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Stephen Sylvestro Obituary

Stephen Anthony Sylvestro, 70
Although cancer won on September 6th after a 15-year battle, Stephen Anthony Sylvestro rarely lost a race. An elite athlete since the '70's, he regularly placed in the top 10 in his age group in the many road races, triathlons, biathlons, and adventure races in which he competed. These, along with his shock of white hair, warmth, humor, and many contributions to town life, made him, along with his wife, Debby, a fixture in the Fairfield community.
Born in 1950 in Worcester, MA to Anthony Paul Sylvestro and Jeanne Marie Taylor, he attended the Thorndyke Road School and Assumption Prep where he excelled in football and baseball. Later, at Trinity College in Hartford, he rowed crew. In 1973, he married his high school sweetheart, Deborah Miller and would have celebrated their 47th wedding anniversary on Sept. 15th.
He began his lifelong career working with children with learning disabilities as a teacher and coach at Eagle Hill School in Hardwick, MA. In 1981, he helped found Eagle Hill-Lloyd Harbor in Long Island where he was Assistant Headmaster. In 1985, he and his family moved to Fairfield, CT to help open Eagle Hill-Southport, now The Southport School (TSS). There, he was Dean of Students and Athletic Director for many years, then Dean of Admissions until his retirement in 2015.
When not in racing shorts and jersey, Steve was most comfortable in a blue blazer, oxford shirt, khakis and tie as he guided students or acted as auctioneer for benefits for Fairfield Theater Company (FTC) and TSS.
With his sons Trevor, marketing director at FTC, and singer/songwriter Christopher Robin, Steve was active in the music and arts scene. That expanded when his granddaughter, Ava, began performing at Unquowa School and Broadway Method Acting. He was energized and fortified further by the birth of his effervescent baby grand-daughter, Taylor Poppy.
In recent years, The Mission, a health and wellness center for cancer survivors supported by the Connecticut Challenge, was a source of strength, solace, well-being, and enduring friendships for Steve and Debby.
Steve's diagnosis in 2005 gave his family and friends 15 years not knowing how long they had with him, so opportunities to be together were treasured. His life was lived fully, with travel, annual reunions on Block Island, guitars and gatherings at Old Post Tavern, and plenty of ice cream trips with his grand daughters. Steve will forever be held in the hearts of his wife Debby, sons Christopher and Trevor, daughter-in-law Lisa, brother David Paul Sylvestro and his wife, Lea, granddaughters Ava and Taylor Poppy, Debby's sisters and in-laws, and Steve's nieces and nephew as well as his many friends.
A private family service will be held. In lieu of flowers, donations can be sent to the Fairfield Theatre Company and The Southport School.

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Published by Fairfield Citizen on Sep. 14, 2020.

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Michael Sackstein

May 21, 2024

I can´t believe it´s been almost 4 years already. You are greatly missed and will never be forgotten.

Kells Hetherington

July 6, 2023

Mr. Sylvestro was one of the best people when I was a student. He was a great athlete and coach, and he was very much like the obituary says, "most comfortable in a blue blazer, Oxford shirt, khakis, and tie." He was the ultimate guy's guy, and every little boy wanted to be just like him.

Dudley Orr

October 1, 2020

Deb: I'm so sorry the learn of the loss of your husband and soulmate. I know you two faced a long and difficult struggle and that your strength helped Steve to keep going. Sadly you now face your own struggle to continue on. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you during the sad and difficult time.

Mary & Curtis Bentley

September 22, 2020

Oh, Deb. We are so sorry to hear this news. Steve was a good, good man. We were so fortunate to meet you both at the Southport Racquet Club. Such a great group of friends. And I can't even count how many times he and I saw each other out on the roads, logging miles. Sending much love to you and your family. God bless Steve.

Joe Gadbois

September 17, 2020

I knew Steve at Assumption Prep in Worcester. He was an amazing leader, so talented yet so giving. He made friends easily and deeply. His departure will leave a vacuum difficult to fill.

