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Cynthia Hirschfield
December 24, 2024
Missing you TODAY AND ALWAYS. I will NEVER forget the Christmas's that we spent together. I LOVE AND MISS YOU MORE than you could ever imagine. Heaven has one of our Christmas Angel's ❤ ♥
I LOVE YOU CHAD.
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
December 15, 2024
Honey,
I really felt your presence today as I stood and talked to you. Allot going on in Life, I hope you are here with me. The years are just flying by, BUT 18 years since you have been gone feels like just yesterday to me.
I will NEVER BE ABLE TO ERASE THAT HORRIBLE DAY AND ALL THAT HAPPENED FROM MY MIND!! Another Christmas soon upon us, no joy only sad reminders that you are gone, along with most of our Family.
You will be in our thoughts, and Hearts as you always are even moreso at this time of the year! You are SO LOVED, AND MISSED CHAD.
Until we are once again together
Merry Christmas in Heaven the most beautiful place in the arms of our Father. I LOVE ❤ YOU
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
November 30, 2024
Thanksgiving is a VERY SAD day without you. Always that " Empty Chair". Still I am SO VERY THANKFUL AND BLESSED to be able to spend it with Jordan, and the rest of our Family especially because there are not many of us left.
As you know, Tomorrow is not promised, we ALL KNOW THAT given everything that has happened in our lives throughout the years SO we try to spend as much time as we can ❤ together.
I think that you would be extremely proud of the young Man that Jordan has become, out on his own, and doing so great! I WISH MORE THAN ANYTHING YOU COULD BE HERE TO SHARE THESE MILESTONES IN HIS LIFE WITH HIM.
He WILL ALWAYS NEED HIS FATHER TO WATCH OVER HIM AND GUIDE HIM IN LIFE, and to help him make good decisions, and I KNOW that you are with him in Spirit each and every day.!
We ALL LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH HONEY! Be by again soon...
Love,
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
October 25, 2024
Hi Honey,
As I stood there today I couldn't help but think about WHERE YOU would be at and WHAT YOU would be doing in life right now. 51 years old!! I STILL CANNOT wrap my head around the fact that you have been gone THIS LONG. IT ALL JUST SEEMS SO UNREAL!! As you know it is also our Wedding Anniversary tomorrow as well. The SAME DAY filled with BOTH SADNESS AND HAPPINESS, 38 years with Randy, BESIDES YOU, HE IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME, AND HE LOVED YOU WITH ALL OF HIS HEART!!
I'm sure you already know that Jordan has a BRAND NEW HOME, AND A BRAND NEW CAR, He has a Job that he loves and is doing great. At least THIS CHAPTER OF OUR LIVES IS A HAPPY ONE. I KNOW that you would be VERY PROUD OF HIM, THINGS WOULD BE SO DIFFERENT IF YOU were here with us now!!! I talk about you ALL of the time, keeping your memory alive. I KNOW that YOU KNOW HOW VERY MUCH YOU ARE LOVED AND MISSED.!! SOMEDAY HONEY.... HAPPY BIRTHDAY, There are NO WORDS to tell you just HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU! Give EVERYONE a hug and a kiss for me.
I love you!
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
September 11, 2024
Hi Honey,
I have been thinking about you SO MUCH lately, and missing you as always.
Allot going on in our lives lately. As you already know, We bought Jordan a Home, free and clear, in hopes that he will have a good start in Life moving forward, not having to make a Mortgage payment OR worse yet pay Rent and never have anything to show for it.!! I've been having some health issues that I'm dealing with, and Uncle Steve is not doing so well either. It's hard getting old!! Please hold us in Prayer.
Grandma Joyce has a Birthday coming up on the 14th, we were out at the Cemetery to put some Flowers on her Grave to say we love her and miss her SO MUCH AS WELL. Give her a hug and kiss for us.!!
Cranfest is coming very soon. Kim and I will be going up again, and as ALWAYS I will be thinking about the ONE AND ONLY TIME that we got to enjoy this together and how you wanted it to be a yearly event for us to spend time together. Time just goes by SO FAST, Tomorrow is not promised to any of us SO IT IS SO IMPORTANT that NO MATTER WHAT we have going on in our lives WE NEED TO MAKE TIME to be with our loved ones NOW WHILE we are able to and they are STILL HERE. I KNOW ONLY TOO WELL HOW EMPTY LIFE FEELS losing YOU, Grandma, and Grandpa, and Mike, and Ken.!! We are ALL BUSY BUT NOTHING IN THIS WORLD IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN FAMILY.!!
I am SO HAPPY that I spent so much time with my Parents - I have no regrets, and there is no doubt in my mind that they KNEW how MUCH we loved them, and made them a Priority.
You are missed SO MUCH BY SO MANY, Alexis especially had so much love for you and STILL STRUGGLES knowing you are gone. She is a REALLY GOOD PERSON, KIND, THOUGHTFUL, AND COMPASSIONATE. I KNOW that you would be REALLY PROUD of her Chad!
We will be by soon, PLEASE REMEMBER HOW MUCH YOU ARE LOVED!
MOM
Cynthia Hirschfield
May 12, 2024
Hi Honey,
Another hard Mother's Day without you. I hope you heard me today at the Cemetery. We all went out for a nice Brunch today.
Kim, Kallie, Cameron, and Stevie also joined us so it was really nice to spend the day with Family.! The BEST PART of my day was the BEAUTIFUL CARD that I got from Jordan and what he wrote in it. He said " Gram, YOU are the best thing to happen to me in this World. I love you with all my Heart, Happy Mother's Day."
I cried when I read that. I'm SO HAPPY that Randy and I are here to help him, and we will continue to do whatever we can to see that he has a good life. I KNOW that YOU KNOW THAT. We ALL MISS YOU SO MUCH CHAD, Most of all I wish you were here for Jordan. We love you and think about you every day!
Someday I'll see you again.
Love,
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
December 14, 2023
Honey,
It was a truly wonderful day today!!! Many surprises as well. I KNOW that YOU had a hand in all of this. !!! THANK YOU CHAD.!! Alexis, Kim, and I came today, 17 years, it's STILL SO UNBELIEVABLE. You are missed BEYOND WORDS. Please continue to watch over your Family. We love you, Merry Christmas Chad!
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
October 26, 2023
Happy Birthday Honey,
Alexis, Kim, Kallie, and I
came to wish you a happy Birthday today. Alexis had a VERY HARD TIME, as did I!! Hard to believe that you would have been 50 years old today. We all went to lunch afterwards to celebrate your life. It was SO NICE to share the day with them in your honor.
I miss you SO MUCH Chad.
My only consolation is knowing that you are in a BEAUTIFUL PLACE with the rest of our loved ones!!
I LOVE YOU.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
September 20, 2023
Honey,
Getting ready to go to Cranfest with Aunt Kim and the memories of you and I and Gram going for the first time just come flooding back.
We had SO MUCH FUN!! I remember you saying "Mom can we make this a yearly thing" but it was not to be...
This year may likely be the last year I am able to go as my health is not so good anymore.
Lately it seems that all I think about is the day that you passed away in the Hospital and how I felt my Heart ripped right out of me. After all of these years it is still so horribly vivid in my mind!
After that, the next 10 years of our lives were spent sacrificing SO MUCH, and TRYING SO HARD to give your little Boy a great life. We loved him so much.
I hope you know that.
Sadly life doesn't always turn out the way you had hoped it would. None of us are promised tomorrow. I pray all of the time for better days and have faith in knowing that God DOES have a plan for me.... I love you Chad, and miss you every single day!
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
May 14, 2023
Hi Honey,
I came by on Friday and had a long talk with you about how things turned out Chad. Randy and I are SO HEARTBROKEN, AND WISH there were something else that we could do BUT we have tried EVERYTHING.
I'm SO SORRY Honey, this is NOT AT ALL WHAT we had wanted or hoped for. We will CONTINUE TO PRAY that there is hope for the future.!
Randy took me to Galena this weekend and then out to a really nice Dinner last night to celebrate Mother's Day. Besides you, HE is the BEST thing that ever happened to me. I will be thinking of you this Mother's Day just as I do each and every day. I love you Chad.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
December 24, 2022
Another Christmas come and gone. It's ALWAYS SO VERY SAD, AND HARD at this time of the year as it is a reminder that you aren't here with us. You will be in my thoughts and in my Heart tonight. Merry Christmas Honey. I love you!
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
December 14, 2022
Another year gone by Honey.
SO MANY things happening lately that you SHOULD BE HERE FOR. As ALWAYS, I'm not looking forward to the upcoming Holidays as it is ONLY a reminder that you aren't here, along with Grandma, Grandpa, Uncle Ken and Mike. We used to have so much fun, NOTHING will ever be the same now.!! I miss you terribly and will be thinking about you TODAY AND EVERYDAY my Son. I LOVE YOU, MERRY CHRISTMAS.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
October 26, 2022
Happy Birthday Honey. I had SO HOPED things would have turned out differently, we tried SO HARD. I MISS YOU SO MUCH, NOT JUST TODAY BUT EVERYDAY. Please keep a watchful eye out. I LOVE YOU.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
September 19, 2022
Hi Honey,
I'm SO SORRY AND deeply saddened at the way things turned out Chad. I KNOW that YOU KNOW that Randy and I TRIED SO HARD to get through and teach the right things to do in life.
Almost 10 years now. There were SO MANY WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITIES AND we had high hopes for a bright future but as you also know things don't always work out the way we want them to and at some point you have to move on.
On a more positive note it is a BIG RELIEF that things are finally over with and a HUGE WEIGHT HAS BEEN LIFTED FROM OUR SHOULDERS.
Randy and I are finally able to travel and TRULY have fun and enjoy life as it was meant to be.
Life is too short and already passing by so quickly.!!! We have lots of trips and fun things planned already and I am so excited to be able to do the things we weren't able to do before.
We will continue to pray. I'll be by to see you. Love & Miss you SO MUCH!!
Love Mom.
Cindy Hirschfield
June 1, 2022
Hi Honey,
It's been a very long day BUT a VERY GRATIFYING DAY AS WELL.
As you probably already know your SON graduated from High School and received his Diploma tonight.!!!
It was SO WONDERFUL to see him walk across that Stage and accept his Diploma. An HONOR that EVERY PARENT should be able to be a part of. Sadly you are not here to have done that but thank God we have been Jordan's Mom, Dad, Grandma, and Grandpa all rolled into one and I am SO BLESSED to have been here and be a part of giving him a wonderful future!
Alexis was there, She is such a kind, and beautiful Person, I can see WHY you had that SPECIAL BOND with her. The rest of our Family was also there as well as Friends. We had a Wonderful Dinner Celebration at the Restaurant afterwards. Aunt Kim and the Girls had a special Cake made up for Jordan too.
After he received his Diploma Jordan told us that this was one of the happiest days of his life.
Made me cry!!! He also told Randy and I that he could never thank us for all we have done for him. It's been many a struggle but now the door is open for a beautiful future for him. OUR WHOLE FAMILY IS EXTREMELY PROUD OF HIM AND ALL THAT HE HAS ACCOMPLISHED.
I HOPE YOU ARE SMILING DOWN UPON US ALL. WE DID IT CHAD!!!
I LOVE YOU!
MOM
Cindy Hirschfield
May 8, 2022
Hi Honey,
I hope you heard me today when I was there. SO MUCH going on all of the time. Seems like life is just literally FLYING BY. I DON'T KNOW WHERE all of the time has gone. Hopefully now with School coming to an end things will quiet down some.
Church was so crowded today, went and had a really nice early Dinner later on in the day.
"Our" Family is doing well, I am SO GRATEFUL!!!! I MISS YOU SO MUCH CHAD BUT TODAY EVEN MORE!
