Benjamin James "Ben" Slaven
Army Reserve Spc. Benjamin "Ben" James Slaven, 22, Beatrice, died Friday (6/9/06) in Iraq when his vehicle was hit by a roadside bomb. Born March 20, 1984, in Fort Lewis, Tacoma, Wash. He joined the U.S. Army, where he was serving in Iraq with the 308 Transportation Company, Lincoln.

Survivors: mother, Judy Huenink and husband Nick, Plymouth; father, Bruce Slaven and wife Julie, Beatrice; sisters, Nicole Slaven, Beatrice, Pfc. Misti Slaven, Fort Bliss, El Paso, TX., Chastity Laflin, Plymouth; twin brother, Sean Slaven, Beatrice; grandparents, Bev Malchow, Beatrice, Charles and Marcelle Slaven, Galveston, Texas, Jean and Jack Johnson, Pensacola, Fla.; step-sister, Miranda Smith-Huenink, Henderson, Iowa. Preceded in death by: grandfather, Armin Malchow; sisters, Angela and Jennifer Frerichs; aunt, Mary Nispel.

Services: 3 p.m. Tuesday, St. John's Lutheran Church, Beatrice. Evergreen Home Cemetery, Beatrice. Closed casket visitation: 9 a.m.-9 p.m. Monday; 9 a.m.-noon Tuesday, Harman-Wright Mortuary, Beatrice; one hour preceding services, church. In lieu of flowers, memorials to the family with the mortuary in charge.
Published by Lincoln Journal Star on Jun. 17, 2006.
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It's been almost 15 years and I still remember the day I found out in Tallil. You're heavy on my heart this Memorial Day. "I'm not a hero, but I had the privlage of serving with a few." You Ben, are my here. SSG Holman 1016th QM Co.
Matt Holman
May 28, 2021
My dearest Ben. It's been 14 years. No matter how many years go by, I still love you and miss you. I wish so many things, but most of all, I wish you were still here. The world was robbed of a funny, sweet, smart, kind, amazing man. You will always be a great love that got away. You are always missed.
June 9, 2020
Seward again Ben.
July 5, 2017
Seward Army Museum had this in you honor. Keep watching over Misty and your family.
As Michael Becker (Ret.)
Michael Becker
July 5, 2017
May 24,2016

Luke 12;4- "And I say unto you my friends, be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do."

"All gave something,and some gave all"

We didn't know you but feel as though we did. My family on the male side all served.Father in Air force, uncle and brother in Navy and my partner was Marine Corps. God bless you for your sacrifice!

Susan Adams & Mike DeJong USMC
Richmond, Virginia
Susan & Mike Adams-DeJong
May 24, 2016
Thinking of you
May 4, 2016
Hi Ben, I've had you on my mind the last few days so I thought if I wrote you a note we would both feel better. I think of you so often but one thing for certain we will never forget you nor the sacrifice you made for all of us & we are truly grateful for you. Rest well son & we will see you again in the future. Love you Granma.
May 3, 2016
Sorry for your loss.Hope you find peace in your fur babies.
Candy Sulser
April 30, 2016
Every time some one makes a post on here I think my heart stops just a second. While I don't forget about you the pain might just be a little leas some days. Then I'm reminded. I'm reminded of everything that I didn't get. I didn't get to see you come back for good and go to school like you wanted. I didn't get to see you become an underwater welder... why that dream I don't know. I didn't get a million more smiles, or crazy stories. I did however get a goodbye. I remember the last time I saw you and you got out of the car. You turn around and said goodbye. I wanted you to take it back so bad. You never told me bye. It drove me crazy. Looking back now I'm glad you said it because even though there is a huge Ben sized hole in my heart that little bit of closure is there. Some days I feel it might all be a dream. I wish it were. Life is difficult, but I know that you my friend are at peace. I shall see you again one day, please remember you will never be forgotten.
October 31, 2015
The Brave live forever.....
Bill Hogan
October 30, 2015

