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Frederica Brenneman Obituary

Frederica Joanne (Shoenfield) Brenneman, a longtime Connecticut judge, died peacefully in Woodland Hills, California, on March 15, 2021, after a long illness. She was 94. Frederica was born on July 10, 1926, in Ann Arbor, Michigan, to Allen Shoenfield, a science reporter for the Detroit News, and Kate (Friedman) Shoenfield. In 1943, at the age of 16, she left for Radcliffe College and immediately fell in love with the East Coast, making it her home for the next 73 years. She received her undergraduate degree from Radcliffe and in 1950 was accepted to the first class of women to be admitted to Harvard Law School. There, she met her beloved husband of sixty-five years, Russell L. Brenneman. They married in 1951 and were the first married couple to graduate from Harvard Law. In 1967, now the mother of three young children, Frederica was working as a law clerk to the Connecticut legislature's judiciary committee when the United States Supreme Court, in the landmark decision of In Re Gault, held that children facing delinquency proceedings are entitled to due process of law, including the constitutional right to legal counsel. In the wake of this decision, Connecticut's Juvenile Court doubled in size and Frederica was appointed to the court, becoming only the second female judge in the history of Connecticut. In 1978 she became a judge in the state's Superior Court, a court of general jurisdiction, when the Juvenile Court merged with the Superior Court. Judge Brenneman was a deeply influential figure in the field of juvenile justice, from its modern beginnings in 1967 and throughout her long and fruitful career. She specialized in abuse and neglect cases, pushed for stronger legal protections for children, shaped clear statewide protocols and case law, trained countless judges, and educated caseworkers, attorneys, parents, and the public on court procedures. In 1979 she helped found Children in Placement, which monitors and supports children in Connecticut's foster care system. Over the years, Judge Brenneman and her work were recognized and honored by a wide range of organizations, including the Connecticut Bar Association, Radcliffe College, St. John's University, Children's Law Center of Minnesota, among others. In 2013 Harvard Law School lauded her, saying: "Venerable jurist and trailblazer, your distinguished contributions in the field of law as a passionate advocate for juvenile rights set an unparalleled standard for all graduates of Harvard Law School." Frederica (or Freddie, as she was known to her friends) was a passionate lover of the arts, especially theater. She loved Tanglewood, the Oregon Shakespeare Festival and Broadway. She served as a deacon of both South Congregational Church in Glastonbury, Connecticut, and Saugatuck Congregational Church in Westport. She was an avid traveler (Turkey and Tuscany were favorites) and an engaged alumna of both her undergraduate and graduate schools. From 1999 to 2005, Frederica served as advisor on the television drama, "Judging Amy," which was inspired by her life and work and which she co-created with her daughter, Amy. With her dignity, grace, humor and fierce intelligence, Frederica enjoyed a large and diverse circle of devoted friends, family and protégés, both within and outside the legal profession. A loving mother and grandmother, Frederica is survived by her three children, sons Matthew and Andrew (wife Karen) and daughter Amy (husband Brad Silberling); and by five grandchildren: Granger Brenneman, Charlotte and Bodhi Silberling, and Ava and Charles Brenneman. Donations in her honor may be made to Children in Placement (https://www.childreninplacement.org).

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Published by Hartford Courant from Mar. 27 to Mar. 28, 2021.

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Mary Angel Notarangelo

February 16, 2023

As a Volunteer Coordinator & Guardian Ad litem for Children in Placement both in Bridgeport & Norwalk Juvenile Courts I had the honor to sit in on cases when Judge Brenneman was on the bench.
She was a wealth of knowledge in Juvenile matters, always striving for the Best Interest of the Children. She was truly amazing & had a heart of gold.
I learned so much from her & she was the epitome of a great judge. I feel so lucky to have known her. When I had events she would always attend as a guest speaker.
I will never forget her kindness & feel so lucky I had the pleasure of knowing her.
Miss her so much! Bless you Judge Brenneman.

