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for Robert Ciardo
Kevin Stuessi
March 6, 2011
Bobby C,
I miss and think of you every day since you passed away last year.
I remember when I met you back in Middle School. I could not believe that there was another guy as tall as me. You were even bigger than JJ Weber. From that day forward we were the best of friends.
Hodgkin's disease your Freshman year of high school made us grow closer in our friendship. Your attitude was always very positive through surgery and radiation treatments. I was amazed at the courage and strength you had at this time in your life. You never showed your sickness and never complained.
I still remember all the fun we had in high school. Going out with the boys to the 59 Outdoor and all the parties. Driving the Gremlin through mud puddles with holes in the baseboards on rainy nights. Jamming to Yes and The Cars on the stereo at my house. The ping pong games in your basement which you always spotted a 15 point lead and still beat me. Digging holes at your dad's house to plant trees. Eating a full loaf of French toast each at the Stuessi house for breakfast almost every weekend.
You were "one of the Stuessi brothers" in the minds of our family. Kurt, Kevin, Keith and Bobby!
We continued our friendship through college when I went to Northern Michigan and you were at Platteville. After a transfer to Whitewater you came from Platteville to room with me. You were meticulous as a roommate, always cleaning up after me. You taught me a thing or two in this area. I am grateful to have you room with me for the time we were at Whitewater.
After college you worked for Quad Graphics and I was in the Madison area. Both of us got married and had each other as "best man" on our weddings. You drank from Michele's shoe just like the Stuessi brothers weddings. At my wedding you were the last one to leave the reception with a drink in hand. Through this time you were diagnosed with lymphoma cancer and had chemotherapy treatments. Once again you never showed the sickness and always wanted to know how everyone was doing.
You had a passion for building the ultimate dream home. With your home you loved a beautiful wife and daughter. You made them happy to be part of your life.
I loved talking sports (Packers, Bucks, Brewers) and family with you especially on the weekly visits to the ICU at Froedtert Hospital. This seemed to comfort you with every visit.
You have truly touched my life in many ways. I am grateful for having you as my best friend and best man in my wedding. I know you are looking down on me and feeling no pain.
Kiley Groose
March 6, 2011
Uncle Bob,
It has been a year since you went home to be with God, and I know our family is thinking about you, Michele, and Mackenzie daily.
I remember when Caitlyn and I were little and we would have sleepovers at your house, and eating a yummy breakfast in the morning.
I remember when we came to see you on Christmas Day, and my crazy brother Lucas decided to wear the box my Snuggie came in on his head. It made you smile, knowing that he was up to his usual antics.
I know you were proud to see all the people who love and support you at the Oconomowoc Lakewalk last May, and I know the same thing will happen again this year.
Michele and Mackenzie are in good hands, with our loving family, and you watching over them, until we are all together again in heaven.
Love always,
Kiley
The Love of My Life
Michele Ciardo
February 28, 2011
Bob,
It has been a little over a year since we said good-bye, and I can honestly say that it has been a difficult , yet enlightening journey. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you, wanting you here to share in the joys, as well as the challenges of raising our beautiful daughter. I have learned many things about myself, but one thing I know is that in your death and dying, I have found an inner strength deep within to persevere. Throughout our life together, you have shown me what the true meaning of love is and I am forever grateful to you.
Thank you Bob for 26 wonderful years together. I feel honored to have been your wife and your partner in life. I have many happy memories of our time together- the most important one- our daughter, Mackenzie Rose. From the day she was born, you beamed with such pride and adoration anytime you looked at her or talked about her. She is so lucky to have known you and the special kind of love you had for her. You have taught her that your love for her is endless- that she meant the world to you.
Thank you for giving me the best things in life- your love, your care and your time.
Thank you for being you.
Until we meet again...I love you, Bob.
Michele
Julie & Dave Niedfeldt
February 27, 2011
Bob, Michele and Mackenzie (aka Bubbles; Baby Zee):
There isn't a day that goes by that we have one of you on our minds. It's so hard to believe that it's been 1 year now since God called Bob home. As tough as a year it's been for Michele and Mackenzie, Bob is so proud of the remarkable girls he has in his life.
Michele, the beautiful send off, memorial service you created for Bob still brings tears to my eyes. The bagpipes, the songs, the sermon Father John gave to a church packed full of family, and hundreds of friends and co-workers (some from half way across the US) to give their respect and love to a wonderful man. Father John was right when he said Bob is his Hero and he is many others. For the courageous way he lived his life - plagued by so many illnesses, time and time again, yet you never, ever heard him complain about himself or his life.
To Bob, his life was a good one. A wife who deeply loved and cared for him; a daughter who was daddy's princess for life; a job he spent more time at than most so he could provide a full life for his family; and hundreds of friends who he could call anytime of day to help with a project, or go for a fish fry when Michele couldn't (OK didn't really want to). It didn't matter if his legs were swollen and hurt so bad he could barely make it around Fowler Lake for the Lake Walk; or that his chest hurt and made it hard to breath, all that matter in Bob's life was making the 2 girls he loved as much as God happy; and he did!
Bob was a likeable and loveable guy and his heart was as big as his size in height. He never got lost in a crowd being 6'7"+ tall! Yet as tall as he was -he would bend down each and every time I saw him to give me a great big hug! Even the last time Dave & I got to visit him in the hospital, Bob never complained about the pain he was in or the cold radiating throughout his body, he wanted to talk about sports and asked how Emma was and see pictures of her. Bob was a selfless man - never asking for himself, but always concerned about you - how you were doing - what's been going on in your life, your job, your family. I remember saying goodbye for what was to be our last goodbye. Bob went to shake my hand and thanked us for coming and I reached over and kissed him goodbye and thanked him for being him. Bob is definitely a legend in his own time. Some would say attributes of a Saint. Bob truly left his mark in our lives and souls and each day I'm reminded of how he lived his life as Jesus did without recognition, not asking for himself or of himself but for others. If we could all take that and apply it to our daily lives, we would all be better people!
