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for JOHN HELLMAN
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Dan Kocher
January 9, 2020
I think of John much more than you would imagine. Absolutely one of the very nicest man I have ever known to know that he considered me a friend is a great honor we have been cheated out of ten magnificent years of friendship and companionship
John Speed
January 9, 2020
Marlene I hope you focus on your happy memories with John this a 10th anniversary of his passing. He left us too soon.
Thanks for the holiday card.
Marlene Hellman
January 8, 2020
Rest In Peace dear John. I see you up in the stars.
Marlene Hellman
January 8, 2020
Its been 10 years and I never tried to find another man in my life because who would treat me the way you did? I think of you all the time. Im now wearing yourOmega watch. I will love you for eternity, my dearest John.
November 25, 2010
Dear John,
Parker and went out to dinner last night and thought of the day when you and I got married at the Brazil Building in Berkeley. It was a unique wedding. Not much food, but a great jazz band made up of Jules Broussard and his sidemen.
I guess I should go find out where Jules is playing and go see him this weekend if he is in the Bay area. We miss you so much, Johnny. I cry for you every night.
I know you can't read this. You are no more. It's that reality that breaks my heart. I will always love you.
Marlene
Parker Hellman
April 25, 2010
For Dad.
Love,
Parker
John 1972
Marlene Hellman
April 25, 2010
John 1983
Marlene Hellman
April 25, 2010
John 1972
Marlene Hellman
April 25, 2010
Marlene Hellman
April 25, 2010
This candle is for you, our beloved John.
March 27, 2010
Dear Marlene, Although I only met John once or twice I knew him through Alana and Dorothy. John was a very special person and the loss must be overwhelming. Please accept my deepest condolences. Love, Diane DeAngelus
Barry Moore
January 30, 2010
Marlene and Parker,
Know that my thoughts and prayers continue with you both as you mourn John's passing. May God and all of the fond memories of John bring much needed comfort.
Annie Yaniga
January 27, 2010
Marlene,
I am so sorry to hear about John's passing. Please accept my condolences and know that you will be in my thoughts in the coming months.
Yours,
Annie Yaniga
(Fellow University of Chicago Alumni SF Board Member)
Melanie Berzon
January 26, 2010
Marlene,
As am sure you know, John was one of a kind! He brightened many a life and put a smile on many a face. He truly made a difference in his all too short lifetime. I will miss his shining spirit, his positive attitude, his dedication to peace, justice and of course, MUSIC! And I will miss our musings on our dear New Jersey. Thanks to you and Parker for sharing him with those of us here at KCSM.
Anita Paniagua-Garcia
January 19, 2010
Marlene, I only met John on a few occasions but after experiencing his memorial I can see that the imprint on this earth that John left. I have always enjoyed watching you light up talking about your soulmate expressing your love as if you had just encountered it and it was new. After many years of marriage it was wonderful seeing you both light up with your endless love almost like newlyweds, it never showed how many years you had with eachother, because it always seemed that you both had discvoered something new in eachother. That same love has spilled over onto your son and with all your friends. I know his memories will keep you and Parker going, I'm so sorry that someone with his kind of love had to leave when it is so necessary during these trying times.
Joel Simmons
January 19, 2010
Marlene,
My condolences to you and your family. May your memories bring you comfort and may god bring you peace.
Jane McCarthy
January 18, 2010
Marlene and Parker-May your happy memories give you strength. The memorial service was just the kind of party John would have loved- his friends, relatives and jazz. It was truly a fitting celebration of a good life. Jane
John Manning
January 18, 2010
I was so looking forward to meeting up with John after 37 years. I was very pleased to speak with him a month or so ago.I send my positive energy and love to you,
John A. Manning
Marion Sirefman
January 17, 2010
I was SO sorry to hear of John's death. I feel a special connection to Marlene & John, since they started dating after meeting up with each other at a pot luck at my house when I lived in Berkeley.They might have gotten together anyway, but who knows? and who else named their son after Charlie Parker? who followed his Dad's interest in music to be a great D? And whose wife loves him so incredibly dearly as Marlene does. The first year is the hardest, they say- the first time you go through each holiday, birthday, etc. without John - it will be so hard. But so many people loved you and cared about you both, who will be around to comfort you -- that should be a big help.
Dennis Dingemans
January 17, 2010
Thanks for letting me know about the situation surrounding John's death. Memories of John's undergraduate presence at Chicago are strong an positive for me. It was fortunate to have had him review our interaction highlights at the last Berkeley Foothills reunion. I was delighted that he too remembered with pride the actions needed to institutionalize Ida Noyse Hall concerts with Paul Butterfield and the dance parties at New Dorms. A thoroughly nice guy and a good conversationalist. From Dennis D.
