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Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2025
I´ve been dreading this day for awhile now. And yet it´s like any other day. Except it´s not. Today is 20 years from the day we lost our Cale forever on this Earth. Twenty Years! What should I say that would make this day any different than the other 7305 days since he saw his last sunrise? I guess I could say that after all this time, it is now not necessarily the first thing I think about when I awaken each morning (but often still is). But I can also say that each day there will be a time when I will think about where he lies a few miles away from us and there will be a few moments when an internal panic sets in of remembering all that happened.
There is all of us who loved him so. And he´s missed out on all that. And then there is all of those he loved and cared about and they have missed out on that too.
20 years means I am closer to my own end date. I have big plans for what happens after that. It´s going to be wonderful. I´m holding Jesus to his promise of everlasting life. I´ll hold on to that. Hope and faith.
We love you Cale.
Mom
Mom
April 8, 2024
Each year I always wonder what Cale would be doing on this day. Maybe this time he would have traveled to Southeast Missouri to view the solar eclipse with a visit to his vet school buddy, Jarett. It would have been a fun time. They would have talked, laughed, and reminisced about all things
veterinary, family, friends, sports, etc.,while taking in the rare event in the sky above.
So much he has missed..
So much we have missed..
So much sorrow..
Love you, Cale
Chad
September 2, 2023
Thinking about Cale on his birthday this year.
Kasey Griffin
September 2, 2023
Happy Birthday Cale!
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2023
This was a an exciting day 45 years ago. It truly was a happy birth day for our Cale born to us. Talk about joy! But 18 years ago that all came to an end and his special day has become a day to struggle with to be over.
Love forever and always to our Cale
Mom
Mom
April 8, 2023
Cale was all about having a good time. He used to say you can never have too much fun. It´s heartbreaking that he didn´t get to experience all the fun he´s missed out on.
We miss him so. Words can´t describe how much.
Chad
September 2, 2022
Happy Birthday Cale.
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2022
17 years. Love never dies. Grief never ends. We love you and miss you just as much as ever.
Mom
Chad
September 18, 2021
Thinking about Cale and his family tonight.
April 8, 2021
I have a son now. He is almost 2 years old. I wish he could have met you. I wish he would have had a chance to go fishing with us together. I like to think we would still see eachother often and share moments of our "adult" lives. It hurts to think of all the things we've missed out on doing with you. It hurts...but I am am grateful I had the chance to call you friend durimg part of the short time you had on this Earth. I am grateful because without our friendship I would not be the man I am today. I would not have met my wife, Becca, your vet school classmate. I would not be the father of Gracelynn and William.
I look to the sky often and say "Thank you Cale". Thank you for being you and thank you for helping me become who I am.
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2021
Recently we were at the cemetery. It was a warm sunshiny day. Only a faint breeze. We're standing there in silence. Suddenly, about 50 feet away, a few leaves start to swirl up in the air. A little whirlwind is coming toward us and the gust of wind blows though us and quickly dissipates behind us. I said " It must be him". Was it? I hope so. It is hope that we'll see him again that keeps us going forward. The pain of losing you is the same now as it was 16 years ago today.
We love you Cale,
Mom
Cale is 9 years old
Bev Estabrook
September 7, 2020
Chad Pugh
September 4, 2020
Thinking of Cale and his family tonight. Happy Birthday friend.
Chad Pugh
September 4, 2020
Thinking of Cale and his family tonight. Happy Birthday friend.
Chad Pugh
September 4, 2020
Thinking of Cale and his family tonight. Happy Birthday friend.
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2020
15 Years. 5,480 days without Cale in our lives. So much loss. So much he has missed out on. And all that we have missed out on not being in his life. Regardless of the passage of time, it is still an ongoing struggle each and every day dealing with this heartbreak.
Love you, Cale
Mom
Jake Rose
January 13, 2020
Gone, but certainly not forgotten. I think of you often and I often have to remind myself of your tragic passing. In my memories, you are alive and well (albeit not aging like the rest of us) and I wish it could be true, even for a day. Miss you, Cale!