I sat in my room until after 3 a.m. last night reading many of the BEAUTIFUL LETTERS that you wrote to me telling me what an amazing Mother I was to you and how very much you loved me!! I cried SO HARD afterwards! Those Letters are the MOST PRECIOUS GIFT that you could have ever given me and I WILL CHERISH THEM FOREVER. THANK YOU CHAD!!! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
December 12, 2021
Hi Honey,
15 years on Tuesday. SO HARD to believe you have been gone for that long! Every Christmas is just a sad reminder, it's very hard for all of us to even enjoy the Holiday.
So much has happened, once again, during the past few months, BUT YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT. Jordan is doing excellent in School and is making his health a priority as well.
He joined the gym and is very dedicated to going.
Ran and I are very proud of him and all that he has accomplished in just a short time.
We are all REALLY missing Grandma Joyce and Grandpa Jerry. Stevie got married Thanksgiving weekend and had a beautiful memorial of them complete with pictures. Very nice.
The Wedding was downtown and just beautiful. We all had a great time, especially Jordan as he got to see his Family. He even got his Grammy out there to dance! Surprisingly I kept up with him ha, ha. But oh boy I could feel it the next day!! It was so nice to see him happy and smiling.
We were sad about all that he went through again but we truly believe that as always God had a plan for him.
We will be by on Tuesday. We love and miss you so much Chad but you are never far away as you are always in our Hearts
Merry Christmas Honey.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
September 17, 2021
My loving Son,
With Monday quickly approaching I am scared, and anxious. I KNOW THAT YOU and my Family will be there with me and THAT is what comforts me. I am praying for the best.
I LOVE YOU CHAD.
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
September 10, 2021
Hi Honey,
Have been thinking about you so much again lately, especially with Grandma Joyce´s upcoming Birthday.
I was out by her to put some Flowers on her grave and before that by You and Uncle Ken. It´s hard to believe that he has been gone 9 years now already also!! SO MANY People that I would give anything to have just one more day with, to say SO MANY things to, ESPECIALLY HOW MUCH I LOVE THEM, BUT now they are gone.... I KNOW I ALWAYS TELL YOU the SAME THINGS each time I come there. I just want you to know how very sad we are about the way things are, AND how hard we tried! NO ONE loved him, or took care of him EVER, the way that we did, it is REALLY sad, BUT You can´t make People feel something that isn´t in their Heart.
Please watch over Uncle Steve as he is not doing so well, and BE WITH ME, guiding my Doctor´s hands as I undergo this next procedure. I am very anxious, and nervous about it BUT what will be will be. I know that one day soon I will see your beautiful face! Please give Grandma Joyce a kiss for me and tell her Happy Birthday - YOU WERE THE BEST MOTHER EVER, I MISS AND LOVE YOU SO MUCH MOM! I MISS AND LOVE YOU TOO CHAD, MY HEART BREAKS EVERY SINGLE DAY that I am here without You.
Love Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
July 21, 2021
Hi Honey,
Life has been crazy busy lately but in a wonderful way! I have been going non-stop doing so many things that I couldn't do before.
My Friend Terri and I have been going to the Gym 4 - 5 times a week, working out, and doing allot of Swimming there which we both enjoy. I remember how much you loved the water too. Last weekend I finally got to meet my half Sister Lori. We had a blast!!! The weekend went by so very fast. It was hard to say goodbye!
I cried most of the way home. I SO WISH You could have met her Chad. So many others that you never had the chance to get to know as well.
Your Daughter Ariel, such a pretty young Lady, and your Son Sebastian. Such a shame, such nice Kids. Even though you never got to meet them I know in my Heart that you are very proud of them. Grandma Joyce so enjoyed going to visit them when she was still here and they were always so happy to see her.
Cameron too has a new Boyfriend, I know you would have really enjoyed getting to know him as well. She is really happy, and we are all happy for her too as she's such a good person. Stevie will be getting married in November as well. I can't believe how grown the Kids all are and what nice People they grew up to be. Steve and Kim have allot to be proud of.
Been to lunch with Friends, the Movies and lot's of trips so much lately the days are just flying by.! Terri and I also started walking as well and it's amazing how stress free life has gotten.
I am SO blessed to have the People that I have in my life and thankful each and every day.
Hardly a day goes by that one of us doesn't have a memory or conversation about you, especially your Uncle Steve, he misses you more than words could ever say.!!!
You touched so many lives with your kindness Chad. YOU ARE ALWAYS IN MY HEART I LOVE YOU.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
June 22, 2021
Been thinking about you so much today. I recently found out that I have a half-Sister Lori who lives up north. We have been talking allot lately, and have really gotten close.!!! We are finally going to meet in July. Randy got us Hotel Rooms, so that we can spend the day together, and Dinner Reservations at a nice Supper Club up there afterwards. I'm SO EXCITED to finally be able to meet her!! She is going through some very hard, personal issues right now, and given our circumstances here as well I TRULY BELIEVE that GOD KNEW that we REALLY NEEDED ONE ANOTHER RIGHT NOW.
The timing of this just can't be a coincidence.! I SO WISH that you were here to go with me to meet her.
I also recently found out that my best Friend from Grade School lives right down the road from me, unbelievable. We are going to get together today, later I am taking Nick and Lily for Tacos. It's always nice to see him and you would REALLY BE PROUD of the decent young Man he has turned out to be Chad. He has REALLY GROWN UP, and is SUCH A GOOD KID! I will be by to talk with you again this week. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
June 17, 2021
Hi Honey,
Have been thinking about you ALLOT, ESPECIALLY with Father's Day coming up this Sunday. We are VERY SAD that things didn't work out the way we had hoped they would BUT I'm SURE that YOU already know that.
We have tried for years now, giving "our" lives, and sacrificing SO MUCH. Such a shame that none of it did any good, it really is.
Randy, and I have learned to just turn it over to God, and are moving forward with our lives.
We have had several REALLY GREAT Vacations already, and are SO ENJOYING spending time together again.
We gave it our all and will continue to pray as always... We LOVE YOU, AND MISS YOU SO MUCH CHAD!! Happy Father's Day.
Mom, & Ran
Cynthia Hirschfield
May 8, 2021
Hi Honey,
I hope you heard me yesterday when I was there. Here we are another Mother's Day, and nothing much has changed. I do wish I had listened to Grandma Joyce about so many things.! If I had, life, and retirement for me, and Randy would be so very different right now.
Thankfully, I just keep holding on to the fact that we will see a light at the end of the tunnel in the next year. It will be so wonderful for us, and we are so looking forward to that day!
I think about how things would be if you were here with us, and miss you each, and EVERY, SINGLE DAY!! YOU WERE AN AMAZING SON CHAD. I LOVE YOU.
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
December 25, 2020
Chad,
Another Christmas gone by. You have been on my mind SO MUCH lately. In keeping with our Family's tradition we shared Christmas Eve with Uncle Steve, Aunt Kim, and the Kids. It always brings back SO MANY MEMORIES of when you were a young Boy, how excited you were to go over by Grandma, and Grandpa's and see all of your Cousins, and play games, and open gifts.
You always had so much fun, and I am SO GRATEFUL that God blessed me with such a WONDERFUL, AND LOVING FAMILY. I will FOREVER CHERISH THOSE MEMORIES AND THEY WILL BE KEPT ALIVE IN MY HEART - ALWAYS.
Jordan has a new Girlfriend and she was with us tonight as well. He had a REALLY GREAT TIME. It was SO WONDERFUL to hear him laugh, smile, and TRULY enjoy himself, the way he should have been during the many years he had such a hard life. He's so grown up, I don't know where the time went.!!!!
Tonight he gave me the MOST BEAUTIFUL CHRISTMAS GIFT I COULD EVER ASK FOR - A Card that said
"TO MY MOTHER" on the Front of it. It touched me so much, it made me cry.!!!
It's been a long road Chad but Randy, and I are confident that it will be SO WORTH IT in the end.!!!
Merry Christmas Honey, We love you, and miss you so much!!!
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
December 13, 2020
Hi Honey,
Another year tomorrow. Still I cannot believe that you are gone!! So much going on all of the time. Poor Jordan is having so many health problems and has had allot to deal with. I am so glad that he is here with us, around People that truly love him and will do whatever they can to help him through these difficult times.
I know how much he WISHES that you were here Chad. He has said so many times that he KNOWS his life would be SO DIFFERENT if you were here. I think our Family all feels that way!!! We came to see you Friday but will be back tomorrow.
Lex has been checking on Jordan, she is such an AWESOME SISTER, SO VERY CARING, AND COMPASSIONATE. I KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVED HER TOO!!! ALWAYS YOUR FAVORITE! We miss you, and love you. Merry Christmas Honey!
Mom
Cynthia Hirschfield
October 25, 2020
Hi Honey,
14 years have passed, I still can't believe it. Tomorrow you would have been 47 years old!!! Lot's going on here in life again. Soon the Holiday's will be coming, that is always a very sad time for all of us.
Jordan has a Girlfriend now, and we can't believe he is already 16.
Some good news too, we are no longer having to deal with A, and B, SO THANKFUL for that, life has been good, and peaceful!!! SO NICE.
We will be by tomorrow. Happy Birthday Honey, love, and miss you. You are ALWAYS IN my Heart ❤.
Love ALWAYS,
Mom
Cindy Hirschfield
February 11, 2020
Hi Honey,
Well, its FINALLY over with Chad. I am SO RELIEVED that Randy, and I can put this behind us, AND KNOW that we DID EVERYTHING WE COULD, AND TRIED AGAIN.
I'm SO SORRY Honey that things didn't work out, and was very sad, and heartbroken because we wanted so badly for things to work out. I KNOW in my Heart, THAT YOU KNOW, and that is WHAT REALLY matters now, and what is important.
Randy, and I have some wonderful trips planned, I am SO LOOKING FORWARD TO THAT!!
Another Birthday on Sunday so I will be by. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH CHAD, AND MISS YOU EVERY DAY.
MOM
Cindy Hirschfield
January 19, 2020
Randy, and I are so heartbroken over what happened, and still cant believe it, after everything that we did.
We tried SO HARD but I guess God had other plans. SUCH A SHAME AS I dont see a very bright future there.
I guess there is a POSITIVE SIDE to things though, - NOW Randy, and I can spend time together like we were meant to do, so I will start traveling with him again, and enjoy life.!!!
WE MISS YOU SO MUCH, AND TALK ABOUT YOU OFTEN!! YOU are ALWAYS IN OUR THOUGHTS. I had lunch with Dana last week, SHE LOOKS GREAT!!! I THINK ABOUT THAT TOO ALL OF THE TIME, AND WISH...
LOVE YOU!
MOM
Cindy Hirschfield
December 11, 2019
Honey,
Another year gone by, 13 years now that my Heart has ached for you! SO MANY things going on with Jordan, he is so very sad allot of the time, wishing that you were here. He talks to me all of the time about how different his life would be if you were. OUR FAMILY, WE ALL FEEL THE SAME WAY.
Randy, and I struggle so hard, everyday, to take care of Jordan, and give him a great life, especially at our ages.
While Christmas should be a celebration of the birth of our Lord, each year our hearts are filled with emptiness, and sadness because YOU are not here with us. We are going to see Lex today, I know she was always your favorite, and how much you loved her. The 2 of you had such a "Special Bond". She misses you beyond words, and has been such a wonderful Sister to Jordan, always caring about him, compassionate, loving, and kind, I KNOW You would be so proud of her Chad, and I am SO GRATEFUL that Jordan has her. She is AMAZING!!!
