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Andrew Hickling
December 15, 2020
I love you dad . I miss you so very much . You would love these kids we made . They are full of life and I see your smile when they smile . I still remember and I have not forgot. I will get it done pop .
Andrew Hickling
December 10, 2018
I still miss my daddy
Andre Hickling
April 29, 2015
Hey pop , we are saying good bye to your cuz Freddy tomorrow , keep him close and look down on the nault family as we lost another good man to soon .
Tembie
September 20, 2013
Im not as strong as you thought I was. That's what you told me in the hospital room when I stayed with you. I think about that time a lot, how I spent days there, and the silence was so deafening. What was I thinking? There was so much to say, and yet we just laid there together. I miss you Dad. I miss you very much. xo
sarah hickling murack
September 17, 2013
It enlightens me to read how many people love and miss you, yet it breaks my heart at the same time. I miss you papa and love you so very much. xo
July 25, 2013
Hi Hick, It has been seven years since you went on your journey. I know you are looking down on us. Sometimes, when I am playing bingo I feel like you will be walking through the door. Miss you. Love Patti xo
July 25, 2013
Hi Hick, It's been seven years now since you went on your journey...Thanks for looking down on us. It often feels strange not having you here...Sometimes, when I am at bingo I have expect you to come walking through the door. Today, is in rememerance of You...Love you, Patti xo
JENNY HALL
December 15, 2012
September your dad was a great man I remember how he used to pick on me when me and your mom used to bowl together he used to tell me I was to skinny and wondered how i could pick up the ball both your mom and dad would make me laugh all the time. RIP to a great man
Sarah Murack
December 13, 2012
It has been so long since I wrote to you...so much has happened in my life. I am a mother now and I know now how much love you felt for us kids. I know how many times you sacrificed and went without. I wish Kyan would be able to know you as his Grandpa. I miss you so many times and wish for the little things like hearing you laugh, or seeing you smile. I cannot believe 6 years have passed since you died, time is just whizzing by. I love you so much daddy and will never stop missing you.
Ruthalyce Fischer
May 26, 2012
Hey Bob! Thinking of you and Jimmie all day today. It has been nearly a year since our Jim passed and went home to you all. I miss him so much, and his death was so sudden. With everyone else, we had some time to prepare. Not so with our brother Jim. I am glad to know that the two of you are up there together again, with mom and dad. I can feel Jimmy smiling. He missed our mother so much after her passing. Life was never the same for him. You have many more grandchildren now Robert. Beautiful, and healthy and good kids. You are still on the brain for all of us. The memories are great fun to talk about. You are still loved and remembered because you are special. Off center maybe, but I like that!! Makes life something of a magic carpet ride. Hugs to the family up there, and we'll be seeing you...xoxoxo
Ruthie
May 25, 2012
Hi Bobby, The Lilacs are in bloom. I picked some from the Lilac bush outside of my apartment and put them in a vase. I know how much you loved Lilacs... So many things remind me of you...I guess, that is what keeps you alive within my being. So wish you could so all the many beautiful changes that happened and still are happening with your kids and grandchildren...You would be so proud and braging to the customers in your cab. We miss you and wish you were here to share so many happenings...But, even though you are not here physically I know you can see what is going on. Through all of the many trials and tribulations, Thick and Thin...We raised good children who turned out loving, caring and responsible...
Ruthalyce Fischer
July 25, 2011
Hey Bobby, tomorrow we celebrate our brother Jim's life. Hold him tight in your arms, and tell him I love him. I will miss him, and feel badly that I hadn't talked with him more recently. God does work in mysterious ways, and I trust he was ready for Jim. We are four now, and soon we will be together again. I will miss you both until then. I love you,always, Ruthie
Tabitha Kaschel
July 24, 2011
Grandpa. I miss you. So much. Its almost been five years. Five years tomorrow since you've been gone. I miss you alot. Its still hard every year to not get a birthday call or watching a baseball game. Or when I hear the Righteous Brothers.
But I think you would be proud of us. You would be proud of your kids, your grand kids, and your family. I love you Grandpa Bob. I miss you more every single day. <3
July 25, 2010
"Missing You"
Songs and pictures brings time back
allowing me to feel that age again.
Seeking the impossible I return to the places we shared those songs in hopes you will be sitting there smiling at me i;n your victorious style, telling me of all you believe in;
Your hopes,
Your desires,
Your happy times,
And sad times....
Taking your picture out of my wallet
Renews those old time feelings,
Only, I could touch you then...
And you could touch me in return....
Missing You
And feeling so all alone
I cry,
Crying for your company
I know can no longer be...
It was wr;ong of me to come here,
Trying to relive the past....
It only opens wounds of you not with me any more..
Solving problems
Or, giving me moral support...
Just for a moment
It looked like you in the distance
coming toward me...
Dropping your picture
And standing up to greet you,
How absurd I must have looked
To the person passing by...
Picking up your faded picture
And placing it carefully into ;my wallet
Reluctantly,
It is time to leave...
Time
To Leave
The Recollection of Yesterday
And You...
July 25, 2010
My dearest Uncle Bobby,
It's been 4 years since we had to say goodbye to your physical form that brought us many laughs,and memories we will never forget.We all miss you very much and your spirit is always with us and there isn't a day that goes bye that i don't think of you.I love very much and miss you more then you know.
Love Always,
Your Goddaughter,
Lizzie
January 5, 2010
MY DEAR BROTHER BOBBIE: LIZZIE AND I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT YOU TODAY AND WANT TO WISH YOU A HAPPY BIRTHDAY. ALWAYS KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS DAILY. OUR LOVE TO YOU ALWAYS, MUCH LOVE AND REMEMBERANCE ALL THE TIME.
LOVE TO YOU
YOUR GOD DAUGHTER ELIZABETH
YOUNGER BROTHER JIMMIE
XX OO
Sarah Murack
July 26, 2009
Geez daddy where to I begin.....u know my thoughts and heart...I write because it eases my own heart break. I am missing you pretty badly today yet in the same token through friends and family have been able to celebrate your being....I wish we could talk atleadt the kind of conversation where I canhear your voice back....I know you well enough to know what your responses would be, I just well I just want to hear the scruff in your voice and the power behind your conviction....I look in the mirror and it is you I see, and I am proud to where your face....so damn proud as I know you would be of me.....it is hard daddy, I think of so many times and I am so thankful for it all every moment and smile and jovial laugh....and I question myself, am I selfish for wanting more time with you. I will forever cherish our last few speaking moments even though Tem and I knew you were quieter then normal and in retrospect so were we. So many things I would say to you now given the chance, questions I would ask....forgive me for rambling papa, I have had a bit to drink because I miss you terrible and struggle to find my own grasp of how to live with a daddy who has finally taken some time to himself to rest... and every so often like today I put on the smile that others wish for yet my heart feels it could explode in the agony of a little girl who just wants to hug her daddy...(for those of you other than daddy who might read this, I am ok, I just miss my daddy)..good night daaadeee
July 25, 2009
My Dear Brother Bob,
Today is the third anniversery of your passing. You have been on my mind throughout this day. I just want to send my love, thoughts, and prayers to you. Also, your God-daughter/Elizabeth Lamberton asked me to send along her love, thoughts and wishes and that she has also thought of you throughout this day. Brother do know that you will always be in our thoughts and in our hearts. Please extend your hand over all of us and send us your grace and blessings.