Zibby Perkins

September 14, 2020

Steve. What a special person. One of the kindest people I've ever known. He will be missed by so many including myself. I hope he is in a place of peace now. I'm thinking of his amazing family and good friends who are so sad with grief and I wish them my deepest sympathies and love.
Love,
Zibby Perkins

Peter Gesswein

September 13, 2020

Sending love to your whole family during this hard time. He was a great man, teacher, athlete, friend and so much more! I looked up to him and now we all do

Helen Cihi

September 13, 2020

We find ourselves not able to put into words the sadness we feel today. Steve was a light in our lives and for many years we would see him driving around Fairfield in his red Miata and beautiful white hair glowing in the breeze ,with his beautiful wife Debby, her hair in a hat and a big blonde ponytail waving from behind.
How many years did Debby and I work out at the Southport athletic club and you had dinner waiting and ready for Debby? You’re a good man, a happy man and may you rest eternally happy. Send your love shining down to us on earth.
God bless you Steve. Love, Kurt and Helen

Theresa (Monahan) Hammond

September 13, 2020

My thoughts are with the Sylvester family. I enjoyed working with Steve in the early years of Eagle Hill Southport. He was an energetic, child-centered educational leader. May the close family spirit that Steve fostered comfort you in the weeks ahead.

Patty Klein

September 13, 2020

Steve,
Thank you for your friendship, guidance and kindness. To Steve’s loved ones may your memories of him always put a smile on your face.
See his bare back and mane if white hair as he runs down the lane ahead of us all. Miss you my friend.

Rick and Janet Lavoie

September 13, 2020

Deb, Davey and Lea...

Fondly remembering the “hungry years” in Hardwick where Christopher was the adored “campus kid” and a large bottle of Mateus and a bag of chips was a dinner party.
Rest well, old friend.
Life has to end. Love doesn’t.

Maria Fitzgerald

September 13, 2020

It is with a heavy heart and tears that I send my deepest condolences to Debby, Christopher, Trevor and the entire Sylvestro family. Steve was a mentor, an ally, a supportive peer and always a friend during my seventeen years as school nurse at Eagle Hill. On many occasions we would combine forces to counsel, discipline, care for and calm down a
student in need. Steve’s wit, sensitivity and honesty kept his students always on the right path. Due to similar athletic interests my family grew to know and so enjoy Steve and Debby, always seeing them as the super athletic duo. We all send our love and forever memories of an awesome man.

Janet haringa

September 12, 2020

Dear Deb , Lisa and Ava
I am so sorry for your loss and I send my prayers... Steve was one I always enjoyed at Eagle Hill- his SMILE!- and continued to look forward to seeing at Unquowa - always that great SMILE. Made you think he was really happy to see you.
Bless you Janet

Pat (Curley) Gordon

September 12, 2020

My deepest sympathies to both the Sylvestro and Miller families. I would see him at Aunt Nancy's Thanksgiving Dinners and my memory is of how very proud he was of his two sons.

Mike and Andy Harris

September 12, 2020

Steve was always the best company imaginable in any setting and a great colleague as a teacher, counselor, and administrator at school. He and Mike met as teens at the Cape, and they were supposed to live together until he prudently married and lived with Deb at Hardwick instead. He sang with Deb, Davey, and Lenny at our wedding, and Mike ran with him on their memorable and never-duplicated Harwich to Chatham Beach and Harbor Run. His life was admirable, full, and well-lived but his loss is heartbreaking.

Deb Richards

September 12, 2020

I often wondered where Stephen was ...we were classmates at Thorndyke Road School ....and I had hoped that we would someday catch up at some time. He always had a wonderful smile . It is nice to see what he accomplished and that his journey has been successful and enjoyed. I am so sad for your loss. May your memories of wonderful times stay with you forever

Deb Richards

September 12, 2020

I often and just recently thought of Stephen and wondered where he might be. We were in the same classes at Thorndyke Road School. ...and lost contact through different high school. I had hoped that we would catch up at some time. He always had a smile. It is so nice to read of his journey and his happiness. ..So sad to hear of his early departure.. I will remember him from when we were young

Ronald Duquette

September 12, 2020

He was my lab "buddy" in biology at Assumption, and he was such a cheerful, lovely person. (Our bio teacher, Mr. Kenney, used to call him as "Bart" - as in "Bart Starr," the famous quarterback of the Green Bay Packers - a reference to Steve's on-field exploits as a football player at Assumption). I am personally devastated to learn of his death, and I extend to his family, on my and my family's behalf, the deepest and sincerest of condolences. I so looked forward to seeing him at our delayed 50th Reunion next September. "Sling that pigskin, Bart!"

Leslie (Sullivan)Tortorelli

September 11, 2020

Debby and family, I am a childhood friend of Sally and remember Steve and his smile so well. I am truly sorry for your tremendous loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

Suzanne Mallaghan

September 11, 2020

I was a classmate of Steve's at Thorndyke Road School and remember him very well. What an amazing, fulfilling life he lived. I am so sorry for his family and extend my deepest sympathy.
Suzanne (Smith) Mallaghan

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