I crawled into bed with a heavy heart tonight and felt the need to see a picture of you. Then I realized it was the 24th and I had missed your birthday. Thirty my dear! I remember you being so excited for your 21st birthday I was excited to come home to help you celebrate. Then I remember another call, you had just left the recruiters office. You were so excited to tell me what you had done. I am so proud in the man you were. I am so sad that I did not get to celebrate any of your excitement with you in person then. I am also happy you were doing something that made your face light up. You really did everyone proud. I can't listen to the radio without a reminder of you at times but hey... "Don't you wish your drill Sargent was hot like me?"
March 24, 2014
MERRY CHRISTMAS BEN!!!! I really wish I could have met you I have met your mom and your sister Chatty and your brother Sean And your sister Misti and she is one of my greatest friends. I love your family its full of great people but I wanted to thank you for the service you did for the country and all your sacrifices to the country we live. Im truly grateful for not just you but all of us who have served to protect our great nation. And a very special thanks that has no words for you and all the fallen soldiers that sacrificed their lives for us. And I hope Jesus Christ is taking good care of you. Merry Christmas Benjamin Slaven.
Ashley Ousley
December 25, 2013
Merry Christmas Ben! I can't get you off my mind today, so I decided to let you know I miss you as much as always. We will be going to Grandma's house today. I am wrapping a Christmas gift for your niece Kila in just a few minutes...I don't want her to think Santa forgot her! Merry Christmas and I love you forever sweetheart! Tell Jesus Happy Birthday for me! Love Mom
Judy Huenink
December 25, 2013
This message is for a fallen heroe, I never knew you but I knew a lot of brave soldiers like you. The last time I wrote on someones wall was on fallen heroes memorial, for a dear friend of mine SPC Alarcon. PVT Slaven you are never forgotten your family, friends, fellow soldiers, and veterans will never forget you like i told my soldiers' family. If I could've traded places with you I would've. I never had the pleasure of knowing you but I know that we served together so at one point in time we were brothers in arms. Your friend
Erick Torres
October 10, 2013

I can't believe it is 7 years!!! It seems like it was just yesterday, and I miss you as much today as I did 7 years ago!!! Your friends from your unit are here again….God Bless them all, they faithfully come every year to spend time with you and with us! I can't tell you how blessed I feel that they come every year. It helps me a lot to know you were with people who truly loved you and cared about you when you passed! Your niece Tequilla Rose is now 4 years old, and your nephews Travis Benjamin and Alexander Daniel are both over a year old…..and your sisters Nikki and Misti are pregnant again so you have a nephew and a niece on the way! They would have loved their uncle Ben and I know you would have loved to spend time with them….they are so adorable…full of life and they make me smile! God has truly blessed our family by giving us such sweet children to love! No one will ever take your place in my heart or completely fill the gaping hole of emptiness I feel without you in my life….you were my pride, my joy….my precious baby boy…..but I can say having grandchildren to love has helped to ease the pain of losing you….they give me purpose and joy and someone to love and hug when I am missing you. Sometimes they do things that remind me of you when you were young, and it makes me smile…like a little bit of you is still here with me! I know you are happy to know I am ok….I am surviving one day at a time…doing my best to make you as proud of me as I am of you! Every minute we spend apart is one minute closer to when I will see you again. I don't know how long it will be, but soon enough it will be my turn to come home to the Lord and I will see you again….until then I am trying to live right and take care of the grandchildren! I will be out to the cemetery today with your friends! I love you big as the sky, big as the universe! Boo Boo Bye Ben!

Judy Huenink
June 9, 2013
It's closing in on seven years Ben. There are many days that I think about you. I miss you bud. I often wonder what crazy thing you'd be up to if you were around. Just a great guy with a beautiful heart.
June 2, 2013
Ben I woke up again this morning and was thinking of the crazy pictures we took with the silly glasses...I have lots of pictures of you and your Dad with them on...I think of you every day and every thought is with love... Granma
November 28, 2012
Hey Ben... I wanted you to know I thought about you a lot this month, especially tonight. It's been seven years now since I last saw you. I wish so many times I could just call you. You always made me smile. Though each day may be just a little easier to get through you will never be forgotten. Love you always.
November 26, 2012
Ben I agree with your mama I miss you -Love you -proud of you -and would like that one more hug to God bess you so till we meet again o.k.--Grandma Bev
spec Benjamin J. Slaven
November 22, 2012


Judy Huenink
November 22, 2012
Ben I sure enjoyed every thing we did together like feeding horses putting up hay listening to Chuck Swindel and so much more and I could go on and on and you know all the things to that we did together and I enjoyed every minute of it and I still would like to have that one more hug I sure do miss you love you so much and am so proud of you God bless you Ben Grandma Bev