I made a promise to Bob to be there for Michele and Bubbles, and while I've tried to stay close, call often (maybe too often at first), be a shoulder to cry on day or night, I know Michele has been a strong woman - trying to get through the grief mostly on her own and help Mackenzie find peace and comfort in their lives again.
I think God was testing me a few weeks ago around the one year anniversary of Bob's passing. Dave, Emma and I were out for Chinese and Emma gave me her fortune cookie. I opened it up and it said: "A friend in need will call for help...Answer the call". While I've tried to answer the call this past year, keeping tabs on the 2 of them either through phone calls, after church chats, dance recitals, school plays or birthday parties; I hope they know and feel they can call me anytime day or night.
We've shared some sad times and happy times this past year and I hope as the year(s) go on, Michele and Bubbles will come to find that not only are we 'friends' but family that will stick together and be there for one another for a long time. I was never so tickled as when a few weeks ago, I had Bubbles in the car and she asked me if she could call me "Aunt Julie" because I was more like family to her than a friend. It brought tears to my eyes and touched my heart. I told her she could call me anything she likes (within reason :-) ) as I will be a part of her life for as long as she'll have me. She is a beautifully gifted and amazing girl who's growing up to be an talented young lady. The plays, musicals and dance recitals she's in really lets her be free and she just beams from ear to ear on stage. I know Bob is watching from above and has the best seat in the house!
Michele and Bubbles have done an outstanding job taking care of themselves, its sometimes hard to know what they need but one thing is for certain, they need the love of God and Bob to shine over them and bless them each and every day! There is a star that twinkles and shines brightly in the sky at night watching over them from above, protecting them from harm's way and sending his love like no one could ever give.
Michele and Mackenzie, I pray that the light and love of God and Bob carry you through each day and give you strength. Bob, We love and Miss you! I know we'll meet again - and until then Dave said he just one last thing to say to you - GO PACK!
Mackenzie Ciardo
February 27, 2011
Daddy,
What would I have done without you? You're the BESTEST dad anyone could EVER have... You went on field trips with me, you helped out at my school, all my friends adored you, they looked up to you, everyone does! Gosh Daddy, I miss you hugging me goodnight, sitting on my bed praying with me, and sometimes even falling asleep right next to me. I felt so safe around you, like nothing bad could come between us. I miss your laugh, your smile, your wave goodbye, EVERYTHING! You fought for your life, you suffered all the pain, the heart surgeries, and cancer, you were so brave. I know that I couldnt have done that no matter how hard I tried. I remember all the good times and the bad and all the fun that we had. Like when you would push me on the swings really high or when I would help you with the lanscaping, or when we would play fribee and basketball, and when you would chase me and my friends in the basement. But then there were the sad times... I cherish each and every moment that we had together, so please daddy always know that you will ALWAYS be in my heart.
I love you daddy!
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
Dance Recital 2005
February 26, 2011
Our Home
Michele
February 26, 2011
State Capitol 2008
Michele Ciardo
February 26, 2011
Disney 2005
Michele Ciardo
February 26, 2011
February 26, 2011
I've been thinking of you a lot lately, Bob. Your girls, Michele and Mackenzie, have had a rough time with the one year anniversary of your passing, but they've made it through. They are so strong and brave, just as you were.
I use your prayer card as a bookmark in the books I read. Every day I see your face and read the poem on the back. It reminds me of how courageous, determined and loving you were, right up to the end.
We'll always love you, Bob.
Joe and Helen
Mike and Rachel Ganos
February 26, 2011
My family has been so blessed to have known such a good man. Bob has taught us tolerance, perseverance, caring, thoughfulness, courage, strength, humility, hope, love, and determination among many other things. My oldest children had the pleasure of getting to know him well, my youngest children not as much, but they are always the ones to add him to our prayers at bedtime. That must mean they see how much he affected all of us without hardly knowing or remembering him.
I'll never forget how when Bob would call our house and say "Hello Aunt Rachel". It always proved to me how proud he was to be a dad.
Mike was very glad to have gotten to know Bob in a different way through the Knights of Columbus. They are eternal brothers.
Growing up, Bob was like a big brother to me. I was just entering high school when he and Michele met. I can still remember that purple Gremlin parked outside the house on Concord Rd.
Bob, we miss you. You are always in our hearts.
Shari Knutson Showers
February 25, 2011
Bobby, I sure do miss you my friend. Not a day goes by that I don't think of you and your courage. The only comfort I have is knowing you no longer are in pain and are free from all the health struggles you had in your life. I did the walk in Oconomowoc last May for the hospital in memory of you. I had the chance to walk and talk with Kevin the whole way. We talked about you, laughed, and talked about the good ol' days..I will forever be thankful I had you as a friend in my life.
holly stankowski
February 24, 2011
So many times this last year we have thought about you Bob, and talked about you. You are always going to be the one person that Joe and Nathan will remember as being very strong, fighting an extremely hard fight, and never complaining about it all. They will always remember the strength of Michele and Mackenzie of what they endured all those years and now this past year without you and see the strength and courage they have shown. We all miss you Bob, some of us were not as close as others over the years, but we all were touched by you and your spirit.
We know you are with our Lord now and what a great place that must be!! We pray for Michele and Mackenzie because they have lost so much, yet we will all see you again in paradise!
We will all love Michele and Mackenzie maybe even a little extra (if that is even possible) because we know the years ahead will have some very difficult times.
We miss you Bob!
Love,
Holly, Orval, Joe, and Nathan
Bob's Buddies
Michele Ciardo
February 21, 2011
Bob's Buddies 2010
February 21, 2011
Lisa Groose
February 19, 2011
Bob…
Neighbor, friend, co worker, uncle, nephew, brother-in-law, brother, son-in-law, son, daddy and husband…we all knew Bob as one or the other. But he also meant so much more to us.