Much love,
Your little brother,
Jimmie and your God-daughter Elizabeth
P.S. May the peace of the Lord be with you always.
xxoo
Sarah Murack
May 31, 2009
Hi Dad-
It has been too long since I have written, I know that you know I think about you all the time. I am feeling down today. Just wishing I had a partner to work out with. I have been doing good on the weightloss. I have lost about 65 or so pounds, it just gets boring working out by mnyself all the time. I use you as my inspiration and my will to keep on track. I went to the cages with Matt yesterday and hit the ball around. It was fun and a change of pace. Anyway I just wanted to tell you I miss you and I love you and I wish you were still here- xoxoxo
Sarah
Sarah Hickling-Murack
February 6, 2009
Hi Daddy-
I wanted to write you for a couple days now and I finally have some free time. Of course I miss you like always. I finally finished school but you already know that. What a relief to be done, I am just waiting for my grades to be posted and UWM to recognize my degree so I can apply for my license and start subbing. Next year I will hopefully have my own classroom somewhere. I wanted to thank you for being my inspiration in so many ways. Since you've been away, I have tried to live my life in ways that I know would make you proud. I remember the night before your surgery how you talked with Tembie and I and how you told us not to wait too long to get our physical health in order. I use that conversation and you for motivation on my journey of getting healthy. You know that I quit smoking 3 months after you died so it has been nearly 3 years since I puffed on a cigg ahaha....I have your orange cigarette case on my shelf next to your picture with the pack of ciggs in it that you had smoked only one cigarette out of. It wasn't even hard for me to quit because I found my strength from you. I have never even been tempted it doesn't matter where I am even at bars, I have no interest. I remember Dr. Rosen said that if you had not been a smoker you would have had better odds. So thank you for motivating me. Onto other health news, last August I started seeing a doctor to help me lose weight and get healthy. Since that time I have lost 58 pounds and counting. I did all this during my student teaching semester which was by far my most challenging and exhausting semester to date. Once a month I meet with Dr. Byom. I lost that 58 pounds with little to no excercise. I lost it with dietary changes alone. I started cutting out carbohydrates and eating a high protein and green vegetable diet. I do eat some carbs. I try to keep my net carbs to like 25 to 30 net carbs a day. Once I finished school I started to go to the gym and now I am excercising 5 days a week for 2 hours each. I feel so great when I am done. Sometimes when I think I have nothing left to give, I think of my daddy telling me Hicklings are not quitters. I think about how when I was on the Phillies how after my first couple practices I wanted to quit because Diane Sweet was a strict coach and I was used to Scottie who was much more passive. I didn't quit, I played harder and better. And I grew to love Mrs. Sweet. I loved that she knew when to push or challenge us and she knew when to reward or hug us. She was a damn good coach and last week I learned some news that made me sad and happy. I learned that Mrs. Sweet died of cancer a year or so ago. I was sad at the fact that Tammy, Dan, and Jenny lost their mom. I was sad at the idea that someone I once cared about and loved had too short a time on earth. But I was happy for you daddy, because now you have someone to talk baseball with. I am planning on joining a softball team this summer but I do not know for who. I really do not want to join a bar league because I don't really like the pressure to drink after the game. I'm not much of a drinker and way to many carbs haha. I think of you all the time and sometimes I cannot believe it has been so long since you died. I think of all the things you missed out on like holding Madison or Jonah, seeing me get married or graduate, spending time with Hunter, Andy and Mikie in the woods, things like that. But then I remember how lucky I was. How funny you were and how loving you were as a father and friend. So many things made you important. The stories you told might have been B.S to some and you know what some of them were but they were your stories and I love them all. What I do hope you know now if you didn't know it then was that you didn't have to make the stories bigger because daddy you were larger than life. You had sparkle in your eyes and heart. You had a tough skin and a gentleness. You were playful and kind and always made sure your family was taken care of. I am so glad that you got to meet and know Matt before you died because without him I would be lost. He loves me for who I am and when you died he knew how to lift me past my sadness so I could do well in school. He has supported me in everyway he can and I know how happy you would be to know I found that kind of love. It makes me think of when I was in the hospital with my back injury and about the conversation you and Matt had outside while smoking cigarettes. Matt told me that you told him that I should not worry about anything and that if I needed money you would take care of me. And Matt said you pulled out a big wad of cash as he describes it as if to show him. I had to chuckle and I told him it was mostly singles, to relax you weren't in the mafia....hahaha....I didn't want to scare him off thinking he'd get his knees broken if he wasn't on his best behavior...hahaha...Anyway since that time and always really I have known that Matt will always take care of me and you should know he has so much love and respect for you. And not just because you took us kids to see the Road Warrior (His favorite movie of all time) at the drive in....hahahaha but because he said you had a way of making everybody feel welcome and comfortable. And he is right about that. I love you very much daaaadeeee, bet you thought you wouldn't have to hear that for awhile...haha....Somedays it is hard to think of you without breaking down and other days I smile in reverance of the person you were and will always be to me. I want you to know that I am making good on my promise I made to you the night before your surgery, we all are.... Well dad it is getting late and if you were watching me today, you know I ran like a dozen errands before relaxing for the night, so I am going to send it now. I will write again soon and will love you always. P.S. You and Mrs. Sweet can talk about the time in the all star game I caught that amazing ball or when I got called in to pitch and we won the game! Aah the good times, love u xoxoxoxoxox
JAMES HICKLING
January 5, 2009
HI BROTHER:
WELL TODAY IS YOUR 61ST. BIRTHDAY. YOU WERE ON MY MIND SO I DECIDED TO TAKE A MOMENT TO SAY AND WISH YOU HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I GUESS THE FAMILY HAD A LOVELY CHRISTMAS GATHERING AT MATT'S AGAIN THIS YEAR. BELIEVE ME YOU WERE MISSED BY ALL I'M SURE. I WAS UNABLE TO ATTEND BECAUSE OF PHYSICAL PROBLEMS BUT I KNOW THE FAMILY THOUGHT OF ME. WELL BROTHER YOU KEEP THE PEACE IN HEAVEN AND LOOK DOWN UPON US AND GIVE US YOUR DAILY BLESSING IF YOU WILL. UNTIL THE NEXT TIME BROTHER / KEEP THE FAITH AND REMEMBER THAT YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. OUR PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU ALWAYS.
LOVE YA
YOUR LITTLE BROTHER
JIMMIE
X O
Patricia Hickling
November 29, 2008
Dear Hick,
There was something missing this Thanksgiving.... You and your stupid stories...The ones you would tell over and over and over and over...lol lol Every time you told those stories you would laugh yourself like it was the very first time you were telling it. This year the torch was passed to Tembie...We had Thanksgiving at her home...It was very nice...She is a good wife and good mother...Mikie and Jessica brought Madison. She is so cute. Looks just like Mikie. Buffey and Luis were there too. It was a good feeling being with the kids and grandkids. Andy wasn't there. He cooked Thanksgiving dinner at Crystal's home, his new love in his life. I met Crystal's mother and family. You would have loved that. You would have had new people to tell your stupid stories to...lol lol I am learning how to play poker at Romine's on Sunday afternoons. I play against nine other players. You would love it. Next year, 2009 I should know what I am doing. I am going to go to Ho-Chunk and play for real money. Will take a good amount of money along to have that cushion for when the cards turn against my favor. Archie misses you boxing with him. I try to but I just don't do it like you did. Andy deer hunted in your spot this weekend. He called me from the woods to tell me that. I asked him if he could see your ashes. He said, "Mom, it's been two and half years!" "Okay," I said. I still have some of your ashes on my shelf. I love gathering at Barb and Matt's for our Christmas togetherness. Everyone misses your goofy ways...Me and the kids carry you in our hearts...And so often you pop up in our thoughts when we see things or hear things that reminds us of you...Sarah has come a long ways...She is doing great. I am so proud of her accomplishments..Shine down on her on her graduation...Signing off for now...See you again someday... Love Patti xo
Sarah Murack
November 25, 2008
Dear Daddy,