Cale is 8 years old
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2019
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2019
As I write this, it was about this time 14 years ago that Cale's life was ending. Words that I write here still do not convey the loss we endure each and every day without him. Tears still fall. We love you, Cale, forever and always.
Mom
Cale is 7 Years Old
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2018
Today, Cale is not 40 years old. He would have been, and should have been, but he is not. 40 years ago this was a day of pure joy. We had 26 of them on this calendar date. I really struggle for words on this milestone birthday for Cale.
Missing you each and every minute.
Love,
Mom
Kasey Griffin
April 8, 2018
We think of you daily, love and prayers to all of Cale's family and friends.
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2018
Cale had his life all planned out and it was going to be perfect. Not only is there the never ending grief of losing his life, but the ever present sorrow of all he has missed out on and what would have been.
It never goes away.
Kara Forsee
April 7, 2018
This day, this month, and this time of year doesn't get any easier, even after 13 years. I think of you every day, Cale; I always have since the day I met you.
Bev Estabrook
September 4, 2017
Chad Pugh
September 2, 2017
Happy Birthday Cale, we miss you.
Kasey Griffin
September 2, 2017
Happy birthday Cale, think of you everyday. Love you buddy
Beverly Estabrook
September 2, 2017
Thirty nine years ago today this was one of the two best days of our lives. Cale, you should be here, and not there.
Loving you always,
Mom
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2017
It's been 12 years. To this day it is still difficult to comprehend that we are living this life without him and that he is not living his life with us. Earlier this week we were reminiscing about Cale's childhood years and the notes he left in one of those memory books where you write each year what you want to be when you grow up. So Cale, as a youngster in different years, wanted to be: a tow truck driver, race car driver, water patrol, a movie director, Garth Brooks best friend, and last but not least, 6'2". But at the end, he was most proud to have selected his chosen profession as a Doctor of Veterinary Medicine.
It's been 12 years, yes, but only the time/date stamp has changed. We still miss him just as much as Day 1.
Love you, Cale.
Kara
February 21, 2017
I know he will be missed here on Earth but am glad Cale has his buddy back with him. Love to you all
Bev
February 20, 2017
With sadness, we write that Cale's dog, Dakota, has passed away. His 14 year old legs just couldn't carry him anymore. It is our hope that they are together once again now. We hope that Dakota would have run across the bridge with his University of Missouri dog collar, his favorite orange ball, his Mizzou black and gold fleece blanket, the pictures, all of these we sent with him on his journey. And so we hold on to hope. That one word is the foundation of Christian belief of the promise that we will be with them all again in everlasting life. Dakota, our granddoggie, we loved you so and will miss you.
September 23, 2016
Sitting here, thinking about the upcoming weekend that will be spent in Columbia at the Vet School Alumni event with Becca and your other classmates. How I wish those plans included meeting up with you to tailgate before the football game, stopping by the KA House to re-live the glory days, or maybe a late night drive out to "The Bridge". It's weird that I never got to know your vet school friends until after you were gone. And that my wife and best friend is one of those. I wonder if things would have turned out differently for me if you had not left us so early. Would I still have met and fell in love with Becca? I like to think my story would have been the same, just with you there...to stand up next to me at our wedding and to welcome my beautiful daughter to our family. So many times I ask myself "what if?". But I know one thing is true...the best parts of my life have been possible because I was lucky enough to call you my friend and brother. This weekend I will celebrate with your classmates and will spend the entire time wishing you were there. But I will try not to be sad, because I know you would want us all to have a good time. I will raise a glass to you and be thankful for your friendship.
I hope your family knows how much you mean to me and my family. I think about you everyday and wait for the chance to someday see your grin again.