Alison Ramos
January 17, 2010
Please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time. We have such wonderful memories of John. He truly was an inspiration to all and will be greatly missed. Love Always, Alison, Lou, Kaia & Kean Ramos
Brett Weinstein
January 17, 2010
In the brief time that I knew John, I was struck with his inquisitive mind, his great passion and commitment to music, and an obvious joy for life. A deep loss for us all.
Evie Vilar Glodic
January 17, 2010
Marlene,
I'm sending you & Parker my heartfelt condolences. Remember all the good times you had with John & Parker they will be with you always. Write your memories down so in years to come they will make you laugh & cry whenever you read them again.
Evie Vilar Glodic
January 17, 2010
Although we met John only once ( in November) we recognized the soft spoken, kind man who was your loving husband. We feel fortunate to have met the loveing man with whom you shared your life. Our deepest condolences go out to you, Marlene, and Parker. Halina & Vince Buondonno, Boynton Beach, Florida
January 16, 2010
Dear Marlene and Parker,
We are so sorry to hear bout the loss of your wonderful husband and father John Hellman, whom we've heard you talk about so lovingly over the years. Although we only met John on a few occasions, he always seemed like the nicest guy, a great sense of humor, a great host, always made us feel welcome in your home, always helpful. His presence will be deeply missed by all.
love,
Betty & Dale Altvater
Mark Lazarus
January 16, 2010
Dear Marlene and family,
Sue and I are upset and deeply saddened to learn of John's death. He was a lovely man. We remember the joy and enthusiasm John had whenever he talked about playing saxophone. Whenever we hear anyone play jazz saxophone we will think of John with fondness.
We are thinking of you at this difficult time and send you all our love,
Long life,
Mark and Sue
January 16, 2010
John had a wonderful decency about him, a kindness, curiosity and enthusiasm that never seemed to wane. I can't imagine him doing anything hurtful. He greatly enjoyed conversation; unlike many people, he listened, and was always interested in what you had to say. He genuinely seemed to love engaging with others. He had a wealth of knowledge and memories, and loved sharing them. He also had a really nice sense of humor. When I heard about his sudden death, I felt like I had been kicked in the head and the stomach simultaneously. I know how much we will all miss him. Love and deep sympathy to Marlene and Parker. Paul Silver
Dorothy Mason
January 16, 2010
All of my memories of John are completely positive...kind, considerate, welcoming, interested and interesting, not to mention a marvelous houseguest! My heartfelt condolences to Marlene and Parker.
richard david fahrner
January 16, 2010
John's email address says it all, BOP LIVES many thanks for the solids you did for me! richard
Chris Smith
January 16, 2010
I worked with John at KCSM, and I've never met a nicer, more positive human being. I'm honored to have known him and worked with him.
John's attitude and personality continue to influence me.
elissa martino
January 16, 2010
I know John primarily as the wonderful husband of Marlene, my friend and colleague for many years. It was always touching and satisfying to hear her describe their vacations together, their weekend activities, anything, because they so obviously still enjoyed one another so much and had fun together. Considering how strong each of them is as an individual, I found it quite remarkable that they got along so well, respected each other so much and could make such a long term relationship work so well. I am deeply sorry to see him go and will try to be available friend for Marlene as she meets this loss.
John Boccio
January 16, 2010
I always had a good time talking to John. He knew a ton about music, sports, politics and anything that was in the news. I also respected his modesty about his musical abilities. He never told me how good he was. In fact he never offered to play for me at all. So, when he got a new keyboard I asked him to play it. Man, he played it! He was good. John will be missed. And our thoughts and prayers are with Marlene and Parker.
Eric Van Young
January 16, 2010
The truth is that after all these years I do not feel I knew John well, certainly not as well as I would have liked. My impression of him was of a warm, bright, funny man who took life as it came to him, with a slightly quizzical attitude--really, the only way to do it. I know how much pleasure he took in his family--that much was obvious. He will be missed.
Phil Giraldi
January 16, 2010
I didn't know John well at college but he was a pleasant surprise when we worked together on a panel for our 40th reunion. His genuine warmth and ability to reach out were remarkable. He was truly a larger than life personality, charming. My most sincere condolences to Marlene.
Anita Godfrey
January 16, 2010
In our younger days, I often wondered if there could possibly be an intellectual match for my amazing friend Marlene - and then she introduced me to John. He brought intellect, humor, music and love to Marlene and Parker and so many friends. May the good memories keep you strong. You are in our thoughts and in our hearts.
Anita & family
Mickey & Alan Friedman
January 16, 2010
John was quirky, original, kind, and a flat-out wonderful neighbor. We will cherish our indelible memories of him, and send our heartfelt love and condolences to Marlene and Parker.
January 16, 2010
January 16,2010
Meeting John only short time in our tour,I came to know him as a wonderful friend with good sense of humor.I will sure miss him but he sure left a good memory .God be with him.
