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Mary and Trish
February 2, 2018
Father Flav was so kind to us when our brother passed unexepectedly. Our family was in shock. Father Flav sat with us, remembered our brother and his funny ways, and shared with us in our great sorrow. Thank you Father, for your kindness. You will always be remembered by our family.
Edward Conroy
January 16, 2018
So sad to hear of Father Flavian's passing. I used to visit my fiancé for a year and half before she moved to New York. Went to mass every Sunday at OLA when I was in town. Loved talking with Flav after mass and at Fiddler's. A truly holy and loving priest. He will be missed. Ed Conroy, Huntington, New York
Sue Hamilton
January 11, 2018
I miss you every day, Flave! You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers. Thanks for being such a great friend.
Cathleen Herbage
December 27, 2017
Father Flavian officiated our marriage forty years ago in Roseburg. We have exchanged Christmas cards with him for nearly all forty of those years, filling him in as our family grew. We were married during our first year of law school and crammed our marriage prep with Father into a few weekend trips home from school between August and December. It was Father who chose our wedding date, The Feast of the Holy Family, which at the time went right over our heads, but we have appreciated more over the duration of our marriage. It feels as though he must have been in Roseburg longer than three years, as we have fond memories of him smashing cookies in my coat pocket during youth night at the parish and returning the favor in his hood, before we left for college. We just recently found out that he had passed away. We will always remember him fondly.
Mrs Peggy (Sam) Donaldson
December 13, 2017
I will always remember Fr Flavian sitting on the floor in our kitchen talking with me as I prepared dinner. He refused to sit on a chair at the table, he sat with his back to the door and said to remember him as coming in the back door of our home and enjoying our family life. He also prayed for me, a very nervous 42 year old finally getting my drivers license. His words when Sam died were very comforting (I knew the two of you went for an after dinner smoke). Thank you Fr Flavian, rest in peace.
Jane Wooder
December 11, 2017
Father Flavian, my dear cousin. I will always remember you until we meet again.
Jane Wooder.
John Kelleher
December 10, 2017
I am reminded of my Uncle
Micheal - Father Cyril - who went to Rochestown, was assigned to St Francis High School and spent his final years in Solvang where he passed away on 17th January 2002. They must have been good friends and judging by Flavian's smile both were a couple of rogues.
May they all rest in peace.
December 10, 2017
Dearest Flav, you were one of earths' authentic and graceful souls. Healing,supporting and guiding all in a gentle,effective and fantastically humourous fashion.Marrying Michael and I and baptising our daughters was hugely important and memorable for us. We all miss you and I will always remember your wise words "if you're in a situation where you're not growing then it's not right for you".thank you for being such a big part of our lives it was our privilege knowing you. Lots of love Louise,Michael, Connie,Molly,Robin,Martha,Tess and Callumxx
December 9, 2017
The death has occurred of Fr Flavian (Pat) Welstead on December 4th 2017. In the loving care of friends, brother priests and hospital staff of the Peninsula Hospital Burlingame California.
Late of Saint Columbus Terrace, Douglas.
Beloved brother of the late Donal and Noel Welstead will be sadly missed by his sisters Marie Furlong and Jane O Brien, his sister in law May, neices, nephews, grand nieces ,grand nephews, the Capuchian community and a wide circle of friends.
May He Rest In Peace.
A Memorial Mass to take place on Tuesday 12th December at 10am in Rochestown College, Cork, Ireland.
Loraine Zettle
December 8, 2017
What a special man. Our family goes back to when the Capuchins were in Bend , Oregon. He married three of our children,and baptized many of the grandchildren. He came back to Bend to put my husband and his friend to rest six years ago. He came back again to marry a granddaughter. We have stayed in touch all these years and will miss him so much, but know he is happy and in a much better place. Love you Flav. All the ZettlesLoraine
Jerry H. Neves
December 8, 2017
I was so sad when I was told that Father Flavian had passed away. I am a retired Funeral Director from Crosby-N. Gray and yesterday decided to stop by to say hello to my former co-workers and was told the sad news. Such a sweet Priest and so dedicated to the his Church and the community! Will miss Him Dearly.
God Bless.
Jerry Neves
Regan Goodin
December 8, 2017
Special Man and was integral in dealing with the passing of both of my parents. He came to see them often and presided at their funerals. Two of my sons went to OLA as well - and was always happy to take time for them
Stuart McCann
December 8, 2017
A wonderful man, who will be greatly missed. God bless you.
Vince Larkin
December 8, 2017
There is a chair in Fiddler's Green a popular Irish Pub in Millbrae outside of San Francisco. It reads "Reserved for Fr Flavian". It is the only chair with that on it. You have venture to Rome to find a more important chair. From Fiddlers to St. Peter's. He will be missed.
Adio Mi Amico Mio! God's Speed Padre!
Cyril Christensson
December 7, 2017
God Bless You. You are with the Lord now, and will be missed by all who knew you.
Stephen Neenan
December 7, 2017
Flav was a true gent, had a great sense of humour and was a friend to everyone including the Neenan family in Cork and Dublin!!.
He will be missed .. and we will remember him fondly forever.
Ar dheis Dé go raibh an anam.
Stephen/Pat/Val/Lisa/Rose Neenan
Hector Ramos
December 6, 2017
We will miss you Father Flavian! RIP!
Anne Sheehan
December 6, 2017
Missing you Flav. Thank you so much for your friendship through the years

Deborah Campbell-Kumle
December 6, 2017
I remember Father Flavian when I lied in Bend, OR. He was one of our Parish Priests. He was a dear friend, and wonderful priest and friend. Heaven has another angel who just happens to be a comedian.
Anne Sheehan
December 6, 2017
So sad to hear of Flav's passing. He was a wonderful friend - enjoyed our many meals out when he was home + the many phone calls in between. Miss you Flav x
Anne Sheehan
December 6, 2017
So sad to hear of Flav's passing. He was a wonderful friend - enjoyed our many meals out when he was home + the many phone calls in between. Miss you Flav x
Connie&miriam Neenan
December 6, 2017
Miriam @connie neenan we knew fr Flavian since we were 14yrs old. He married Louise @ Michael,Alan @ Celine and GIL @ John. Dear frien all our lives. We will miss his great humour and his endearing love. God rest him.
Connive and Miriam neenan
December 6, 2017
Flav was a close family friend and I have nothing but fond memories of him. He had a great sense of humour and we were always on edge waiting to see what prank he'd get up to next! Never a dull moment when he came to stay. He had such an influence on me I took Flavia as my confirmation name. I will miss him but I'm delighted he's up there watching over me. May he rest in Peace. Ann Marie Neenan, Dublin Ireland
Gillian Searson
December 6, 2017
Will always be in our hearts and memories. Dear friend to my parents and all our family growing up. Greatly missed in Ireland.
Ar dheis Dé go raibh an anam
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