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Patrick toilolo Obituary
He is survived by Kalala Toilolo, his wife of 31 years, and children: Aloisia, Iosefo, Ierenimo (predeceased), Iosua, and Malia.
Who was Deacon Patrick Toilolo? Born of Ierenimo and Sosefina Toilolo, raised in Southern California. He was one of eight children: Ierenimo, Andrew (Liz), Judy (Sio), Abbott Damian, Matthew (Audrey), Ioane (predeceased), John (predeceased).
Be not afraid. I will be with you always. Words taken directly from Dcn. Patrick's last homily, although barely able to deliver due to fighting cancer, he drew strength from the power of scripture and the sacraments. As Director of Music, Liturgy, and Evangelization at Our Lady of the Lake Roman Catholic Church, many lives have been impacted by his witness and example.
He was a gentle soul who turned no one away, and was always willing to go the extra mile. Crafty with a snarky comment during heavy moments to lighten the mood, and gifted with music in more ways than one, especially in the Liturgy.
Deacon and his wife, Kalala, began each day praying the Divine Office at 4 a.m. before Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament. Receiving Jesus in the Eucharist daily at Mass, they drew their strength for the ups and downs of life's journey. Deacon Patrick lived Joshua 24:15, As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul, and the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. If you've been away from Church, come back. Your Heavenly Father awaits you!
A visitation and rosary will take place on Oct. 4, from 6-8 PM at Our Lady of the Lake Catholic Church. A Mass will take place October 5, at 11 AM at Our Lady of the Lake Catholic Church. A graveside will immediately follow at Lake Havasu Memorial Gardens. A reception will follow at the Columbian Hall.
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Memories and Condolences
for Patrick toilolo
Jan Lieser
September 23, 2025
Patrick was one of a kind.His sermons and music were awesome. I'm sure he is missed terribly. I will be returning as a snowbird this winter, also my brother who loves church and music. We hope to help with the music at the church.RIP Patrick.
Frank and Cheryl Karst
November 4, 2024
To Deacon Patrick's family--My husband and I just returned to Lake Havasu City as winter residents and are saddened to learn of Deacon Patrick's passing. We have attended Our Lady of the Lake since purchasing our winter home here 11 years ago and have always been inspired at mass by his music and homilies. You have our sincerest sympathy. God bless you all.
Sr. Maria Kolbe
November 2, 2024
Dear Kalala and Family,
Praised be Jesus Christ! I so remember Patrick leading the choir at St. Philomena in Carson. I was a young sister then. Ok, we were all young then. With great admiration, I recall listening to and joining in praise as Patrick, John, and all of you led us in worship at Mass. How beautiful it was to hear you all harmonize for God and to see you all gesturing your hands in a lovely and noble praise. Blessed be God. Be assured of our prayers for you all as you miss Patrick. Please remember your Carmelites in prayer too. May Patrick and John rest in the Father's Arms.
Carol Manganiello
October 6, 2024
Patrick was truly a disciple of Jesus with the voice of an angel. Every time he sang Ave Maria, I would cry. Now he is singing with the Angels in Heaven. Our Prayers are with him and his beautiful family. God Bless, Paul and Carol Manganiello
Dorothy Gallardo
October 5, 2024
Truly God's messenger.
Francis and Peggy Delach
October 4, 2024
Deacon Patrick was a disciple of Jesus´s and a very holy man. His words were inspirational and his voice angelic! We love him dearly and hope to be with him in the future.
Carol Leef
October 4, 2024
Our sympathy and prayers for the Toilolo family. As close friends of the late Angi Hildum, we had the opportunity to meet Deacon Patrick at church, to enjoy his wonderful voice and to listen to meaningful homilies. Our prayers are with you as you grieve. Carol and Ross Leef, Canada.
Grace Campos
October 3, 2024
Heaven has gained such a beautiful voice On behalf of the Campos family our thoughts and prayers to the family...God bless you all
Tim and Kathy Kristof
October 1, 2024
Deacon you will be dearly missed at Our Lady of the Lake. You were a gentle soul, a wonderful singer, and a great Deacon. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family and church.
Love Tim and Kathy Kristof.
Pat Kluck
September 30, 2024
As a MN snowbird, I remember Patrick & his family´s beautiful music during the masses at the Lady of the Lakes church. Sympathies to Patrick´s family and friends.
Don & Medy Kinzie
September 30, 2024
Remembering a life well lead and all the joy it brought to so many. In memory of a truly amazing person. He loved his, family, his friends, his community. It was an honor to know him. He'll surely will be missed. Rest in peace Deacon Patrick. P.S. Our thoughts and prayers to the bereaved family <3
Jan Lieser
September 30, 2024
Patrick will be truly missed. I met him through the choir at church. I'm from MN. and spent winter months there.He was very humble and a wonderful deacon. I enjoyed singing with him at the church. Rest in Peace Patrick.
Frank & Lupe Alejandro
September 30, 2024
In loving memory of a wonderful person/Deacon. We will love and miss you always. Your voice will remain in heaven. Until we meet again
Stephen Milobar III
September 30, 2024
Patrick, God shared his message to us through your kindness, your friendship, and most of all your music.
I will miss you, but at least I know there will be great music when we meet again!
Dorothy Gallardo
September 30, 2024
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
September 29, 2024
A wonderful man he always walked with our
Father by his side,
Leisa DeMichele-Marcy
September 29, 2024
Thank you for teaching me about our Lord and helping me receive the gift of my Communion and Confirmation. What I missed as a child, you gave me as a grandmother. May you rest with our Lord until we meet again in Heaven. My last message to you was that I´ll keep looking for you, so now I pray that you´ll look for me when I go home.
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