Grandma Bev
June 16, 2012
Dearest Ben, You don't know me, but I know your Mom. I can only imagine what a wonderful light you must have been in this world because I see that same light in your Mom all the time. God bless you for fighting for our Country and paying the ultimate price. I can tell you honestly, your Mom keeps you alive in her thoughst and prayers, but also still manages to help people like me, who didn't know you in life, to somehow feel like I know you now....sending you love and prayers......Noelle
June 16, 2012
Ben, your friends from the military came and visited again this year on the anniversary of your death!!! There we 53 people who came to pay their respects on June 9th....driving in from all over the United States! I am so impressed with our young men and women in the military, faithfully coming every year to honor you and your service! God Bless them!!! This year was the first year your new nephew Travis was there....he was touching your picture on the headstone, then leaned in to give you a kiss!!!! It was so precious it brought tears to my eyes! I miss you so much sweetheart...a day doesn't go by that you are not in my thoughts. You are such a special young man....I was blessed the day God brought you into our lives!


Judy Huenink
June 15, 2012
Ben I miss you as much today as I did when you first left us but I can't tell you how many lives you have touch & we all loved you dearly...Granma
June 12, 2012
June 9, 2012
To the family and friends of Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven:
Always remembering Benjamin. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
June 10, 2012
I stopped by the cemetery just again the other day. There is not a day that I don't think about you. I can't believe it's been over five years since I last saw you. I miss you.
July 14, 2011
It's hard to believe that's it has been 5 years already. We miss you Ben. You have been a great blessing in my life.

Love, Dad
Bruce Slaven
June 11, 2011
To the family and friends of Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven:
Please accept my remembrance of Benjamin on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Peggy Childers
June 9, 2011
Was thinking about you and your family the other day when I got an email that someone sent you a note. Keep looking out for your sis and family. You're not forgotten.
SSG Michael J Becker
June 1, 2011
We are remembering you especially this Memorial Day weekend dear Ben. You will never be forgotten and will always be in our hearts.
Lots of Love, Grandpa & Grandma Slaven
May 29, 2011
Hey buddy. Don't know where else to write this so I guess here will do just fine, I miss you man, we all do, I only knew you for about a year or so before you passed, but in that year I made a friend that I will never's been hard on everyone, the rest of us who were on that mission with you have been relying on each other these last couple years for help...a lot of us got a tattoo in your honor, it's pretty sweet, I think you'd like it :) I've gotten to your head stone a couple times since then, they did a real good job on it, anyways man, I hope you can read this somewhere, just been thinking about you a lot lately, I hope you're doing alright wherever you are. You'll never be forgotten brother.
Charles Gilbert
June 26, 2010
June 16, 2010
To the family and friends of Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven:
Remembering Benjamin on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
Peggy Childers
June 9, 2010
To the family of Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven:
Benjamin gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
Peggy Childers
June 10, 2009
We're thinking of you and holding you close to our hearts today, dear Ben. We're flying the flag on our deck in your honor and to honor all our fallen heroes. We are eternally grateful for your sacrifice. We love and miss you.
Grandpa & Marcelle Slaven
May 25, 2009
April 9, 2009
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Kenna Larra
April 8, 2009
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.

The Wind on The Downs

“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”

(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )

Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….

“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”

I did not know Benjamin, but I am remembering
his service. He is my hero. !

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

The Other Side

i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.

can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.

i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.

it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.

i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side

the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.

i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.

Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
(Used with permission)

“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008

The Other Side –


Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom and MIL

Remembering The Fallen – Blog

Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
June 9, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Pvt Slaven!
May 30, 2008
To The Slaven Family and Friends

YOUR LOSS is The Great State of Nebraska's & America's as well.
I want to take the time to send a few words and Let you know Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven is remembered as a Hero and you are as well with Prayer for your Loss..
May your wonderful Memories with him and of him help to comfort you along with God's care. And be passed on to other family members..
There just is no word's to take away the loss you feel, for that I am sorry...
I thank you for America's freedom and mine and my families because of men and women like your Ben.
God Bless and Keep You in His Peace during these times of Great Loss.

The Family Lines of Lt. Presley Neville O'Bannon (A Marine who Raised the first American Flag on Foreign soil, Shores of Tripoli Hero) Proudly Salute:Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven, YOUR & one of Our Special Gold Star Hero's, from Nebraska who gave his all and then gave more! For his extream service and bravery He stands as an Exceptional Man ... Bless those he served with ..
As His Fellow Comrades Stand Guard, Protect and Bless them Lord.