I know that everyone that knew Bob has at least one good story to tell. As we all came to pay our respects today I heard many funny, sad and inspiring stories of how Bob lived his life.
A lot of us know how "particular" Bob was about how he cared for his home, his garage, his tools, his lawn, and his truck. In Bob's garage everything has its place. Every rake, every shovel. In his tool box - you'd better not mix the wrenches with the screwdrivers - he would know. Bob took such care of his 1997 Chevy Silverado that to this day it looks almost like it did the day it came off the assembly line. In his basement you will not see one cobweb overhead or one dust bunny underfoot.
Bob gardened and landscaped his first home and his second. He planted every tree, every perennial, and hauled every stone. He took pride in how he cared for his home. Many times you would see Bob outside his house doing something. Trimming a bush, mowing the lawn, or washing his truck or van. And as president of Woodlake Association he took great pride in his entire neighborhood. You might see him down by the entrance to the neighborhood checking or weeding the perennials. And when the weather wasn't cooperating, Bob would be in the house - helping Michele with cleaning, laundry or maybe just catching a game on TV.
We all know Bob loved sports…watching football and basketball were his favorites. My dad and Bob had a bet on the NFC Championship game. Bob won - he had picked the Saints. Bob and Dad have a bet on the Super Bowl too. Bob's bet is on the Colts.
He was passionate about his job and dedicated to it. Bob worked long and hard for what he had. But the things that he had didn't matter as much as the people in his life…his friends and his family.
Bob loved going up to Mickey's in Hartford for custard. Bob enjoyed a good Friday night fish fry with family or friends. He was even known to brave an ice storm for fish fry at the Mineshaft. He enjoyed watching action movies on TV. And when he couldn't get Michele to go to the theatre to see the newest movie he always found a willing friend. Bob was even known to pick up a Playstation microphone and sing his favorite song…"Every Rose Has its Thorn" by Poison. He always had time to talk to a friend or neighbor. Whenever he walked into a room he would shake your hand and want to know how you were.
Bob was so proud to be Uncle Bob to so many nieces and nephews. He was always there at parties and holidays, willing to hold them or play with them or talk with them. But when Bob was able to proudly call us… Aunt Holly, Uncle John, Aunt Rachel and so on… it was because Bob was proudest to be father to Mackenzie Rose.
Mackenzie was his pride and absolute joy. Because of his work schedule Bob was able to be Mr. Mom for Mackenzie - getting her up in the morning, taking her to school, and running errands with her. When Mackenzie was little she loved lip balm and I think on just about any shopping trip Bob would give in and buy her one. You never saw a little girl with such a huge collection of lip balm. Bob diligently made sure that Mackenzie's "guys" and "lovie" never were left behind. Bob was able to be at school for field trips to Eberts or the zoo or the Butterfly Museum, or to be classroom mom helping kids with their spelling. He went to dance recitals and school plays. Because Michele is a teacher she only got to know the other moms through Bob. He was the one going out for breakfast with the other moms on school mornings.
Mackenzie knew a well daddy but she also knew a very sick daddy. I remember when Mackenzie was only 4 months old I rushed out to their house on Highway O in the middle of the night to be with Mackenzie while Bob was being transported by ambulance to the hospital because he couldn’t breathe. The next morning I took Mackenzie to Hartford Hospital so that Bob could see her before he was taken to Elmbrook Hospital. It was so bad we didn't know if he would survive the transport and ever see Mackenzie again.
But he did. Mackenzie loved her daddy through numerous other procedures, treatments, illnesses, surgeries and hospital stays.
They say that love is not a feeling but an action. During these last months we all watched love in action.
We saw love in action in the doctors that tirelessly attended and treated Bob, in the nurses that faithfully and gently cared for Bob and other staff that supported and embraced Bob.
We saw love from Bob to each and everyone one of us who visited him. He always wanted to know how you were, what was new with you. AND, if you had eaten in the cafeteria at Froedtert he would always ask "What did you have to eat"? He wanted to know even though he hadn't eaten anything for months. He cared about and loved each and every one who walked into that room. When it was time to leave Bob's room, he would always hold your hand, squeeze it with his amazing strength and he'd look into your eyes and say "Thank you for coming. Thank you for everything. I love you". After all dignity had been stripped away from Bob he persevered with such humility and grace.
But we all witnessed it most of all in Michele as she saw Bob through his last journey. How she would rub his feet, rub his head, wash his hair, feed him ice chips, rub lotion on his body, get him whatever he needed, give voice to the words he was unable to speak, give comfort to him or sit quietly while he slept. Bob was in the hospital for 185 days and Michele was there for all but 2. And when she wasn't there her thoughts and concerns were never off of Bob. And while we could all leave and go back to our lives, Bob was Michele's life. And she was his life. She brought him so much peace when she was there. People would ask Michele "How do you do it? I don't think I could do that". And she would always answer " You would do it too. You don't know until you're in it. I do it one day at a time". And that is what Bob always said too - "One day at a time". Michele filled Bob's room with pictures, letters, cards and other reminders of his family, friends and his faith. Michele's dedication to Bob is an inspiring testimony of her love for Bob.
One Saturday this past fall I was at church and there were three women there that my Pastor mentioned had been in the Madison Ironman Triathlon. When I got home I was telling my husband Mark about them. Mark said "Ironman? The only Ironman I know is Bob Ciardo". Bob truly was OUR Ironman.
Bob lived his life and especially these past six months with a grace that seems almost incomprehensible. Bob's strength, determination, love and faith saw him through the race for his life.
2 Timothy 4: 7-8 says:
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day - and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.
Bob fought a most excellent fight and Bob won the race! Praise God!!!!
Rick Bentrup
February 12, 2011
Bob,
I want Mackenzie to remember what you meant to us at work, so I decided to write the eulogy from your funeral...