Janet McKenzie

April 3, 2022

Amy, you may not realize how much of an impact Judging Amy made on the public. It is a truly inspirational show for young women to look up to, to know they can do anything they want in life with hard work & ambition. I didn't know this show was based on your Mom until about 2 years ago & I'm 63. I was the first female draftsman (draftsperson, I said) in 1981 at Harris County Land Map Division. I was made fun of, men came from cities around Houston to see the woman who claimed she knew drafting & literally came up to gawk at me. They laughed & said, "You don't know what you're doing, you're a girl! Who paid you to sit there & play a joke on us?" Men, I swear. So thanks again for producing the show. I also so the recent clip of the play about one of your daughter's rare disabilities. I really wish that would be on YouTube, Facebook or other social media platform to share with the world. I am disabled myself from 4 traumatic brain injuries & on my YouTube channel, I confront disability & senior discrimination, including several playlists for "Deaf channels", "Disability Issues", etc. I am dying from a brain tumor, so here is the link to my YouTube channel if you're interested in seeing one of the ONLY channels on social media who considers the disabled & elderly as "worthy". Thank you & may you rest in peace, Your Honor! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK-nmquSgbw3BiH6iAixPhg

Diane Hitchings Tiernan

June 17, 2021

Sorry to hear about your mom’s passing. I have many loving memories of being neighbors in Glastonbury.

Diane Hitchings Tiernan

June 17, 2021

Sorry to hear about your mom’s passing. I have many loving memories of being neighbors in Glastonbury.

Diane Hitchings Tiernan

June 17, 2021

Sorry to hear about your mom’s passing. I have many loving memories of being neighbors in Glastonbury.

Alice Hootsmans

May 30, 2021

Bert and I are so sorry to hear of Freddie's death. We had been hoping to visit her again this summer in L.A. I was a Harvard-Radcliffe "extern" in her juvenile court in 1985 and, partly because my parents had died the year before, she and Russell mentored and "adopted" me for more than 30 years after that. I went on to Harvard Law School and practiced law for nine years, in Boston, Japan and Hartford, before deciding to become an English teacher. All that was with the love and constant support of Freddie and Russell. They became mentors to Bert and my children as well, especially to our son Philip. In recent years Bert and our sons James and Philip visited Freddie in Sherman Oaks multiple times and were blessed to have the same deep connection and conversation with her that we'd always had. Matt, Andy and Karen, Amy and Brad and all your children, we are so sorry for your loss. We feel it too - there is such a sense of a caring, compassionate and fiercely intelligent soul now gone. We share her faith and hope to see her again.

Alice Hootsmans

May 30, 2021

Bert and I are so sorry to hear of Freddie’s death. We had been hoping to visit her again this summer in LA. I was a Harvard-Radcliffe “extern” in her juvenile court in 1985 and, partly because my parents had died the year before, she and Russell mentored and “adopted” me for more than 30 years after that. I went on to Harvard Law School and practiced law for nine years, in Boston, Japan and Hartford, before deciding to become an English teacher. All of that was with the love and constant support of Freddie and Russell. They became mentors to Bert and my children as well, especially to our son Philip. In recent years Bert and I and our sons James and Philip visited Freddie in Sherman Oaks multiple times and were blessed to have the same deep connection and conversation with her that we’d always had. Matt, Andy and Karen, Amy and Brad and all your children - we are so sorry for your loss. We feel it too - there is such a sense of a caring, compassionate and fiercely intelligent soul now gone. We share her faith and hope to see her again.

Mary Angel Notarangelo

May 15, 2021

For the past few months I have been thinking of Judge Brenneman. I had the pleasure as a Volunteer coordinator & GAL from Children in Placement at both Norwalk & Bridgeport Juvenile Court.
She was the most outstanding woman & caring judge I had ever met. I happen to do a search and just found her obit noticed from 2 months ago today :(
I am deeply sorry for her family, this has left me in tears.
When I needed her to speak at events she never hesitated.
It is such an honor to have known her & am honored to have watched her in action in the courtroom. Bless her!

Noah Robertson

April 30, 2021

Dear Amy,

I am so sorry for your loss. While I never met your mother, I adored "Judging Amy" and later discovered that much of that TV series was based on your mother and her career. In my mind, "Judging Amy" remains the best, classiest, most superb show on television. Your mother's passing is definitely a loss for many people.

Again, I am truly sorry, and may peace be with you.

Noah Robertson

Ann Haralambie

April 22, 2021

I will miss corresponding with Freddie, a judge after my own heart, with a keen sense of justice for children. In 2009 we shared a keynote address at a legal conference, in conversation form, making the point that if the child welfare system did not have anything better to offer a child, the child should be left with the family. Judge Brenneman titled the keynote "First Do No Harm." I remember meeting with her at her home in Connecticut to prepare for the keynote. She was concerned that I wanted it to be a conversation rather than being able to write something out. But she didn't need written notes to express what we had discussed many times, borne out of her deep experience as a mother as well as a judge. I was honored that she allowed me to use a quotation from her in a legal treatise I wrote. She and Russell were trailblazers in the law and wonderful people. My deepest condolences to the family. She will be remembered, and she has left her mark.