Today, I was teaching my 2nd graders about letter writing. Yesterday they picked out people who they would write to. Because Thanksgiving is right around the corner we have been talking alot about being thankful. I told them these would be thank you letters that they will take home for thanksgiving. When I modeled my writing for the students I wrote Dear Mom, and I proceeded to thank her for well being her. The students then set out to start their letters. Writing the address heading proved to be a difficult step for the students so we may need to go over that again. Anyway, today I modeled another letter and I told the students I picked a different person to write to this time to give them other ideas. A student blurted out, is it your dad? And I was caught off guard. I said no, and I proceeded to thank my cooperating teacher for helping me like an angel this semester. But my heart ached a little and I decided I was going to write my daddy a thank you letter tonight. So let me say dad, I am thankful everyday for every laugh and smile we shared together. I love to look at pictures of you and the family and remember all the good times. I am so thankful I had a dad who loved his kids with all of his heart. I miss you, I love you, and I am hoping you are eating a big ole piece of full sugar apple pie up there on Thanksgiving and laughing with Grandma Alyce, Grandpa Gene, Grandma Shirley, Grandpa Steve, Grandma Mary and Grandpa Ed, Uncle Arnie, and all of the gang! I am just about to graduate. Student teaching has been an immense amount of work but it has been so rewarding at the same time. I am learning so much. I will miss you on graduation night but I know you are really always with me because you are in my heart and your blood is my blood. It's the physical presences I miss. Yet, I am able to smile because I can picture you cracking jokes or I can remember so many funny times. My life has changed in many ways since you have been gone. I got married, I am finishing school. I hope you know I am well taken care of. Matt is very good for me. He always held you in the highest regard. He just loved your personality. I think you knew all along that Matt and I were meant to be together. I think you could see in him that gentle caring person who would love and cherish me. One special day I am particularly thankful for was the day we rode together in your cab. I remember listening to music and talking about nothing in particular. I love that you bought me tea and didn't complain to much when I had to pee! It was a great day.....and you thought I wouldn't be on time....hummmph....I am thankful that when you died I began to take every day as a gift and I began to try to learn lessons from you. I quit smoking cigarrettes and I have recently began to lose weight with the counsel of a doctor. I am feeling good about myself and the direction my life is heading. I like to think that one thing I get from you dad is your no quitting attitude. I remember wanting to quit playing ball but you encouraged me to continue and I thank you for that. Now sometimes at school when I feel like throwing in the towel I just work harder. I strive to be my best. I am proud to say that I am going to graduate with honors. My gpa is a 3.89. That is something to be proud of. Even more amazing than the gpa is that I love what I am doing. I enjoy getting up to go to school every morning even though some days I am exhausted and go on little to no sleep. I will be thinking of you over the holidays like usual so you spread some magic down on us. Let all siblings get along...lol (ya know how holidays can be stressful everyone in one small place...hahaha). Let the snow be hardly any so mom doesn't have to worry about all of us. Let Sarah get the wish bone and break the bigger end!! I wish the boys had gone hunting together. Ok papa I must get ready for bed now. I love you
Love,
Sarah
Sarah Murack
October 17, 2008
Hi Daddy-
I am writing for no reason in particular. I have been thinking about you a lot this week. I am almost finished with school and I have been thinking how strange it will be to walk across the stage without hearing your loud shouts. I'm gonna miss that. I have been working so hard. I am tired most days but I love teaching. I miss you so much sometimes. I know all of us kids miss you terrible. Matt misses you too. I worry about all of us. I think Andy struggles without you at times. He has a very nice girlfriend. Tembie has been under so much pressure lately with John being in the hospital and trying to balance the home life. I know we will all be ok, it just seemed when you were here I never felt as scared because I always knew you could take care of almost any problem that any of us had. If it was an ear we needed you were there. If it was a ride or money well that was there too. It sucks without you. When I wear your necklace to school the kids always ask about you. I tell them you were the best dad in the world and that you are with the angels. Then they tell me about all of the people they know that have died and you can feel their empathy. Well daddy, I am gonna go to bed early tonight so I have energy to do homework for like 15 hours tomorrow! I love you forever, my daaaaadeeeeee and I miss you always. xoxoxoxo Piggy
Sarah Murack
July 25, 2008
Dear daddy-
Let me try this again, I tried to send you a letter and I don't think it worked. Today it has been 2 years since you died and it has been a tough day for me. I struggled to roll out of bed and decided to make the day about you. I drove to the cab company to pick up my check and although I go there everyday to work, today it was particularly hard on me and I cried in the parking lot listening to Vince Gill's "Go Rest High on that Mountain." I cried for the good times, the bad times and all the things you have missed. I drove to the bank listening to songs you loved and then I found the brick that mom bought for you and I took a picture of it. I found a penny made in the year 2006 and through it in the fountain and made a wish that today I would be filled with little memories of you and times we spent together. Then I cried some more. Then I did something I haven't done in years but that I knew you would love. I went to the batting cages and hit the ball around. I could hear your gruff voice cheering "wait on it, wait on it" but you know I never could. Then I went to A&W and bought mom a root beer and me a diet rootbeer. I talked with Tembie today and it was nice to talk to someone who misses you as much as I do and who can understand what I am feeling. It amazes me how much life happens in 2 years time. Tembie is having another baby, Little Mikie is not so little and has a baby of his own, and Matt and I got married. Tembie and I talked about mom and how proud we are of her because she has begun making a new life for herself and how she doesn't talk about being lonelly or sad even though we know those times exist. She has been a real trooper. When I was on my way here I saw a bumper sticker that said,"live the life you want" and I felt inspired. You lived the life you wanted. When I got here to mom's she said I want to show you something and she showed me the "Last lecture" by Randy Pausch who died today. He had pancreatic cancer but his message was so poignant and he declares you need to have fun everyday. So tonight I am going to have some fun. I am going to kick back and have a few beers and go to a festival and be reminded of all of the goodness you brought to me and others. You live as long as you are remembered and daddy I will never forget you....I love you.....Sarah Bug xoxox
Patricia Hickling
June 2, 2008
Hi Hick,
Here it is June already....I went to the Greenfield Police Department by the new fountain that they installed. There is a brick there in memory of you. A person is born and has a birth certificate...Because you lay in rest up north in the woods, I wanted to have something to show that you were here on earth..That is the reason for the brick. I took Adam and Adrian to see the brick yesterday. All three of us saw the brick for the first time. I love you much..Patti xo
February 23, 2008
Hi Hick,
Next Friday Sarah and Matt are getting married. She misses you not being there in person; but, we all know you will be with us in spirit. After the wedding we will be having dinner at Butch's Clock Steak House and Martini Bar. That is where you first met Matt. I will finally get to meet his parents. Looking forward to having you with us next Friday...Love Always, Patti xo
Patti Hickling
January 5, 2008
Happy 60th Birthday Bobby,
So many many changes since you left us...some good, some not so good..Wish you were here to share those times with us...You are remembered today...on your birthday...We love you much and miss you too...Hope you are looking down on us and help us find our way...
Love Patti xo
JIM HICKLING
January 5, 2008
HI BOBBY:
WELL TODAY IS THE 60TH. ANNIVERSARY OF YOUR BIRTH. I JUST WANTED TO SAY HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BROTHER. I THINK OF YOU OFTEN AND DO SINCERELY MISS YOU. THE CHIT-CHAT SESSIONS WE HAD WERE UNIQUE TO SAY THE LEAST. I SPOKE WITH PATTI OVER THE RECENT HOLIDAYS AND YOUR FAMILY ALL GOT TOGETHER TO CELEBRATE AND YES YOU WERE INCLUDED IN THAT CELEBRATION. BOBBY I ASK THAT YOU WATCH OVER ALL OF US AND SEND YOUR BLESSINGS DOWN UPON US. THANKS BROTHER FOR FIFTY EIGHT YEARS OF GOOD TIMES AND NOW THE YEARS OF MEMORIES. I LOVE YOU BOBBY. MAY GOD KEEP YOU IN HIS GRACE.