Cale's 5th Birthday
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2016
Cale's Car
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2016
One day last month, the phone rang and the voice on the other end was calling to tell us that he had just purchased Cale's black Camaro the night before from the family we sold it to a couple of years ago. The pictures of Cale and my paper telling Cale's story of him and his car were still in the glove box, left there by our buyer in 2014 as a way of keeping Cale connected with his car. The newest buyer listened patiently while I spoke of a few tales about Cale. He was grateful to know a little more about Cale and said he had plans to restore the car to its original glory. We were, indeed, surprised and pleased to know that Cale's car still has a life in good hands and that his story continues. Thank you again, Robert, for making our day and giving us a reason to smile. I know Cale, on his birthday, would be grinning also.
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2016
Eleven Years...
People often talk about "time" and "healing" in the same sentence. It's just not so for a mother standing over her child's grave.
Love you, Cale...forever missed.
Mom
Prom 97
Jared Erickson
April 7, 2016
Not sure if I ever posted this. Just a good old memory
Prom 97
Jared Erickson
April 7, 2016
April 5, 2016
I never stop thinking about you and our memories whether it's the days surrounding April 8 or any other day of the year. Love, Kara
September 2, 2015
Happy Birthday Brother. Miss you and think about you every day.
Cale is 4 years old!
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2015
Once in a while I'll have a reason to open Cale's closet and I am immediately transported back in time. All of his clothes are still there. His shoes, shirts, jackets, lab coat from the White Coat ceremony, his stethoscope, his jeans - everything waiting for him to come back again. It is the same closet where his baby clothes were waiting for him to come home after his birth day 37 years ago today.
His clothes and things will be here waiting for him until the last one of us leaves this house forever.
Missing you so much, Cale, on your special day.
We love you,
Mom
September 2, 2015
Thinking of Cale and his family on his birthday, we miss you. Chad
April 8, 2015
I miss you, Cale. And I'll never stop missing you or our time together. Love, Kara
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2015
Ten Years-3,653 days. Each day clouded with such heartache. Cale is forever young at 26. All memories of him are frozen in time on this date ten years ago, and we can never see him grow older or know what his life story would have been.
Cale, you are loved and missed so much.
Mom and Dad
April 8, 2015
Hard to believe it's been ten years since I've been able to have a conversation with you my good friend. I still miss you terribly. Hardly a day goes by that I don't think about you and your family or the good times we shared. You have impacted my life in so many ways, I can never express how grateful I am to have known you. I love you Brother. I look forward to seeing you again some day so we can continue our conversations.
Bev Estabrook
April 2, 2015
Cale loved his '95 black Camaro. He drove it while he was in college and then sold it just before starting vet school. Ten years ago today was the last time we were with Cale. During that day he asked if I ever saw his Camaro around town anymore. I said no. He said he hated to see that car go down the driveway when he sold it. 18 months later after the accident, we were presented with the offer to buy it back. We did just so we could have it in the driveway again. Last summer we sold it again, for the last time, to a couple nearer our age than Cale's. We told them Cale's story. They asked if they could have a picture of him to keep in the car so that when they take the Camaro out for a ride, Cale could go along.
March 11, 2015
The spring birds always remind me of you, Cale. And springtime reminds me of the days surrounding the day you left us. Days like these make it feel like we said good bye 2 months ago rather than 10 years ago. Miss you always.
Bev Estabrook
December 24, 2014
There are many who wish for us to be merry, joyful, happy, and blessed at this time of year.
Here is a Christmas card from an era when we were all that.
We love you and miss you, Cale.
Cale's Third Birthday
Bev Estabrook
September 1, 2014
Remembering you on your birthday, Cale. We love you and miss you. Just wish you were home.
Love, Mom
Cale -- 2004
April 8, 2014
It's been 9 years and the struggle of losing Cale is ever present and never ending, every minute of every hour.
We love you and miss you more than we can say here.
Love, Mom and Dad
March 18, 2014
I heard a Kenny Chesney song today that made me think of you. And it occurred to me that I never expressed to you or your family my appreciation for the role you chose to fulfill in my life. I will never understand why your life was cut so short, but the person you were will live forever in my heart. Thank you for always being so kind to me.