We ALL miss you, and love you so much but you are never far away as you are ALWAYS in our thoughts, and hearts. Jordan, and I will be by to see you today. Merry Christmas my Son, in the most beautiful place.
I LOVE YOU CHAD,
Mom
December 24, 2018
Hi Honey,
I hope you are now happy, and at peace with the fact that Jordan is SO HAPPY with his life now that he is FINALLY BACK "HOME" !! He has SO MANY Friends, back at his old School, and even has a Girlfriend! He is doing GREAT!!!
He is SO CHARMING, AND HANDSOME just like his Dad. He is VERY EXCITED to be spending time together tonight with his Family, as we all gather together to celebrate Christmas. THIS YEAR is going to be THE BEST CHRISTMAS HE EVER HAD, and we are ALL SO HAPPY for him. He has had a VERY HARD ROAD, BUT that has ALL CHANGED NOW! Even though you are not here with us Chad, You are never far away as You ARE ALWAYS IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS, not just today on this most blessed day, BUT EVERY DAY!!
Merry Christmas my Son, WE LOVE YOU!!!
Mom, Ran, and Jordie
December 14, 2018
Hi Honey,
As you know things are FINALLY back on track here the way they SHOULD BE. Jordan has grown so much, and is not at all the little Boy he was BUT is INSTEAD a MATURE TEENAGER! WOW, WHERE has the time gone Chad!!! He is back at Raymond with all of his Friends, and is SO HAPPY about that. He is EAGER to attend School each day, and is doing great!! He is also back with his "Church Family" - They have prayed for him for more than a year now, and ALL of "OUR PRAYERS" were FINALLY answered.
It is nice to have a sense of peace in our lives again. WE have MANY PLANS for our future, and look forward to watching Jordan THRIVE, as he grows.... It's TOO BAD that so much time was lost, BUT I NOW DO BELIEVE this was God's PLAN for US all along, for Jordan to "SEE" the truth for himself about so many things he was left wondering about. EVERYTHING FOR A REASON.... We will be by to put some Christmas Flowers in your Vase, and talk with you. WE LOVE, AND MISS YOU CHAD, MORE THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW!!!
Mom, Ran, & Jordan
September 27, 2018
Hi Honey,
Up here for CRANFEST this weekend. Jackie, and I are having a blast, and can't wait for tomorrow morning. Have been thinking about you today, and as SAN reminded me, I KNOW YOU will be walking along RIGHT BESIDE ME, AS YOU ARE EVERY YEAR!!! LOVE YOU CHAD. MISS YOU EVERYDAY!
MOM
Jana Sonsthagen
August 22, 2018
Thinking of you brother ♡
June 16, 2018
Hello Honey,
I'll be by tomorrow. Today we are celebrating Kallie's Graduation, She also had her Birthday, She is 18 already!!! WOW, WHERE has the time gone Chad - I can't believe it!!
Ran is making his "World Famous Chickens" Ha, Ha, on the SPIT!! It's been QUITE AWHILE since he did that, and I actually think he is looking forward to it as YOU KNOW how much he likes to cook!!!
Well, as you know there has been ALLOT going on, Sadly, most of it not very good regarding J. I KNOW that YOU would be SO VERY DISAPPOINTED, AND HURT if You were here BUT I also KNOW that YOU DO SEE, and after thinking about it I DO THINK that this all is working out the way it was meant to be. EVERYTHING FOR A REASON....
It's such a shame but it is what it is, SO Ran, and I are just going to move on and have made many plans to really enjoy "OUR" lives as we are so blessed to BE ABLE to do all of the things that we want to!!
Gram will be getting settled in her new place soon, and is also having Surgery, SO PLEASE put in a "GOOD WORD" for her with "OUR FATHER". She has been through allot lately too. Anyway, I wanted to say that even though You were only a Father for a very short time, YOU WERE A WONDERFUL DAD, CHAD. HAPPY FATHER'S DAY my Son. WE LOVE YOU!!!
MOM
May 11, 2018
Hi Honey,
Another Mother's Day quickly approaching. It is SO VERY SAD Chad that there are Women who have Children and they care nothing about them. Mother's are supposed to be loving, nurturing, compassionate, mentors, but most of all they will do anything, and everything to keep their Children safe, and protect them no matter what.!! Even if that means sometimes making painful decisions, even having to let go of them so that THEY can have a good life. That is TRULY WHAT a Mother IS, AND DOES.
I would do ANYTHING Chad to have you here with us, INCLUDING, Give my life, EVEN IF it were JUST FOR ONE DAY. We had EVERYTHING taken from us on Dec. 14th, Our World turned upside down!!! I KNOW HOW VERY SAD, AND DISAPPOINTED YOU ARE BUT I want you to know Chad ( I'm sure you do... ) that I DID EVERYTHING I COULD to TRY AND HELP!! Even though You are gone, I WISH I COULD take away the pain You are feeling.... I'm SO SORRY CHAD!! We MISS YOU EVERY SINGLE DAY, AND YOU ARE NEVER FARTHER AWAY THAN OUR HEART'S. I will be there to see You on Sunday.
I love You Chad!
Mom
January 16, 2018
Praying for GOOD NEWS TOMORROW Chad - HE SO DESERVES THIS!!.....
WE LOVE YOU!
Mom
December 20, 2017
Hi Hon,
We leave for our trip tomorrow and are SO EXCITED - WARM WEATHER, FUN, AND R & R.
SO LOOKING FORWARD TO THAT!! Stevie will be staying here while we are away and is SO EXCITED as well because it gives him some time to have all to himself. He is SUCH A GOOD KID CHAD, You would have REALLY LIKED HIM.!! It has been a LONG, HARD, ROAD, BUT our lives ARE FINALLY BACK ON TRACK where they once were. YAY!! Our Family is getting allot of good News lately, it's about time Chad!! - Hope Jessie enjoys his Birthday tomorrow also. More good things to come.... MERRY CHRISTMAS - I can ONLY IMAGINE HOW BEAUTIFUL YOUR CELEBRATION WILL BE. I will be by when we get back.
WE LOVE YOU!!!
MOM
STEFANIE B
December 14, 2017
Always in my heart.Stef
December 13, 2017
Honey,
Tomorrow it will be 11 years already since you have been gone. It's SO HARD to even comprehend that it has been that long. Randy, and I are doing great, as are the Kids, and in fact have decided we are going to start some "NEW" Family traditions during the Christmas Holiday. This year we will be going away for a week, and are SO EXCITED, as our past several years were not very good ones, with all that was happening in our lives.
Stevie, will be here taking care of things while we are gone , giving us the chance to have this "FRESH, NEW " start in Life. It's funny "HOW" You THINK things will be if you could have what you wished for so long, Only to finally get it, and find out People, and Relationships were NOT AT ALL what you had THOUGHT they would be, BUT THAT TOO
has a POSITIVE SIDE to it - Better late, than never, and it FINALLY allows "US" to move on, and be happy. Randy, and I have worked so hard to make a good life, and it IS TIME that we CAN DO THE THINGS IN LIFE that we have waited for so long. I KNOW that YOU as well now know the truth. We are so sorry Chad that this happened to you too as I think you really wanted it to be true.... You will be on our minds, and in our Hearts this Christmas Season, as You ALWAYS are. I will be by to see you - WE LOVE YOU CHAD, MERRY CHRISTMAS. WE MISS YOU MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY.
MOM
November 29, 2017
Hi Honey,
Well as you know things have been very hectic rushing around trying to get things done for the Holiday's. I have been working down in the Basement allot ALL THIS WEEK trying to go through all of the STORAGE CONTAINERS with the things that you had collected over the years. My goodness there is SO MUCH, It's really been a chore!! I have decided to list most of it on E-Bay, including the Baseball Cards, and all of the Monster Memorabilia etc. - I even came across the rest of the BRATZ DOLLS with the Secret Date ones, I had forgotten all about them. I also have a ton of XBOX 360, XBOX ONE, and PS4 games, and Consoles that I can sell. I will be VERY BUSY! Hopefully we will get a good chunk of Money so we can donate the proceeds along with the Money that I have been holding onto for years now that was in the Bank from the Funeral to our Church. They do so much for EVERYONE, I cannot think of any Person, or Place that is MORE DESERVING.
Whatever doesn't sell we will ask the Kids if they would like anything - It was GREAT to see them by the way - We had ALLOT of fun!! Randy, and I have been traveling quite a bit also, we have been to Pennsylvania allot this year. It is ALWAYS SO NICE to go there.
I have several trips planned with Friends also, and am REALLY looking forward to that.
It has been SUCH A RELAXING, AND PEACEFUL TIME in my Life, It's about time! THIS is "HOW" Life SHOULD BE..... I ONLY REGRET that I didn't realize that sooner, and not worry so much about other's - SO MUCH TIME WASTED... Now it's "OUR TIME ", and I am SO LOVING IT, AND GRATEFUL as OUR FAMILY is SO BLESSED. I prayed all day today, as did Family, and Friends, regarding the hearing today at 1:30 - Many of them wrote Letters, I have faith it will all be good. Gram, and I will be baking Christmas Cookies this week, and taking some Weekend Trips after the Holidays as well. We talk about You ALL OF THE TIME CHAD - You are NEVER, EVER FAR AWAY AS YOU ARE ALWAYS IN OUR HEARTS. WE LOVE, AND MISS YOU EVERY DAY. I will be by again soon...
Love,
Mom
November 22, 2017
Hi Honey,
I can't help but KNOW that YOU TOO are feeling SO SAD about the outcome of J's choices.
Today, All I keep thinking about is what an AWFUL Thanksgiving those Kids are going to have, as usual. It REALLY IS SO VERY SAD, BUT we told ourselves just to leave it in God's hands, and it will work out the way HE wants it to be, and the way it was meant to be.
Anyway, the Kids are coming , and we are happy to all be together as a Family, celebrating our MANY BLESSINGS. Today is a day that we wanted to give Thanks for YOU being a part of our lives for the years that You were here Chad. We miss You SO MUCH - Dad, Ken, and Mike too!!! Happy Thanksgiving to you in such a beautiful place. I will be by tomorrow - WE LOVE YOU SON.
Love Mom
October 26, 2017
To my Son,
NO ONE MISSES YOU MORE THAN I DO, ESPECIALLY TODAY.
There are many People that seem to think of you as Dad, and may even refer to you in that manner, because you were such a "SPECIAL PERSON".
You, and I HAD MANY TALKS about that while you were still here. I wish I could say that all was well with YOUR 3 Children but SADLY
J is not good and we are all praying for him. I think you would be very proud of Ariel, AND Sebastian - Its still SO VERY HEARTBREAKING that you did not even get the chance to know your "SWEET" TWINS - I think they take after their Dad and have many of your traits being very kind, AND loving. I know their Mom is doing a wonderful job of raising them and we all have no doubt that they have a bright future ahead.
I'M sure you have a huge smile on your face as you watch them grow!!
Randy, and I have been doing lots of traveling, and taking many weekend "mini" vacations. Life has been good now, and finally moving in the right direction. Randy just celebrated 40 years at his Job - His Company presented him with a huge check.!!
He deserves that, AND SO MUCH MORE. HE IS THE BEST HUSBAND A PERSON COULD EVER HOPE FOR!!! Today is your Birthday, and
our Anniversary - As we take this time to celebrate YOU WILL BE IN OUR HEARTS, AND OUR THOUGHTS. HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHAD - WE LOVE YOU.!!!
MOM
October 1, 2017
Honey,
We had a BLAST THIS WEEKEND up in the Dells at Ho Chunk celebrating Randy's Birthday!! He won big too! I did pretty good myself BUT NOT LIKE HIM - YAHOO!!!