I would like to say that first it is nice to see so many friends and family here for the Dipper. And I can't begin to express how sorry we are and how much the Dipper meant to all of us at Quad. When my friend Dylan was informed of the news, he wrote to let everyone know how much his job here at QuadGraphics and his co-workers meant to him. I would like to add how much he loved being a part of our team and the great group of people he worked with. The Dipper was one of the greatest. I think about his commitment to his family, Michele and Mackenzie, and his commitment to his job. When, due to Alex's transition to Reno, we were left with a supervisor's role to fill, Bob stepped up and assumed the responsibility and did it remarkably well. Bob never shied away from responsibility, whether it was the responsibility of being a wonderful husband and father, or assuming the additional responsibilty of leadership here at work. In fact, I have to thank the Dipper for helping me gain an opportunity to return to our Sussex operations. We would often talk to each other here at St. Jerome's and he told me that Dave had asked who he thought should assume Alex's role, and Bob gave him my name which then started the process which led to my return.
Bob was a provider. I can remember him working all of the overtime he could so that he and Michele could save enough to build their dream home and what a job they did. He loved the process of building their home. When Super Zuber was building his home, Bob often would stop by to give Zuber updates when Fred couldn't. I told Bob that when one of my son's built his next home, I was going to have him talk to him to get design ideas. I would often use Bob and Michele as an example, not by name, but by effort, when I was recruiting and interviewing people as to what hard work could accomplish. The Dipper was never one to avoid hard work. He was a co-worker who would do any favor you asked and he never complained. Best of all, he was a friend who would help you in any way he could, and was always there with a smile and a handshake to greet you.
There were beautiful readings this week at mass and Father Tom gave a wonderful homily. He asked us to think of someone we admired. The Dipper came to mind for me. My admiration for him grew throughout his ordeal and his and Michele's courageousness when facing this ultimate test. Bob never asked for sympathy, didn't want to be pitied, just wanted to be a friend and say hello. We would often talk about what was happening at Quad and the Packers and just regular conversation. There was a time when I was sick and couldn't visit Bob in the hospital and he understood completely. Often I was asked about Bob at work, and I would always end the conversation with what struck me about Bob the most, and that was his spirit and determination. I struggled with a back problem for a large part of the year and I would catch myself feeling sorry for myself. All I had to do was think about Bob and realize I had nothing to feel sorry about. Michele explained to me that Bob had been fighting illness all of his life. Father Tom asked what's most important and for me it is not about what we do or what we have, it's about whom we are and the time we share with those we care about. It's knowing how much you mean to them and letting them know how much they mean to you. Rest assured, Bob did all that and more. I will never forget his spirit through all of this and know I am a better person because of it.
We will all need some time to mourn his loss in a life that ended far too soon, but a life filled to the brim with good will.
Rest in peace Dipper, we're going to miss you.
January 28, 2011
It's so hard to believe it's been a year you've been gone. Michele and Mackenzie have made great strides. I know they both still have bad times, but they are doing so well. Michele is so strong, and taking such good care of Mackenzie. She misses you greatly, but is able to be a good mother, in spite of her loneliness.
We both wish you were still here, but you are in a much better place. Father John did such a nice mass for you yesterday out at Angel's Grace. We know you're looking down on your girls and are so proud of them.
Joe and Helen
Kenzie Rose
January 27, 2011
Dear Daddy,
I love you SO much, words cant even say how much I love you! But I will try my best to explain it... Daddy you meant the world to me, you meant everything to me, I don't know what I would have done without you. If you weren't here I wouldn't be here right now. Honestly daddy, I miss even the most ridiculous fights we would get into, like if I didn't get something I wanted or anything else that was just, well, kind of dumb. I may have only had 10 years with you, but those were the BEST 10 years of my life. I miss your smile, your laugh, you hugs and kisses, but mostly I just miss YOU! Your the best dad anyone could ever even DREAM of having, but I didn't have to dream because in my life it was real! I love you and I think about you pretty much all the time! Thank you daddy for being mine! Love you!
Lisa Groose
January 26, 2011
Wow, it's been a year since Bob has left us to be with his Lord and Savior. I have thought about him so many, many times over this past year.
I remember how when Caitlyn and Kiley were little and Bob and Michele would have them overnight and in the morning Bob was the master pancake maker. He made the BEST! We went to Great America with Michele and Bob a few times. He loved the roller coasters. At birthday parties we always made sure that Bob got his dessert - he loved his desserts! I always knew my kids were loved by Bob.
After Mackenzie was born and Bob needed a babysitter because he was going to pick up some overtime or he had a doctor appointment he would call and say, "Hi Aunt Lisa" and I knew he would ask if I could watch Mackenzie. I miss that. But I still have a great time with Mackenzie when she is over.
When we moved to our new house I was looking forward to talking to Bob about what to plant. We had talked many times about all the plants he had put around his house - what grew well and what didn't. This past July as I was walking by the corn field around our house I was thinking that the corn is supposed to be "knee high by the fourth of July" but it was actually "Bob" high.
Bob used to give me a hard time about the size of my laundry room at our old house. It was like a closet with my laundry in piles in the hallway. Bob usually was picking up Mackenzie on wash day. Now I don't have that problem in our new home.
Bob was our first lunch guest while building our new home. It was the winter of his valve surgery and I think it was the first time he was able to drive himself. He came out to the new house in the bitter cold to see how it was going and we all sat in our freezing basement and ate sub sandwiches by the heater.
I remember taking Bob in to the Milwaukee Heart Hospital for some tests before his valve surgery. He was always in such a good mood and just taking in stride what life had handed him.
The picture I posted with this entry is from the night before Bob went in for his last surgery. Michele, Bob and Mackenzie had come out to our new home with a house warming present. Bob was in good spirits but also in a lot of pain…more pain than we actually knew. As they left the sun was setting.
Last year when Michele called to say that Bob was gone I remember crying with Mark and talking to God and thanking Him for the blessing of Bob in our lives. When Michele asked me to give the eulogy I was honored and scared. I really wanted to honor Bob with what I had to say. For a few days I just wrote down little things that would pop into my head about Bob. I talked to family for anything they could think of. I had so many scraps of paper and scribbled notes. I worried that it was going to be a mess. I prayed and asked God to help me put it together so that it would honor both Him and Bob. And God really blessed me and it went together wonderfully. I was so honored to be able to do that for Bob.