Proudly a Wife and Daughter of Ret. Navy men
Proud sister, cousin, grand daughter, niece of many that have served...Always a Cornhusker!
Our prayers are also with your Daughter Misty who is serving also.. and you!
Rev. T. O'Bannon Brod
May 25, 2008
To Bens Family- I myself had the pleasure of knowing Ben. I grew up with them, even tho I am older than the kids they are like siblings to me! Ben liked to joke around even when he was younger. I pray for all of you. Judy and Bruce are like a second mom and dad to me. I hope that things get better over time. I love all of you. God bless Misty and I pray for her safe return!!
Kari Lynn Smith (Hein)
May 20, 2008
to bens family...
i served with slaven in iraq and he was a great friend. it torn all our hearts when we found out the news. he was a friend and family to all of us in 308th...the day will never be forgotten or what he did in iraq for all of us. im praying for u guys always.
and for u ben...i miss u i WILL see u again someday...u were a great friend and will always be remembered and missed! thank u!
sgt pond
May 9, 2008
I have written here before, however, lately I can't seem to get Ben off my mind. I think it is simply because I had wanted to visit his graveside on his birthday, I was unable and have been unable to get there for months now.

This is one quote that will always be true when it comes to Ben...

"If tears could build a stairway and memories a path, I would walk right up to Heaven and bring you back."

You were an amazing friend. I will never forget you and your crazy ways, Ben...
April 8, 2008

Shortly after your funeral, to help ease my pain, I wrote this for you with my love and thanks, and for all our brave, fallen heroes as they are laid to rest. You are entrenched in our hearts forever. We miss you.

Grandpa & Grandma Slaven

In the flutter of flags round the courthouse,
In the homemade signs held high,
In hands placed proudly on grieving hearts
As the hearse rolled slowly by,
This town showed all the patriots' pride
And love for this great land,
As silently they said goodbye
And waved with gentle hand.
They came to honor and to thank
Their son for what he bore,
This soldier gave his all for all,
That freedom may endure.

Precise and slow his comrades march,
They carry him with care,
Twenty-one guns and plaintive TAPS
Hang final in the air.
A general hands out medals,
Ribbons, stars and pins,
A folded flag and handshakes,
And the agony begins
For all who loved the hero,
The boy, the man so young -
We must not let him die in vain,
His song must now be sung.

Marcelle Slaven - 6/26/2006
(In memory of Benjamin Slaven, killed in Iraq, Friday June 9th 2006)
Marcelle Slaven
February 12, 2008
My son Ben was the light of my life. He always had a smile, and it was contagious. He was so giving of himself and anything he had. One time he cashed his whole paycheck and gave it to a family where the husband had recently lost his job, so the children could have a good Christmas. Any time anyone needed a helping hand he was there. He wasn't just my son, he was my friend...someone I could always count on to be there for me. He always said his dreams were to see my dreams come true. Even in the worst conditions, he would smile, and joke, and light up the room. He was such a special young man. I had never in my life known anyone with so much wisdom, honesty, and sensibility at such a young age. He was a breath of fresh air to everyone who met him. He was my pride and joy, and I was so blessed that God allowed me to be his mother and allowed me to share his life, even though it was cut short by this war. My memories of him are all I have now, and I thank God for those. I look forward to the day when I will be allowed to see him again...just to see him, touch him, hug him, look at his infectious grin and tell him I love him and how proud I am to be his mother...this will truly be Heaven.

To all Ben's friends, I thank you for the love and the kindness you showed him. I am thankful you were allowed to know him as well. I also want to thank all the brave soldiers who have dedicated themselves to making the United States and the World a better place to live. I thank their families for the sacrifices they have made.

Ben, this is for you. I played the song, The Baby by Blake Shelton at your funeral like you asked. Thank you for the beautiful song, and the memories of you singing it to me. Thank you for everything you have done for me, and the happiness you brought me throughout the years. A mother could never ask for a better, more loving son. I pray to God that I will be reunited with you soon. I wanted to tell you that you are going to be an uncle. Chatty has had such a hard time dealing with you being gone. What a wonderful blessing she would have to have a son just like you. That is what she is hoping for. A boy just like his uncle Ben. To the question you always asked, that you said you knew the answer...of course the answer is YES! Ben, momma loves you as big as the big as the universe. I miss our long talks, and your stunts to make me laugh. I miss talking to you....but I still have my favorite memory...Boo Boo Bye Little Ben. See you soon!

Judy Huenink
February 11, 2008
Slaven Family,

First, I hope someone, someday, reads this and remembers.