It is SO NICE to be able to come, and go, AND TRULY ENJOY LIFE Chad!!! We have MANY PLANS to do ALLOT MORE of that NOW, and will also be doing some Special Trips over the upcoming Holidays so that we can have some time AWAY together JUST the 2 of us!! We are looking into visiting the "Christmas Market" in GERMANY. You go by Boat to the various Merchants Waterway Stalls to view the items they have to sell, and participate in the Holiday Celebrations - VERY DIFFERENT, AND SOUNDS REALLY NEAT!!
This is WHAT RETIREMENT IS ALL ABOUT, AND SHOULD BE!!! Thanks Honey for the GOOD LUCK THIS WEEKEND!! We Love You!!
Mom & Ran
September 27, 2017
Chad,
FINALLY received the confirmation from JB that I had been waiting for the past 3 days - He IS GOING AWAY - YAY!!! WE KNOW that YOU are HAPPY, AND SMILING TOO!!!
Even though there is allot going on and as we always do we are praying for the lives that have been affected by this once again, THIS WAS GREAT NEWS!!! MANY times Life is not fair, and you wish things were different BUT we have found that if we keep our FAITH, things DO WORK OUT, Even if it isn't WHEN You want them to at first.!!!
THANK YOU TO ALL OF OUR FAMILY ( AND FRIENDS ) that helped with this - WE LOVE YOU GUYS!!!
Miss You Honey, MORE THAN words could ever tell You....
Mom
September 21, 2017
Hi Honey,
Off to CRANFEST again - I think this is year 25 + - I ALWAYS THINK OF OUR TIME THERE, AND HOW MUCH FUN WE HAD!!! Jackie is going with me this Year, and since Randy has no Babysitting duties this year, as he has had the past 3 years, while I am gone, He FINALLY gets some WELL DESERVED TIME to JUST RELAX - YAY!!!! We just got back from a week in Pennsylvania - I had only one day home in between, and worked hard yesterday to get everything done so I could leave early this morning. YOU WILL BE IN MY HEART, AND THOUGHTS AS YOU ALWAYS ARE WHEN I AM THERE, Just as you are EACH, AND EVERY DAY....
I LOVE, AND MISS YOU SO MUCH CHAD!!
MOM
August 23, 2017
Hi Honey,
Finally, the stress, AND responsibility is gone, and back WHERE IT BELONGS. We gave it our best but it was not to be, and after all was said, and done, we realized that it was really the BEST OUTCOME for US as we FINALLY HAVE OUR LIVES BACK, AND THE FREEDOM TO DO WHAT WE WANT IN LIFE. We both feel so relieved now, and have actually started to enjoy our life once again!! We even had an entire date weekend, not just a date night!! We had so much fun going away and feeling that sense of freedom once again, it felt great!! We are off on another Vacation, and I am SO BLESSED to have the Husband that I have.
Thank YOU for helping us get through these past 3 difficult years - We love, and miss you so much Chad!
Love, Mom & Ran
Jordan Sonsthagen
June 18, 2017
Happy Father's Day Dad to the best Father ever. I think about you almost every day. I wish you were here. I love and miss you so much.
Also Dad this court stuff is almost over Yay.
Love jordan
Cindy Hirschfield
June 11, 2017
Chad,
We received great news that this should FINALLY be done with on June 26th - YAY!!! It has gone on far too long anyway as it is. Jordan spoke to Ms. Dentice on Friday and he is SUPER HAPPY about that.!!! When I received the paperwork and ACTUALLY READ WHAT has been going on, I was appalled BUT IT TURNS OUT I WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG - I JUST KNEW IN MY HEART THAT NOTHING HAD CHANGED - THIS CONFIRMED IT!!! Last night Jordan went to Six Flags with his Friends from Church, and spent the night so Ran, and I had a date night, ha, ha... We had a WONDERFUL TIME at Potawatomi, AND WON BIG YAHOO!!!! Then we drove out to the Butler Inn Steak House out in Pewaukee and had a nice, relaxing Dinner. Ran, Jordan, and I have been spending lot's of time grilling out, using the Hot Tub, and then stoking up a Bonfire, now that the Weather is finally starting to get nice. Jordan, and Grandpa have also been spending lot's of time playing Basketball, You should see how good he is Chad, You wouldn't believe it!!! Randy always jokes around with him and makes it so much fun - I have to laugh when I am watching them out there as they are BOTH SO SILLY! It has been a blast!!
Jordan and I also joined a local Fitness Center that has 2 Olympic sized Swimming Pools, and we are working out with a Personal Trainer. It has been GREAT as it allows us to bond, and do something else TOGETHER. We will be going to Jellystone with a few of his Friends this Summer, and have lot's of Vacation plans and other fun things we will be doing - Jordan is REALLY ENJOYING just simply " BEING ABLE TO BE A KID FINALLY"
Almost 3 years already - WOW, The time has flown by - It has been AWESOME to see Jordan CHANGE - He is like a totally different Boy Chad, and Life has been GREAT FOR HIM. We are ALL SO GRATEFUL AND BLESSED. WE LOVE YOU HONEY!!
Mom, & Jordie
April 29, 2017
Hi Honey,
As I had said when I came to visit you, We all had a really nice Easter. Jeff, Claudia, and Nick went with us up to Eau Claire to see Aunt Pearl, and Uncle Gene. Sadly, I don't think they have much time left here with us so it was REALLY IMPORTANT for us to get up there and see them. At 98 years old, they have had a very good, AND long life. We should all be so lucky!!! They are SUCH WONDERFUL People!
Now we are all getting SO EXCITED for our upcoming trip to the Virgin Islands ( Caribbean )
Even though School is still in session we made a decision to take Jordan with us as we know this will be an opportunity of a lifetime for him, One that he will most likely never have a chance to experience again. He is SO EXCITED Chad, Especially to be staying at a fancy Resort/Spa, and cannot wait to feed all of the Iguana's that walk freely around. We are going to Blackbeard's Castle, and will also be renting underwater Motor Scooters, and have so many fun things planned. We have a BEAUTIFUL ROOM, with a private Balcony, overlooking the Ocean waiting for us! I told Jordan he could even get a massage and some pampering there as well so he is really pumped up about that!!!
Lying awake the other night I started to think about the fact that even though the circumstances were terrible about the WAY, AND WHY HE came to be with us, Things REALLY DO WORK OUT FOR THE BEST - GOD KNOWS!!!! Jordan has done more in almost 3 short years, than most People will do in a Lifetime - HE IS VERY HAPPY, AND WE ARE HAPPY FOR HIM!!! The ONLY thing that would make it perfect is if YOU were here to share this with us. I DO KNOW IN MY HEART THOUGH that YOU can FINALLY REST IN PEACE KNOWING YOUR SON, has a rich, and wonderful Life, and is now and will ALWAYS BE taken care of.
WE LOVE YOU CHAD.
Mom, & Jordie
March 1, 2017
Hi Honey,
Well as you know we got GREAT NEWS TODAY and SOON this will be over with, AND WE WILL BE RID OF IT FOR GOOD - YAY!!! WE ARE ALL SO HAPPY CHAD!
ESPECIALLY Jordan. He WILL FINALLY HAVE the MUCH DESERVED PEACE that he has waited so long for. Things are really going great - We are having allot of fun, and constantly busy. I am loving my new Highlander that Ran got me for my Birthday - It's awesome!!! Jordan is doing SUPER at his Karate Class - His Instructor said he is doing an incredible job at it, and learning so quickly. Tonight Ran will be coming with to watch him, Then we will all enjoy a nice Dinner together. Soon School will be out and Jordan is so excited as we have so many fun things planned. I can't believe YOUR SON will be a Teenager in just a few short months - WOW - Time is sure flying by!!! WE LOVE YOU CHAD - We'll be by to see you soon.....
Mom
February 19, 2017
Hi Honey,
Well another Birthday Chad - WOW the Years are going by so fast!
We went out to see Grandpa, and Uncle Mike after we came for our visit with You - Jordan misses you so much Chad!! I'm glad that Jeff and Claudia were with us as they ARE ALWAYS SO COMPASSIONATE towards Jordan, comforting him, and talking to him. They took me out for Breakfast Thurs. morning after I got Jordan off to School, Then we all went to Dinner later. It was really nice - We played Pool, and darts afterwards. Jordan REALLY LOVES Pool now, and has been studying the various shots on U-Tube ( Ha, Ha... That Boy is something else !! ) We didn't want to go home as we were having so much fun BUT it was a School Night.
Grandpa took us out of town this weekend for my Birthday to one of my favorite places and we all had an AWESOME TIME!!! Jordan, and Grandpa worked out in the Fitness Center last night, As he loves to do that, and then they were in the Pool last night, and this morning horsing around - They had a blast!! Ran ALWAYS makes it SO FUN for Jordan - On the way home I almost started crying because he said " We should do this every weekend Mom, and Dad because it was so much fun" - Then he leaned over while Ran was driving to give him a kiss, and gave me one too. Next week he starts Karate, and is so excited. We will start planning our Summer Vacations and are really looking forward to that as well.!
Jordan has been learning, and loving History allot when we travel!!! He had his first Valentine Days Dance at School as well - Randy, and I are SO HAPPY that we can be a part of all of the wonderful things he is doing as we watch him grow, and mature into a wonderful young Man - The years will go by quickly, and then we will look back and have but Memories BUT we will have those memories, and REFLECT, and REMEMBER.
It was all worth it Chad.... We LOVE YOU, and You ARE WITH US EACH, AND EVERY DAY.
Love, Mom, Ran, & Jordie
December 24, 2016
Chad,
As we await Friends, and Family this Christmas EVE, OUR HEARTS will ALL BE ELSEWHERE. The calls have been coming in again as they do each year in memory of you. YOU had SO MANY FRIENDS, and People that loved you. Angie ESPECIALLY is VERY THOUGHTFUL. Such a shame Chad....
YOUR SON has lost SO MUCH MORE THAN YOU will ever know. I do KNOW that if You were here today you would have gone on with the plans you had spoken to me about and things would be SO DIFFERENT FOR HIM now. We DO GIVE THANKS THOUGH EVERY DAY to know that he is in a Home where he is SO LOVED, TAKEN CARE OF, and has a bright and wonderful future ahead of him - THAT is SUCH A BLESSING FOR US. He is so excited for everyone to get here as he will be with Family and celebrate the MOST IMPORTANT TIME OF THE YEAR. We will ALL BE THINKING OF YOU tonight, as we do each day - YOU will have the BEST CHRISTMAS of ALL, We know that - We will see you tomorrow.
We LOVE, AND MISS YOU.
MOM, JORDIE, & RAN
December 13, 2016
Hi Honey,
THANK YOU - I KNOW YOU had everything to do with our good news!!! I have been so busy with
Jordan's Sport's activities, His Art Class, Cooking Class, barely a day in the week goes by that he doesn't have something going on. Even though it is hectic at times we are SO HAPPY Chad that he is able to do all of these things now, and just have a normal life. He laughs allot, and the anger is gone, for which we are so grateful for.!!
He is REALLY EXCITED as he has a Concert coming up and asked Randy, and I to be there. When we said yes, of course we would be there, I thought he was going to cry - He said " Gram, I never had anyone come to any of my stuff at School, Everyone else had their Mother's & Father's and even their Sisters & Brother's there.
That made me so sad , Again, had I known Chad - I am so sorry ....
I WISH I COULD FORGET DEC. 14th - ERASE IT FROM MY MEMORY, I WISH SO MANY THINGS.
Most of all , WE ALL WISH YOU WERE HERE. We will be there tomorrow - WE LOVE YOU!!