YOUR LOVING BROTHER
JIMMIE HICKLING
Sarah Hickling
December 13, 2007
Dear Daddy-
I am very tired tonight. Today was an exhausting day in many ways but just when I felt I could take no more, I looked at my grade on my end of the semester portfolio that I worked so hard on for the last 3 weeks,......100% an A, I was not only shocked and happy but just felt like crying. I know you would have been so proud of me. I looked at the picture of you and mom standing next to me at my MATC graduation for my business degree and this is miles further in comparison. I wish you could have seen me graduate UWM papa, I have never worked so hard for anything in my whole life. Today at my fieldwork I said good bye to my students and cried because they all mean so much to me. Many of the students made me and my field partner cards. One particular student whom I worked with one on one in math wrote to me "Thanks for never quitting on me, for never giving up on me" I just cried, it meant so much to know I affected this little boy in that way. Another student gave me a card that said, "Thanks for standing up for me when other kids were messing with me and for making them stop", that same student gave both me and my field partner a stuffed animal and a coffee mug before we left. I couldn't even believe the sentiment or generosity. Another student as we were walking out was in the hallway with his head on a desk and crying and sobbing and I didn't know what was wrong, so I asked him and he said he was sad because we were leaving and he didn't want us to leave....I broke down and cried with him and told him I would be back to visit. Today, reminded me why I want to teach so badly and it made me think of you....how even though I cannot see you, that your little miracles are present in everyday little moments like today. I miss you daddy, yesterday I looked through my pictures of you and I just wanted to give you a hug, later Andy sent me a message telling me he was missing you and he and I talked about that. Shortly after that I talked with Tembie and told her how I had looked at your pictures and the message Andy sent me and she said it was strange because she had been thinking of you too......I guess you must have been with all of us yesterday, making your rounds. I would give anything to hear you laugh or to see you smile with your bright blue eyes twinkling.....Christmas just isn't the same without your HoHoHo....I wonder if you and Grandma Shirley are driving each other crazy yet....hahaha...I miss her too....seems this last year or so has been too much sadness and I am getting to used to knowing what it means to lose someone. I am grateful dad for every single moment we ever shared...every football game we played in the big field on south chicago ave, every softball game you stood behind home plate as I pitched...every talk of encouragement or even discipline......every single thing, I am grateful for it all. I am lucky to have Matt, he keeps me strong and sane during my breakdowns and helps me to stay focused on school and the hear and now. I am only sorry we did not get married sooner so you could have walked me down the aisle because you and I talked about that and it never happened for you....but I guess I will have to move beyond that, I would like to say I could get over that but I don't think I ever will...Just like it will always bother me that my children will only know their Grandpa Bob through stories and pictures.....but oh the stories I will tell them papa. I will tell them the best stories of your life as a child and as a young man and as a husband to mom and as a father to us kids and a grandpa to your grandchildren. I will tell my children all of the wonderful things about you......Well papa I must get going now, I have to drive home yet and I have been up since 5:30am and it is almost 1:30am now....somewhere in heaven you are sitting on the most comfortable big chair sleeping with the remote on your chest....till next time.... Goodnight old man....good night....xoxoxo
Love you daaaaadeeeee
xoxoxoxox
Your-
Sarah piggy
Sarah Hickling
October 31, 2007
Daddy-
Hi there- I have been thinking of you so much lately. I guess as time wears on I miss you more and more. It is like the reality of losing you is sinking in hard. I wish so much that I could talk to you and hear you answer back. Sometimes I watch a home video from quite a few Christmas's back that I have just so I can hear your voice. It is funny because in the video mom asked everyone to go around and say some changes they had made in the last year and you must not have heard the question so when it was your turn you said first that you were thankful for your family and your wife and it just makes me smile because you always put us first. I miss you dad. I don't know how else to say it...I miss you. I miss your laugh and smile and your kindness and your tough spirit and all the ways you made me feel so special and lucky to be your daughter. I sometimes wonder if you had any clue at all just how important you were and are to me, how much you have made me who I am. Sometimes when I feel like I want to throw in the towel, I think back to little league and how Miss Sweet made me want to quit at times because of her strictness and how you ingrained in me that Hickling's were not quitters and how when I stuck it out I came to love her as a coach. This week I just wanted to give up playing this damn instrument for my music class and I almost did....but from somewhere deep inside of me, I changed my mind and decided to keep trying. I decided I might not be very good at it but I will be better tomorrow than I was today. And then I cried and thought of you. My proud papa who always pushed me to keep going. Aaaah, I wonder what you are doing up there. I wonder if 5 years from now my sadness for losing you will still hurt this much. It doesn't get easier with you gone, it just becomes harder to remember the fine and little details. I love you dad and I hope from time to time you peek in on me and mom and the other kids. Time for me to go home now, I have to get up at 6am for fieldwork. Talk to you soon...xoxox Sarah bug
October 11, 2007
Hi Dad, I miss you a lot. You gave me so much guidance that I didn't even realize it was there until it is gone. Thanks for looking out for me the way you did. Look out for grandma now too...I think she will be fine...you know how she can be but she may need a friend and a laugh or too...she hasnt laughed for a while. I love you a lot. XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO, Buff
October 2, 2007
Dear Hick,
Today mom joined you....I have lost the two best friends in my life...You and her...
I feel relieved that she no longer has to suffer....Life will not be the same without the two of you...My children and grandchildren will sustain me...Thank God they are in my life...Thank God for my job and the people I work with...Thank God for my pets, especially, Archie...Some day, I will join all of you...I really do hope that life will be very peaceful then...No more sorrow and now more pain...Sometimes, I feel like hell is here on earth...This is hell...and only when a person passes shall we know what peace is like...Your death and my mother's has taught me so much...To be humble with the elderly and to enjoy everything...Little have I known so much sorrow...I thought the latter years were suppose to be joyous and pain free..That is not true at all...If anything, life has become more painful and much more realistic. Out of the bad comes the good...for only through sadness can one really recognize the goodness and happiness...Life is positive and negative..We learned that in science class...I try to be strong for not only myself; but, also for our children...Sometimes, my strength just is not there so I fake it. You would be very proud of your children and grandchildren..They all miss you so very much..Your love and time spent with them has helped carry them through...and me too...
I love you and mom too,
Hope you can hear my voice in this time of need..
Love your wife,
Patti xo
Sarah Hickling
September 23, 2007
Dear Daddy-
Today is a sad day for me. I went to the hospital to visit Grandma Shirley. She is not doing very well. I think very soon she will be up there with you. I am very proud of how mom is handling this. It is very hard for her and I know all to well what she is going through. Losing a parent is such an emotional time. Today at the hospital I looked at Grandma and the circumstances around her and I thought of you. Today they removed her ventilator. She is breathing on her own but I feel it is only a matter of time before she feels ready to let go of us here on earth. Mom has been at the hospital all day and night. Buffey will sleep there tonight. Mom will come home tonight because she is taking Hunteroo to school tomorrow. Mom, Buffey, Me, Andy, Mikie, Jessica, Uncle Butch, Nicky, Steffie, Sam, Tiffany, Tony and Diana prayed with the chaplain in her room today. I want you to look out for her and show her the ropes up there. She might be scared at first but I know you will make her laugh. I have been busy with school and work. I can finally see graduation in site. Next December I will be finished. The family is doing ok. Buffey is taking Grandma's illness pretty hard. I am glad she has Louis to be there for her. Tembie, John and the kids are good. Adrian has a job and he even has a cell phone now. Andy has fallen on some tough times and I know if you were here it would definitely have been easier for him but he is managing well considering. Some exciting news is that Mikie and Jessica are expecting a baby in early March. You loved being a grandpa and I know you would have been very excited for them. Well papa, it is getting late and I am exhausted from the day and homework. I am going to go home and get to bed because I have school tomorrow at 8am. I love you so much and I miss you everyday. Thank you for giving me the courage to be there for Grandma and mom and for helping me to quit smoking it has been over a year now. Until next time papa- Love your Sarah bug
Becky Herrera
July 30, 2007
Dear Uncle Bob,
It has been just over 1 year since you've been gone. And it doesn't feel that long at all. I recently moved back to Milwaukee and bought a house now and have settled nicely. It seems weird because when I was here last driving through the city, you were too. And I see cabs and I look for you and think maybe one of these is Uncle Bob like I did all those years that I was here and now that I am back I am doing the same thing and everytime, I have to remind myself that it won't be you this time. I miss you and feel bad that I lost touch when I moved away. I would do things differently if I could. I guess life gets in the way and by the time you realize it, it is too late. So I wanted to let you know that we are doing well and working hard and taking care of our little ones. I am all registered for school in the fall at MATC. All of my courses from Texas transferred over here, Thank God for me while you're there!!, and so I just need the nursing curriculum and I am done. I can't wait either. I will be making decent money for my family and that's why I keep sticking through and pushing on. I want you to know that I think of you often and your family. I wish I could hear you laugh and see your big smile one more time. I am glad and thankful for the memories Uncle Bob. Until next time,
Love Becky
July 25, 2007
MY DEAR BROTHER BOBBY:
WELL HERE WE ARE ONE YEAR SINCE YOU LEFT US TO BE WITH OUR HOLY FAMILY. BOBBY YOU MAY BE GONE BUT DEFINITLY NOT FORGOTTEN. YOU ARE IN THE PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS OF MANY PEOPLE AND YOU WILL REMAIN IN THEIR HEARTS FOREVER. I MISS YOU BOBBY IN MANY WAYS AND THINK OF YOU OFTEN. YOUR FAMILY HAS DONE YOU PROUD BY KEEPING YOUR LEGACY ALIVE. LOVE AND PRAYERS TO YOU BROTHER.