Father God, say "Hi" to Bob. We love him and miss him but we know he is in a far better place….
January 2, 2011
Bob Ciardo
“Hi Mary, how ‘ya doing” or “How’s it going?” Bob would say with a wide smile on his face upon greeting me. He would lightened up my day. His positive outlook was contagious. I never wanted to tell him about my problems, I only wanted to share what was going well for our family. The nods and responses he gave let me know that he was genuinely interested in what I had to say. Many late afternoons or Saturday mornings I would run into Bob at Pic N Sav while he was shopping with Mackenzie. He was always willing to share Mackenzie’s latest exploits into learning about life. He beamed with pride while he talked about her. I knew that Mackenzie had found a special place in her daddy’s heart. As Mackenzie grew I noticed that this place grew. Bob was in awe of his little treasure. His love for her was only outshone by his love for Michele. His "ladies" were the love of his life.
Bob had such a love of life and wouldn’t let his illness hold him back. He had a great love of the outdoors; such as working outside on landscaping his home,bike rides with Michele and Mackenzie, hiking at Holy Hill, or enjoying November Saturdays in the woods of Wisconsin looking for the deer that traveled through the area. John loved talking to Bob about his hunting exploits. He knew Bob enjoyed the quest and peace only hunters understand while out in the elements.
Bob was a humble person always putting others first. If I had not known that Bob was ill I would never had heard about it from him. Overcoming it was important not talking about it with others. His positive attitude was what I always noticed. The last time I saw him at home, he said “ I want to get the surgery done and get on with my life. I am tired of living like this.” I believe this positive attitude and inner determination helped Bob fight his illness. When Michele told me that Bob wanted her to buy reflectors to be placed along their driveway I knew Bob had not given up hope of returning home.
Bob created wonderful memories for Michele and Mackenzie while he was able. More than some people ever do in a much longer lifetime. What a wonderful treasure he left for them!
Mary Schmeling, Oconomowoc, Wisconsin
Mackenzie Ciardo
December 25, 2010
Daddy,
Christmas was sure different without you being here to celebrate it with us. I remember years ago when i got my scooter, i was so happy! I know you wish that you could have been here to enjoy Christmas here on earth with us and all of the family, but you are healthier now than ever before. We certainly did miss you though, you know being the first Christmas without you here, it is kind of weird. I love and miss you very much daddy and i always have... I never stop thinking about you, sometimes they are happy thoughts and sometimes they are bad, but i know that it will be okay. Also thank you daddy for everything you have done for me, i love you.
You will always be here- in my heart?
Love,
Kenzie Rose
Michele Ciardo
December 25, 2010
Bob
Well, Christmas was very hard without you here with us. Last night, Mackenzie and I went up to Holy Hill for mass and we sure felt closer to you. I will always remember how much you loved going up there to hike and climb the tower. You just loved the woods and the church. I remember when we built our first home and you would sit for long periods of time and enjoy the view we had of Holy Hill from our house.
Mackenzie and I miss you more than words can say, but if we think back to a year ago and how much you were suffering, we know that you are with the Lord and that you are looking down on us and keeping us safe.
Merry Christmas, Bob.
Until we meet again....
Helen
December 25, 2010
Hi Bob....we're waiting for some of the family to arrive for coffee cake. We're doing things different this year because of my surgery. We're not having breakfast casseroles, only coffee cake (made by Lisa). We'll have dinner tonight but only for 11 people. Betsy has chicken pox so they're all staying home.
We think of you often, especially how sick you were last year at this time. You're in a much better place.....no more pain and suffering. We love you, Bob.
Love, Joe and Helen
Michele Ciardo
November 25, 2010
I miss you so much, Bob. How I wish you were here to share Thanksgiving with us. It is so different around here without you. Mackenzie and I think of you all of the time and what a wonderful husband and father you were. We are thankful for all of the memories we have of you and cherish the time that we had together.We love you.
Until we meet again...
Michele Ciardo
September 17, 2010
Happy Birthday, Bob. I thought about you so often today and how much I wish you were still here with us.
Mackenzie and I bought some cupcakes today and sang "Happy Birthday." Then we spent time remembering special times and what we miss most about you. Mackenzie misses helping you in the yard, playing basketball, taking trips, your laugh, going to Menard's or Home Depot... just the simple everyday things. She adored you and I am so thankful that she was able to spend 10 1/2 years with you. She will never forget how much you loved her and what an incredible father you were. Because of you, she has a solid understanding of what a fathers' love means. You will always be a positive influence in her life and she will continue to "look up" to you.
Thank you, Bob, for being you- honest, loving, caring, selfless, faithful, faithfilled, selfless, brave. You were an amazing father and husband.
I love you,
Michele Ciardo
August 16, 2010
Bob,
I am missing you so much...you are forever in my heart.
July 16, 2010
Hi Bob.......A couple of nights ago Lisa, Mark, Lucas, Kiley and Kiley's boyfriend, Shawn came over so we could all hear Shawn play the piano. They had just eaten at the Depot and the talk got around to what they had all had to eat. It reminded us of how you, who hadn't eaten real food in months, would always ask each one of us what we had eaten in the hospital cafeteria. If you were unable to talk, you'd just point to each of us in turn.....and usually Truffles were a part of the meal for at least one of us....usually me, although everyone liked them.
Joe and I went to the cemetery last night to see the beautiful headstone Michele and Mackenzie had ordered for you. It is so nice.....you must be proud of their choice. Love, Helen
Nicole Nissen
July 7, 2010
Uncle Bob,
I was thinking about you today,and I am missing you. I am truly regretting the fact that I was not closer to you, Michele, and Mackenzie. The times I did get to spend with you were amazing, and I wish that I could've spent more time with you prior to you passing. I will never forget the memories that we did make when I was younger, and I will never forget what a wonderful man you were. To Michelle and Mackenzie, I hope you two are staying strong, although it is probably the hardest time of your lives right now. Now he is an angel looking down over you two, and cherishing the wonderful memories all three of you had together.