Mom, Ran, Jordie
December 8, 2016
Hi Honey,
A few more days as that awful day again approaches. It was Jordan's idea to visit you on Monday when he came Home, So that's what we did. He said he wanted to talk to YOU about his little Girlfriend Maddy! His FIRST CRUSH Chad - He was SO CUTE. He came into our Bedroom and said he was TRYING to get the courage up to ask Maddy to go to a Movie or on a little "date " somewhere BUT he was scared to do so. We gave our advice, and he came back in screaming YES!!! SHE SAID YES!!!! He was so excited. He has signed up for many extra curricular activities, and become quite the little social Butterfly ( ha, ha ... )
Randy, and I are so happy for him, and these memories are once in a lifetime - Memories that we will have forever to treasure. He also has his first dance coming up so he is really excited about that! He excels at School, and things are going great here at Home. He is GLUED to his Grandpa when he's Home!! I am glad about that as well - He FINALLY has a GOOD MAN in his Life to teach him what life is about, and how to live a good, clean life, hard work, morals, and Family values. We had our first Snowfall also the other day and he came and asked us if he could go outside and build a Snowman - He said he really wasn't able to go outside before ( VERY SAD ) , and would it be OK? We were out watching and he did a heck of a Job with the first part, Then asked us if he should put it out in the front instead of the back Yard. We asked him how he was going to do that now as the Bottom piece was so big - He told us " No Problem" , He would either pick it up OR roll it out to the front.
Before we could say anything he TRIED to lift it and the whole thing fell apart.!! The great thing about that experience though was that in the past he would have been very angry about something like this happening, INSTEAD, We all had a good laugh. That is how much he has grown, and how POSITIVE his life has become.!
Stopped by Deb, & Dewey to drop off a Christmas Present for little Addy also - She is getting so big!!! VERY SAD Christmas for them as well. Christmas break is coming up quickly and we are looking at some more Vacation options. Jordan has experienced many things, which again, We are very grateful for as well as he will always have those memories with Grandma, & Grandpa!!! Life is good - Not a day goes by though that we don't ALL wish You were here to enjoy it with us as we know that was your plan..... We will be by again in a few days.
We LOVE, AND MISS YOU CHAD.
Mom, Ran, & Jordie
September 15, 2016
Hi Honey,
Even though we talk each night, It has been a long time since I have written on here - We are always so busy! We had a great time out there on Vacation with our 2 Families, and have had a super busy Summer as well. Now it's back to School! Jordie, Aunt Claudia, & I went out to Dinner tonight to celebrate - We knew nothing would change today of course, which is why it was such a total waste of time, but as they told us, we still need to go through the motions so we just plod on - Nothing much you can do about that I guess... It was actually a very humorous day - Claud said she thought she was going to bust a gut - IT was SO WIDE - OMG!! Jordie had a blast on Sat.- Celebrated his Birthday with his Friends out at Stonefire - You know the rest of the story - It was a VERY INTERESTING, AND HELPFUL conversation. There REALLY are a few good People still left out there that care!!! Your Son is doing great, growing by leaps and bounds, on the Honor Roll and has pretty much done a complete 180. You would be SO PROUD OF HIM. About 6 months ago he asked if he could call me "Mom" - That really made me cry Chad.
He sure does keep me going - Never a dull moment with that Boy!!! WE ALL MISS You SO MUCH - The girls have their funny stories about you to tell me too - You will ALWAYS be here in OUR Memories, and our Hearts!!! SS sends her love as well. WE LOVE YOU!!!!
Mom
Jordan Sonsthagen
March 9, 2016
Chad was my father and I love him,I lost him when I was Two years old,I am now eleven and yet every day I cry screaming I miss him,but when you lose someone they can't come back.But I always remember he's in my heart.
December 24, 2015
Hi Honey,
You will be in ALL of our Hearts tonight as will the rest of our loved ones that are missing this year. Jordan will be have LOT'S OF SURPRISES TONIGHT, Not just his Gifts. We are ALL SO EXCITED!!!!
He spent the night by Bre last night - They had a WONDERFUL CHRISTMAS together as well- I am SO HAPPY that he AT LEAST HAS HER to be there as a good role Model for him as he has lost so much in Life, BUT each day gets better, and better as he KNOWS HOW VERY MUCH HE IS LOVED by OUR Family. Merry Christmas Honey - WE LOVE YOU AND WILL BE THINKING OF YOU TONIGHT...
Mom
December 13, 2015
Hi Honey,
I KNOW in my Heart that you heard us when we were there that we received great news - Jordan was ecstatic and I know he was VERY RELIEVED as well!!! Thank you!!!!
We have been SO BUSY with allot on our Social Calendar for Jordan - He always has something going on - I am SO HAPPY for him to FINALLY have a NORMAL LIFE! We had practice yesterday morning for the Christmas Program at Church, Then also had our Church Christmas Party last night. We also took Jordan's Friend Ethan along with us - The Boys had a blast and Ethan asked us if he could come again next year. Jordan was smiling cheek to cheek! This morning in Church we had the Christmas Program so I took a Video of him so he can look at it later, and also have it to look back on some day...
He bought his Report Card Home on Friday , 5 A'S, and 2 B+ - He is doing SO WELL Chad - SMART!!! Last weekend he spent the night by Bre, Tim and Deb said they cannot believe the change in his behavior since last year - They said he is really a joy to have over - SO NICE to get those types of compliments.
We have ALL WORKED VERY HARD!! I finally got all of my Christmas Shopping done - Jordan will have a WONDERFUL Christmas. We also made Cut-Out Cookies the other night, I'm SURE YOU were up there laughing at us as it was quite the ordeal and we had such a mess BUT he was proud to tell everyone that he made them when we took them to Church for the Party. I am really enjoying being a Mom again and it keeps me on my toes, Ha, Ha... As the Holiday approaches You will be on my mind even more than ever - We miss you Chad - I LOVE YOU.
Mom & Jordie
Me
October 26, 2015
Sitting here thinking of you wishing I could see you face to face to tell you Happy Birthday. The kids and I made a Jack O Lantern shaped cake today I thought about you the whole time. I didnt want the Day to end even thou I cant celebrate it with you just knowing today is your Birthday made me feel closer to you. You were such a beautiful person I still sometimes try to think and wish you back into existence. I Miss You..............
October 26, 2015
Hi Honey,
Happy Birthday Chad. I KNOW you were with Jordie and I today when we came to visit after School. Even though he was so young when you passed away he STILL HAS that SAD SENSE OF LOSS. To see him sob is SO HEARTBREAKING!! Some day when he gets older we will sit down and I will talk honestly with him about the reasons WHY our lives are WITHOUT YOU, and the HUGE ROLE that SHE played in all of this. He is doing SO GREAT now Chad that I would NEVER do anything to jeopardize all of that. We have also had ALLOT of good things happen lately and that is what we need so we focus ON ONLY the POSITIVE things in our lives. I think we have all come A LONG WAY in learning not to be angry, letting go of the past, and basically to IGNORE the negative things that People do, and I have to say, I for one feel SO MUCH better, and MORE Productive in my Life since I have made these changes.
Jordan read Scripture at Church yesterday and you would be SO PROUD of him Chad!! He has been volunteering for many things and has also been doing things with OUR CHURCH FAMILY Parents, and their Children, and that also has been a great influence on his life as well. We will again be going to feed the homeless, and the Kids will be singing at the area Nursing Homes to bring some happiness to those who are not able to be in Church. He also has had SUCH a BUSY SOCIAL LIFE , I have to chuckle as he ALWAYS has SOMETHING on his Calendar to do now as he has made MANY NEW Friends and is able to JUST BE a BOY and have fun in his young life now. SO MANY sad things he told me about that area of his life in the past, It made me cry. I am SO SORRY Chad that I did not know before now as I promise You I would have been there to help him BUT as I said that is the past and we NOW FOCUS on the Future, and SOLEY on HIS happiness. Soon we will have some Holiday breaks from School again and will be doing some more fun trips, including Disney so that we can experience it TOGETHER as OUR FAMILY which will be a WHOLE NEW EXPERIENCE for him from the time that he went before Which was not really even fun for him or his Sisters due to the circumstances that were happening even then. I PROMISE YOU THIS TIME HE WILL HAVE FUN, and MANY WONDERFUL MEMORIES!!
Something else we have been doing together is taking our walks, Not only is it very healthy, and great exercise , It allows us to REFLECT, and to STRENGTHEN the bond that we share. We talk allot about the future, and other things. I was REALLY surprised that he could actually go the entire 3 miles as I thought for sure he would give up but I have found him to Be ALSO getting a better attitude as well towards life and the many accomplishments that he can be proud of as well.
We were ALSO ABLE TO RECONNECT with his Friend Dante, Who had moved away I had a long conversation with Nan as well and was saddened at some of the things she talked to me about. Dana, and I are also trying to plan a lunch soon so that She can meet him I have told him much about her so he is really excited to be able to meet her.
He is also doing great in School That Boy is smart as a whip Has all A's, and 2 B+'s. Again, You would be very proud of him!! We talk much about YOUR School days as well and he has had a few laughs, especially about your Star Wars episode, Ha, Ha.. WE LOVE YOU VERY MUCH Chad, AND WILL CONTINUE to KEEP YOUR MEMORY ALIVE in Jordan HE MISSES YOU, AS WE DO, WITH ALL OF HIS HEART!!!
Mom, & Jordie
Only Me
October 26, 2015
~Happy Birthday. Not a day goes by that you are not in my thoughts and in my heart. One day. Celebrate. Watch over your family. ALL of them. We miss and love you.
September 14, 2015
Hi Honey,
Well Jordan had an AWESOME BIRTHDAY, We made it VERY SPECIAL since he has sadly had nothing before now. I WISH YOU were here to see his face when he came in the house and saw all of the Balloons, and figured out we were having a big celebration for him!! We are STILL CONTINUING on today after School with plans to take him and his Friends to go and have fun doing Laser Tag, and Go Karting, Then we will be going over to the Restaurant to meet Bre, and Deb, and have Dinner. They ALSO have "SPECIAL PLANS" for him and will be bringing in a Cake etc. - I KNOW he is going to be surprised. He has a new Teacher this year, and even though it is early on he is doing great!!! He also now has to get up at 5:30 to catch the Bus and has not been complaining at all about it, WE ARE SO PROUD OF HIM!!! - He gets right up and I actually think that he REALLY ENJOYS going to School, seeing his Friends, and is very content.
You can just see the change in HIS BEHAVIOR, AND PERSONALITY. I KNOW that YOU are ALSO VERY PROUD of him. He has grown so much, gotten so tall, He is going to be ALLOT like his Daddy! We all saw that photo/mug of her on 9-10, and had a good laugh - Looks terrible!! No big surprise there, Same old Same, Nothing has changed....
Talked to Steph too last week - She is ALWAYS working hard - SUCH A GOOD PERSON Chad, BUT THEN YOU ALREADY KNEW THAT!! We are making plans to get together soon. Cranfest in 11 more days - YAY!!! Kel will be going with me this year - She is SO EXCITED to go and I KNOW we are going to have a blast as she is such a fun person!!! I of course, WILL BE thinking about you again while we are up there and although it was one time I am SO GLAD that we had that SPECIAL TIME TOGETHER Chad - I will ALWAYS REMEMBER You saying " Mom, This was fun, and pretty cool , From now on we will have to make this a yearly event that YOU AND I do together". Just THOSE WORDS ALONE MEANT SO MUCH to me, THEN AND NOW.
I will ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT Chad...... I LOVE YOU!!! Jordie and I will be by to see you soon.
Love Mom
August 24, 2015
Hi Honey,
Wow, The Summer has gone by SO FAST, ESPECIALLY for Jordan as he has done SO MUCH these past 3 months and now School is coming quickly. He had several Vacations this Summer, One to Berlin, Ohio, and now we are just back from Gettysburg, Pensylvania.