Bev Estabrook
December 25, 2013
We miss you Cale. We love you and miss you so.
If only.......
Love, Mom
Cale is 2 years old
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2013
Cale
I wish we could be with you on your birthday.
We miss you so badly.
Love, Mom
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2013
Cale,
It has been 2,922 days since your heaven date with each one of those days filled with sadness, sorrow, and wondering just how this all happened. Yesterday, sitting on the front porch I imagined you coming over the hill with speakers blasting, slowing down to come up the driveway. I wish it could all be again. I'll keep wishing and hoping to see you again. We love you and miss you so very much.
Mom
Cale's First Christmas
Bev Estabrook
December 25, 2012
Cale,
You could never have imagined how much we would miss you today. Love you and miss you so much.
Love, Mom
Benoit
September 24, 2012
Thinking about you buddy.. Miss you
scotty grenier
September 3, 2012
Happy b-day cale i love and miss
Cale's 1st Birthday
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2012
Cale
I wish you could have been here today for your birthday. Somehow, someway, in some dimension, I hope you were around us today and smiled. You know how much we love you and miss you.
Forever tears.
Love,
Mom
July 13, 2012
Thinking of you, Cale. I cherish our memories and am grateful for every moment we shared. Love and miss you always. Kara
Kasey Griffin
April 8, 2012
I love and miss you cale
Bev Estabrook
April 8, 2012
We wish we had no reason to write these messages. We wish that April 8, 2005, was never set in stone seven years ago. We wish that we could erase the last 2,557 days and start over again. But time doesn't stand still, or reverse, for no one, no matter the sadness or sorrow.
We love you Cale.
Mom and Dad
December 24, 2011
To our Cale
With you gone, this is no longer the most wonderful time of the year. And although we have hung your stocking by the chimney with great care, our joy in this world remains greatly diminished. A "Merry Christmas" is as difficult to speak as it is to hear. All we want for Christmas is you.
We go on - and await a time when we will all celebrate again together and we can then finally say "now, all is calm and all is bright".
We love you, Cale, and miss you so very much.
Love you,
Mom and Dad
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2011
Cale, when you were born, we never envisioned a time when we would be taking a vase of flowers to the cemetery to honor your birthday. We can't tell you "Happy Birthday" ever again in this existence. But we can only hope there is a day coming when we can once again light all the candles, set the presents in front of you, snap your picture and celebrate like we used to. Then, and only then, will we smile again on your birthday.
We love you and miss you so.
Mom and Dad
Brandon Bjornlie
August 24, 2011
My old friend, I sit here 1700 miles from home with nothing to remind me of you and you still seem to pop into my thoughts often. I am working right now sitting in my truck and you popped up for no reason at all so I googled your name and found this and thought I would say I love you and miss you and still can't believe you're gone and I will never hear you say Benoit again, I know you are still here with us all that loved you so when I think of you I will just look up and say what's up buddy...
April 2, 2011
Cale, it was six years ago today we were in Columbia for the Gentle Doctor Benefit. On the way over to the vet school, I asked you if you were happy with the way your life had turned out after working so hard to get this far in school. You said "Yes Mom, I'm really happy with how my life has come together". Later that night we kissed and hugged you goodbye, not knowing that six days later it would all come to a tragic end and that on April 2 we had embraced you for the last time as we left for home, waving to you and Garrett in the driveway and both of you waving back in the twilight of that day. It is a picture permanently engraved on my heart. We love you and miss you so much every minute, every hour, every day, now and forever.
Love Mom
March 2, 2011
Hey brother. Just thinking about you like I often do. It's starting to get warm and I was thinking about fishing...thought of sitting in the raft at Finger Lakes and trying to get a good cast in as you trolled around Prairie Home at lightening speed.
I miss having you around buddy. Wish you were here to see Becca and I together...even though I know your looking downn on us with that grin.
