new things. I know you are watching over me because we are making you a Papa again! We don't want to find out what the sex is just hope the baby is healthy. Ahhhh I hate talking to you this way. I have so many memories and reminders of you that I just want to do one more time at least. I'm trying so hard to be the strong one but it's so hard. I hope you don't feel like its because I don't miss you or love you because that is so far from the truth. I am trying to hold my ground for everyone else. They are having such a difficult time and need someone to stay calm. I see you through Carter though but wish you were here to see us. Please keep me strong. Please tell John I miss him so much also and I hope you both know there is not a day hat goes by that I don't think, talk, or pray to you. Life is not fair but one day I will meet you and we can continue where we left off!!! I love you xoxo
Rachael

Rachael Guary

February 14, 2012

Happy Valentines Day Dad! We miss you so much! I think I am still in denial that you are gone! I cry at nit when I am alone and Carter is sleeping. He keeps me going all day long! I wish you were here and we got thang out even one last time. I would do anything for you to be able to play with Carter and drink wine or eat cherries again!
I am so happy we were able to communicate through Anthony. I want to hear more and keep you talking to me. It made me feel so much better and be ale to believe that much more. I know you are always around Carter so keep playing and pointing to him:) please watch over all of us and keep us strong! We all need to heal and get better!! I know you are in good hands and you are also with my best friend John. I miss him also so much! I love you and I miss the flowers you would have brought to me. Our cousin Nancy suggested I get a rose bush in honor of you. I love the idea and am going to get one! I love you and so does Carter! Xoxo

Rachael Guary

January 6, 2012

We miss you and love you Dad!!!!! Please guide us!!! Xoxo

Dar Cassidy

January 6, 2012

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)

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December 12, 2011

You have been gone now for exactly 2 months as of today! I think about you everyday and night and wish you were here. Last night all I did was toss and turn which actually is happening all of the time. I am going through all of the paperwork and trying to make any sense if possible what happened. Because this should not have happened!!

Carter had his Xmas pictures done and it just didnt feel right with out you doing them or us talking about which ones we liked. We always agreed usually on pictures! You would be so proud of Carter. He is walking everywhere and shooting the ball in the basketball hoop....We didnt cut his hair yet except for the piece you have with you. It is getting a little out of control but you told me how much you liked it so we are not ready to cut it. I will post some of his xmas pics but they didnt compare to what you did last year.

Dad why did this happen??? I am in such shock and denial.... I feel like I see you still walking in through my door smiling with your arms wide open saying "hey buddy" to Carter...I still see you fixing my sub pump and blowing up Carters swimming pool and telling me I need a little water foutain in the backyard. I see so much but your not here....I know I have to believe that you are but I cant even believe that this has happened! Please help me get the strength to help the rest of the family...I know you know what I am talking about and I am scared...I promise I will do everything possible to find out what went wrong and have some sort of closure. You told me when I was in Hawaii that you felt great and not to worry about you and you would see me when we got back. So why did I beleive you to come back to you not here?

I love you dad! Rest in Peace!! xoxo

Rachael Guary

December 2, 2011

Dad,
Today you would have been so proud of Carter. He went to swimming lessons and loved it. He loves the water just like we did as kids growing up. I remember having contests with you on who could hold their breath the longest and go back and forth accross the pool! Later on Mom and I had to go see the lawyer. We hate going there. It makes us have to face reality and face the fact that you are not here. I think we are all in denial and try to put up a wall or say you are in Florida, but the truth is, I am sitting here trying to put together a puzzle of your life and find missing pieces. Reading about how much pain you were in breaks are hearts.....I hope you are happy and are pain free. You must have wanted to at least take the chance of grabbing Gods hand and letting go because you saw a better place. I just wish you waited a little longer. I am so sorry that I wasnt there during this surgery and i hope you know and that I have said enough times how much I love you and now want you to know how much you are going to be missed. You kept saying how proud you were of me. Well I could have not been more proud of you. You went to the lowest of the lows and got help and found yourself again and made peace. You had a new way of wanting to live life and wanted to be the best Papa to our son. I applaud you for doing all of that and having it all start when you put down your guard and walked into the hospital to see me after all the complications with me and giving birth. I am so happy and thankful that you set such a great example and that family is most important. You shocked me and I was PROUD of you! You became again who I looked up to and loved so much. Not a second though even when we were not on the same terms I want you to know that I did not love you. I always did and always will....Tomorrow I am getting Carters Xmas pictures done at Clix and it is bothering me so much. Last year you took the most amazing pictures of Carter. You were the best of what you did and a perfectionist! Then this year when we went to Clix you came to help make Carter smile. Please be there tomorrow! Make him smile! Its not the same without you being there and I dont know what else to say! Sometimes the days are getting better but the nights are getting unbearble. My mind races and thinks of the worse and is on overload. I love you and hope and want to believe that you can see what I am reading. Yesterday I went to Macys and the first thing I saw was a stocking that said only believe on it...so I bought it. Then later I had to look for an ornament for a party and I saw one that said believe on it so I bought that too. Stay close to John, Great Grandma, and Aunt Louise. Give them all a big hug and kiss and tell them I cant wait to see all of you someday! xoxo Rachael