He had a blast Chad!!! We went on a Tour of the Battlefield, Did several Paranormal Ghost Haunts/Tours later at night - Grandpa scared the bejeebers out of him on one of them - BUT he was a good sport and we all laughed SO HARD!!! The 10 days just flew by!!! As soon as we got back home we left the very next morning to go up to Eau Claire to see my Aunt Pearl, and Uncle Gene as they are getting way up there in age and Jordan has never had the chance to meet them or any of my Cousins, or other Family and we want him to know that he has good Family all over, even if they are not right here. We took him to Yogi Bear Jellystone Park, and Action Territory & brought along his Friends, He even got to go to the State Fair FINALLY for the very first time!!! Boy, That was a VERY LONG day on the Midway with all of the rides but SO WORTH the smile it put on his face. We were there for 12 hours!! It is SO NICE to see him happy Chad AND JUST BE A KID!!! We also got some good news about Jessie while we were gone - YAY!!! Just wish we could have gave him a kiss goodbye (: - Things are, shall we say, getting to the "What goes around comes around" point - We always had faith that it would come to that sooner or later. We are GLAD that the Letters we sent had an impact!
Jordan was Soooooooo happy to hear that news as well! We think he is FINALLY starting to put some of the horrible memories behind him although he did say he wished SHE was going with Jessie. All in all things have been going very well for all of us, we are all happy,
and doing things together. Jordan spent the night before we left over at Deb's with Bre - She said they had a great time. I am happy he at least has her as it is sad what has happened to the other 2. I know you would ESPECIALLY be VERY DISAPPOINTED, AND SAD about the older one to see HOW her life has turned out, To say her life is VERY TROUBLING Chad
would be an understatement.!!! Guess know it all Auntie B finally found out also HOW the 12 yr. Old ( 13 now ) PLAYED HER as well. The TRUTH has finally come out!! On a happier note your Son has a Birthday coming up! He told us the other day that he doesn't know HOW TO HAVE a Birthday Celebration as he never had one so we want to make this Birthday a Special Memory for him. He told us that on his last Birthday he literally got off the School bus, was SO EXCITED, and ran all the way home as he thought everyone would jump out and yell surprise, Then he would have Cake, and presents, ONLY to INSTEAD, find no one Home, No Cake, nothing to recognize that it was even his Birthday. I wanted to cry when I heard that as it NOW makes me wonder HOW many other things he missed out on. I was SO SAD, AND ANGRY TOO!!!! In his 10 years he has never even had the chance to be a Kid, and experience normal things He will NEVER have to worry about that again Chad, I promise you that.. We talked about you allot on this last trip VERY HEART BREAKING that you are not here to be with him through all of this. WE LOVE YOU CHAD.
Mom & Jordie
July 29, 2015
Hi Honey,
We are back home from our Vacation. It was SO NICE, and VERY RELAXING Chad. Jordan had a great time!! It really touched Randy & I to watch him have so much fun and to have an ACTUAL FAMILY VACATION. We will be going to Pennsylvania next, in a few weeks, before he goes back to School as he is SO INTERESTED in the Battle of Gettysburg, checking out Books all of the time from the School Library and reading up on it so we decided we are going to take him there so he can actually see and experience it for himself. The area itself also has lot's of Ghostly Haunt type tours related to the History there - Several that we have taken in the past were allot of fun so we will take him to some of those as well. Yesterday we went shopping for School Clothes, Shoes, and all the rest. He was SO EXCITED and when he got home he was talking to his good Friend from School and telling him all about it. He came upstairs and said "Gram, Can I try on the outfit that I want to wear for my first day at School and could you take a picture of me so I can send it to Ethan" - He came out all dressed up, His Watch, a Necklace that his little Friend gave him, and started doing all different poses - That Boy, He is SUCH A HAM!!! Anyway, I said " How would you like to put your Picture on your Daddy's Website, and he said REALLY? So we have put it on here. He is getting so tall, and is SUCH a mature Boy Chad - Well beyond his years ( sadly ) in many aspects of his young life. We wish we could turn back the Clock and change his VERY IMPORTANT Childhood years, Unfortunately we cannot BUT We CAN NOW MAKE NEW MEMORIES for him that we hope, and pray will wash away all of the sad things that he remembers, and has talked to us about. We will never understand HOW a Person that had ALL of the help in this World financially, and People that truly were in her corner, and would have STILL tried to help just threw it all away. Oddly enough Randy and I had just 2 weeks before sat down and talked about coming up with a plan for her regarding my Vehicle as I was in the process of looking at a new one, AND the House in Franklin so that she, The Family, and MOST of all Jordan would be pretty much set for life. We were actually getting ready to sit down and talk with her, together with our Attorney about our plans when the call from her Sister came telling us everything. All I can say is that it was by divine intervention that happened, otherwise we would have moved forward trying to help again. It is really so very sad Chad - When I think about everything my one solace is that YOU are NOT HERE to see the choices that were made on behalf of your little Boy because I know you would be heartbroken. I am not at all happy that this happened to your Son BUT I am VERY GRATEFUL that were it not for that night back in November we would not have had the opportunity to help him. Again, I truly believe this was God's plan for us.
WE miss you EVERY SINGLE DAY and talk about you ALL OF THE TIME, Keeping your Memory close in all of our hearts, and minds. WE LOVE YOU CHAD.....
Mom, Jordie, & Ran
June 10, 2015
Hi Hon,
Things are going so well - More good news for us regarding Jordie Monday afternoon - YAY!!!
We are ALL FINALLY at a place of peace in our lives, enjoying each other and life the way it was meant to be. MOST OF ALL Jordan is FINALLY HAPPY, AND SECURE. We are all SO PROUD OF HIM. He is done with School now and he and Gramps have been outside for the last 3 nights playing Football, and riding his new GO-KART. He does really well on it! He has gotten to be such a mature Boy Chad, it is so amazing!
We have been so busy doing so many things - Now we are just counting the days until we leave on our Vacation to Berlin, Ohio where Gram and I took our Bus Tour Trip a few years ago and have been wanting so bad to go back there by the Amish, and the many other wonderful things that there are to see and do there. ALL OF US are so pumped up about it!!!
We will be taking several trips this Summer now that we do not have any more of the previous financial issues.
I can't believe how MUCH MORE we are able to do now that the Financial burden of taking care of her is over with - It is SUCH A HUGE RELIEF!!! I never realized HOW NICE things could be because they were like that for so long. The Girls, Jordan, and I will be getting together on Friday again for the Movies, Dinner, and some fun. Looking forward to that as well. Deb has been so wonderful to them both - They are TRULY BLESSED to have her in their corner! We will all be by to see you before we leave. We love and miss you Chad!!
AND THANK YOU HONEY!!!!
Mom,& Jordie
May 25, 2015
Hi Honey,
We got home safely today from Shipshewana - Thank you! Jordan & Grandpa had so much fun, as did the rest of our group - He just idolizes his "Grampie"!! It was SO NICE, BEAUTIFUL WEATHER, and VERY RELAXING. Even with everything we were doing we managed to take time to have a Carriage ride around town. It was SO PEACEFUL, and serene Chad - We ALL REALLY needed these 3 days!! The Amish Owner asked Jordan to sit up top, along side of him, and help him handle the reins on the Horse. He was SO PROUD and kept turning around and looking at us as if to say "Hey everyone, Look at me!" Most of all I was SO PROUD of just HOW MUCH he has changed as EVERYONE kept commenting on how well behaved he was, and so very polite! He sure has come a long way Chad. He is very excited about School being over soon as we have many nice trips planned and will be able to take more than just a few days then. I am happy that he can experience seeing many different Cities, and cultures - He is learning so much! It really has been fun having a young Boy in the House after so many years - We are very grateful to share our lives with him as we love him so very much!! WE are teaching him what kind of Man that he should NOT BE, and I KNOW in my Heart that he WILL NOW grow to be a young Man that you can be very proud of. He has SO MUCH respect for Randy and see's how hard he works, His entire environment has changed and things just keep getting better, and better for him, We are ALL SO HAPPY about that Chad! He is NOT the Boy that came here back in November! WE ALL MISS YOU SO MUCH and will continue to visit often. WE LOVE YOU CHAD.
Mom, Jordie, & Ran
May 9, 2015
Hi Honey,
Today was ALL about You, instead of the upcoming Mother's Day. Jordan is REALLY missing You, Which I am sure you know from what he said to you today at the Cemetery. We did get some good news from the Court on Monday thankfully! Your Son is doing great in School, has lots of Friends, and his health is slowly improving. We also get together with Deb, Ari, Bre, & Lex frequently as that is also very important. They had allot of fun at Seven Bridges, and Light Speed. ALL GOOD NEWS! The house is almost finished, ( they are so anxious, and can't wait to get in there ) It looks better than it ever did, with all new drywall and paint throughout the entire house including the Basement, new Kitchen Floor, and the Hardwood Floors turned out beautifully! No more Carpet upstairs - YAY!! We also have a new Furnace, and Central Air, and all new Carpet in the Basement. We were very blessed that the Insurance Company took care of everything including the theft and other items that were taken and sold as I had my notarized copy from the Bank that was signed as to the money owed to us - The Insurance Co. said that was all the proof they needed in order to confirm who the items belonged to. Things actually turned out for the best for us for a change - We are so happy about that! We have all been working hard though, still cleaning as the place was absolutely disgusting - Just filthy - All of us Girls said we could not believe that a Woman could live like that, Especially given the fact that there were Children living in the House, We all feel bad for them, and how awful life there must have been for them. The Cupboards were so filthy inside I can't even imagine eating food from the plates that had been in there. Unfortunately poor Chuck will now have to deal with all of that - I showed him everything that I had, Reports, etc., and told him I feel very bad for him as well as he is in for a rough road. We are happy to be done with all of that as it is a HUGE BURDEN lifted from us and Life is FINALLY GOOD!!! May, the next door neighbor, came over while we were working outside and said she really misses Jordan and that she always felt so sorry for him because he hardly ever got to go outside and when he did no one was out there to do anything with him. She said to tell him that he is a very "special" Boy and asked if she could see him sometime. She was also telling us about poor Ellen coming to her House late at night in her night gown, asking to use the phone, saying she was watching the Children and they didn't know where SHE was and had no food in the House - How awful. When Jordan finally got to see the House he was just in awe as it looks so nice now but my heart was heavy also as I could see the sadness on his face as he said he misses the neighborhood, and the House - The only Home he has ever really known - VERY SAD all that he has been put through. Ran, and I took him on a short trip last weekend along with Grandma Joyce - We had a blast!! He and Gramps went 4 Wheeling and did lots of other fun activities while Gram and I got to go into Town where they had over 200 specialty shops!! It was so nice to just RELAX for a change!!
S.S.V.E.called me today - We talked for a long time. She told me again that she misses you SO MUCH too Chad, She TRULY LOVED YOU, If only we could go back, If only we had more time - We talk about that often - You are in our thoughts ALWAY'S and FOREVER, ESPECIALLY for me today - I LOVE YOU CHAD.....