March 2, 2011
March 2, 2011
scotty grenier
January 13, 2011
cale, i miss you more than you will ever know. i look back at all the great times we had together, weather it was trying to keep garrett from tailing us on all of our adventures on the farm to to the day that we walked across the stage at the high school getting that diploma.There is not a day that i don't see your face(i have your picture on my front door) as i leave the house. I wish you were here today,as do many.I think that you would love the kids, I have told them about you and I could only hope they find a friend and are able to experince all the joys in life that you were able to share with me. I love you and miss you so,i know i will see you again some day.
December 24, 2010
Home for the holidays. It's the joy that most parents want for Christmas - to have their children home for the holidays. We had that comfort and joy for 26 Christmas celebrations. We are thankful for that - but sorrow for all of the years that we are missing Cale at Christmas. We love you so much, Cale and we miss you more than you know.
Love you,
Mom and Dad
September 2, 2010
Today is your special day, Cale, and we wish you were here... instead of there. If only there could have been more...
We love you so much and miss you terribly.
Love,
Mom and Dad
April 8, 2010
It has been five years but it is the same as if it has been 5 minutes. Love never dies and sorrow doesn't either. There is a day coming when we will be together again and each day brings us closer to that glorius happening. We love you Cale - now, always, and forever.
Love, Mom and Dad
Chad Pugh
April 5, 2010
It has almost been 5 years but we still miss Cale as much as ever. I always enjoy thinking back to the good times we had and the trouble we caused when we were younger. We will never forget you Cale. To Cale's family, you are always in my thoughts and I hope the memories of Cale bring you happiness.
December 25, 2009
Cale,
1,722 days have gone by without you. Each day has been a struggle and on this Christmas day, it will be no different. We hope and wait for the day when we will ALL be once again "home for the holidays". With tears, we say once again that we love you and we miss you more than you know.
We love you, Cale.
Love, Mom
September 2, 2009
Cale, my dear friend,who I miss so much!!! I wish you a happy birthday....and can't wait until the day we can celebrate with each other!!! Love you always.
Love, Graham
~Mandy Smith
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2009
Cale, you are 31 today. But you only got to celebrate 26 of those years. We wonder what you would be doing today. We can only imagine how we would have celebrated your birthday with you. We have to hope for the day when we will join you again around the table to light the candles. Then there will be tears of joy instead of tears of sorrow. We love you Cale, we miss you Cale, and we'll see you soon.
Love, Mom
Bev Estabrook
May 10, 2009
Mothers Day, May 10, 2009:
If only we could hear your voice on the phone again. If only we could see your truck coming up the driveway once more. If only we could hug and kiss you hello with smiles. If only we could all sit down to dinner together and catch up on all the news with you. If only you could make us laugh with your adventures left untold.
If only...
On this Mother's Day I want you to know, Cale, that we love you and miss you and we'll see you soon.
Love, Mom
Mandy Smith
April 8, 2009
Cale---- I miss you and love you!!! :) thinking of you always!!!
Bev Estabrook
December 30, 2008
This is the year that Cale's grandma has joined him in the Heaven of Hope. What a joyous reunion that must have been for her and Cale. We can only imagine what that greeting must have been like. Perhaps Cale would have been waiting at the gate for her and said "Hi Grandma, come on in and let me show you around". Maybe the bassett hounds were there too, leading the way for them back to Cale's house.
We love you Cale and we miss you more than anyone can know. We'll see you soon.
Love,
Mom and Dad
Mary Martin
December 24, 2008
Merry Christmas Cale. You are thought of often and your memory will remain in my heart forever.
All my love,
Mary
September 4, 2008
Happy BIRTHDAY!!! Love and miss you dearly!!! I'm watching over that one star...thinking of my dear friend:)
Bev Estabrook
September 2, 2008
Today is Cale's 30th birthday. There would have been so much to celebrate and so much to look forward to. But the candles, for eternity, will only number to 26. So few. So much to sorrow for. We are only left to imagine what could have been. We love you, Cale, and we miss you so much. See you soon.
