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Steve Matteson Obituary
Steve was employed at the AIDS Resource Center of WI. He was an active member of H.O.G.S and Dry Riders.
Visitation Thurs., Aug. 18 at CHURCH AND CHAPEL FUNERAL HOME, 380 W. Bluemound Rd. (corner of Hwy. J and JJ) from 4-8 PM. Prayer Service 7:30 PM. Church visitation Fri., Aug. 19 at ST. MATTHIAS CATHOLIC CHURCH, 9306 W. Beloit Rd. From 9-10 AM. Mass of Christian Burial 10 AM. In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to the Matteson Children's Fund at Landmark Credit Union, 2775 S. Moorland Rd., New Berlin, WI 53151.
Steve touched so many lives
and will be missed deeply by all.
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Memories and Condolences
for Steve Matteson
Monica Hall
September 30, 2005
Steve, my big brother...the kids and I sure miss you.
Kwok-Keung Yue
August 22, 2005
Dear Steve,
I am very sad to hear the news that you will no longer be with us forever. It was such a honor to be your co-worker, and you are the ONE that I always admire to & respect for. Your smile and caring character will be greatly missed by each one of us at ARCW. On behalf of Housing Department, our condolence and prayers are always with your family.
Sincerely,
Kwok-Keung Yue
ARCW - Milwaukee
Jane Gardeski
August 21, 2005
Steve;
I was always so proud to be your sister. When I was with you, you had a way of making me feel I didn't have a worry in the world.
I will cherish our memories forever!
Your Sis,
Jane
Annie Chase
August 19, 2005
Steve was a treasure. He was so supportive and gentle with clients, coworkers and friends. He let people know they were not alone and that he would do what he could to support them. I remember Steve handing out hats and mittens to little kids at the testing site, calming and counseling people, always saying a kind and cheerful word to everyone around him. He will be greatly missed.
Al Reisner
August 19, 2005
Steve,
You helped so many people including me. I enjoyed the learning experience at ARCW, and on Monday and Wednesday nights on site. You always had a lot of faith in people, no matter who they were. Thanks again,
Al
Diane Vida
August 18, 2005
Steve, I regret to admit that I haven't been in touch with you for the last couple of years. I remember with enjoyment the times we spent together at the clinic. You helped a great deal of people and were well loved and respected by all. Condolences to your beloved family and friends. You will be truly missed.
Jose Villarreal
August 18, 2005
The kindness and generosity that you gave , will always have a place in my heart.
Chris & Debbie Burnham
August 18, 2005
To Charlotte and all the Matteson Family:
You have our deepest sympathy in the loss of your husband, father, brother and friend to many. It is obvious from all of the entries in this book that Steve was a kind and generous man. He will be missed. You will be in our prayers.
God Bless.
Marcus Jeter & Steve at a meeting.
Sue Anthony
August 18, 2005
As Steve joins Marcus again in a whole new way, there must be some very needed prevention work to be done on the "other side." Two dedicated AIDS Resource of WI, Inc. co-workers, lost, missed, and remembered.
Ellie Muckerheide
August 18, 2005
Thank you so much Steve for my birthday rides. I Love You Brother. And will miss those Big Bear Hugs, I will never forget you, and thanks for talking me into being a volunteer, and I promise you I will keep doing it. I LOVE YOU, P.S. Could you please send somebody to give me a ride once in awhile in your memory. Thank You for EVERYTHING!!! Love Ellie
Angie Clark
August 18, 2005
To Steve's family: Like many others, I feel blessed to have known Steve. He was an outstanding human being, a great co-worker, and big-hearted friend. I admired his dedication and will miss him greatly. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Sincerely,
Elly De Ford
August 18, 2005
Steve was one of a kind. He was caring, generous, and gave 100% of himself in all he did.
Carol Shefky
August 18, 2005
Matteson Family -
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time.
Carol and Jay Shefky
Julie Bock
August 17, 2005
I had the honor of working with and having been trained by Steve at ARCW.
His heart was so big - he believed in sharing his knowledge and experience freely.
I remember being on the AIDSRide with him. No matter how grueling it got, he always kept a positive attitude and a smile.
Blessed be, Steve.
Rachel Trainor
August 17, 2005
Steve;
You impacted many people's lives. May you rest in peace and know in your heart that you will be missed by many.
Laura Stoppel
August 17, 2005
Charlotte,
My thoughts & prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Sue Anthony
August 17, 2005
I offer this poem to Steve's family and friends:
"If I Could Mend Your Heart...