I'm SSG Michael Becker from Crete, NE and I'm currently mobilzed to Ft. Bliss, TX. I never new Ben, but found about about passing the day before his funeral. At that time I was back home in NE and received a call from my unit about what had happened. The reason I was informed was because Misty was in AIT and I was her sqaud leader at the 4223rd USAH. I attended the services for Ben and was amazed at the patriotism and support from the community during his services. I know it didn't stop the pain for any of Ben's family and friends. But it was an emotional and very fitting end for an American Hero.

There are several reasons I am posting this message. One is to let you know that your loss and Benjamin's sacrifice is not forgotten by just your family, but by others around the country. I also know that no matter how hard you try not to worry about Misty you always will, not only because it's natural, but the fact she did go on active duty. I've talked with Misty down here at Ft. Bliss on a few occasions and she seemed to be in great spirits. I haven't seen her for a little while but am sure she is serving her country and the memory of her fallen brother, Proudly!

I hope that time has helped heal some of the pain your family has endured with the passing of Ben.

I know Misty still wears the hat that Ben wore to honor him and to remember his sacrifice for our nation.

Thank you Ben for your sacrifice, look over your family, and watch over your sister. I know you will. God bless you and the entire Slaven Family.
SSG Michael Becker
February 9, 2008
There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.

Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.

I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.


Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY)
August 16, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Pvt Slaven and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
July 30, 2007
Ben, a true inspiration. Knowing him made my life very interesting. The day he joined he called me the minute he left and told me. He told me it was something he had to do. He said he didn't want to leave but knew that he had to go, it was the right thing to do. The last time I saw him, we spent hours talking he just couldn't stop saying how much he loved what he was doing. That night he also told me goodbye. Those of us that knew him knew he just didn't do that, looking back, Ben knew what he was getting himself into. I am so thankful there are guys like him.
Joelle Nickel
June 17, 2007
“Greater love hath no man than this,
that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
John 15:13

My heart breaks for you in the loss of your child. You have my deepest sympathies and you have my prayers. May you find comfort in your beautiful memories and may you find peace in your new normal without him. God bless you.

My family and I are thankful for your son’s Bravery, Courage, Determination and Service to fight for our country and for our freedom. Your son paid the ultimate sacrifice and we are truly indebt to him. We thank all in our armed forces for the sacrifices made for us. All gave some and some gave all. Your son will not be forgotten, I promise.

I share in your pain so much as I am a proud Nebraskan and we also lost a son to the war in Iraq. My mother and grandparents were from DeWitt and I have relative in Plymouth. My love goes out to you in a very special way. God bless you and hold fast to your beautiful memories as I hold on the memories and my faith in God.

If you ever want to chat, cry or laugh... I am a click away.

Proud Parents of a USMC American Hero -
LCpl. Michael D. Scholl – KIA 11-14-06 – Al Anbar Province, Iraq
Thank you God for blessing us and sharing Michael with us - I know
Michael is in Your Loving Care~along with his brothers Danny and Trenton~ while we are temporarily away from them all.
Donna Scholl
March 1, 2007
Written to Honor the Service of Our Fallen Soldiers

Soldiers write history, we pay the price
Many miles distant, you live the life
Entered the Battle of our own free will
Out of Duty for Country, and we’d do it still

We hope and pray that all will find peace
In God, in the flag, in memories of valor
Gone now, our pride and courage you see
“An Army of One” our motto forever

Willing to risk all for love of our Brothers
We’re still Your Soldiers…and we showed the way
Our Lives too short, now pray for the others
Lived free died Heroes in lands far away

Deep within souls all cherished our Service
We’ll always have what some never know
Courage and Honor, our names forever
Lived life with purpose…just our time to go

We march in the Heavens with Honor and Glory
Missions accomplished we fought the Good Fight
Many years from now…we’ll tell the full story
Until that Day we will live in the Light

Our lives we laid down in a land far away
Still watching o’er you this night and by day
No need to talk…just know we are with you
There in your hearts and we hear what you pray

Yes we are your soldiers
Our lives we laid down
Still We guard o’er you
Still Duty bound

