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Thomas Strohmenger Obituary

Thomas C. Strohmenger, 77, of Bloomfield, passed away at UCONN Health Center in Farmington on Saturday, January 20th surrounded by his wife and two children. He was born on January 17, 1947 in Greenpoint, New York the only child of the late Charles and Frances (Burke) Strohmenger. Tom was a devoted husband, father, father-in-law and grandfather. Tom leaves behind his loving wife, Kathryn (Williams) Strohmenger of Bloomfield, his two children Heather Bushnell of West Hartford, and his son Jason Vaitukaitis and his wife, Lynsi Vaitukaitis of Wilton. He also leaves behind his four adoring and loving grandchildren, Matthew Bushnell and Ryan Bushnell of West Hartford and Zoe Vaitukaitis and Jamie Vaitukaitis of Wilton. Both his children and grandchildren were the pride and joy of his life. He instilled in them the values of hard work, kindness and perseverance. He also leaves behind his sister-in-law, Sandra Williams and her wife Emily Poriss, brothers-in-law Cliff Williams and his wife Joan, Fred and his wife Helen, and Steven Williams. He leaves a niece Margot Duzak, and nephews Eric Williams, Mitchell Williams, Sean Williams and Tyler Williams. Tom graduated from Fordham University with a BA, then St. John's University School of Law for his Juris Doctor and finally New York University of Law for his Masters of Law (LLM). He was licensed to practice law in New York, Connecticut, and Florida. He came to Connecticut to work at the Aetna as an Assistant Vice President in Government Affairs. He worked over 30 years in the Law Department. His last position held was Head of State and Federal Government Relations and Public Policy and Chief Compliance Officer. After retiring from the Aetna, he worked a short time at the law firm of Bingham McCutchen in Hartford. Tom loved spending tine in Becket, MA with his family at their cottage on the lake, enjoying campfires, croquet, badminton, fishing, boating, playing in the water with the grandchildren and pitching a million times over and over wiffle balls to his grandsons. He never tired of this. Tom made his homemade pizzas and sticky buns on weekends for family and friends. He was a well read, intelligent and very generous man. There was never a game of trivia in which he didn't come out on the winning side of. He generous spirit would manifest itself in his volunteer activities. In New York he served 9 years as the Head of District 12's School Board in Brooklyn, NY. In CT he served on the Board of the 4H Auerbach Farm in Bloomfield and did pro bono legal work for the elderly (a program started by Aetna). The family would like to give heartfelt thanks to Vicky, Tom's private aide. The love she had for him showed the impeccable care that she gave to him. She was dedicated in her position to make him as happy and comfortable as possible. She was Tom's angel as well as ours. The family will hold a memorial service in the late Spring. Should you wish, donations in Tom's memory may be made to The Parkinson's Foundation (www.parkinson.org) Online expressions of sympathy may be made at www.molloyfuneralhome.com

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Published by Hartford Courant on Jan. 28, 2024.

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Bill Casazza

December 18, 2024

To Tom's family. I had the privilege of working with Tom for many years at Aetna. He was a great counselor, and a finer human being, with a positive attitude that was addictive to those all around him. I miss him so much. Bill

Judy & Peter and family

January 31, 2024

We are saddened to learn of Tom's passing. We remember him as a really fine person and a good husband and father to our niece Kathryn and their family. He remains in our prayers with much love.

Nick Merritt

January 28, 2024

I worked with Tom for a number of years at Aetna, and spent many hours in his office strategizing high-stakes calls with state insurance departments and outside counsel. He was a master of his craft, and yet made me, a junior lawyer, feel like an equal and that his door was always open. I will always appreciate that. I recall pictures of Kathy, Heather and Jason prominently displayed there, and he was always happy and proud to talk about them (in his wonderful Brooklyn accent).

A good man. I'm glad to have had the pleasure of knowing him.

Edie Rosen

January 28, 2024

So sorry to hear this. Tom was one of the nicest people I worked with at Aetna. Always a smile, always good-natured. My thoughts and prayers are with the family and Sandy and Emily.

Patti Jennings

January 27, 2024

Much love and sincere condolences to Kathryn, Heather, Matt, Ryan, Jason, Lynsi, Zoe and Jamie. Tom was a special guy who touched each of us with his kind heart and gentle spirit. XO

Louise Sapia

January 26, 2024

I worked in the general area of Mr. Strohmenger´s office. He was a very kind and attentive person, and I appreciated the time he took to say hello and converse. My sympathies on your loss.

Jeannine Labrecque

January 26, 2024

I worked with Tom and found him to be one of the nicest people at Aetna. Deepest condolences to Kathy and the entire family.

Christine Deotte

January 25, 2024

I worked with Mr. Strohmenger during his time at Aetna and never met such a kind and thoughtful person. My sympathies to his family and friends on such a deep loss.

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