Lil Flint

April 2, 2021

Freddy was instrumental in encouraging me to go back to school for my Masters. I remember her swimming at The Grange Pool and talking with me about my next steps in life. A wonderful woman, a friend to so many.

Rick and Kathy Dyer

April 1, 2021

We are so sorry to learn about the passing of Judge Frederica Brenneman. She used her brilliant skills as a Harvard-trained lawyer to revolutionize and uplift juvenile justice in Connecticut for half a century. Thanks to her wonderful common sense, wisdom, compassion and profound sense of justice, she helped thousands of kids and changed the direction of their lives. Freddie befriended, taught, mentored, and inspired several generations of juvenile probation officers, social workers, lawyers and judicial colleagues. The State of Connecticut and it’s kids will always owe a huge debt of gratitude to “Judge B”. May she Rest In Peace. Her memory is truly a blessing.
Rick and Kathy Dyer
Manchester, CT

Bruce Tonkonow -retired State's Attorney

April 1, 2021

Judge Brenneman was a brilliant woman who was essentially the foundation of the Connecticut Juvenile Justice System. She was the best of combinations, a legal scholar with a strong sense of fairness and caring. I practiced before her for decades as the Juvenile Prosecutor in Hartford, but I was proud to be her friend. When Russell could not attend a judge's dinner she invited me as her date, a most memorable experience. We were both alumnae of the same University which engendered numerous conversations and experiences. I loved her and she was a wonderful woman. I have and will miss her - she was every bit as awesome as RBG. To have known her was one of my ultimate privileges.

Barbara Corcoran

March 30, 2021

Matt (and family). My condolences on the loss of your mother. I was very sad to see her obituary in the paper this week. I hope you and your family can find comfort in the memories of happier times. Barbara Corcoran (W&D)

Christi Rentsch Moraga

March 30, 2021

Good bye, Freddie. I know that you lived a wise and full life!
My mother, Juanita Rentsch Millerick, pediatrician in Glastonbury and Freddie Brenneman, were friends - the lady doctor and the lady judge. They had a lot in common. Freddie spoke at my mother's funeral and relayed beautiful comments. After my mother's passing, she wrote to me by email and invited me to the house in Westport followed by an exciting trip to New York to eat at the Harvard Club. Freddie was ahead of her time and calmly did everything to dignify women and children. May she rest in peace.

Keiko Goulet

March 29, 2021

Very sorry for your loss. My parents, Joe and Juanita Millerick adored your mother. I heard so many wonderful stories about her over the years.
My thoughts are with you and your Family. Love Keiko Millerick Goulet

Hillary Strackbein

March 29, 2021

I am sorry to learn of J Brenneman's passing. She was an inspiration to me and probably why I am a judge today. We worked together for years and her courage and bravery were an inspiration to me and many others.

Donna Wilkerson Brillant

March 29, 2021

My prayers are with your family as you mourn the loss of your mother and grandmother. I had the pleasure and honor of working with her when I was a Juvenile attorney in Hartford and she made a positive lasting impression upon me. She was truly a remarkable woman and Judge.
God Bless you all during this difficult time.

Mary Armstrong

March 29, 2021

Condolences to the family.
I always thought of Judge Brenneman after her retirement
She was amazing & an asset to society as well as judicial with her wisdom, compassion, expertise & caring energy that paved the way for so many families. I sat with her for almost 30 years as her Court Monitor to witness & hear her decisions and listening to how much she loved Russell, her children Amy, Andy & Matt. And when her first grandchild was born we celebrated.
Never a bias but details of integrity interfaith guidance. With eloquence Fair & Fearless her living was not in vain. She is a shining star that no one can ever duplicate it was an honor to have known her. Rest In Peace Judge.
Mary Armstrong. CT

Sheryl Paul

March 28, 2021

I am. Social Worker. When I was in the training academy for the state, we were taught to fear her, and that we better know all of our stuff before we went into court. The first time I sat before her, my knees were shaking under the table.
I Came to love her, and she went on to say that my court work and writings should be used as examples in the training academy. I will miss you judge.

Barbara J. Ruhe, Esq.

March 28, 2021

Today in the prayers of Grace Lutheran Church, Hartford, Connecticut a life well lived was remembered. Until we meet again on the streets of glory, Judge Brenneman.

Lisa

March 28, 2021

We are humbled by the accomplishments of a woman upon whose shoulders we all stand. Rest well.

Leslie Wrixon

March 28, 2021

Amy,
So sorry to hear of your mom’s passing.