Love, Mom
Bev Estabrook
December 23, 2007
Christmas #3 in this universe we now live in without you. How many more before we see you again? Does the passage of time make it any easier or better to survive without you here? No. You are there,wherever "there" is, and not here. You already know how much we love you and miss you, Cale.
Tears everyday.
Love, Mom
Beverly Estabrook
September 4, 2007
September 2, 1978, was one of the two best days in my life. Cale was born on that fine Saturday afternoon and life was good - for 26 years. Each birthday, we celebrated with cake, candles, ice cream, presents, hugs and kisses, and the traditional birthday picture. I had intended for Cale to have, oh hopefully, about a 100 birthday pictures in his album. That's what any mother would hope for their child. But we only have 26 pictures and we are left with a lifetime to go without Cale and without any more pictures.
You know how much we love you, Cale.
Tears everyday.
We'll see you soon.
Love, Mom
September 4, 2007
Thinking of you and sending you a birthday wish!!!
Love you and miss you so!!!
Mandy
mary bickford
September 2, 2007
A birthday wish to you, Cale.
Love-
Mary
Pat Grenier
February 23, 2007
Cale
Our hearts are broken
The tears still flow,
Someday we'll discover
Why you had to go
And leave us grieving here below
Such a beautiful young man
So full of life
Ready to graduate and take a wife
Circumstances beyond our control
Added your name to heaven's roll
We don't know why
We don't understand
Why God reached out and took your hand.
But we know His love is greater than any man
One day in heaven we'll see your sweet smile
God grant us comfort
For just a little while.
mandy Smith
December 28, 2006
I love you and miss you dearly!!! Thinking of you and your famiy during the holidays!!!!
Mary Bickford
December 25, 2006
Thinking of you and your family this Christmas. Your memory will forever be in my heart.
With love-
Mary
Mom
December 22, 2006
Dear Cale...we brace ourselves for our second Christmas without you. There will be tears but then, there have been tears every single day. This year has brought new tributes to your life. The granite bench dedication, your veterinary degree, scholarships awarded, your friends who continue to show us in many ways how much you were loved by them. And then there is Callie, the puppy you sent to find me at the cemetery just a few days before your birthday. You told that little ball of fur to act as cute as can be so that I would take her home, and of course I did. Callie has brought new smiles that go with the grins that Dakota, Auggie and Woofie bring to us each day. And then there's your black Camaro that has come home to stay too. When people see the license plate they will know its yours. I love you, Cale, and miss you so greatly.
Stay in the light and we will see you soon.
2 Cale
Love, Mom.
Mary Bickford
October 15, 2006
There still is not a day that goes by that you and your family are not thought of. You are missed terribly.
Mary Bickford
September 12, 2006
Over the weekend, I attended my 10 year high school reunion in Cameron. Bitter sweet, it was, because I was reminded of the the one person I spent all of my time with in high school...Cale. I have so many memories of him that I am reminded of often...like the way he played his "air" drums while driving his car with his knee or the way he laughed...it was so contagious. We knew each other when we were young and life was pretty simple. I regret not knowing the man he had become, but I am so grateful for the memories I have while I was apart of his life. Congratulations on your graduation from veterinary school, Dr. Estabrook, you've made many people so proud of you. To Beverly, Ed, Garrett, and Kara...I pray God gives you strength everyday to deal with the tragic loss of Cale. Until we all meet again you will be in may prayers.
Love-Mary
Shena Grenier Coons
September 2, 2006
Happy Birthday in heaven Cale. You are truly missed and thought of every day. I hope you are having the best birthday ever surrounded by all your heavenly animal friends.
Jeny Erickson (Calhoon)
August 28, 2006
I love this guestbook, it is so great to remember when... and to honor the man Cale should have been. The big 28 is coming up this weekend and I know Cale is celebrating somewhere!! We shall all raise our glass and cheers for him and shout a big CALE-YEA!!!! Love you Cale and I will never forget you!!!!
