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Phaedra Gruver Obituary

Phaedra Marie Gruver, born in Portland, Ore., on Sept. 7, 1999, died Saturday, Sept. 28, 2013, at her home in South Windsor.

She is survived by her father, Keith Gruver of South Windsor; her mother and brother, Kristina Dorn and Truman Gruver of Ashburnham, Mass.; her maternal grandmother, Alice Dorn of Suffield; her paternal grandparents Narda and Gary Gruver of South Windsor; and numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends.

To those who knew her, she was much like the unicorn she often claimed to be: beautiful, magical, unique, gifted. Phaedra gave the best hugs; expressed herself through words and wonderful visual art; loved the TV show Adventure Time; enjoyed roller skating and hula hooping; and avidly listened to music.

Services will be held privately.

Condolences can be sent to her father, Keith Gruver, 12 Birch Road, South Windsor, CT.

Memorial donations can be made to the Wellspring Foundation:

www.wellspring.org/giving/

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Journal Inquirer from Oct. 12 to Oct. 16, 2013.

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Hanna

March 22, 2023

I think about Phaedra every once in a while. Even to this day, I wonder what life would've been like if she was on stage graduating with me and the rest of her friends. Where she would've gone to school, what job she would have etc. I would've loved to have gotten to know her better but even in the few small months I knew her as a freshman in high school, she made such an impact on me. I miss her, she was truly the best hugger, a lovely unicorn, and the owner of a beautiful heart.

Courtney Anderson

October 19, 2020

I still think about you around this time of year. You are missed and loved.

D

March 20, 2018

Phaedra, you're still on my mind all the time and I still can't quite believe how long it's been since we last spoke.. May you be remembered eternally by all those who were lucky enough to make your acquaintance - I know I'll never forget the love you showed me. Yours always.

November 8, 2013

I love you Phaedra and I always will

November 6, 2013

I love you so much.

Zaina

November 4, 2013

I hadn't spoken to you in years, but Phaedra you were an amazing person. You never cared about others opinions and you made me not hate myself. I'm sorry I wasn't there for you. Roam free with the unicorns you fabulous dinosaur.

Julia

October 23, 2013

It hurts to think of you, but I know I would not be doing your memory justice if I didn't. I've been struggling, but I'll be okay. Holly taught me a new mantra type thing "Sweetheart, you're in pain. Relax, take a breath."

Emma

October 23, 2013

You will always have a special place in my heart Phae

my favorite photo of you in the whole world

Em

October 23, 2013

Phaedra I think of you and smile and laugh at the memories and times we've shared, but at the same time I feel a hollowness and sadness that I can never put words to when I remember we will never have any more times together, that you're gone. I wish I could talk to you now, I wish you were still here, I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. I will never forget you, and never stop loving you. I swear.

October 22, 2013

Sometimes Phaedra randomly crosses my mind and I can't describe how much it hurts me inside to know that she's gone. Phaedra, you were beautiful and kind and I wish I got to know you better. I wish I could have felt your amazing hugs and your words of wisdom.

October 16, 2013

Phaedra, I miss your hugs and kind words. I miss your sparkle and enthusiasm. I miss you.

Kimber

October 12, 2013

Missing you so much baby girl! I'm glad you allowed me in ur life for even a short amount of time. I love you sweetie!

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