Karen BergerRoss

March 28, 2021

Judge Brennenman was a trail blazer. We as DCF workers were all scared of being before her but knew the kids always came first no matter what. She held everyone accountable and we came to know what a wonderful thing that was. She will truly be missed. Condolences to family and those who loved and respected her.

Richard W Bragg

March 28, 2021

With many fond memories of Freddie and Russ when they lived in Glastonbury.

Richard W Bragg
West Hartford Ct.

Benjamin Zivyon, retired AAG

March 27, 2021

I had the privilege to appear before Judge Brenneman many times over the years at the Hartford Superior Court for Juvenile Matters. She was brilliant, intelligent, knowledgeable and challenging. She had a full control of her courtroom and moved her docket with speed and efficiency. Judge Brenneman was the dean of child protection Judges who created and developed the substantive and procedural law of child protection. The law she created is still largely in effect today. That is her unique legacy. She expected and demanded from attorneys a high standard, making us better. Hundreds of children owe her a great debt of gratitude for protecting them and improving their lives into a better adulthood. That is also her eternal legacy. My condolences to her family. She will be missed by many.

Lynn Libby Baker

March 27, 2021

Freddie will always be in my heart along with Russell, I loved them both. They were everything to me.
Andy, Matt and Amy, my deepest love for you all, someday I'll share memories of your early childhood.
Ex: "Amy, when is your birthday?
Answer from Amy:
" In 5 minutes."
The only "time" you knew because it was said so often.

Sam Teller

March 27, 2021

I was a colleague of Judge Brenneman for several years, presiding with her in the Juvenile Court in Hartford, CT. She always comported herself with dignity and professionalism, and great compassion and empathy for the children whose future in many cases she needed to decide. She was a truly great judge, and I learned a lot from her; I was proud to be a colleague of hers. Judge Teller

Gloria Coles

March 27, 2021

I had the honor of meeting Judge Brenneman in the 1990's when I volunteered for Children In Placement at Rockville Juvenile Court. Later, as an investigator at DCF, I went before Judge Brenneman several times and found her to be so honest and intelligent. I was an older social worker and I appreciated her respect and willingness to discuss each case. My thoughts to her family.

John Montalbano, Esq.

March 27, 2021

As an attorney, I remember Judge Brenneman as one of the first women Judges in Connecticut. In her own quiet way, she was a role model for the other women attorneys and judges who followed after her. I am saddened that we have lost another member of the Greatest Generation. We owe them much. May her family and all who loved her be comforted by many wonderful memories of her and of their time together. In deepest sympathy. John Montalbano, Esq.

Sandy Paholski

March 27, 2021

Matt, Andrew, and Amy
It is a great loss for all of you. I am sorry to hear this news. She was an inspiration to everyone that knew her. She inspired me in many ways. She helped me enormously during the time I was a foster parent and working in a system with foster and adoptive parents. She was there to advise me when I adopted my children. I spoke with her many times when I was working with your father, or visiting her in Glastonbury, and in Westport. You can be very proud of her and your entire family.

Dawn molina

March 27, 2021

Amy and family,

My condolences to you and the rest of your family.
When my mother died a few years back, I found it to be a very primal experience. Be kind and gentle on yourselves and may you find that the tears of grief that flow down your cheeks meet up with the smiles of warm and wonderful memories on you lips.

Dawn Molina ~~~GHS 83

Karen G Lis

March 27, 2021

Rest In Peace Judge Brenneman. I learned so much from you when I was a caseworker. You were a beacon of light in the courthouse with your high standards, equity and genuine caring. My condolences to the family.

Linda Finelli

March 27, 2021

Remember Judge Brenneman fondly. I absolutely loved working with her at Superior Court Juvenile Matters Willimantic. She was the best. Sincere prayers to the family during this difficult time. Rest in Peace.

Marion Cochran

March 26, 2021

Rest In Peace Judge B
You were simply “The Best”!

Lawrence Berliner

March 26, 2021

Judge Brenneman was a compassionate, caring, and talented jurist. I she the privilege of trying several cases before her involving complex legal issues involving very young children involving allegations of medical neglect involving children with disabilities. She listened carefully to all sides of the issues and you believed that no matter what her decision would be, it was a fair ruling in the child's best interests. I learned a lot from her as many other attorneys did as well. A loss to Connecticut's judiciary. May her blessed memory live on and may she rest in peace.

Lawrence Berliner

Janet Freimuth

March 26, 2021

Amy and family, I just lost a sister, and my dad many years ago. I'm so sorry. Thank you for keeping her legacy alive through Children in Placement. Janet Freimuth, Executive Director

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