Mandy Graham
August 18, 2006
Just wanted to say I Love and miss you so much!!!! And I just wish you could of met my son....who is honored to be named after you!!! What shoes he has to fill to be half the guy you were!!!!
Kara Forsee
July 24, 2006
Dr. Estabrook, We are doctors. We received our degrees in veterinary medicine in May 2006. Every time I treat a patient, I think of you. You are with me always; holding my hand, cheering me on, encouraging me to do my best, having faith in me, as I do in you. I miss you every day. I love you. Thank you for the gifts you've given me. Undying love, laughter, strength, perseverance. Though broken, my heart is filled with you and memories of us always. I love you. Kara
Mom and Dad
July 22, 2006
To our Cale.....How we still miss you so. We are still as heartbroken today as ever and will be forevermore. We are so proud to announce your graduation from the University of Missouri, College of Veterinary Medicine as Cale Michael Estabrook, D.V.M. but we are filled with regret for what could have been. If only...
But we hold on to hope for that day when we can hug you again in God's grace on a new earth and a new heaven where no tears, pain, broken bodies or broken hearts are allowed. Let the dawning of that new day come soon. Until then, we will keep loving you everyday and holding you in our hearts.
We love you so, Dr. Cale.
Mom
October 2, 2005
Cale, my brave son, it was on the 2nd day of September, 1978, that we hugged and kissed you for the very first time on the day you were born. It was on the 2nd day of April, 2005, after having enjoyed the day with you in Columbia that we hugged and kissed you for the very last time. We could never have imagined that night as we left you, smiling and waving goodbye, of the horror to come only six days later. I have cried and wept for you every day since, Cale. You know how much we love you. There are not enough words in our language to say how much we miss you.
We love you so, Cale.
If only.......
September 1, 2005
Josh Erickson
April 26, 2005
Like many of you who have written I also grew up with Cale. I have lots of fond memories of Cale but I remember him the most for the time we spent playing ball. Mostly through high school ball Cale played second base and I played short. I will never forget how hard it was for us to turn double plays because neither of us were very fast at getting the ball out of our gloves on the turn and on to first. Our coaches always gave us grief but no matter how many times we praticed it we never got much faster. We never got mad at each other for it, we just loved to play the game. When you spend so much time with someone you like, doing something you both love it leaves a lasting memory. The thing I will miss the most about Cale is his chuckle or laugh, not sure which you would call it, but it always made me laugh too. To all of Cale’s friends, lets not have something like this be the reason we all get together again. To Ed and Beverly, thanks for always going to our games home and away. You have no idea how much it means to have your parents support the things you love to do. To Kara, I’m sorry you had to meet some of Cale’s friends under these circumstances. Be strong, try to keep your focus on school and Cale will be proud of who you become in life. Cale is irreplaceable, but I hope you find someone who makes you as happy as Cale did. To Garrett, I can not imaging how hard it must be losing your brother, I would hope to carry myself with half as much dignity as I have seen you do. You have been so strong for your parents and for Kara. Do not forget that everyone who hugged you, shook your hand, or cried on your shoulder loves you as much as we love Cale. You are in our thoughts and our prayers and if you ever need anything we are all there for you. Finally to Cale, I’m not sorry about anything in the past. You lived your life your way and fun doing it. I am sorry that you will not be able to finish all of the things you started in life, as well as the ones you talked about for the future. You have touched a lot of people and made us all better people for having known you and your beautiful spirit and smile. I hope some day we can throw that ball around again. Your friend, Josh.
Kara Forsee
April 25, 2005
Words can only begin to express how much I miss Cale and how much I love Cale. I felt like the luckiest person to be loved by and be in love with Cale. There wasn't a day that went by that he didn't make me laugh. I was always smiling. Our memories and love will remain forever.
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