JIMMIE HICKLING
July 11, 2007
Dear Hick,
Here it is, almost a year since you have been gone out of our lives...We all miss you...There are thousands of reminders of you around me and the kids...Even though you are physically gone, emotionally you are always with us...Places we shared and things you liked...Tulips, Lilacs, Wheaping Willows, fishing, television, pool, baseball, hunting, bingo, the list can go on for a long time...Monday, when I was at Pewaukee Lake with the kids I remembered back when we were in a boat fishing by the island and all around the lake. So many times, so many memories..and good ones. This is why I feel very blessed and my life remains in good spirits. I know that you would want me to go on with happiness and to be a survivor not a victum of life. We miss you always... Love Patti and Kids xoxoxoxo
Sarah Hickling
July 9, 2007
It is weird when I think that this time last year you were still alive and we had no idea that in less than 3 weeks time I would be so heart broken and you would be struggling to keep alive. I remember everything about your last days with astonishing clarity and I wonder if it will always be that way or if I will eventually forget those precious moments. I remember sitting in the hospital room with you and you told me you didn't want to die a coward. Sometimes I think about that conversation and I remember how I could not believe you even would think of yourself that way. You were so brave. When the nurse wheeled you off the elevator you flashed us a smile as if you were telling us it was going to be ok and that you could do this once more. But daddy it wasnt ok and it will never be ok with me that you are gone. You were so brave and strong for us not just at the hospital but in life. I always felt safe when I was with you. I am so grateful for every single moment I have had with you even the occasional arguments. A couple days ago Matt and I watched a movie that I remembered you saying " Oh Sarah it was so good" and after we watched it Matt and I had a nice conversation about you. He told me that you were a hero for going through with that surgery and I agreed. I miss you so much sometimes. When I have cab company drama or I see something you would have liked or laughed at. You have inspired me to take care of myself and I have been working hard at that. I am so proud to tell people about how I had the best kind of dad there is. Well daaaadeeee I am going to go to bed now. Loving you always- your Sarah Piggy
Sarah Hickling
June 17, 2007
I wanted to come by today to write in your guest book. All week I struggled with the question of what do you do on Father's Day when your dad is no longer here. I thought of you a lot today and of how the order of today would have progressed were you alive. Mom and Andy went fishing and I know you would have liked that but some how the family would have been together. Instead the day seemed ordinary. I lied in bed relaxing and then I read for a few hours and then I went on my evening walk but nothing exciting. I miss you dad and I am thankful for all of the wisdom you shared with me while you were here as well as all the comfort, love and support. I know I was lucky to have such a great father and friend in you and today I want to express how much having you as my daddy meant to me. Happy Father's Day dad. Love Sarah
RUTHALYCE FISCHER
June 8, 2007
Hi Bobbie,
Reading the kids thoughts to you made me think about not having written in awhile. It's how I cope, I guess.
I still miss you like crazy, and still find myself wanting to dial your cell # to tell you something funny. We shared so many laughs. You made it easy.
I wish that you and I had had more time together. We let time get in the way. I am trying to change that in my life. It's not always easy, but losing you has made me reprioritize. Thanks for everything Bobby. The laughter, the tears, the memories, good and bad, and most of all for being a great big brother. You done good. I miss you.
Ruthalyce
brenda Hickling
June 2, 2007
Well Dad you've always thought people were crazy to jump out of a perferctly good air plane but I guess we all are today Andy and I did just that. Of course we were a little scared but being 15000 feet up in the air made us realize just how beautiful our world is it felt like we could touch Heaven Andy said I know my Dads probally turning over right now but life is short and we like to live it I could just see the look you would of had on your face that one you would give when you think we've just about lost our minds! But being up there was the most amazing feeling I felt like I was on top of the world I know you were watching over us and you would be so proud of Andy and I.
We Love You and think of you every day we will soon be aproching one year with out you but it feels like yesterday & I guess it always will.
Love,
Brenda
May 30, 2007
Uncle Bobby,
I know it's been awhile since i wrote and the last entry i put in was not even my own,as at the time i did not or could not mention you or your name without crying.Most days i still cry at the mere thought of you.My life has not been the best the last six months,Jasonand i are separated and I miss him something awful and Nate is delayed two years in his abilities to learn and maintain what he learns i know if you were here you would make me feel better by making me laugh.I keep your prayer cards at hand always they are a little beat up but always ready,i keep the picture of you and me dancing at my first wedding where i can always see it you have a huge smile on your face and thats how i will always remember you.I miss seeing you around town in that taxi van and till this day i cant look at a cab when i'm in the city without looking for you.I miss you very much and am thinking of you always.I Love You.
Love always,
Your Goddaughter,
Lizzie
Sarah Hickling
May 4, 2007
Sometimes one day just blends into the next and then it hits me, Oh my goodness it has been several days since I thought of my daddy. Life gets so busy sometimes you know. Today mom said when she held baby Justus that she thought of you and how you would have loved to hold the baby. I agreed you would have loved it. You loved babies. I can picture how your face would light up when you held Ashlin or Hunter. Justus has a lot of thick dark hair like his daddy. I miss you dad and sometimes on the tough days like when I am worn out from school or studying I think of how you encouraged me to keep chugging along. You are still my encouragement. I have accepted that you are never coming back which was tough. I am grateful for the good times. I am doing my best to live my life in ways that would have made you proud. Accepting that you are dead is not to say that I do not miss you. I miss you all the time. Which is why from time to time I come here to write to you. It makes me feel like I am writing directly to you. Well it is time for bed, I have a research conference to attend tomorrow and I spent all day today doing homework which means I am exhausted. love u daaadeeee xo Sarah bug
Sarah Hickling
January 8, 2007
Dad-
Friday was your birthday. I found your birthday to be emotionally difficult for me. The holidays were not easy but I did not find them as difficult as your birthday was. I went to work on Friday and thought of your birthday last year and how I gave you the DVD series Band of Brothers and how happy you were to get the much awaited series. You loved war stories. I borrowed the dvd series to Matt's dad, he took it up north when he went hunting. I had to smile at his dad watching it in his cabin. You would have loved that. I think you and his dad would have got along so well. He likes the same kind of music you did and the same kind of movies. For Christmas, Matt and I hunted down 2 old Ricky Nelson CD's his dad wanted and I smiled knowing you would have liked the same 2 cds. So I went out on your birthday. After work I went to the Chill and I told Joe I was there celebrating my dad's birthday. Four beers and 3 shots of Tequila later I ventured home. I miss you dad. Tonight is family dinner night. We opted to have dinner tonight instead of last week because of the holidays. Buffey is making tacos for dinner. I miss you dad. Some times days just blend into the next. I wish you were here...of course that will always be my undying wish. But since you can't be here all I can do is keep you in my thoughts which is easy to do. I think of your little intricacies on a regular basis. Work is always a constant reminder of you. I think you would be proud of how I put the fairness back into the dispatch room...those drivers sure do get frustrated with me at times...but consistency has paid off. There is this girl at work, her name is Almarosa. She is such a nice girl. Her father was murdered when she was only 5 years old. She is now 19. She tells me how she misses her dad even still and how she does not have specific memories of her dad only stories from other people. It made me feel sad for her and glad to have so many warm memories with you. even Jenni said that she has memories with her dad now that she is an adult but that as a child she has very few memories because her dad worked alot then. I am grateful for the life that driving cab allowed you. It allowed you to pick and choose your hours. I don't know many kids that had the kind of dad who could always be there and who was always there. You never missed a little league game not one. You went to every school concert or every activity we participated in. But beyond school obligations you included playing with your children as not only a family obligation but a joy. You took all of us kids to the drive in, you played baseball and football in the yard with us, you built tents made of blankets in the living room, you made holidays and birthdays special. The list goes on and on. On your birthday I could not give you anything but my memories of us continue to give me hope and happiness when the skies seem cloudy. I love you so much and even though I was not near the computer on Friday, you were first in my thoughts. Happy 59th in Heaven daddy. xo Sarah bug
Brenda Hickling
January 8, 2007
Dear Dad,
This is the first time I have been able to look at these wonderful entries. I guess it's still to hard. I just sent Hunter off to school and Andys at work. He got a new job per your request. He gets to spend a lot more time with us now. I had thought being threw this with my Dad would make it easier but it's not. You helped to fill that void I had in my life for so long. I thought I would be able to find the words to help my Husband heal, there are no words. There are simply just tears. Andy had a very hard time hunting this year with out you by his side~ ok mabey not trucking threw the swamp with him but he knew you were always on the tree stump right where he left you. He carried your ashes in his pocket, and your love in his heart. I think he's taking this the hardest. He's tucked away the pictures because one glimpse of you is all it takes to bring that big boy to his knees. He cries when he thinks no one can hear him. You were his best friend and theres no words I can find to help heal, no hug big enough.Hunter and I went to get a tree for Christmas and I let him pick it out, a big white pine. It goes all the wat to the celing. After puting it up Andy told me this was your favorite tree but Patti never like them It's funny hey, out of probally 100 trees and that's the one he picked. We're still doing family dinner night. (I know you just love my southren traditions) We made it for tonight because of New Years. I'll put some coffee on for you. We even bring your ashes with. It's so hard to not have you there. I look at the faces of my wonderful family and some how they changed. More serious, more sad, but more grateful for life, we cherish the moments we get a little more. So much has changed, Tembies pregnat, Sarah is engaged, Mikies engaged, My sister is pregnat. Life moves on, our family grows, we are like a big oak tree in the front yard. We are big and strong, but when a limb falls off it's just not the same. Bobbie, you have blessed our lives, you are the smile in my boys face, the twinkle in his eyes. It was hard for him to not have you here this Christmas, Mom made sure we all got presents from you. So keep stoping by, we feel your presence. Its the reason we get goose bumps when no ones around, and we laugh for no reason.