Entered the Battle of our own free will
Out of Duty for Country, and we’d do it still
We’ll always have what some never know
Lived life with purpose…it was our time to go
January 30, 2007
Ben, I miss you everyday and I still expect to see you some day. You were the love of my life, my grandson. You made us all so very proud and thankful for your love and precious memories. Grandma Jean
Jean Johnson
January 18, 2007
My older brother is in the 308 TC. Mine and my families prayers go out to you. We thank him and all of the other men and women for their efforts. God Bless You.
Caitlin Bozarth
July 1, 2006
Slaven Family and Friends,
My husband is in the 308th TC. We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our family's heart goes out to you. May The Lord give you the comfort and peace that you need. We are praying for you always.
The Zinter Family
Stephenie Zinter
June 29, 2006
My husband is in the 320th in Lincoln. He was deployed in October and curently at Ft. Bliss working with IR soldiers. He only knew Benjamin for a few months, he was disturbed to hear what happened to him, Benjamin was my husband's friend. I couldn't help but think that my husband could have easily been there with him. My heart goes out to your family,may god be with you threw this dificult time.
Bonnie Thompson
June 26, 2006
Dear Slaven Family,
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved hero Benjamin. My heart breaks for the pain you must feel. May Benjamin rest in peace surrounded by the love of his family and friends. Thank you PVT Benjamin J. Slaven, a true American hero to all.
Debbie Lund
June 26, 2006
I remember Ben as someone that you could talk to easily.I am so sorry.He will be missed.
Desiree Chaffee
June 26, 2006
I never met PVT Slaven but being a fellow soldier, I mourn the loss. War is hard on everyone but his memory will live on in the hearts of those who knew him. I pray God will keep all the soldiers of the 308th TC. Let Psalms 91 be your daily prayer for protection. God will always honor His word.
Sherelle Simmons
June 26, 2006
May God strenghten you at this very difficult time. You are in our prayers.
Dominic and Chere MacLean and family
June 24, 2006

June 23, 2006
Wanda Cobb & Family
June 21, 2006
So we lost a friend out here a few days ago. It just seems so surreal, it hasn't completely set in yet. It's hard to believe you are gone man. I hoped and prayed every single day we would all get to go back home when this was said and done, without a scratch. But honestly inside I knew we would have to be really lucky for that to happen. With our mission, and how long we have to spend here, it just seemed inevitable that this would have to happen sooner or later. I just really really wanted for us to be lucky. We are such a close group of people. We really are family man. 8 months ago when this all started, they took us away from our families and friends at home, and surrounded us all with 166 strangers. Now we have built friendships that would have taken a lifetime to build anywhere else. I miss you man. I really do. I just wanna see you come moseying on in here, like you always moseyed anywhere else. You were such an awesome guy. You always made sure everyone around you was happy, you always made people laugh and smile. In case anybody hasn't noticed, there isn't a lot here to be happy about, but whenever I saw you I was thrilled. I know we don't get to see each other very much out here, just the guys in your crew on a daily basis. But whenever we ran into you on the road, it was always nice to see you, you always did something goofy to make me laugh. I remember when I met you in Lincoln man, and we'd go to the clubs and the bars and party and have such a good time. You were just like me, you were always the life of the show. The girls loved you!!! I'll never forget the time in Alabama, when you were standing out in front of formation. Biggen and I were lookin' at you thinking, what on Earth is he doing out there? Than, all of a sudden, you yelled Company, Attention! And I tried so hard not to laugh, First Private Slaven. The countless games of pool we played....I never could beat you! Oh well. More people, including myself, need to be more like you man. You were soooo good, to every single person you came in contact with. You were such a nice young man. It sucks this happened to you. It sucks that it has to happen to anybody but I just can't believe it was us, it was our family, it was you. You are awesome man. You did something 3/4ths of the people who will ever live on this world cannot say theyve done, and you gave your life up for your country. You made the most ultimate sacrafice there is. And I know exactly what you would say if you could talk to us right now. I know you would tell us you wouldn't have this any other way, I know you would be the first to say better myself than any of you. You were so unselfish. Sis was talking to me this morning and she was going on and on about you and how good you were to her. And all I did was smile. We all were talking about all of the silly things you did, ALL OF THE TIME, and we just smiled. Even when you are gone you make us smile. I miss you man. I know you will be watching over all of us. I know you will help us when things get tough. I know you are walking with the lord right now and you are smiling down on each and every one of us. Well, moseying with the lord. Anyways good friend, you are always going to be in my heart. I will remember you for the rest of my life, and I will tell stories about you and the sacrafice you made. I will make sure people you didn't know are even proud of you. I just hope you can hear me thinking all of this. I'll leave you alone for now, I am sure there are hundereds of other people who want to talk to you also. I miss you Slaven. I'm so proud to have served my country with you.
Spc. Anthony Chiri
June 21, 2006
On behalf of Paula, Sacha, Donovan, Shannon, Ross & Chelsea, I would like you all to know that we were so saddened by the news of Ben's passing. He has done his part in helping to create a better world and has paid the ultimate price, while we must continue to step up to the plate in trying to do the same in fighting evil. He is our hero and he died for all of the free world.