I would weave together the ragged edges of your threadbare heart
and soothe your pain your shock and disbelief.
I would invite you to touch your sorrow and feel your feelings
and not pretend to be strong or capable or composed.
I would listen without comment, to all that is unsettled in your soul
your doubts, your anger, your fears, about the future.
I would heed your cries and probing questions
what might you have done wrong or, what you might not have done at all.
For more than a single ending, your loss may spark other sorrows, other conclusions, good-byes and thorny adjustments in every corner of your soul.
If I could mend your heart…
I would promise not to say, “Look how well you are handling things,”
or, “Cheer up, God wouldn’t give you more than you can handle,”
or, “You’ll be over this soon.”
Instead I would whisper in your ear,
“We live in a fragile and imperfect world tinged by brokenness
and cloaked in unanswered questions. Some things truly aren’t fair.
This is hard.”
I would tell you “Getting over it” isn’t very helpful and would ask,
“Can you try to let go of that idea?”
Because I don’t think that loss is about
“handling things well,” or “keeping it all together.”
But about keeping afloat in a rising tide of doubt, asking the silence, “Why?”
“What is the meaning of this?” It’s about learning to co-exist with an unwanted visitor, and alien thoughts and depleted spirits.
If I could mend your heart…
I would draw you a plan and a perfect map to light your path from
confusion and despair, to a place of new tomorrows and rewarding journeys.
A place where anger could release its grip on understanding,
and anxiousness might speak to acceptance.
I would shape for you a fresh way of seeing, through prisms of sunlight,
that warm your emptiness and guide the way to a new adventure.
Prisms of sunlight that temper your pain with compassion
and replace your doubts with faith,
your grief with gratitude, your fear with trust.
If I could mend your heart…
I would open wide the doors of renewed hope
- a hope much larger than wishes.
One that waits patiently, willingly, expectantly,
Anticipating future good and knowing that life is worth living after all.
This hope that I wish for you would predict no answers
but invite you to live the questions.
It would not demand exact outcomes but ask you to risk letting go
and bid you to move forward, even in the face of unease.
The fresh hope I send would let you step up with courage to the new day
Trusting that even pain can be transformed.
If I could mend your heart…
I would lead you by the hand to this place of healing
so that you might once again walk your own path and make memories.
I would share with you a secret
“Joy is not about music and dance and laughter,
but about the acceptance of Life.”
Healing happens only where fear and love, joy and sorrow, tears and smiles,
can forge a lasting peace.
The healing I speak of lies not in some safe place along the way,
but in having made the journey stage by stage.
Until you reach that place, a place you may not now believe exists,
I will save your space and watch with confidence for your smiles yet to be."
Author Mary I. Farr
Cher Matteson
August 17, 2005
Steve,
Thanks for being such a great brother-in-law and sharing your love so freely. I promise you from the bottom of my heart I will be there for Charlotte, Stevie, Jacob and Melissa - any time any where.
I will miss your smile, humor and laughter.
I love you Steve,
Cher
Dan Nowak
August 17, 2005
I've never met anyone who was so dedicated and willing to help others. Steve's compassion to help has touched countless numbers of people both at work and also in the recovery community. Steve, you'll be missed but never forgotten!
Susan Schwartz
August 17, 2005
You were always a joy to be around. I feel blessed to have known you and will miss you greatly.
Megan Corey (Dickinson)
August 17, 2005
My thoughts and prayers to the entire family. His compassion towards the people that he helped will be remembered forever.
Jennifer Webber
August 17, 2005
Thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time.
Sincerely,
Jennifer Webber
ARCW - La Crosse
Ron Raisleger
August 17, 2005
Charlotte,
Mary and I were so sorry to hear of your loss. I am sad to not have had the opportunity to have met Steve. Hopefully I will see you and your family real soon. I will be thinking of you.
Julie Dixon*Seidl
August 17, 2005
I have never met a more compassionate and gentle man. Steve will be missed by co-workers and clients alike.
gloria zingale
August 17, 2005
Steve
I will never forget you and all that you did for me. I dont think I would be alive had it not been for all your phone calls to get involved with events for CA and with other events that "normal" people do. You never forgot me when I chose to go back out there and you reeled me back in to the program that has saved my life. Thank you---your legacy will live on thru me as I do the same for others
Kimberly Frandsen
August 17, 2005
Steve, you'll be greatly missed for all the hard work and dedication. You'll never be forgotten.
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