All my love,
your Alabama Slammer
JIMMIE HICKLING
January 5, 2007
My Dear Brother, Bobbie:
Today is the 59th anniversary of your birth. I have been thinking of you throughout the day today and wondering just how you and your lovely wife, Patty would be celebrating. Anyway, I just wanted to stop in to say hi, and to let you know that you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. May you have a most blessed birthday.
With Love,
Your younger brother, Jimmie
Sarah Hickling
November 22, 2006
Papa-
I just wanted to say a few quick words before I head home for the night. Tomorrow is Turkey day. I came over to help mom prepare in advance. Tabi is staying over night. Andy came back from hunting tonight I guess. He got a buck and a doe. One for him and one for you I guess. Mikie will stay hunting this year and will not make it home for Thanksgiving. So the table will have 2 vacancies this year. You and our Mikie. I do not know what to expect tomorrow. I am going to play it by ear. I am sure the food will be excellent, the missing you will be hard. But I know that our family has to go through the motions of the holidays...we have to try to move forward. This time a year ago, you were coming home from your hunting trip and mom had her lights on the windows. You probably brought her pepper cheese. Well I am going to go home now, I just wanted to tell you how much I love you and miss you. I just wanted to say that no holiday will ever be the same without you. Our family will do what we do best, we will pull together and be strong. NIte daddy- xoxoxo
Sarah Hickling
November 19, 2006
Daddy-
Hi Again, I stopped at moms to do homework and looking at your picture above the tv with the Christmas tree in the corner I just couldn't help but feel like writing. The boys are up deer hunting, their first hunt without you. I wonder how they are doing. I am sure they are making you proud on the hunt as they usually did. This time of year without you is hard. I heard the Christmas song "walking in a winter wonderland" yesterday on the way home from work and I remembered hearing you sing that song and my heart just ached. You were such a kid at Christmas, loved the holidays: the get togethers, the food, the presents. Your Santa's Ho Ho Ho resonates in my head. I do not feel much like celebrating this year, even though I know I still have plenty to be thankful for and smile about. I can't help it. Matt and I are not putting up a tree this year. Mom put her tree up just before Andy left for hunting. When I look at the tree it only makes me sad thinking of all the times you brought home our tree or presents for us girls from your hunting trip and how mom would make sure she had the Christmas lights up for you when you got home. I miss you dad so much. Sometimes I just want to lay around and cry and feel sorry for myself but I know that is not how you would have wanted things. I just don't know what else to say except not having you here really sucks and every day is a challenge. On the plus side, I was admitted into the school of education so I am definitely on my way to becoming a teacher. I wish I could have graduated school before you died so I could see your shining eyes. Well papa I am going to go home now, I promised Matt I would bring him dinner. I love you dad. xoxo Sarahbug
Sarah Hickling
November 13, 2006
Daddy-
Some days are harder than others. The missing you does not seem to get better. A few days ago I watched our Christmas video from 2000, I like to watch it just to hear your voice. Yet it saddens me too, because then you were so full of life. So many things have happened in just the few months since you have gone. Sometimes I try to picture in my mind what you would say or do in certain situations. Sometimes I wonder what you would have looked like as an old man. Matt is very supportive of me, he knows how close you and I were. He knows that when I am sad or angry it is not because I am not grateful for having you as such a wonderful dad and friend but instead because my heart hurts so bad in missing you. I was telling Jen and Steph this weekend about how sacrificial you were for your family. People have told me on occasions after you died, "well your dad didn't take care of himself" I told Jen and Steph that if my dad didn't take care of himself it was probably because he was too busy taking care of all of us. Because I remember the many times you went without in order for us kids to have something whether it was money for a new pair of shoes for one of us kids or money to help one of us fix our car. It seems you were always helping one of us with something. I can still remember so clearly your stay in the hospital. I think of the last night in the hospital when you were awake and me sitting on the bed next to you rubbing your bald head as you tried to relax knowing you would face a very risky surgery the next day. I think of how badly I wanted to tell you some things but how I couldn't because I did not want to scare you. Tembie and I would glance at each other from time to time and in our eyes the tears would sit waiting for a time when they could fall unnoticed. Sometimes I wish I could go back to being a little girl like when we lived in Lyons. You used to build us tents made from blankets or take us all to the drive in movies. My memories of those times are priceless. I think of Little League and how we sold soooo many candy bars. You were always so proud of us. I hope you know how proud us kids were of you. We were not the wealthiest family that is no secret but I bet very few people truly knew or know how close our family was/is. Despite all of the sadness that comes from losing you, I smile knowing I was loved very much by you. I smile knowing that I was so lucky to have you as my dad, someone who spent time with me and cared about the kind of person I would become. Well I guess I should finish up, I have to head home and do some homework. I just felt like writing my thoughts to you....because my daddy I miss you so much.
Love you xxxx oooo
If Only I could hug and kiss you one more time 8(
Tembie Castillo
October 26, 2006
I think of my Dad everyday. I can't believe the week I spent at the hospital were my last days with my dad. Three months.... I can't believe I have lived without my dad for three months. I am sad for everyone who knew him, because we all miss him something fierce. What a great dad I had.... love to you all, Tembie
JAMES HICKLING
October 25, 2006
My Dear Brother Bobby:
Today it is three months since you went to your eternal home. I read Our sister Kathy's letter and I totally agree with all she said. I, too have tears running down my cheeks. I think of you often and miss you so very much. As Kathy said the family dinner idea is great and like she said you most assuradly are present in spirit. Bob, know that you will always remain in our thoughts and prayers forever. Please watch over us if you will. Thanks Bobby. I love you and miss---Your Younger Brother, Jimmie.
Mary Deubig
October 23, 2006
Hi, this is your sister, Kathy. I have been thinking about you and Patti and the kids. I smile when I look at a picture that I have of you and me and Tom when we were kids. But most of all Bobbie I think of your family. I know you are okay and I know they are doing all right, but not great. The other night I read your prayer card before I went to sleep and thought, "I hope they are going on" and keeping you close to their hearts will help them.
That family dinner thing they started is just great. Your their in so many ways. Pass the potatoes, dammit.
I can hear you.
So hugs to you and hugs especially to Patti, then your kids. As I am writing this, tears are running down my face. I wasn't going to say that, but why not. It is sincere. Love You
Kathy
Sarah Hickling
October 2, 2006
Hi Daddy-
I was just thinking of you alot today and wanted to let you know it. Tonight is family dinner night, a new tradition we started since you died. On the first Monday of every month we all get together for dinner. You would have loved the tradition. Especially the dinner part..hahha....since mom never cooked. In a way I guess our family dinners are a prequel to what it might be like to celebrate a holiday without you. The dreadful holidays are approaching. As much as I think about the many great times I had with you, the missing you part still hurts. Well Daddy I am going to get ready for dinner now. I love you forever
JAMES HICKLING
September 25, 2006
My Dear Brother Bobby:
Today makes it two months since you were welcomed into the arms of god. Bobby I think of you daily and miss the conversations we had. Remember Bobby you are always in the prayers of myself and many others. Keep watching over us if you will. Again Bobbie, you will always remain in our thoughts and never be forgotten. I love you Bobbie and always will.
