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V. Oskamp Obituary
Webster, NY: On February 13, 2017, V. Joyce Oskamp, formerly of Webster, New York passed away. Beloved wife of Henry Oskamp. Loving mother of Eugene Oskamp, Roy Oskamp, and Leslie Mansfield and husband Daniel. Grandmother of Kaitlin Meleski-Oskamp, Genevieve Mansfield, and Daniel Mansfield Jr.
A Memorial Mass will be held at the Church of the Holy Spirit, 1355 Hatch Rd., Webster, NY, 14580 on Saturday, June 10th at 10am. There will be a brunch offered by the family following the Mass at 11:30am at Bazil's Restaurant on 1384 Empire Blvd., Rochester, NY 14609.
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Memories and Condolences
for V. Oskamp
Leslie Mansfield
June 9, 2017
I read through some of my Mom's cards and letters to get a feel for what to tell you about her. She took time to express her thoughts, impressions and memories in her beautiful handwriting.
Firstly, she cared very deeply for people. She loved her family dearly. She cared for her father, mother and aunt until they passed away in advanced ages. Mom loved the natural beauty of Webster, the deer in the backyard, the fruit trees and the lush greenery. She maintained long-term relationships with her girlfriends from high school.
Joyce graduated from Benjamin Franklin High School in 1947. She was a popular cheerleader and high school sorority member. She loved to ice skate in winters across the street from her house on Norton Street.
When her parents built their house in Webster the early 1950's, she was already married to Gene Garda, now deceased. My brothers, Gene and Roy, enjoyed visiting Grandpa and Grandma's fruit farm. In December 1961 Joyce married Henry Oskamp. He adopted my brothers, and a within a few years I was born. The grandparents gifted the land to my parents to build a house in the early 1970's. Mom lived there until, for health reasons, it was necessary to move to an assisted living facility near us in Maryland. There, she was near 2 of her 3 grandchildren. Mom was able to celebrate our daughter's 20th birthday with her before she departed for Senegal to French/development/economic/political studies.
Mom enjoyed attending any and all of the grandchildren's events, either in NY or when she visited Maryland, whether they were dramatic plays, musicals, baseball games or dance recitals. She was proud of all their academic achievements, and the languages they were learning. Mom came to visit us in Italy at a time when my children were fluently chattering in Italian, and how she enjoyed that!
She always supported and encouraged all of us to go on to do big things; to travel and to seek our goals in life. She and Dad enjoyed hosting family barbeques in the backyard, gathering all of us together to tell our stories. She also was blessed to be able to travel to Mexico, Japan, Germany, Scandinavia, and Italy. There are close family friends present from Morelia, Mexico, which she & I visited in 1992. We toured Rome together in 2004, which is a favorite memory. She was fascinated by the Vatican tour.
Mom eventually succumbed to Devic's Disease, an autoimmune disease similar to MS, which attacks the spinal cord and brain. It placed her in a wheelchair for the last 8 years of her life. She had pain, which she stubbornly and bravely battled. She was extremely blessed to have my Dad as her primary caregiver for 6 of those years. Prior to the sudden onset of that disease in 2008, which took time to diagnose and treat, my parents enjoyed attending polka-dancing events in Elmira, NY. Joyce loved taking drives along the Finger Lakes, which she admired and told every out-of-towner about with great pride.
in Columbia, MD Nov 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 9, 2017
At Jody's house July 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 9, 2017
Genevieve's high school graduation
Leslie Mansfield
June 9, 2017
at 2015 high school graduation
Leslie Mansfield
June 9, 2017
Leslie Mansfield
June 9, 2017
I read through many of my Mom's cards and letters to get a feel for how to describe her. She took time to express her thoughts, impressions and memories in her beautiful handwriting.
Firstly, she cared very deeply for people. She loved her family dearly. She cared for her father, mother and aunt until they passed away in advanced ages. Mom loved the natural beauty of Webster, the deer in the backyard, the fruit trees and the lush greenery. She maintained long-term relationships with her friends from high school.
Joyce graduated from Benjamin Franklin High School in 1947. She was a cheerleader and high school sorority member. She loved to ice skate in winters across the street from her house on Norton Street.
When her parents built their house in Webster in the early 1950's, she was already married to Gene Garda, now deceased. My brothers, Gene and Roy, enjoyed visiting Grandpa and Grandma's fruit farm. In December 1961 Joyce married Henry Oskamp. He adopted my brothers, and a within a few years I was born. The grandparents gifted the land to my parents to build a house in the early 1970's. Mom lived there until, for health reasons, it was necessary to move to an assisted living facility near us in Maryland. There, she was near 2 of her 3 grandchildren. Mom was able to celebrate our daughter's 20th birthday with her before she departed for Senegal to French development and economic studies.
Mom enjoyed attending any and all of the grandchildren's events, either in NYS or when she visited Maryland, whether they were dramatic plays, musicals, baseball games or dance recitals. She was proud of all their academic achievements, and the languages they were learning. Mom came to visit us in Italy at a time when my children were fluently chattering in Italian, and how she enjoyed that!
She always supported and encouraged all of us to go on to do big things; to travel and to seek our goals in life. She and Dad enjoyed hosting family barbecues in the backyard, gathering all of us together to tell our stories. She also was blessed to be able to travel to Mexico, Japan, Germany, Scandinavia, and Italy. There are close family friends present from Morelia, Mexico, which she & I visited in 1992. We toured Rome together in 2004, which is a favorite memory. She was fascinated by the Vatican tour.
Mom eventually succumbed to Devic's Disease, an autoimmune disease similar to MS, which attacks the spinal cord and brain. It placed her in a wheelchair for the last 8 years of her life. She had pain, which she stubbornly and bravely battled. She was tremendously blessed to have my Dad as her primary caregiver for 6 of those years. Prior to the sudden onset of that disease in 2008, which took time to diagnose and properly treat, my parents enjoyed attending polka-dancing events in Elmira, NY. Joyce loved taking drives along the Finger Lakes, which she admired and told every out-of-towner about with great pride.
Jody Remington
June 8, 2017
I have wonderful memories growing up, spending time picking cherries from your yard and making pies at your house. She was always interested in what we were doing and having conversations about what was going on in our lives. I owe my banking career to her! I remember when I was looking for a job and she said to me "you were always good at math, you should work for a bank". Thirty two years later, I guess she was right. I will miss her deeply. Love, Jody.
Gene and Mom
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Joyce in Japan 1989
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Thanksgiving 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Joyce, Hank Christmas 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Joyce, Genevieve, Hank Christmas 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Dan, Genevieve , Leslie, Mom, Daniel & Dad
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Leslie, Mom, Jody
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Leslie, Dan Christmas 2016 Grace Community Church
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Marion, Mizukami-san, Leslie & Joyce 1989
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Joyce, Hank Christmas 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Dan & Daniel @ 9/11 Memorial Jan 2017
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Joyce, Dan, Marion in Japan 1989
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Leslie, Genevieve 20th b-day Dec 2016
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Leslie, Mom in Japan 1989
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Leslie, Roy on beach in CA
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Mom, Aunt Vi, Leslie, Grandma in Webster 1992
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Mom, Aunt Violet, Leslie, Grandma Gen Dec 1988
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Genevieve and Mom in Columbia, MD
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Grandma Genevieve & Mom in Webster backyard 1997
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
Dan, Daniel, Genevieve, Leslie @ JFK de to Africa 2017
Leslie Mansfield
June 8, 2017
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