God will reward his bravery and unselfishness, which most of us are never called upon to prove.

The Angels in God's army have already raised you up to eternal happiness.
Thank you, Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven
Kirk de Souza
June 21, 2006
Dear Family,
Today our family stood along the procession route with the very flag that your loved one gave his life for. I wanted my children to see first hand the honor paid to a fallen hero. Your family has payed the ultimate price for the ultimate sacrifice. The bravery & courage shown by him, and your family will not be forgotten, and will continue to deeply touch our hearts with overwhelming gratitude. Our hearts and prayers are with you all! May God Bless you and Keep You!
Wendy Waege
June 21, 2006
With deepest sympathy from all the Tang family here in Trinidad. There will be a requiem mass for the repose of Ben's soul said here in Trinidad. Our thoughts and prayers are with you his family
Norma Tang
June 20, 2006
Please know that as time goes on, your family will remain in our thoughts and prayers. Prayers that God will bless you with comfort and peace, and prayers of thanksgiving for the heroes such as yours who have sacrificed everything for us. God Bless you and your family.
Lee Sirotnak
June 20, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy to the Slaven family in the loss of Benjamin. I did not know Benjamin, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. Benjamin you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace

To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
June 20, 2006
to the slaven family,
im very sorry for your loss and know how much you must be hurting right now. i had the pleasure of knowing your son. i worked with him at exmark and he and i were friends. he was so happy about being a soldier and i saw him before he left to go overseas. he was always happy and smiling and always helpd when he could. i miss him already and know he is in a better place. the turn out at the services today showed how much he was loved and how many people realized the sacrifice he made. i thank you for bringing a wonderful son into this world so he could touch so many lives including mine. i will never forget him.
jackie dillon
June 20, 2006
Our thoughts are with you in this, your time of sorrow. My brother, SPC Anthony J. Chiri, is in the 308th and stationed at Camp Adder Iraq. He has told us many stories of their friendship. They are all very affected by this tragedy. God be with you and yours.
Michelle and Rich Greenough
June 20, 2006
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2006

linda munoz
June 20, 2006
I just wanted to express how sorry my family and I are to hear of your loss.
Brian & Diane Diehl
June 20, 2006
Bruce and Family,
Let me first offer my condolences and let you know our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this very tough situation. This really hits close to home of me as the first I've heard of a Slaven paying the ultimate sacrifice in Iraq and the IED detection program that Ben was trained on before going into Iraq at Ft Riley was a program that I wrote and trained Transportation and Combat Service Support Units before going into Bosnia.

Just remember that Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends and family. For those of us in the military this an everyday way of life, I’m sure Ben realized this and the risks that we take in support of freedom that most of people take for granted in the US.

Now it is time to bring Ben home and give him the honors that he deserves. All our fallen heroes in Iraq and Afghanistan deserve this for the tough work they are doing and their sacrifice they have given.

LTC Kelly Slaven & MAJ Kimberely Slaven
June 19, 2006
Dear Slaven family, my brother is PLT Christopher Averett who is serving in Iraq along with your son. He told us that he lost one of his men and that the troop is in shock and hit hard by it. Cris said that Ben was 'an exceptionally good kid and will be sorely missed.' Know that he gave his life defending our freedom and that pride is what keeps them going. May your memories live on forever and may you find comfort knowing that he touched the lives of many. God be with you during this difficult time.
-A Grateful American-
Gigi Berol
June 18, 2006
Dear Slavin Family - while entering a comment to Brent Zoucha's legacy page, I noticed an entry from you. My son was in boot camp last year with Brent...but the connection of war is common - no matter what branch of military ....and because of your precious son's unselfish sacrifice to his country, people as myself are free. I am so sorry for your loss and please know that your family is in my thoughts and prayers during this devastating time. I have read many wonderful things about your son...he was a unique individual......and I FEEL your pride of him!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR A WONDERFUL PERSON!!

Theresa & Travis (my son) Stent
June 17, 2006
To the family of Benjamin J. Slaven,

I'm not one to put words in a very eloquent manner but this was such a sad end to a warm, caring, TRUE soldier. I can say this because I attended the memorial held here on Tallil AB and I would have been honored to have half of the qualities that your son possessed as was told during his eulogy. It was attended by more than 300 soldiers-from the lowest rank to the commanding general of the post and I can honestly say that every one of us could feel that we had lost not only a soldier, but a brother, I more so than most.