All My Love,
Mark & Lisa Groose
June 20, 2010
Father's Day was so important to Bob especially since he became father to Mackenzie Rose. Mackenzie, your daddy loved/loves you so much. And I know he looks down from heaven with a big smile on his face when he sees you and the young woman you are becoming. You are making your daddy so proud. Father God is taking such good care of your daddy...He's being Daddy(Abba) to your daddy. What a great time they are having this Father's Day.
Joshua 1:9
...Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
We love you and your mommy so much!
Joe and Helen Dudley
June 5, 2010
Bob.........I hope you were looking down on NHI yesterday when Mackenzie sang "Amazing Grace". It truly was amazing!!! She has a wonderful voice.....the only one of probably seven or eight singers that sang a capella. Joe and I were very proud of her.
June 4, 2010
Bob
Today Mackenzie sang her heart out at the school talent show. She sang "Amazing Grace" in honor of you and it was truly amazing. She sang with such emotion and I know you would be very proud of her. She knew how you loved hearing her play "Amazing Grace" on the flute, she decided to sing it in front of her whole school. I cried when she was on stage and thought of you and how much I miss you. What an "amazing" daughter we have. I am so proud of all that she has done since you have been gone and I know she will continue to make us proud. I love and miss you, Bob. You are always in my heart.
Helen Dudley
June 3, 2010
Hey Bob.........Michele, Mackenzie, Holly, Joe and I went to a memorial service at Froedtert last night. It was sad but really nice. Many of the things that were said brought tears to our eyes. I have a "tear jar" that was handed out when we wrote your name in a book. I'll always keep it. They had music and showed a video that was really good.
You've been gone for months now, but you're always in our thoughts. I'm using a laminated prayer card for my bookmark now.......I see your face every time I read. Love you and miss you.
Lisa Groose
May 18, 2010
This past weekend Caitlyn graduated from UW. I know you would have been there with bells on. I thought of you and the hockey game that you, Michele, Mark and I went to at the Kohl Center a few years back. I remember how you parked the van in that tight parking spot next to a snow bank. We all got out into the snow bank. You had parked sooo close to the car next to us that you also had to climb out into the snow bank on the other side of the car. How you lifted those long legs of yours over the center console...We all laughed so hard. I know your spirit was there on Saturday cheering Caitlyn on.
Miss you so much
Michele Ciardo
May 8, 2010
Oh, how I miss you Bob. It's been a difficult week and not having you here is so hard. I love you.
Rocky Mountain National Park 2005
April 26, 2010
Michele Ciardo
April 25, 2010
My Dearest Bob,
Eighteen years ago I took vows to love and cherish you, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse. I still hold those vows close to my heart and remember our life together. You were an exceptional, loving husband and an incredible father that cherished each day you had with us. You were always so patient, compassionate, kind, caring, strong, fair, honest and determined. As I think about you now, the one thing I remember most is your spirit. You touched so many lives and taught us what it means to live and to be positive. Through it all, you amazed me with your love and humility. You were the bravest and most determined person I have ever known.
Our daughter is growing up so fast. You would be so proud of all that she has done this year in school, dance class and musicals. She really enjoys singing and dancing. She knows that you always loved seeing her perform and I know she will continue doing what she is passionate about. She treasures the memories of you and she holds you close in her heart. Sometimes she is very sad and misses you tremendously. She is one strong little girl and I am so blessed that we had her. She is a caring and compassionate person and is loved by so many. I will always do my best to honor and protect her.
Bob, thank you for a beautiful life together. I miss you more than words can say and I shed many tears recalling so many wonderful memories we had together. You were my rock. I feel so blessed and honored to have had you as my partner for so many years. Thank you for loving me and giving me strength to continue on. As you always said to me, "Michele, one day at a time." I am trying to live by that. Some days it can be very challenging, but when I think of you and all that you endured, it makes me stronger.
Happy Anniversary, Bob! Until we meet again....
Me and my Guy
Mackenzie Rose Ciardo
April 25, 2010
Dear Daddy,
I was thinking a lot about you today knowing it was yours and momma's aniversary today. I miss you tons, and love you lots. I wish you were here with us now. But all that matters is that you fought, and you fought hard and you deserve an A++++++++++++++++++ and beyond, you gave it your all. You never complained for what you had, you fought and that's something special that not everyone has. You were determined to continue on and fight, you were comitted to our family and you loved everyone around you and enjoyed the life that you had. Daddy, you were great at everything, there was not one thing that you didn't want to do, well, everything but laundry, but that's okay. I used to love the way you laughed, and pushed me high on the swings, I loved the care and compassion, the frisbee and the basketball, but most of all, I LOVE YOU!
You were the best dad anyone could ever DREAM of having, but it wasn't a dream for me, it was real. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Niagara Falls, Canada 2006
April 21, 2010
Lake George, New York 2006
April 21, 2010
Daddy and Mack Relaxing in Lake George, New York 2006
April 21, 2010
Mackenzie's First Communion May 2007
April 21, 2010
Daddy's Artwork
April 21, 2010
Mackenzie's Birthday 2007
April 21, 2010
Footprints of Our Family
April 21, 2010
The Love of my Life
April 21, 2010
Yellowstone 2007
April 21, 2010
Sharing my dreams with Daddy
April 21, 2010
My Daddy and Me
April 21, 2010
State Fair 2008
April 21, 2010
Helen Dudley
April 17, 2010
Thinking about you today, Bob..........
