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Jeffrey Hoffelder Obituary
He was born in Norman, Okla., son of Thomas and Lynn (Minor) Hoffelder of Tolland, and was a Tolland resident for seven years. Jeffrey was a member of the band Icon Of Entropy.
Besides his parents, he is survived by his brothers, Thomas Hoffelder of Port St. Lucie, Fla., Christopher Hoffelder of Tolland; his sister, Katrina Stearsman of Lakeland, Fla.; his niece, Samantha Hoffelder; his maternal grandmother, Barbara Drucker of Portland, Maine; his paternal grandfather, Carl Hoffelder of Ashley, Ind.; several aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Friends may gather on Saturday, Oct. 28, at St. Bernard Church, Rockville, for a Mass of Christian Burial at 9:30 a.m. Burial will be private.
Family and friends may call at the Tolland Memorial Funeral Home, 375 Merrow Rd. (Rte. 195), Tolland on Friday from 4 to 7 p.m.
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Memories and Condolences
for Jeffrey Hoffelder
Sponsored by Jeff's parents.
January 2, 2007
K. Opalenik
December 7, 2006
I am sorry for you loss. I only just heard about this last night. Jeff was a good co-worker and we got a long well. He always made me feel better when I was having a bad day at work.
Margaret Kachich
November 8, 2006
Dear Tom, Lynn & Chris,
We are so sorry for your loss of Jeffrey. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May God sustain you now as you struggle with this loss. Words seem insignificant but please know there are friends here for you. Our sincere condolences.
The Kachich Family,
Jon, Margaret, Krista & Kevin
Charlie Kukral
November 8, 2006
Dear Tom and Lynn
My sympathy goes out to you, and hope that time will heal this wound.
With Icon of Entropy - Battle of the Bands
November 5, 2006
Graduation Day
November 5, 2006
Senior Prom Night
November 5, 2006
With Mom and "Big Brother"
November 5, 2006
18th Birthday
November 5, 2006
With Brother, Christmas '05
November 5, 2006
Being Jeff
November 5, 2006
Senior Class Photo
November 5, 2006
18 Months
November 5, 2006
Jim and Pat Forster
November 3, 2006
Dear Tom and family,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son Jeff. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of great pain.
Brendan Tindall
November 2, 2006
I worked with Jeff at TCS for a while last year and a little bit before. We always had a good time joking around about whatever came our way. Jeff was great to talk to and a good person. He'll be missed. My heart goes out to his friends and family. I am very sorry for your loss.
Ashley Adams
November 1, 2006
you all know this, but im so sorry. jeff was not only my best friend, but the one person i loved the most. it's going to be hard, but we all will make it through. i, along with everyone else, are so grateful we got to know him. he changed all of our lives so much, and i know we will never forget him. he was the sweetest, most selfless, and most caring person i've ever met. you guys should be proud of the way he grew up. jeff is irreplaceable. best friends forever :o)
James DuHadaway
October 31, 2006
Dear Tom and family,
I was saddened to hear the news about the death of your son, Jeff. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.
Amber Hartleroad
October 30, 2006
Tom, Lynn, and Chris,
I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Amber
Caroline Ransom
October 30, 2006
Dear Tom & Lynn,
There is no greater loss, than a loss of your child. I am truly sorry.
I'll always remember Jeff as he always had a smile when he came through our door to hang out with Jamie.
We weep with you.
Jamie, Caroline, Jamie, Ashley & Robin
TERESA DAVIS
October 30, 2006
Dear Tom and Lynn,
Bill called the other night and told us of your great loss. Jeffrey was such a beautiful happy baby and a "joyous light"...He made me laugh when I visited ya'll in Florida and he wouldn't eat the cookies we made together because I had burnt them and He said "Their Dirty"!
May God give you strength and peace in the days and weeks ahead...Jeffrey's light will shine in the hearts of all who knew him...My thoughts and prayers are with you...
Teresa, Ross, Jordan from Oklahoma
Jordan Kimball
October 30, 2006
I am so very sorry for your loss. Jeff wasn't just a friend, he was like a brother to me, the brother I never had. If you need anything at all, I will be there for you.
Julian Shull
October 30, 2006
Tom and Lynn;
I was greatly saddened to hear of your son's passing. I pray for God to give you strength in this time of great need.
Emil & Kathy Docimo
October 28, 2006
Dear Tom, Lynn and Family,
Words cannot express the sorrow that we feel for your great loss. We pray for your strength, for peace in your hearts and minds and for God's Love to help get you all through this tragedy.
Love,
Emil & Kathy Docimo
Bill O'Neil
October 27, 2006
Tom, Lynn, Chris and family:
I am so saddened by the loss of Jeffrey. You are, and always will be, a wonderful family, and Jeffrey will always be an integral part of that family. There truly are no words. Jeff.........rest in peace with the stars....
Peace and Friendship Always,
Your "Oklahoma" Buddy,
Bill
Justin Maselek
October 27, 2006
"For some life lasts a short while,
but the memories that life holds last forever."
Jane and Skip Sutcliffe
October 27, 2006
Our son Mike cherished his friendship with Jeff, and we were all awed by his musical talent. He will be deeply missed. Please know that you are in our hearts and prayers at this sad time.
Ken Drew Jr
October 27, 2006
Dear Tom, Lynn and Chris,
Be assured that we are praying for you in the loss of your son and brother. May the Lord give you the strength and guidance to heal from this tragic loss.