Darlene Cassidy

November 30, 2011

You were so full of life,
Always smiling and carefree,
Life loved you being a part of it,
And I loved you being a part of me.
You could make anyone laugh,
If they were having a bad day,
No matter how sad I was,
You could take the hurt away.
Nothing could every stop you,
Or even make you fall,
You were ready to take on the world,
Ready to do it all.
But God decided he needed you,
So from this world you left,
But you took a piece of all of us,
Our hearts are what you kept.
Your seat is now empty,
And it's hard not to see your face,
But please always know this,
No one will ever take your place.
You left without a warning,
Not even saying good-bye,
And I can't seem to stop,
Asking the question why?
Nothing will ever be the same,
The halls are empty without your laughter,
But I know you're in Heaven,
Watching over us and looking after.
I didn't see this coming,
It hit me by surprise,
And when you left this world,
A small part of me died.
Your smile could brighten anyone's day,
No matter what they were going through,
And I know everyday for the rest of my life,
I'll be missing you.

A toast fo you Papa G

Rachael Guary

November 27, 2011

Dad,
A few days ago we celebrated Thanksgiving at my house. It was extremely hard for me. Justin did not show and of course you were not there. Billy set up an extra plate setting and added your cross and picture next to it. It is so hard to beleieve that this has all happened and its for real. I am still in denial and maybe havent prayed to you because you should be here with us still on earth!!! It is hard to say what I am thankful for this year besides of course our family, Billy, and Carter but this year I have encountered so much loss that I cant reason why this is all happing to me. I pictured you sitting at the table eating the food and saying how awesome the meal was and how you definitely want to take some home! You would of loved it I think because I brined the turkey like last year and everyone said it came out great. I didnt know because I had a plate filled with food ready to eat but then could not touch it. I am trying so hard to be strong and I just hear your voice in my head or vision your reaction to what you would say after you saw Carter doing something new. My heart breaks and I wish so much I could turn back time. I know we had our ups and downs but there was not a second that I didnt love you so much! Your the one that could make me cry and always had my heart regardless of what things have happened. I will say that I am thankful this year that because of Carter I was able to rebuild a REAL relationship with my daddy again! One that was so cherished even though for a short time. I am thankful that my son was the light in your eyes and that he was able to love his Papa G. I am thankful that you were so loyal in his 104 days at the NICU that I believe contributed to his continued improved health. I am thankful for all of my childhood years having the most admired involved father that loved me so much! I miss you and wish you could reach out to me more. I love you and Carter misses you and will always love his Papa G!

Dar Cassidy

November 22, 2011

I cried when you passed away. I still cry today. Although I loved you dearly, I couldn't make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. God broke our hearts to prove to us he only takes the best. Miss you so much!

Rachael Guary

November 21, 2011

Dad this past Saturday Nov. 19, 2011 Billy and I had Carter baptized at Queen of Peace Church. It was a private baptism with Ralphie being the Godfather and Carrielynn was the Godmother. He looked adorable in his white suit and he had on the gold chain with the cross that you and mom bought him to wear on this special day. Mom also gave me a guardian angel charm that was an extra from Great Grandma that we added to his chain. I had Father Hart bless the chain and also the cross you gave Carter while he was in the NICU. You were so determined to give him that and I know how much that cross meant to you because it was Great Grandmas. Father Hart also blessed a ring that Mom bought me when Carter was in the NICU and I have been wearing it again ever since you left us. It says Believe on it which helped me stay strong while Carter was sick and has become a word that means so much to me. I need to believe that you are in a better place and are happy. I need to believe that you did not suffer and you are smiling down at us and will wait for all of us to meet you oneday. While Father Hart was blessing Carter, your grandson yelled out YEAHHHH!!!! I thought in my head that you might have had something to do with that to put a smile on our faces! Justin came to the church and I was so happy and I know you would have been too. The only person that was missing there was you Carter's Papa G. I know you were there up above but it wasnt the same for me! I miss you so much. I cry everyday and the pain in my heart does not feel any easier. I had everyone at the house afterwards to celebrate his baptism and I really wanted to have a special cake made for Carter. I had the baker put the gold angel that you gave me on the cake, a wooden cross that I thought was from you but I am not sure that was on Carters isolet while he was in the NICU, and I added my 1st Communion cross on the cake. She made it as a open book style and it came out beautiful. I put your silver cross and a picture of you and Carter next to the cake also. I know you will always be Carter's Guardian Angel but it breaks my heart that you are not with me! I am trying to stay strong but I am so weak and cannot believe that this has happened. So I just have to believe you are above me and miss me just as much as I miss you! I love you so much and I wanted to continue this online page so it is a way we can express ourselves, talk to you, and have something for your #1 grandson to cherish forever!!! I know Carter misses you and is wondering where have you been. SO please stay close and let us know that you are right here forever and always. I love you <3 xoxo

Carter being baptized Nov 19, 2011

Rachael Guary

November 21, 2011

cassidy darlene

November 16, 2011

Ralph I know you are watching over us as our guardian angel from up above. I look at the moon everynight, it brings me comfort because that is our special way of reaching out for eachother. Please protect all of our children and Carter through all of this and I promise I will try and stay strong for all of us. I miss you and not one day goes by without a beautiful memory coming across my mind of our family.