Love
Jimmie Hickling
Your Little Brother
Sarah Hickling
September 16, 2006
Hi Daddy-
I just wanted to tell you I love you and lately you have been so much on my mind. I miss you. I broke down the other day. For no other reason than I cannot believe sometimes that I will never be able to talk to you again. It is tough, I think as time goes on it gets harder because it is getting harder to miss you so much. I take you with me in everything I do. I miss you daaadeeee. Love Your Piggy
RUTHALYCE FISCHER
September 15, 2006
Dear Bobbie,
Thinking of you tonight. I just finished looking at the wonderful CD that Brenda made for all of us. What a gift!! Your pictures and the memories are not all that you left us with though. Since your passing, I realize how rich you really were Bobbie. Not in a monetary way, but the kids adored you. That is something you took with you, and also something you left behind. I know you were proud of your kids, and I am as well. They have proven to be more than a parent could hope for. You had it all.
I miss you so much myself, I find myself talking to you out loud. You were a good brother to me, I could count on you. Thanks for always listening to me when I had my "issues" these last years. You gave me hope, and held me up. I could keep going on as you made everything seem managable. You were our gift Bobbie. In your regular guy kind of way. What I wouldn't give to put my arms around you right now. I love you forever and always.
Ruthie
Tembie Castillo
September 15, 2006
well the heart still aches.... thoughts flood daily.... and really I wish I could cry out where everyone can here it.. It is so hard as the time rolls by, and I can't say enough how many times I have wanted to call and tell you this or that and ask this and that. I am grateful Uncle Jimmie is keeping this posted. It sure helps me read up on you Dad. I miss ya lots poppy.. xo Tembie
Becky Herrera
September 14, 2006
Hey Uncle Bob,
I still can't believe that you're up there now instead of down here with us. It has been 8 weeks since you passed. Tony came and told me at work about it so I wouldn't hear over the phone because he knew I would be upset. I called my mom everyday to check on your status in the hospital since I couldn't be there. I talked to Tembie too. I just wanted you to know that I wasn't there physically, but I was there mentally. I find myself tuning in to the oldies station now on all the radios just because I know you loved the oldies. Yesterday I heard unchained melody and broke down. Why is it so hard to lose the ones we love? Even though we know you are in a better place? I love you and wanted to let you know I was thinking about you again. I love you and miss you.
Becky
JIMMIE HICKLING
September 13, 2006
MY DEAR BROTHER BOBBIE:
HI BOBBIE, I KNOW YOU ARE WELL IN THE HANDS OF OUR HOLY FAMILY. I MISS YOU SO VERY MUCH. THIS WASN'T SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN BUT GOD HAS HIS PLANS FOR ALL OF US I GUESS. I THINK OF YOU QUITE OFTEN AND LOOK TOWARDS HEAVEN AND SAY HI BOBBIE, I HAVE MADE THIS GUEST BOOK AVAILABLE TO ANYONE WHO MIGHT WANT TO WRITE SOMETHING. IT WILL REMAIN ON LINE PERMANANTLY. TAKE CARE MY BROTHER AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ALWAYS IN MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS.
I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU.
Sarah Hickling
August 27, 2006
Daddy-
On Thursday night I lay awake thinking of you. Thinking how on Friday it would be a month since you died. I couldn't sleep. I wrote in my journal to you. Today I went to Andy's baseball game, your presence is so greatly missed there. Brenda yelled at the ump just like you taught her and I got a smile. Everyday I wish I could laugh with you, everyday I come a little closer to feeling like things will be ok. I miss you dad. I love you.
Sarah
August 27, 2006
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2006
James Hickling
August 25, 2006
My Dear Brother Bobbie:
Today makes it a month since you left to be with our heavenly family. I know you are at peace and are watching over all of us and sending your blessings as well. It is still very difficult to accept the fact that you are gone from us physically. You will never be forgotten but always remembered as the kind,smiling,jovial person you were. You always had a kind word for everyone. You will remain in the prayers of many people for many years to come. It is absolutely a tribute to you as to how many entries have been placed in your guest book. It will remain on line forever. Again, my dear brother Bobbie know that I love you and miss you. I shall think of you daily. May the peace, grace and the blessings of our Holy Family be with you for all eternity.
I Love You And Miss You
With Much Affection
Your Little Brother
Jimmie Hickling
Mary Deubig
August 23, 2006
Hello, I have your guestbook on my alert list Bobby. I see all the writings of your friends and family. I bet you have read it all and are smiling. I would be. Just thinking about you and your family. I keep you all in my prayers.
Just as we have always been told, life goes by in a second. Really true. We understand this as we live each day, but somehow we forget to keep in contact with each other. Our lives just took different paths, but that does not mean we do no love each other and care. I love you and all my family.
Again, just thought I would chat with you, Bobby. I know you are okay now and being you.
Love ya
Kathy
Sarah Hickling
August 21, 2006
Dear Daddy-
It has been almost a month since you passed away. I miss you everyday. When little things happen to me, I wish I could call you up and tell you. I always knew you would be happy for me or could give me advice. Yesterday was mine and Matt's 2 year anniversary. We talked about the first time he met you and mom. He said it was the easiest first meeting of the parents he ever experienced. I wish I could hug you. I think about you so much. All of the little details flood my mind. I remember an argument we had and think how we both said things we did not mean and how even though we disagreed at times the love never left. Mom and I looked through some pictures today that she had been waiting to develop. There is some really great pictures. One picture shows you laughing and when I looked at it, my ears could just hear you laughing. Sometimes I feel like you are so near me, other times I feel like you are so far away. I do not know how long I am meant to be on this earth. But the thought of living without you for the next 20,30, 40 years is almost unbearable. I hope you are sitting up in heaven with your parents and friends who have gone before. Maybe you're enjoying looking down on us. Perhaps you cry when we cry, laugh when we laugh. I can only hope. Mom and I went to BINGO tonight but we did not win. Cut us a break ok!! I see you in my dreams daddy. I hope you see me too. We have all become even closer since you left. You taught us the value of family. We are taking care of each other and we will be ok. I love you daddy xoxoxo
Sarahbug
RUTHALYCE FISCHER
August 17, 2006
Dear Bobbie,
Sarah Bug wrote the last entry. I pray for your kids. They loved you very much, and showed it to you. You were a rich man. I am missing you very much. Wish we could share another laugh or two. You were so easy to laugh with Bobbie. No one else like you. If only I could turn back the hands of time. I would make that big heart healthy. Give you a different outcome. These are all wishes that will never come true of course, but it helps somehow to write to you. Thanks for all the love over the years that you so freely gave. I took it for granted. I miss your blue eyes, and big bold smile, but mostly, the bear hugs. No one else gives them like you did. I love you to the moon and back, always and forever!
Your sister,
Ruthie
Sarah Hickling
August 14, 2006
Dear Daddy,
Here I am, again. It is 2am and I sit awake thinking of you and all your goodness. I cry, I laugh, I smile all in honor of you. The relationship we shared was so unique and special to me. Everytime I look in the mirror, I see your face. I am trying to find something to smile about everyday. I miss you, I know you can hear me. I just wish I could hear you. Love you- Sarah
jim hickling
August 12, 2006
My Dear Brother,Bobbie:
It has been over two weeks since you left us to join your heavenly family. We all miss you very much. Your smile,a laugh,and even a tear at times made you that special person. You would have been very proud of the way your children and your loving wife handled your visitation. Bobbie you may be gone from this earth but you will never be forgotten. Please watch over those of us that were left behind. I will look toward heaven each and every day and just say hi and that I love you. may you find peace and happiness with our heavenly family.
with my most sincere love
your little brother / jimmie
Becky Herrera
August 9, 2006
Uncle Bobby,
It has been 2 weeks since you passed. I feel very bad and wish I had kept in touch with you more. It was always a comfort to know you were alive and well out there somewhere and I guess I took that for granted. I just felt like you'd be around forever and now forever has come to an end. I enjoyed the parties and seeing you light up and so happy to be with family. That made you so happy. And me too. You were like another father figure to me. I could count on you too. I miss you very much and love you very much. Say hi to grandma and grandpa for me. Smile down on us please!