Jay Patel. Toronto
marty campbell
January 16, 2010
Blessings to the family. John was and is-in-us a dear soul. Don't make any beeg decisions you don't have to for a whole year: Let mourning take its odd and unanticipable course. Be well, and may we continue to share all we've gotten from John's inimitable spirit.
January 16, 2010
John and Ed shared and interest in baseball cards and I remember when Ed's Mom gave him a shoebox full of old his cards from the '50s and '60s and John came over to see them. He had a gleam in his eye as they both talked about their favorite players. I will always remember his gentle presence and his great sense of humor and that excitement about baseball.
Marlene and John were meant to be together. They were the perfect complement of each other. When we had dinner together there was always a good story or two and a lot of laughing at the table.
Thanks, Marlene and Parker, for letting us share our thoughts about John from so many miles away.
With love,
Ed and Roberta Schwarz
Lynda Erinoff
January 16, 2010
John was a mentsch. I never knew him to be unkind to anyone. He knew what was important in life and lived his life accordingly. He was quietly courageous and deeply committed to political and social values. I learned a greast deal from John and have only good memories of him.
Barbara Lamb Hall
January 16, 2010
We loved John at KCSM. His optimism, future-thinking, bright, kind, funny soul is sorely missed. When my family visited NYC (kids for the first time) in 2008, John suggested we all take a Circle Line tour of NY Harbor, which I never did when I lived there. I'm blinking back the tears still as I write this. Hope he's enjoying playing his alto in the great beyond. Best to all of you, Barbara Lamb Hall
Bruno Carnovale
January 16, 2010
I only knew John from sitting on the phone banks during pledge drives at KCSM. It was always a pleasant surprise to find that I'd be sharing some time with him. His upbeat presence will be sorely missed.
Leonard Jacobs
January 16, 2010
An appreciation for life, a passion for keeping close to his friends, a heart as big as the world, and such a hearty laugh and good humor -- John was a great friend and a wonderful human being. I'll miss him and feel such a lack where his presence was so large.
Susan Ospital
January 16, 2010
Marlene and Parker, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Alana McGrattan
January 16, 2010
I am so saddened by John's death but so enjoyed him in this life. His intelligence and wit and love for his family were great to share in those moments that I was able to visit them. I love you Marlene and Parker. Wallace and I are here for you.
Jane Wittgraf
January 16, 2010
I didn't know John well, but the few times we spoke, he was always a funny and friendly fellow. I am sorry there wasn't more opportunity to know him. To my friend Marlene---I know he was the right person for you and that you loved him.
January 16, 2010
From the "Murray the K" days at the U of C to our forum at the reunion I will cherish your memory and consider it a great honor that you considered me a friend.Your enthusiasm for all that you did, your graciousness to all and your willingness to thouthgfully listen to others are only a few of the reasons I will miss you so much. Dan
January 16, 2010
You are fortunate to have so many memories of a wonderful man. May your memories make you strong as you cope with this loss.
Gareth sitz
Fran McCarthy
January 16, 2010
John was always upbeat and positive. We will miss him at our Christmas table.
January 16, 2010
In deepest sympathy for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Maureen Cueman
John Speed
January 16, 2010
My deepest condolences to Marlene, who loved John truly, madly, deeply.
January 16, 2010
Marlene,
My sincerest condolences. It was a pleasure to have known John through our reunions.
Love and Peace,
Paul Usinowicz
Paul Bluestone
January 16, 2010
From the time we were 19-year-old college roommates to his final battle with his cancers, John's enthusiasm and sense of wonder always struck me as unique. He had a life force that seemed like it would never quit. And now, trying to comprehend his death, I still feeI the strong presence of his energy and humor. I guess he's left it to us, his family and wide circle of friends, to go on with our lives with a new sense of wonder, humor and enthusiasm and the with the knowledge that John's indomitable spirit is alive and well. Thanks, John.
January 16, 2010
There was never a more kind, compassionate, caring, sweet and gentle man than John. We treasure the time we spent with John ( and Marlene and Parker). From boat rides in S.F. Harbor to Frank Lloyd Wright icons in Pennsylvania, to baseball games in Pittsburgh, to Las Vegas in search of the world's greatest DJ, we will sorely miss John and his wry wit and enjoyable company. John will always remain in our hearts and we count our friendship with John among the blessings we experienced. XO Merle & Joe
January 14, 2010
I always loved the Paul Butterfield Blues Band but never as much as that last day when John was talking about them. John's wonderful observations and memories always made everything even better. Lois
Maureen
January 14, 2010
John was our wonderful neighbor for over 30 years.He was a humorous man of wide-ranging interests who always had something interesting and entertaining to say about the issues of the day. We miss hearing him practice his saxophone. John confronted his final illness with courage and optimism. Deepest condolences to his family.
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