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Rita Rhodes/Payne
September 1, 2020
My sympathy to Chuck’s family. Your memories will keep him with you forever more. I knew Chuck when he was a young prosecutor for Kansas City’s Municipal Court and I worked for the Municipal Court judges as their secretary. Although that was years ago, we had lots of laughs and Chuck was a part of the fun. Rest In Peace Chuck.
Phil Cardarella
August 4, 2020
Great video!
I can remember when we were working to get him appointed to the bench, John Williams and I were asked "HIM?" After all, he was a "prosecutor", you know. And not one of the smiley ones. What some of us knew was that -- beneath the gruff and occasionally politically-incorrect exterior -- beat a heart full of kindness and fairness. And a wickedly sly sense of humor.
I can remember when he and John went out and both bought tiny Triumph convertibles. No problem for John (six years younger, four inches shorter) but Chuck's back lasted about three months tooling around in his "toy car"!
I hated to see him leave KC, but Kelly made him absolutely bloom in the desert -- like a prickly cactus with a seven iron!
Damn good judge. Loyal friend. To have known him is to miss him because to have known him was a privilege.
Mary White-Whalen
August 3, 2020
"Chucky" was in my graduating class from Assumption Grade School. We were the last class allowed to graduate from 7th grade to go onto high school (under the old rules). We were so young. Assumption produced many very good folks but It was always great to follow his Honor's successes throughout the years. God's blessings to all.
Margaret Dean
August 3, 2020
Kelly, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Before I went to law school, I tried a traffic case pro se before Judge DeFeo. I was charged with being in a left hand turn lane and not making the turn. I had a letter from the city stating the signage was placed incorrectly. Judge DeFeo asked a number of questions about the letter and let it into evidence. I was found not guilty. He was a great asset to the legal community: straightforward and doing the right thing.
Molly Williams
August 2, 2020
Kelly, I’m so sorry to hear about Chuck, he was such a good guy. The two of you were a beautifully matched pair, and John and I really loved all of our times together. Chuck was a good friend to John for many many years, and I know you must be heartbroken without him.
Joe Cardello
August 2, 2020
Chuck was such a nice man. It’s no wonder he was a judge. Our family always looked up to Chuck and what he was able to accomplish. We take a great deal of pride in our heritage as Italian Americans when one of our own rises to such great heights. Thank you Chuck for setting an example for all of us. You will truly be missed.
Kelly, we are so sorry for the loss of Chuck. Our love and prayers are with you through this difficult period. Try to find refuge in the fact that we will see our loved ones again.
Claude English
July 31, 2020
Kelly...So very sorry for your loss. Sending our prayers.
Michelle Rogers (McDermott)
July 31, 2020
I am sorry for your loss. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
Jamie Sanders
July 28, 2020
Sending thoughts and prayers for Anne, Kelly, Chuck, his sisters and all the family during your time of loss. I know he touch many lives and will be missed by all. May God’s presence continue to bring you peace during this difficult time.
Al and Sherry White
July 28, 2020
May you rest in the peace you deserve our friend! We can honestly say that without you Chuck, there wold have never been an "us." Who would have thought of Chuck as "Cupid.!"
Virginia Bonino Geraci
July 27, 2020
Adele, Mary Jo, Carol Jean and Chucky’s family, I am so sorry to learn about Chucky’s death. Sorry I could not send a card to each of you to express my sympathy but want you to know I often think about our old neighborhood and our old friends. May God give you the strength and courage to help you at this time.
Jennifer Quarrato Davis
July 27, 2020
Our family was sad to hear of the passing of Chuck. He was a good friend to my Dad and I just know that my Dad was there to welcome him to Eternal Life with our heavenly Father! Prayers to all of you!
Shelly Clements
July 27, 2020
My thoughts and prayers are with you and the entire family during this difficult time. Sending hugs for healing and the wonderful memories that will sustain you during this difficult time.
Mary Flood
July 27, 2020
Chuck was a great neighbor. I haven't seen him in over 30 years, but have many fond memories of him from when I was growing up in Kansas City. I was sorry to hear that he had passed away. My prayers are with your family.
Bill and Rose Challenger
July 26, 2020
Bill and I send our condolences, love and hugs to you Kelly and the entire family. We had some great times together in PD and loved Chuck’s sense of humour. He will be missed at Avondale.
Carl & Chris Hopkins
July 26, 2020
Our hearts feel your loss, Kelly. Praying you are surrounded by love now and always.
Sandra Dunn
July 26, 2020
We are so sorry to hear about Chuck. You are in our thoughts and prayers, Kelly. We are so glad we had a chance to know him. Love from David and Sandra.
Samuel Strada
July 25, 2020
I am greatly saddened by the death of my friend of more than 60 years. Chuck was a great friend and a terrific person. My family, all of whom also loved Chuck dearly , send our heartfelt condolences to his soulmate Kelly, his Children Anne & Chuck and their children. his sisters Adele, Mary Jo and Carol, and his many friends and acquaintances that will miss him greatly. He has left me and others with wonderful memories and personal experiences throughout these years . These memories will bring some comfort to his loss. May the Grace of the Lord bless his soul and may he Rest In Peace.
Dominick Armato
July 25, 2020
Kelly and Family,
I am sorry for your loss and prayers to you.
I know he at the 19th hole with Jesus.
Dominick & Shelley Armato
Rosalind Buccero Brancato
July 25, 2020
Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss. My husband, Jack Brancato, attended Law School with Chuck. They would study together. Jack always spoke highly of Chuck & valued their friendship. He will be missed.
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