Matt Hickling
August 7, 2006
Bobby you will always be Mister Base ball to me.I rememebr how you taught mehow to play the game. And another thing when my mouth got me into some hassles you were my big brother.I just wish we hooked up more.Life really sucks when you allow a schedule to run your life as I do.I will miss you I love you.
RUTHALYCE FISCHR
August 7, 2006
My dearest brother Bob,
Nearly two weeks since your passing, and the world seems different to me. We hadn't seen one another much in the last year, but I always knew that all I needed to do was call, and that cab would be in the driveway! I will miss that stupid cab!! Thanks for the impromtu visits to my house, that were unique to you alone. A cigarette, coffee, and maybe an egg sandwich, and you were good to go. So easy to please. My heart aches to think of you. I am trying to push on, like you would do Bobbie. I love you to the moon and back. Your kids were awesome during your service. You would be so proud of them the way they took care of their mother. She is in good hands. We will look out for her as well. No fear of that, ok? Sleep well you sweet man, you deserve it. When we meet again, I will be able to touch my nose with my tongue too!! You can't have all the thunder Bobbie!! Keep an eye on things down here. We need an angel to look after us all. You were loved so very much.
Ruthie
x0x0
Sarah Hickling
August 6, 2006
Dad-
I miss you. I notice Tembie is the last person to sign this book and that was a few days ago. It is weird for me to picture life just carrying on, but I know that is what must be done. Everyday I think of you. So many thoughts and memories flood my brain. I am trying to remember as many conversations between us that I can. I am waiting for you to come home but that will never happen. Instead you are in heaven waiting for the rest of us some day. I am starting a journal and a scrapbook for you. That way I can write to you whenever I want. One day when I have children, I want them to know who their Grandpa Bob was and will always be to me. I love you daddy.
Tembie Castillo
August 1, 2006
Papa,
My heart is so sore. I love you so much. I miss you. You are the best dad in the world. So many people I know who have dads but don't have daddys. You are an awesome daddy. Had I known the morning you were taken down for your surgery, that was the last time I'd see that smile, I'da held you longer. I miss you bad. BIG TIME! Forever your girl... love Tembie
Sarah Hickling
August 1, 2006
Daaaadeeee,
Tomorrow it will be one week since you passed. I wonder if the tears behind my eyes will ever dry. Will the lump in my throat ever subside? My heart has never felt this kind of pain or emptiness before. I feel like someone is squeezing my heart so tight. You were the best dad any girl could ask for. I have so many memories of us and our family snuggled in my head. I will never forget our long talks, your laugh, your smile, how you always made time for us. I miss you already and will miss you everyday for the rest of my life. I hope you are sitting in heaven with Grandma Alyce, Grandpa Steve, Grandpa Gene, Grandma Mary and Grandpa Ed and looking down on all of us. I am proud to say you were my father and my friend. I love you daaadeee,
I'll always be your Sarah Piggy, you'll always be the first man in my life.
xoxo
Sarah
Margaret Brunker
July 31, 2006
Hi Bobby,
This is your cousin Mugs, remember Margaret. I am sorry I wasn't there for your special day. I will always have special fond memories of the family times we all tried to have as often as we could. I will always remember that you were always so happy and a very dedicated Family man(it always was very important to you). Patti, Buffy, September, Andy and Mikie, I know you will always treasure him in your hearts(as we all will) and I am so very sorry for your loss. Just know he's with Jesus and we will all be joining him again. Until then, Bobby Rest with God, and know we all Love You Very Much!
Margaret (Mugs)
TOM & HEATHER HICKLING
July 31, 2006
BOB TOM,
JUST A BIG THANKS FOR WHO YOU WERE. YOU INTRODUCED ME TO MY BABE OF 36 YEARS AND NEVER LET ME FORGET IT. WHEN I HEARD ALL THE TRIBUTES ON YOUR DAY I WONDERED DID I KNOW THIS GUY. YOUR KIDS WERE FANTASTIC. THAT CAB OUT FRONT HAS GOT TO BE WITH YOU IN HEAVEN. YOU AND THAT CAB WERE A TEAM. I'LL MISS YOU BROTHER THAT IS FOR SURE. LOVE YOU MUCH
Kathy Deubig
July 31, 2006
Hi Bobby: This is Kathy again. It is now Monday morning, the day after your celebration of life. WOW. I am so proud of you and your family. Yesterday truly was about you and just perfect. I bet you were smiling a whole lot when you looked into the room. We sure all cried a lot and laughed a lot yesterday. I am thinking about you and just once more had to tell you. Yesterday Ruthalyce said her big brother Bobby, and I though no, that is not right, but then I thought yeah, you were her big brother, but you were my little brother. That is what I get for being the older sister. Well just thought I would chat with you a bit. Love ya
Kathy
Jessica Cassens
July 31, 2006
To my second family... I will always remember Bobbie's laughter, big booming voice and jokes for the kids. I knew I was always welcome in your home. I am so sorry to hear of Bobbie's passing and will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. Buffey, I've lost touch with you again and I would love to catch back up.
All my love,
Jessica
FRED NAULT
July 30, 2006
Hey Bobbie, I know we haven't seen a whole lot of each other the last ten years or so, probably being so wrapped up in our owne family doings. However, I have alot of very fond memories of times we did spend together and it was always alot of fun just being around you. But not only that. You also had a sincere side and showed respect for all of the proper things in life, and I respected you for that. Rest in peace and may God bless you and your family.
Your cousin Fred
Patricia Hickling
July 29, 2006
My Dearest Hick,
It is very difficult to believe you are not here anymore...Wonder if I will even believe it after tomorrow...Your Day....I have no regrets and many good memories of things we did together. You better help me win the lottery....Thanks for thirty two years of togetherness. I love you...
Patti XO
Lynn Metzger
July 29, 2006
To the Hickling Family.
I want to express my heartfelt sorrow on the loss of Bobbie. I remember the great joy he and I felt standing there at the altar as Godparents for Elizabeth. He was a great man and I enjoyed getting to know him. He will be greatly missed. May he rest in peace.
Becky Herrera
July 29, 2006
Uncle Bob was a great uncle and wonderful man. Thank you for all the memories you gave me growing up. I enjoyed those sleepovers and am grateful for them. I love you very much and am going to miss you. You were liked and loved by many and I hope you know that. You're in my heart forever. Shine your light on us Uncle Bob. We need all the help we can get!
Love, Becky
RUTHALYCE FISCHER
July 29, 2006
Bobbie was a good brother. Full of laughter and smiles. I can hardly believe he is not here. His personality was bigger than life! Always an "I love you" for no other reason than that he did. I will miss hearing that, and I love you as well Bobbie. I hope you knew how much. Kisses, hugs, and tears. In that order. Be well, as I know that you are with mom and dad, and all of those that went before. We will miss you for a long long time, but you left us with great memories.
xo
Your sister, Ruthie
July 29, 2006
Hickling Family,
We are so very sorry for your loss. Buffey, your Dad was always so full of laughter and I have many fond memories of him. Find comfort knowing he will always live on in you and your family.
Much Love,
The Kanacks,
Susie(Strozyk), Aaron, Ian & Sofia
Elizabeth Lamberton
July 28, 2006
Uncle Bobby,
I love you and I will miss you terriably.
Love, Your Goddaughter Lizzie
Marisol Rivera
July 28, 2006
Bobby, you were truly one of the greatest people I will ever meet in this life. Your family and friends will truly miss you. Working w/you was always fun, cause that was the type of person you were. Much love
Peter and Lisa Hickling
July 28, 2006
Uncle Bobby,
You will be missed by all who knew you. My family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
James Hickling
July 28, 2006
My Dear Brother Bobbie:
You are now at peace with our Lord, Jesus Christ. I will always remeber you and love you. May you find happiness in Heaven. Please watch over those of us left behind. Thank You, Bobbie for 58 great years.
Love
jimmie
Jessica Fleming
July 28, 2006
The Hickling family:
May you find comfort with family & friends at this difficult time.
Andy & Brenda:
Bobby was a wonderful man and full of character. When I think of him the first thing I picture, is him smiling. Please do not hesitate to call me if you should need anything.
Love Jessica & Tim Fleming
Kathy Deubig
July 28, 2006
Hi Bobby. This is Kathy. You know, your older sister. You led a full and vigorous life and you will be missed. I know how much your kids and wife loved you and that is quite a legacy. I know Mom and Dad are very surprised to see you.
God Bless.
Love Kathy & Erv
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