Mom
Me
April 11, 2015
Missing You
Especially When The Weather Gets Warm Your Memory Doesn't Let Up I Drive Pass Certain Places Hoping To See You Still Please Come Visit In My Dream It's Been To Long <3 I Can Still Remember & Feel The Pain That Went Threw Me When I Found Out I Remember The Gasp For Air The Screaming Cry My Face To The Floor Come Visit I Could Use Some Happiness To Over Shadow These Feelings Rite Now
March 31, 2015
My Chadders,
I was so happy to finally be able to get together this weekend for Dinner with Mom, and Jordan as work has been so terribly busy. He got so big since I last saw him Chad. He looks so much like you too! Actually, Much like you and I had envisioned our Children to look like, That cute little Sonsthagen lip and all! I can't believe how friendly he is as well. Mom could barely get a word in! We talked for a long time, him about his Friend Ethan, and his favorite video games, me telling him stories about the things that you and I shared, and many of the silly things we did over the years as well. I felt your presence there with us and when I was ready to leave he said " I wish you were my Mom". My heart nearly broke Chad, as I know what he has been through in his little life. So sad, He did not deserve any of that, He is such a sweet Boy. I am so happy that he is safe, and in a loving home with People that love him. We lost so many years when you went away but I am so grateful, and thank God each and every day, that you and I were able to see each other before you were so suddenly taken from us. My one regret is that we did not have just a little more time as I know you would be here with me now. You know now that my answer would have been yes. You will be forever in my Heart, I love You Chad.
Me
March 21, 2015
Hi Honey,
He came through for us with the Address!!
More of a low income type neighborhood with older homes/foreclosures.
We are VERY HAPPY that we can move forward with the Insurance issues now! Everything has been going great, allowing us to focus on what is TRULY IMPORTANT which is your Son. He is doing so well Chad, He just got his 1st Report Card and I KNOW that You, Like Grandpa, and I are SO PROUD of him!!!
The School commented on what an amazing improvement he has had over his last School. He was beaming from cheek to cheek when he brought it home. We are planning something "special" for him now to show him just HOW PROUD WE are of him as well. He has also forged such a bond with his Grandpa - The two of them are stuck together like glue, Ha. Ha.....
THIS IS WHAT HE HAS NEEDED FOR SO LONG now Chad and we are SO BLESSED that we could be here for him. His Uncle Steve thinks the world of him as well, Just as he took YOU under his wing so to speak.
The TWO OF YOU are SO MUCH ALIKE it is unbelievable. Keep him under your watchful eye and we ask also for prayers as he goes through the health issues that he is facing at such a young age.
It is SO SAD Chad that he has to go through this when it could have all been prevented!!! We ALL FELT that YOU WERE WITH US LAST WEEK when we came to talk with you - You are SO LOVED AND MISSED. Not ONE SINGLE DAY goes by that we do not think of you or tell a story that makes us laugh, WE WILL ALWAYS have YOU close to our Hearts and cherish those memories...
Love,
Mom, Jordie, & Ran
March 7, 2015
Hi Honey,
It's been awhile since I have had a chance to write on here as we have all been SO VERY BUSY!! We watched some movies last night and our little sweetheart was up late and is still sleeping so I have a little time now to put this on.
He is doing just great since things have changed - Everyone tried their best but sometimes things just "are what they are" and you have to just move forward. Jordan is now an ACOLYTE at Church and he just loves it! He is SO PROUD walking down the aisle and I can tell he has a sense of accomplishment! It is really too bad that it had to come about in "this way" AND also that it took so long as it has had SUCH A POSITIVE affect on him and could have been that way long before now. Anyway, That is all water under the bridge!
We are all going to the School fundraiser Spaghetti Dinner, Grandma Joyce will also be joining us. Spring break is coming up fast and we are trying to plan a nice Family Trip for some much deserved R & R as we have all been through allot! I KNOW that you are also VERY HAPPY Honey that Jordan is off ALL MEDICATIONS now for months and he is doing SO WONDERFUL!!! He never needed them to begin with and they have caused him some physical issues that we are currently working on legally as well to try and get him some help with that as his self confidence is not what it should be due to those problems BUT "ONE DAY AT A TIME".
The house is coming along quite nicely and will soon be ready for them. I know Jordan is very excited about that new relationship.
Life is VERY ENJOYABLE, PEACEFUL, and STRESS FREE now.... We ALL talk about you often and miss you SO MUCH Chad. The Girls really miss you as well. I KNOW You told me You wished You would have listened to our advice - I KNOW You meant it and I DO UNDERSTAND HOW you first felt as what we sometimes THINK is love is not what we had hoped for.... BUT TODAY is a NEW DAY and again we are all doing great and moving forward to happier day's!!! Ran also has been SUCH A POSITIVE force in Jordan's life - HE SO NEEDED a decent, caring Male Role Model in his Life - He REALLY LOVES HIS GRAMPIE, Just as You loved him as a Father! We are TRULY BLESSED that he is a part of our lives!!
WE LOVE & MISS YOU CHAD!!!
Love,
Mom, Ran & Jordie
~Me~
March 5, 2015
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January 31, 2015
Hi Honey,
ONE MORE DAY UNTIL THE 1st THEN GONE FOREVER!!! YAY!!! ALEXIS CAME OVER TODAY AND WE ALL WENT ROLLER BLADING & ROLLER SKATING. THEY HAD A BLAST CHAD!!! IT IS SO REFRESHING TO SEE THEM JUST BE KIDS!!! I KNOW IF YOU WERE HERE YOU WOULD HAVE JOINED RIGHT IN - "BIG KID" THAT YOU WERE!! THEN WE ALL WENT HOME AND HAD GRANDPA'S FAMOUS CHILI AND HOME MADE MALTS. ALEXIS WAS HERE LATE - I AM SO GLAD THEY CAN GET TOGETHER AND DO THINGS!! HAPPIER DAYS ARE AHEAD CHAD - WE ALL LOVE AND MISS YOU )- SEE YOU SOON HONEY!!
MOM, JORDAN, & ARI ( SOON TO BE HANNAH...)
ARI ASKED ME TO TELL YOU THAT - LOVE YOU!!!
January 16, 2015
HI HONEY,
GREAT NEWS FOR US TODAY !!! FINALLY WE WILL GET RID OF IT!!! YAY!! JUST A LITTLE BIT OF TIME - WE ARE ALL SO HAPPY AND CANNOT WAIT!!!! THINGS ARE GOING GREAT FOR ALL OF THE KIDS - WE TALK ABOUT YOU OFTEN. LEX WAS HERE WITH US TWICE THIS WEEK HAVING DINNER - YOU REALLY WOULD BE PROUD OF HER CHAD - SHE IS SUCH A HARD WORKER AND VERY RESPONSIBLE WHICH IN ITSELF IS SURPRISING CONSIDERING HER PREVIOUS ENVIRONMENT - KUDOS TO HER!!! SHE HAS DONE A GREAT JOB! WE ALL HAVE ALLOT OF FUN TOGETHER. IT REALLY TOUCHES MY HEART TO SEE HOW HAPPY THEY ARE!!!
ARIAN & JORDAN ARE LOVING SCHOOL AND HAVE MADE SO MANY NICE FRIENDS. THEY ARE BOTH SO LOVING AND KIND. JORDAN SURE DOES TAKE AFTER HIS DADDY IN MANY WAYS - I SEE MORE AND MORE OF YOU IN HIM EACH AND EVERY DAY! WE LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH CHAD AND WILL BE BY SOON.
LOVE,
MOM, JORDAN, & ARI
January 1, 2015
Hi Honey,
We have been SO BUSY- Up to the Dells with ALL of the KIDS- They get along SO WELL!! Then down to Lego Discovery in Illinois - Jordie had a blast Chad. He REALLY is such a good Boy - Arian too - The EVER LOYAL Sister.!!!
We did get good news, and should be rid of the ON- GOING THORN IN OUR SIDES SOON - YAY!!!
IT WILL BE SO WORTH EVERYTHING we have gone through!! Jordan & Ari are also VERY EXCITED to be starting their new School on Monday - It had been rated 2nd out of 10 of the TOP SCHOOL'S IN THE NATION!!
They are both already SO SMART and are SO LOOKING FORWARD to making new Friends AND A FRESH START
IN LIFE!! OUR Family has ALL BEEN THERE for them
And WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR THEM. I KNOW THAT YOU ARE ESPECIALLY PROUD OF YOUR SON - We ALL talk about YOU ALLOT and he WILL NOT forget his DADDY EVER CHAD.
ALLOT of your Friends and old co-workers call constantly and stop by to see how they are doing- They can't believe how big Jordan is - He has grown so and has that "Sonsthagen"
CHARM - "OH BOY" - He will have lots of lady friends when he gets older- Reminds me of someone else ( HA, HA .. )
HE DEFINITELY got his good looks from YOU!!!
WE LOVE YOU CHAD AND WILL BE BY in a few days Honey.
MOM, J, & Ari
December 14, 2014
Hi Honey,
I KNOW you heard Jordan, Arian, & myself today when we were there.
Poor Jordan started sobbing SO HARD Chad - He is REALLY going to need you to watch over him, ESPECIALLY NOW. We are SO BLESSED to have Both of the Kids here with us. They are
doing so well - REALLY THRIVING, and have come SUCH a long way in just a short amount of time. WHEN THEY FIRST CAME THEY WERE AFRAID TO EVEN ASK FOR A SNACK OR SOMETHING TO EAT - HOW AWFUL!!! Last night Arian came to me and said "Grandma,I love You" - I just wanted to cry!!! Then she told me that she had also posted something on your Website - WOW - I was not even aware that she knew about this Website!! She is going to need ALLOT of CARE, AND LOVE Chad - It is so heartbreaking. Both of the Kids also have many medical issues, Arian in particular. We are doing everything that we can to take care of those things. Arian has a REALLY nice Friend named Hailey - WONDERFUL PARENTS - We took her with us last night to the Church Christmas Party - The Kids had SO MUCH FUN!! Jordan was the Auctioneer and I swear he is SO MUCH like YOU Chad. He is such an AMAZING BOY and everyone that has come in to contact with him these past few weeks has said that!
Yesterday Shawn told him " Jordan, Chad would be SO PROUD OF YOU", and you would be!!
Today we had our Church Christmas Program, Then we went out to Angel's Farm out in Union Grove where Arian made a new friend her same age , Jordan too. The Kids had SO MUCH FUN, AND LAUGHED SO HARD today, I hated to go home as it made me feel so good to hear that and to see them JUST BE KIDS for a change!! On Wednesday Arian gets an Eye Exam, and also gets to pick out Eye Glasses that she so badly needs - All paid for by Dr. W through Pastor Manda, and Angel's Family. Poor Kid - She said she had been having such bad headaches - Hopefully this will be a huge help. There have been SO MANY GENEROUS AND KIND PEOPLE here for us during all of this Chad it has been absolutely incredible!! There
TRULY are decent , and caring People here in this World. We love and miss you SO MUCH CHAD, Especially you are missed today. We are ALL thinking of you and were SO BLESSED to have you, if even for a short time, in our lives....
Love,
Mom, Jordan, & Ari
Stefanie B
December 14, 2014
8 years of pain and heartache. 8 years of missing your face. I try to avoid this day every year but it still comes and you are still gone. Missing you always. Love You Chad
November 7, 2014
SORRY HONEY WE HAVE TRIED NOW FOR SO MANY
YEARS & CAN NO LONGER DO IT BECAUSE OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES. ALL WE CAN DO NOW IS JUST PRAY FOR HIM. I DO HAVE FAITH THAT GOD WILL WATCH OVER HIM AND KEEP HIM SAFE. THE GIRLS & I MISS YOU EACH AND EVERY DAY - HOPE YOU HEARD US THE OTHER DAY. THEY ARE DOING GREAT TOO BY THE WAY - YOU WOULD BE PROUD OF THEM!!!
WE LOVE AND MISS YOU.
MOM
October 25, 2014
HAPPY BIRTHDAY HONEY,
I know you are aware of all that is going on - We will FINALLY be rid of the problem soon .
We are doing EVERYTHING IN OUR POWER FOR HIM ALSO - I PROMISE YOU!!!