Love, Ken and Anita
Mary Jean Pelham
October 27, 2006
I am saddened to hear of your loss of Jeffrey. My thoughts are with all of you.
Mary Jean Pelham
--A Tolland Resident--
October 27, 2006
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Denise Marti
October 27, 2006
My son Jordan considered Jeff a very close friend for the past seven years. Their friendship strengthened recently when Jordan became drummer for Icon of Entropy. Their hopes & dreams for the band were contagious and Lynn and I shared in our enthusiasm and pride. Jeff had many special and unique gifts, that all who knew him admired. We will cherish our many fond memories of him. May he rest in peace.
Cynthia Hoffelder
October 26, 2006
Tom, Lynn, Chris, Tommy,& Katrina,
My thoughts and prayers are with the family. God's peace and strength be with you all. My deepest sympathy.
Gregory Zentz
October 26, 2006
Dear Tom, Lynn, Christopher,
Sharon and I send you our Love.
Lynda Shea
October 26, 2006
Lynn:
I was deeply saddened to hear of your son's passing. I pray that God will give you and your family peace and strength to get through this most difficult time.
Michael Drew
October 26, 2006
Dear Tom, Lynn, and Chris,
I've always considered you a brother Tom and my prayers are going out to God to bless all of you during this time of sorrow. I'm very grateful to have had the opportunity to have met Jeff, and all of the Hoffelders. I admire each of you and hold all of you close to my heart. Know that I'm here if you need someone to talk to and that my prayers will keep coming your way. With Love, Mike
Mike and Laurie Adams
October 26, 2006
Words cannot express how sorry we are for your loss. Jeff always had a smile on his face when he came to pick up Ashley. He is greatly missed by our family.
Bill Kimball
October 26, 2006
May God grant you His peace during this very difficult time.
Jean Mieses
October 26, 2006
Very sorry to hear about your loss. I wish you peace and strength thru these tough times.
Steve Price
October 26, 2006
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Charles Crenshaw
October 26, 2006
Tom, it is with great sadness that I heard of your loss. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family.
John and Wendy Kennedy
October 26, 2006
Dear Tom and Lynn, and Chris - After all our years of friendship and summer vacations, our daughters and your sons growing up together as friends, never to be quite the same again. We are so sad for you that this has happened. I hope you can cherish the wonderful memories of your life with Jeff. We will. - John, Wendy, Rachel, & Anna Kennedy
Kerri Provost
October 26, 2006
Lynn,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
Maryette Braly
October 26, 2006
Dear Lynn, Tom & Family:
We are deeply saddened by the loss of Jeff. Over the past few years he has been like a member of our family as he practiced with such skill and passion with Icon of Entropy in our basement. Jeff filled a gap in Trevor's life and became the brother he always longed for. Jeff always made time for his friends,would dropped what he was doing to help Trevor with a school photo project (we have so many great pictures of handsome Jeff and his gorgeous hair),he has an infectious smile to go with that great sense of humor and a great appetite even for my cooking.
Our thoughts, love and prayers are with you all. Please do not hesitate to call us if we can help in any way.
All our Love, Maryette, Trevor & Jenna
Mike Sutcliffe
October 26, 2006
Jeff was an inspiration to me and all of his friends, both musically and personally. He was irreplacable and will be deeply missed.
Paul Gluszek
October 26, 2006
Although I did not know Jeffrey personally, I know his father, Tom. My prayers go out for Tom and the entire Hoffelder family at this sad and tragic time. God's peace be with you all.
Shannon Wagner
October 26, 2006
It is with great sorrow and sadness to have heard of Jeff's passing.Our best wishes to all of his family and friends. Peace to all.
The Wagner Family
THOMAS,CLAUDIA GREASER
October 26, 2006
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Laurie Allard
October 26, 2006
Dear Lynn, Tom and family,
Please know that my heart breaks for your loss. I didn’t know Jeffrey, but could feel your love Lynn each time you spoke of Jeff in conversations at our Tolland Homestead Quilters Chapter meetings. Stay strong by smiling when you reflect on all the wonderful experiences you shared as a family. Your friends and family will surround you with love and assist in carrying the burden of your loss. May Jeffrey rest in peace.
THOMAS HOFFELDER
October 26, 2006
Dad, Lynn, and Chris
We love you very much. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Love,
Tom, Jen, Sammy, Adam & Emily
Barbara and Brett Reardon
October 26, 2006
Jeff was a great kid!! He was a GREAT friend to our son. He was in our son's band Icon of Entropy. He played the keyboard and was extremely good at it. The boys all enjoyed that band. They played like professionals. They all spent alot of time together, practicing, hanging out and got along so well together. I guess you could call them brothers. My son, Brett loved him like a brother. They all had dreams of recording and going places. I've known Jeff a long time and he was so kind and well mannered. Anytime we had trouble with our computer, he'd be over in a minute's call from Brett to fix it for us. He was so smart. I deeply regret his passing. It's hard on all of us who knew him. My heart goes out to his family, especially his mom, Lynn. She is such a wonderful person. I'll miss seeing him and his beautiful curly hair. We will keep Jeff and his family in our prayers always.
David Vaughan
October 26, 2006
I was greatly saddened to hear of Jeff's passing. He was a great addition to the Willimantic Orchestra. I was looking forward to working with him on other projects.
You have my deepest sympathy.
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