Theresa Wells

November 4, 2011

My name is Theresa Wells, Ralph was my brother. We shared a special bond for a portion of our lives. He has brought happiness, laughter and kindness to my sister, Tammy Wells and myself over the years. There are so many things i wish i could have said. Until we meet again.
Love,
Your Sister

Ralphie's 30th Birthday with Ralph and family

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Billy, Tom, Ralphie, Danny, Ricky and Ralph

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Ralph, Dar and Mom (Grandma)

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Papa Ralph, Carter and Rachael

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Grandpa, Ralphie, Ralph and Ricky

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Ralphie, Billy, Carter, Rachael and Ralph

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Ralphie, Rachael and Ralph

Darlene Cassidy

November 3, 2011

Dar Cassidy

November 2, 2011

Thank you everyone for all the support and love each and everyone has given to my children, grandson and myself at this time of sadness. Ralph was a wonderful man with such a big heart full of love for all his friends and family. I just wish he knew how much love he has and I know he is no longer suffering. He is my love of my life and best friend, and he was the best father/grandfather any child could ask for. I am so proud of him being the Father of my childern and he lives on in them. I miss you soooo much. xoxoxo

Don Petralia

October 20, 2011

Darlene, Rachael, Ralph & Justin,
Please accept my deepest sympathy on Ralph's passing.
I worked with Ralph at Eastman Kodak, and even though we lost touch, I have thought of him often through the years. We shared so many good times inside & outside of work.
Ralph was a true Family Man & his smile was as big as his Heart!
Rest in Peace my Friend

nadeen

October 19, 2011

Darlene, Rach and Boys, Im so sorry for your loss. I have lots of great memories of your dad, he loved you guys so much! My Thoughts And Prayers are with you. Love You Guys:)

Kevin Birch

October 18, 2011

Dear Darlene and the entire Guary family, I am very sorry for the loss of your father. Ralph was a dear friend of mine and we went to high school together. We had many good times in our teenage years from sharing junior prom together to getting into all kinds of mischief and much of those good times I still share til this day with our circle of friends with many laughs. Yes, we lost contact as years past and that seems to be the norm today unfortunately with the busy lives that we live, but I can say this much, thank you Ralph for the great memories, I will never forget you. Rest in peace my friend and god bless you, and your entire family, sincerely Kevin Birch

October 18, 2011

Our thoughts and prayers are with your family at this very difficult time.

Joan Harrison Phillips
Eric Shaw
We will never forget all the years with chili lions football.
R.I.P. Mr. Guary

Dave L

October 18, 2011

Darlene and family: our hearts and thoughts are with you at this time. Love ya.

October 18, 2011

Rachael, Ralph, and Justin,

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. Please accept my best wishes and prayers. Kathleen Muronda

Weihoneig Family

October 18, 2011

Dar,Rach,Ralph,Justin-My heart is breaking with the loss of a wonderful-Husband, father, great friend. I have known Ralph for over 30 years-I am so deeply sorry. Heaven has a beautiful new angel. All our love-Todd, Sue and Connor

Linda & Mackenzie Cassidy

October 18, 2011

Darlene,Racheal,Ralph and Justin,
Please accept our deepest sympathies.
Our thoughts and Prayers are with all of you

Linda Saraceni

October 17, 2011

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Kristy Cassidy Rapacki

October 17, 2011

Love you Uncle Ralph! Thank you for taking pictures at my wedding. It meant so much to Jon and I . You captured the most memorable time of my life and I am forever greatful. Heaven is blessed to have you.

AnnMarie Ludwig

October 17, 2011

Peace to the family during this difficult time. Thank you Ralph for taking my daugther's graduation photographs. She will cherish those forever, and the good times that we had taking them. You made it very fun and an adventure. Peace

Wendy Migliore

October 17, 2011

Tammy,

I am so sorry to hear about your Brother's passing. I am saying prayers for you and your family.

Dawn & Juli

October 17, 2011

Ralphie, Racheal, Justin, Darlene and family,
It is so hard to beleive that Ralph is gone but will never be forgotten. We are so sorry for your lost. We we were so lucky to have known Ralph for over 25 years and will miss his smile his walks with the dogs. Please know that your family is in our prayers and thoughts and will be sadly miss

Shanna Diep

October 17, 2011

Rachael, Ralph and Justin and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

jessica exley

October 16, 2011

Love and miss you uncle Ralph.

Brandon and Linda Hagans

October 16, 2011

Rachael, Ralphie, Justin, and Darlene, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I have so many wonderful memories of Ralph. I remember working the festivals with Rachael and Ralph always smiling. He was always so funny! He was always so good to me. And I remember Ralph always being at our cheerleading competitions and could see how proud he was of you Rach! You were always Daddy's little girl! He was always with his boys helping them with their sports and giving them guidance! Ralph loved you all! He will be missed'

keyla cubi

October 16, 2011

Rest in peace

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