I will be bringing the Kids tomorrow to see You - I know how much they miss you
And especially NOW pray that you were here to help us with this. PLEASE PRAY for Grandpa as well - He needs you too!! WE LOVE AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH - HAPPY
BIRTHDAY HONEY ...
MOM
September 29, 2014
Thank you Honey for keeping us safe and also for the BEAUTIFUL Weather!
It couldn't have been any nicer - The trees were GORGEOUS, all of the Fall Foliage, All of the things that God has given us that we many times just seem to take for granted. I was also able to stop and spend the day with Uncle Gene and Aunt Pearl - As you know he does not have much time left - SO THANK YOU for that as well.
It was a VERY RELAXING, AWESOME 3 days Chad..
Hospital tomorrow morning - Please keep me under your watchful eye and all we can do is pray for the best.
Hope Jordan is doing OK as I was not able to see him before I go to the Hospital. I MISS AND LOVE YOU and You are in my THOUGHTS EACH AND EVERY DAY.
Love,
Mom
September 24, 2014
Dear Chad,
Well we leave in the morning for Cranfest. Each year that I go I am CONSTANTLY THINKING ABOUT YOU and HOW MUCH FUN we had the ONE AND ONLY YEAR that we HAD TOGETHER!! I remember you suggesting afterwards that YOU AND I make this a YEARLY THING that we could do that would be "SPECIAL" to the TWO OF US. I am SO VERY SAD that never happened for us.... I will FINALLY have her with me this year and am REALLY HAPPY about that BUT it will NEVER, EVER be the same with out you Chad. I am HOPING that that due to my Health issues I will at least be able to have this time to enjoy myself, IF EVEN as possibly a last WHO RAH RAH of going there. You will be WITH ME ALWAYS "IN HEART" MY SON. Please watch over us as we travel.
I LOVE YOU!
MOM
August 27, 2014
Hi Honey,
Well I picked Jordan up yesterday - Right away same issues in the driveway - IT WAS ALREADY A HARD ENOUGH MORNING THINKING ABOUT UNCLE KEN AS IT WAS 2 YEARS SINCE HE PASSED AWAY ALSO. WE have done MUCH THINKING AND HAVE HOPEFULLY NOW FOUND A RESOLUTION. I THINK IT WILL WORK OUT WELL FOR EVERYONE.
ANYWAY, WE WENT TO THE MOVIES YESTERDAY AND
HAD A REALLY GOOD TIME WHEN WE GOT HOME.
TODAY WE ARE HERE AT
JELLYSTONE - TOOK NICK WITH US ALSO. THEY ARE HAVING SO MUCH FUN!! THE ONLY OTHER THING THAT WOULD HAVE MADE IT A PERFECT DAY IS IF YOU WERE HERE WITH US CHAD!
WE LOVE & MISS YOU!!
MOM & JORDAN
Stefanie B.
June 21, 2014
I can't believe 7/7 is coming up again. It makes me think of everything you missed out on while you were here and so much more since you left. I wish I could put all I have to say in a letter to send to you. Things are definitely not where they should be. I think it is time for you to help guide the ones lost. There are so many people who still rely on you now. I wish our little talks lasted longer but I do understand what you need and it will be done. I appreciate you watching and ensuring your memory stays fresh. Missing you always.
May 29, 2014
Hi Honey,
Spent some QUALITY time with Aunt Pearl & Uncle Gene.
As YOU KNOW HE received bad news from the Dr. so we wanted to make sure we were able to get up here and see him before it's too late. I have been running around like crazy - Time to rest pretty soon as I am REALLY getting worn out!! We are also VERY HAPPY that Jordan will, through the WONDERFUL PEOPLE at Church, be able to go to his VERY FIRST SUMMER CAMP this year! I THINK HE TOO is VERY EXCITED ABOUT IT. ALL THINGS that I WISHED, BUT COULD NEVER AFFORD to do for You!! I PRAY that I AM ABLE to be here for A GOOD WHILE Chad to TRY and MAKE SURE that he gets to do allot of things that YOU AND I COULD ONLY DREAM ABOUT BACK THEN!!! It is SO NICE to have him come and stay over - He SURE LOVES his "GRAMPS" - Wants to hang out with the "Big Guy's" - Ha, Ha - MUCH LIKE HIS FATHER WAS!!!
Not too much else going on right now - I went past our old APARTMENT recently and thought about all the fun that we had there, the things we shared and did - It made me cry!!! I CANNOT believe that soon it will be 8 years Chad that you left us - TO ME, IT was ONLY YESTERDAY.... I THINK ABOUT YOU EVERYDAY - We LOVE AND MISS YOU HONEY...
Mom
May 2, 2014
Chad
Thank you!!! I am sure that you also know that "my little sweetheart" is coming to spend the weekend with his Grandma & Grampie tomorrow.
We have BOTH MISSED HIM VERY MUCH and are SO LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING TIME WITH HIM.
He means MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD TO US. I TRULY HOPE that he DOES KNOW JUST HOW VERY MUCH HE IS LOVED!!!
I ALSO REMIND HIM ABOUT HOW VERY MUCH HIS DADDY LOVED HIM AND I KNOW THAT HE LOVES YOU TOO, NO MATTER WHAT ELSE HAPPENS OR WHO COMES INTO HIS LIFE, YOU WILL NOT BE FORGOTTEN.!!! YOU WILL ALWAYS BE ALIVE HERE WITH US IN OUR HEARTS, MIND, AND MEMORIES.
WE LOVE YOU CHAD!!!
MOM & RAN
April 27, 2014
Hi Honey,
I HOPE YOU WERE LISTENING AS I TALKED TO YOU TODAY at the Cemetery. TOO MANY THINGS going on that we NEED your HELP with.... PLEASE BE HERE FOR YOUR FAMILY. I think of you every day Chad.
I LOVE YOU,
MOM
April 14, 2014
Thinking of you
April 13, 2014
Chad,
PLEASE PULL Your Grandma through this!!! We are ALL PRAYING FOR HER - WE NEED HER!!
I KNOW YOU WILL be with her....
I LOVE YOU Chad.
Mom
March 24, 2014
Hi Honey,
We have a LONG,TOUGH ROAD AHEAD. Life is JUST TOO SHORT. PLEASE WATCH OVER US AND Jordan, Ariel, & Sebastian. I LOVE YOU CHAD.
MOM
Me
February 25, 2014
When your dreaming and someone who has passed away pops up in your dream and you are about to talk to them
but you wake up/ get woken up its a horrible empty feeling
Especially if you've been waiting for them
Especially if it's been 7 1/2 years you've been waiting
I'll be waiting for the chance to talk to you again
February 15, 2014
Hi Honey,
Well tomorrow another year added on to life. I Really have no reason to celebrate my Birthday as the ONLY REASON there would be CAUSE TO DO SO WOULD BE IF I COULD HAVE THE ONE GIFT THAT I WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD, AND THAT IS TO HAVE YOU BACK HERE WITH US!!!
I AM SURE YOU KNOW THAT MUCH HAS BEEN GOING ON HERE , MOST OF IT NOT SO GOOD CHAD. THINGS HAVE BEEN VERY, VERY STRESSFUL FOR RANDY & I - SEEMS TO BE NEVER ENDING. WE JUST WANT TO ENJOY OUR LIFE AS WE ARE GETTING OLDER BUT SADLY WE NEVER CAN DUE TO ALL THAT IS HAPPENING. PLEASE PRAY FOR US CHAD THAT WE WILL BE ABLE TO FIND SOME PEACE IN LIFE- THAT IS ALL WE WANT. WATCH OVER YOUR BEAUTIFUL SON. I MISS YOU SO MUCH CHAD, I WISH YOU WERE HERE TO BE WITH ME TOMORROW AS I WOULD HAVE SUCH A CELEBRATION!!! I LONG FOR THE DAY THAT WE WILL BE TOGETHER AGAIN..... I LOVE YOU.
MOM
Me
January 9, 2014
I think about you often & wonder how things would be for everyone if you were still here. I miss you & wonder if I could've changed anything. I was lucky to have known you and cherish your memory. I had to come write to you to read about you because sometimes taking to myself hoping you can hear me is not enough this helps to feel closer to you. Long distance XoxoxO
December 14, 2013
Hi Honey,
Well it is AGAIN this day that you left us. Your Grandma already called this morning - She was sobbing SO HARD Chad! NONE of us can STILL BELIEVE that you are NOT here with us. I am sorry that I am not able to get there today - This is the FIRST TIME EVER THAT I HAVE NOT BEEN THERE ON THE 14TH AND it is ONLY BECAUSE I am out of Town with Randy. We got stuck in a Snow Storm , 18 Cars in the ditch, 7 Semi's, and then the Guy that was RIGHT IN FRONT OF US THAT HIT THE WALL GOING THROUGH CHICAGO and JUST MISSED HITTING US HEAD ON as he spun across 4 lanes!!! I PRAYED ALL OF THE WAY Chad for us to make it safely and I KNOW THAT IT WAS YOU ALSO WATCHING OVER US - Thank You Honey. I know that I have said it MANY TIMES BEFORE but my Life will NEVER,EVER, BE THE SAME AND ALL THAT I HOLD ONTO IS MY FAITH AND THE PROMISE THAT I WILL SEE YOU AGAIN SOMEDAY. I LOVE YOU CHAD.
MOM
December 11, 2013
Chad,
Not doing so good here as I am sure you know. I was SO HAPPY that we could at least have Jordan this past weekend. He is SUCH A JOY to have, The MOST BEAUTIFUL GIFT and BLESSING that you could ever have given me. Please watch over us.
I LOVE YOU,
Mom
November 26, 2013
Hi Honey,
Once again the Holidays are upon us. This is ALWAYS such a very hard time for me. When others are celebrating, I GRIEVE. Life will NEVER,EVER be the same without you Chad. I will be thinking of you as I do EVERY DAY and will be by again soon. Happy Thanksgiving Honey - I LOVE YOU!
Mom
November 14, 2013
Hi Honey,
It has been a VERY BUSY AND stressful week here preparing for Surgery.
As of late I have been just so depressed also, SO MANY things on my mind as life goes by and we all get older. I keep going back to "The PURPOSE of Life IS a LIFE of PURPOSE. How VERY TRUE!!! Please watch over all of us Chad - I pray that everything will be better with my health after my Surgery on Monday. NOW MORE THAN EVER I need you and our Father above....
I LOVE YOU.
Mom
Stefanie B
November 9, 2013
Chad,
Life has changed so much. So many trials and disappointments and so many joyous events. I have been spending so much time with Nicki, Ariel and Sebatian. They have grown so much and them 2 love to play basketball. They are so beautiful and they definately have your charm. When they smile all I see is your face and I can't help but to smile. Sebastian is such a hugger, he squeezes so hard it is adorable. Ariel omg she is so beautiful.Things are not how they are supposed to be though, and it is very sad. I hope you can work some magic from up there. Love you and miss you always.
November 5, 2013
Chad,
As you know I went to Grandma June's Grave today - It has been a VERY LONG TIME coming and I feel badly that I just stopped going for such a long time. I just couldn't bring myself to do so after losing you. I had a good long "talk" with her, SO MANY things left unspoken. I think we ALL have regrets and WISH that we had MORE time with our loved ones to tell them how we TRULY felt about them - IF only WE KNEW Chad.... I had a good cry and asked your Grandma to give YOU a hug and a Kiss from your Mother. I just KNOW in My Heart that SHE IS THERE for You, Just as She ALWAYS was here in Life - Such a BEAUTIFUL Person. You AND I were SO VERY BLESSED Chad to have "June Bug" in our lives.
I LOVE YOU BOTH!!!!
Mom
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