Lisa Groose
March 29, 2010
Hmmm. Strength is a man that struggles for 6 months in intensive care to live. Determined is that same man to not give up. Brave is that man who takes what life has dealt him and doesn't complain. Awesome is a sister that sticks through it all and doesn't complain either. Committed is that same sister that handles it all with such grace. Proud is what I am of both of them. Just thinking... and missing Bob
Lisa Groose
March 18, 2010
I went for a walk tonight and as I watched the sun set it reminded me of the night that Bob, Michele, and Mackenzie came over with a house warming present for our new home. It was the night before Bob's admission to the hospital. Bob was in a lot of pain that night from the edema in his legs. He sat with his legs up the whole time. But he never made a complaint. When we said our good-byes and wished him the best with his up-coming surgery, the sun was setting much as it did tonight. It was beautiful!
He was an amazing man and we miss him so much.
Until we meet again,Bob!
Yvonne
February 21, 2010
Bob was a man who gave 110% in everything –his family, friends, job, building homes, and fighting for his life. He set the example for the rest of us to follow. Bob will be dearly missed!
Door County 2008
February 20, 2010
Daddy and His Little Girl
February 20, 2010
Dale Fischer
February 18, 2010
I wanted to say that Bob was one of my best friends and that we were on the same wavelength about work, movies, fish frys, etc. He was the kind of friend that would always help in a pinch. If you needed help, he was there. I will miss him so very much.
My kids were always asking and praying for Big Bob as they called him. When they asked why he wasn't getting better, I explained that sometimes God needs his warriors back to help get ready for Jesus's return. I believe this, too. He will always be in my thoughts. He was a good friend.
Beth and Gary Culver
February 11, 2010
Michele and Mackenzie,
May your faith help to make you strong during a time in your life when you have never felt so weak. Bob was lucky to have had 2 girls who loved him more than anyone could imagine. Take time to take care of yourselves - it has been a long hard road. Michele you were and are a pillar of strength -
so proud of you.
Bob has a wonderful spot up above.
Our prayers are with you everyday.
Holly Stankowski
February 9, 2010
Dear Michele and Mackenzie,
We loved Bob as our brother, not just and in-law. Bob was always there to say a hello, shake a hand, and ask how we were...and he always meant it. Over the years Bob never said an unkind work about anyone, he was always upbeat and positive. We remember the many times how very sick he was and he never complained. He still inquired how others were doing.
We know the last 3 years were the toughest and especially the last 6 months. Michele your strength, perseverence, vigilance, love, hope, and care helped Bob through this most difficult time. Bob wanted you there by his side and you were. He loved his daughter Mackenzie so much!! He loved you both, and now he is looking at you from Heaven with our Lord by his side. He will always be with you and Mackenzie and be a part of you both.
We are blessed to be a part of your lives and will always be there for anything you and Mackenzie may need.
We love you so much
Holly, Orval and kids
Ann McGavock
February 8, 2010
Michele & Mackenzie:
We feel like you are a part of our family. Please know that we are here for you whenever you have a need.
I wanted to share something with you that always brings a smile to my face. As we all know, Bob was meticulous in always keeping his home and property looking great. Anyway, knowing this and also knowing how opposite my own husband is in this manner, I used to tease Bob that we were going to buy the property next to yours. It would be like the Odd Couple living next to each other! Anyway, it always made Bob smile!
I feel honored to have known Bob and will always remember him fondly. Our hearts go out to you and Mackenzie.
We love you,
Ann, Pat and Kelly McGavock
February 7, 2010
Dear Michele and Mackenzie......Bob was such a special person. We loved him like a son. The last three years he's had so many problems...the fluid on his legs, the heart valve surgery, and many other things....yet he'd never let on how sick he was. He always said, "I'm fine." I remember the program at Greenland one afternoon....he was using crutches because his legs were so bad, yet he didn't want to disappoint you, Mackenzie, and so he was there.
All those months in the hospital he never gave up hope that he'd be able to go back home someday. He touched so many people there....even people who never got to know him, like the Family Center staff. The nurses, his doctors, the techs and therapists all loved him.
He was a wonderful guy and he will be greatly missed.
Love, Dad and Mom (Gumby and Grandma)
February 7, 2010
Dear Ciardo Family,
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. I have to tell you that Mr. Ciardo was a celebrity in our house; nothing was ever as tall as Mr. Ciardo. Now, this was meant in an awe-struck, super hero kind of way. The kids would say "That tree is tall, but not as tall as Mr. Ciardo." Our son, Zac, and Mackenzie were in the same class for a few years and I always knew that Mackenzie was the star student when Zac came home with National Geographic For Kids or some other cool magazine that Mr. Ciardo had brought in for the class. We also recognized him as an attentive, involved parent because of all of the field trips and programs and concerts and plays he attended.
I didn't really know Mr. Ciardo, but from my peripheral interactions, he seemed like such a good guy. I'm so sorry this happened.
We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers,
Chris Skumatz and family
Kory Morgan
February 5, 2010
Sorry to hear of Bob's passing. You are in my thoughts. Bob was a good man.
Gundy Walton
February 4, 2010
Dear Michele, Mackenzie and family,
It isn't often that we become "emotionally attached" to a family in the hospital, but Bob and you and your daughter really became family to us. We were always so concerned.
My deepest sympathy to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. And on behalf of the employees from the Family Center at Froedtert, they also were very saddened to hear that Bob passed away.
Michele, you exhibited a sense of calm and steadiness throughout Bob's "storms." I hope this will help you in your days ahead.
February 3, 2010
Michele, Our deepest sympathy goes out to you, Mackenzie and the rest of Bobs family. We reminisced about our can washing days with Bob and it made us smile for a second, but the reality of his passing made us very sad one second later. He was a great guy.
Pat(Day)Luedtke and Cindy Cimbalnik
Blayne RN
February 2, 2010
I was deeply saddened to hear about the loss of Bob this past week. Although I only knew him for a small amount of time, he touched my heart. He was an amazing man and brought happiness to everyone he encountered. Bob will never be forgotten and I only hope the best for Michele and the rest of the family. My thoughts and prayers are with you...Rest in Peace.