The company I deployed with trained with the 308TH Trans. during our pre-deployment in Ft Riley. Even though I never knew him individually, my company and his were coupled together during most training missions in Riley and that created a bond of sorts. Our brother had fallen and I couldn't contain myself during the speeches...I can't think of the pain that your loss has caused you. I know in my mind, among other distinguised qualities, I'll remember the go-getter attitude, self-less service and integrity your fine son and soldier possessed.

I'm remorseful for people he was to meet will never have the enjoyment of seeing the strength of character of your Benjamin.
My prayers are with you,
CPL Ryan T. Lugenbill
Ryan Lugenbill
June 17, 2006
To the Slaven Family,

Please accept my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your brave hero Benjamin. I am deeply touched by the wonderful acts of kindness that he performed in this life and now as an angel he will continue to do good deeds as a soldier of God.
Jon Whitney
June 16, 2006
I just found this memorial to you today and I am also proud to know that you have touched people's lives, even beyond our hometown. I want you to know that I am proud of you and I will miss you. Your mother said it best, " We are blessed to have had you in our lives for 22 years." You will be home tomorrow and I can't wait to have you back.
I learned about your dedication to your country, your commitment to the mission and your love of the Army from the soldiers that knew you. God speed to you.
Bruce Slaven
June 16, 2006
To the Family of Pvt. Benjamin J. Slaven;
My heart breaks again as I sign yet another guest book of another courgeous young soldier who gave their life so selflessly. I wish I never found myself in a position to have to sign another guestbook for the rest of my life. We lost a son 12/1/05 and it seems like yesterday.
I know first hand there are no words right now that will bring you the comfort and peace you need. Just know that you are not alone. My heart, thoughts, and prayers are with you all as you mourn this loss. We don't know each other, will probably never meet, but will forever be united in the loss of our Heroes. We have, unfortunately joined a group none of us wanted to join, an ever-growing group of families in this situation. May God grant you peace and strength to get through this and be able once again to smile at a memory rather than have only the tears that flow so easily now. To be so proud of your loved one and so saddened at the same time is a mix of emotions very difficult to deal with. I am sorry that I never knew your soldier personally, but none of these courageous men and women will be forgotten. They will never be able to be replaced, but sometime, someday your loving memories will help to sustain you. This courageous soldier will forever now be your Angel watching over you all for the rest of your lives. It's what brings me some measure of peace and comfort and I hope it will you as well. To his family and friends in pain, I offer this comfort: When you find yourself in that dark sorrowful place, think not only of how you will miss him, but instead recall the years, days, hours and minutes gifted to you by his presence. The one thing that cannot be taken from you is those wonderful memories that now will mean more than ever. If you ever want to talk, I'm only an e:mail away and would love for you to tell me more about your Hero. God Bless this courageous soldier and family.
Pam Adams (SFC Brent Adams, KIA 12/1/05 Ramadi, Iraq)
[email protected]
(Millersville, PA )
June 15, 2006
We want you to know that our hearts are with you during this impossible and painful time. Your Ben was and is the light of your life, as ours was and is. This is not supposed to happen to you, and to him. Our son Benjamin Schuster was killed in Ramadi Iraq on February 25, 2006 from sniper fire. We live on day by day, trying to make meaning and a legacy from his short life. You are beginning a journey that will last for years, but please know that your Ben will be with you all the way. Love does not know the boundaries that we accept here. Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you change your lives to accept Ben as he is now.
Phyllis Schuster
June 14, 2006
I did not know your Ben, but I know the heartache you are experiencing. Know that Ben is in a better place and your memories will carry you through this. Our thoughts and prayers are with Ben and his family.
Dad of Sgt. Andrew Wallace (KIA 9-26-05 Iraq).
Pete Wallace
June 14, 2006
My deepest condolences to the family of Pvt Slaven.
I am so sorry for the loss of such a brave young soldier.
God Bless Benjamin, he will be remembered in my prayers.
My flag fllies in his honor.
Linda Flannery
June 14, 2006
Rest Well in the Hands of God Young Hero. Know that you are loved and missed and that you will never be forgotten.
Garnet Jenkins
June 13, 2006
Rest in peace at your last post in paradise.
Henryk Zaleski (USN-Ret)
June 13, 2006
My condolences to the Slaven family.
Benjamin may you rest in peace. Thank you for making the ultimate sacrifice in the name of freedom. You have earned your golden halo and wings. May you continue to soar in the heavenly clouds up above.
Pat Canfall
June 13, 2006
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