Jeff, Ginny, Kelly & Brian Jacob
February 2, 2010
We are so saddened by the news. Bob was such a fighter and Michele and Mackenzie you were there fighting right along with him. Our prayers have continually been with you and will continue to be with you. May the love you shared with each other comfort you and may God's grace help you cope. Our love and prayers to you.
February 2, 2010
Michele,
I was very sorry to hear about Bob. I knew he had been sick a long time, but I never imagined that he would pass away. I still remember all the times I've seen the 3 of you, or even just meet Bob, anywhere & he always had a smile & a hug for me. I will keep you & Mackenzie in my prayers.
Pat Meyer
Uncle Dick Aunt Judy
February 1, 2010
With loving memories of Bobby-
Uncle Dick and I were at the hospital the day Bobby was born. Our families did everything together. Bobby's cousins, Rich, Debbie, and Sue thought of Bobby as a brother. They went skiing, sledding and fishing together and grew up as part of each others family. Through the years, Xmas Eve at grandma and grandpa Ciardo's house, deer camps, dances and family occasions brought us together each year.
We will always remember his sarcastic sense of humor and forgiving nature, his love of sports and outdoors, his pride in his work at Quad, his love for his entire family and his love for Michele and MacKenzie.
But most of all we will remember his "spirit", his will to live, the strengh of his character to overcome illness, since he was a teenager and in his adult life. He was an inspiration to us all!!! We will always treasure these memories and hold Bobby deep in our hearts.
I know Auntie Geri is trying to teach Bob how to play Qualified rummy while they wait for us....
Angela Kohl
February 1, 2010
To the Ciardo family:
My deepest sympathies to you all. I hope that you find comfort in knowing that Bob is now in a safe and pain-free place. God bless you all.
February 1, 2010
Dear Mrs. Ciardo and Family-
We are very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband Bob. Our sincere condelences to you, your daughter and family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of grief.
Nick Bateson and Family
February 1, 2010
Dear friend Michele and Mackenzie,
We are so sorry to hear about your loss. Bob was such a wonderful person. Our hearts go out to you today and the days ahead. You are in our thoughts and prayers and always will be. Your friends, Jim and Tina Wallace (and the boys)
February 1, 2010
Dear Ciardo family,
I remember when Bob was battling cancer during our HS years. I couldn't believe how brave he was to walk the halls day after day knowing how sick he was from the treatments. Then to play basketball at such a high level was truly inspiring. I have used him as an example of courage and perseverance to my own kids to define what it means to be a hero. It is how one walks thru adversity that really matters. And he certainly walked thru with amazing grace and courage. He has touched many lives thru his illness. I am grateful for having known him.
Mary Foster(Sullivan)
Mary Anne Papp
February 1, 2010
Dear Michelle,
Our one in a million man is now with God.
I will never forget how much he wanted to be free of this illness, how hard he fought, how kind he was.
May you and Mackenzie live with the memories of a wonderfull husband and father.
Carlos Guerrero
February 1, 2010
Bob was a pleasure to have known and worked side by side with during my career. He will always be an inspiration to me. I was in awe of his game of basketball. My prayers and heart goes to Michele, Mackenzie, and the rest of his family.
Carrie Valentine
February 1, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Amber O'Neil
January 31, 2010
I am so sorry to hear about your loss... My prayers are with you.
Stacey L.- 3NW
January 31, 2010
As a nurse you only have a few times in your life that a person or family can have such an impact on how you are in your profession. Bob and Michelle you two are and were the people who had the most impact on my life. I remember first meeting you two and thought how dedicated and loving you two were to each other. I'm inspired by you two and your love. I can't ever say thank you enough for gracing my life. Bob's smile and your dedication were out of this world. My thoughts are with you, your daughter and entire family. Thank you for allowing me to get to know you. I'm so blessed to know you and Bob. Again, my heart goes out to you and your family. God Bless you. Your family will always have a place in my heart.
January 31, 2010
Dear Mrs. Ciardo,
We saw the news of your husband's death in the newspaper.
We would like to send our sincere condolence from our family.
We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
From,
Emma Connell and Family
Mara Beck-RInnemaki
January 30, 2010
Michele - My deepest condolences to you and your daughter! My thoughts and prayers are with you.
January 30, 2010
Dear Michele and Mackenzie- You have been in our thoughts and prayers for months. It is with a heavy heart that we received the news of Bob's passing. We like to remember Bob working in the yard, always greeting us with a big smile and a wave as we passed by. He was a good man, a kind neighbor and he loved his family well! May God wrap you all in His loving arms and help you through this deep loss.
Sincerely, Michael, Kelly, Tori and Megan Begler
Randy and Susan Medd
January 30, 2010
We are truly sorry to hear about the passing of Bob. He was one of the friendliest persons we had the pleasure of knowing. We will miss seeing him in the halls at Greenland. It is our hope that his family can find comfort in their lives soon.
Shari Showers
January 30, 2010
To my wonderful friend Bobby. A kind and thoughtful friend and a true fighter. I will always have you in my heart. I will miss and love you forever.
January 30, 2010
Michele and MacKenzie, we are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The Sorrentino Family
Guy & Bev Ott
January 30, 2010
Dear Michelle and Family-----------Guy and I were so sorry to hear about Bobby! You are ALL in our "thoughts and PRAYERS".
He was ONE "special GUY"!We remember ALL he went through when he 1st got sick in high school and how he fought his illness------------still remember "when he stepped back onto the basketball court after ALL he went through"---------------was a "miracle" to see!! Our love and prayers, Guy & Bev Ott
January 30, 2010
Bob was always a pleasure to work with and/or enjoy a pick-up game of hoops or volleyball. He truly will be missed. Our condolences to the family.
Ron and Judy Visintainer
Barb and Emma Kefer
January 30, 2010
Michele and Mackenzie,
Our hearts go out to you today and the days ahead. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
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